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Molybdenum posted:In Cincinnati chili cinnamon is a typical ingredient along with some kind of sweetener (1tbsp per batch kind of ratio), but chocolate/cocoa is a red herring to protect recipes. I mean a small amount of unsweetened cocoa powder is an excellent addition to a traditional chili flavor. It adds a bit of bitterness.
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ad090 posted:AITA for telling my wife that yes my job is more important than hers since without my job we couldn’t afford this life It makes sense not to move and it's bonkers that his wife doesn't understand that, but it's absolutely insane to say something like "my job is more important" to your spouse. Have some tact for gods sake.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 22:42 |
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Yeah they probably shouldn't move but that's absolutely the worst possible way to say that Edit: Although she was using that wording first and it seems like he just got exasperated from arguing and then finally used it mystes fucked around with this message at 22:48 on Apr 18, 2024 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:My initial post was how QR codes ultimately become a class filter because not everyone has access to that level of technology. I did not say it was happening everywhere, although eventually it likely will. i dont own a cell phone but i fully admit i could if i wanted to and im on ssi-d. it has caused me issues but im just a wierdo who doesnt want to keep track of a phone and replace it when i inevidently break it. if a restraunt only had qr code menus ide just leave. cant exactly afford to go anywhere but a cheap chain though with inflation. i do love the kiosks the cheap chains have but i hate that they have 0 cashiers now. they basically cut a bunch of jobs out. they werent great jobs but i know people who needed them snergle fucked around with this message at 22:51 on Apr 18, 2024 |
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100 degrees Calcium posted:It makes sense not to move and it's bonkers that his wife doesn't understand that, but it's absolutely insane to say something like "my job is more important" to your spouse. Have some tact for gods sake. Yeah, this is a situation where I would say "You're not wrong, but YTA." The question of the post isn't about should we move or not, the question it is about his response to her suggestion. She's being unrealistic, but he's being a dick.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 22:50 |
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mystes posted:Yeah they probably shouldn't move but that's absolutely the worst possible way to say that Honestly she's bringing it on herself. I don't know why she even works when she'd make more money staying home and then she could hang out with the kid and do fun poo poo all day. I mean I know being a parent is hard and not all fun, but it doesn't sound like much of a choice when it's between staying home with a kid and losing money at a dead-end job. She's being stubborn and prideful and she used those words first anyway. E God knows I'd kill myself if I was stuck at home with a kid, but I also don't have kids for this reason. I figure someone with kids might feel different. Scathach fucked around with this message at 22:54 on Apr 18, 2024 |
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Scathach posted:Honestly she's bringing it on herself. I don't know why she even works when she'd make more money staying home and then she could hang out with the kid and do fun poo poo all day. I mean I know being a parent is hard and not all fun, but it doesn't sound like much of a choice when it's between staying home with a kid and losing money at a dead-end job. She's being stubborn and prideful and she used those words first anyway. But moving to another state so she can get a slightly better job is clearly not a great idea if OP's job is paying the bills
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 22:54 |
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I don't really know what tone she was using but it sounds like she was being passive aggressive about it, like "ohhh we can't move because of your big important job", which, yeah, reality check, if you don't want the water to stop running don't turn the faucet off.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 22:55 |
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WIBTA for accepting an heirloom instead of giving it to my adopted cousinquote:My (18f) grandma who passed before I was born had a beautiful jewelry set passed down from the women in her family. In her will, as she had no daughter, she asked her eldest son, my uncle Jim (51m), to take care of the jewelry. I have only seen pictures of the set growing up.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 22:57 |
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He worded it weirdly but it sounds likequote:We arguing back and forth and she kept saying my job is more important. she kept pushing this out in a way like 'What you think YOUR job is more important?" and at a certain point if she's Not Getting It yeah, he has to go 'Yes, my job is more important because it is the only reason we have the quality of life we do and are not going homeless or hand to mouth.' If I had to I'd say ESH but I can't super come down on the guy for getting frustrated, going purely by what he's said. Magic Hate Ball posted:I don't really know what tone she was using but it sounds like she was being passive aggressive about it, like "ohhh we can't move because of your big important job", which, yeah, reality check, if you don't want the water to stop running don't turn the faucet off. yeah, exactly, this.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 22:57 |
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AITA for telling my husband's cousin she shouldn't have thrown a gender reveal party?quote:Both me (29F) and my husband's cousin Lena (fake name; 27F) are pregnant. I'm due in late May, while she's due in August. My baby will be my second child (I have a three year old son), and hers is her first.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:00 |
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Kitfox88 posted:she kept pushing this out in a way like 'What you think YOUR job is more important?" and at a certain point if she's Not Getting It yeah, he has to go 'Yes, my job is more important because it is the only reason we have the quality of life we do and are not going homeless or hand to mouth.' She sprung this on OP with no warning and then refused to listen to the reasons why it was a bad idea, and then OP gave up and repeated the phrase she had been using, so while it would have been better not to phrase it that way, I'm kind of leaning toward NTA if the description of how it happened is accurate.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:01 |
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Kitfox88 posted:He worded it weirdly but it sounds like He really hosed up the wording, but I suppose I'd get pretty exasperated too if my partner applied for a job out of state and only tells me about it as a fait accompli after they received an offer. Like that's just an extremely lovely thing to do. Shanghaied fucked around with this message at 23:05 on Apr 18, 2024 |
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Mordiceius posted:AITA for telling my husband's cousin she shouldn't have thrown a gender reveal party? Well, good to know that your in-laws are never gonna know their grandkids cus they're complete monsters. Christ, gently caress these people.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:03 |
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Nobody is ever the rear end in a top hat for telling anyone not to throw a gender reveal party considering their safety track record
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:06 |
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Have a couple more while we're at it: AITA for defending my dads "toxic masculinity" quote:I (21m) was talking to a friend (20f) and we were talking about how she was sick because something was getting passed around at her work, that she's had for a while. She was talking about how I somehow "never" got sick and I said well yeah I was a weird kid might have helped my immune system or something. AITA for calling my MIL and FIL naive? quote:Ever since I (29f) got married four months ago my ILs (60s) have brought up the fact I didn't invite anyone from my biological family to the wedding and have asked me why I don't at least make an attempt to reconnect with my half siblings. I explained to them that I did not feel it would be worth my time. My ILs argued that it has been more than a decade since I last saw or spoke to any of them and a lot of things could have changed in that time. They told me they see how longingly I look at my husband and siblings sometimes when they're being typical siblings or how I stare off in the distance at times when we're all together and I experience being part of a happy family with them. They say they know I long for that with my own biological family. AITA for not taking my mom back in? quote:I left my mother moved in with my family about two years ago. It was an adjustment for her because it became my house my rules type of thing.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:07 |
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gently caress Lena's pain. It's hella gross to mourn a kid that didn't exist because you didn't want a kid with a penis. She's gonna be that creepy "let me act like your mother for a day" aunt in a few years. Be a good parent, dammit, love your kids regardless of genitals. Alright, get the volcano, we're throwing all these gender-reveal people in right now.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:07 |
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'i never saw myself raising a boy' basically means she fantasized so hard over having a little girl she broke her own goddamn brain, bc you threw the loving dice on a 50-50 gamble here. i dunno why but i'm imagining the sort of person who refuses to consider the option they dislike happening because they believe even acknowledging it will actually have some effect. and I mean - she can still try to have more kids, drat. she's not for-sure never gonna be a girl-mom, unless she also only ever planned to have one.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:12 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:'i never saw myself raising a boy' basically means she fantasized so hard over having a little girl she broke her own goddamn brain, bc you threw the loving dice on a 50-50 gamble here. i dunno why but i'm imagining the sort of person who refuses to consider the option they dislike happening because they believe even acknowledging it will actually have some effect. too bad she's not having twins, she could have just aborted one of them
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:14 |
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Or you know she can foster or adopt a girl baby. We aren't exactly short on loose babies.
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Mordiceius posted:Have a couple more while we're at it: No see, when dad said to me "Don't be stingy. What are you, a Jew?" he wasn't being racist, he was just teaching me to always be generous.
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Scathach posted:Or you know she can foster or adopt a girl baby. We aren't exactly short on loose babies.
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Neito posted:Christ, gently caress these people. I've run into two couples in my life where the woman didn't get the baby they wanted so the husband had to pretty much be Mom & Dad to the child. In one case when the wife threatened to leave the marriage my coworker told her "Fine, you leave anytime you want but my girl stays here". After all the videos we've seen of guys having a hissy fit at a gender reveal, this was most refreshing.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:20 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:'i never saw myself raising a boy' basically means she fantasized so hard over having a little girl she broke her own goddamn brain, bc you threw the loving dice on a 50-50 gamble here. i dunno why but i'm imagining the sort of person who refuses to consider the option they dislike happening because they believe even acknowledging it will actually have some effect. She should savescum from the yearly autosave and try and reroll
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Mordiceius posted:Have a couple more while we're at it: I can't wait for the update where the new inlaws contact the half-siblings on OP's behalf.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:35 |
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mystes posted:She's going to sneak in and swap her baby with OP's I mean, that's one way to do it
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:41 |
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AITA for replacing everything of mine my wife breaks or damages with money from our joint budget.quote:My wife has no concept of how to care for things. She buys cheap poo poo and replaced it when it breaks or wears out. I buy the best quality items that I can reasonably afford.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:42 |
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DreamingofRoses posted:AITA for replacing everything of mine my wife breaks or damages with money from our joint budget. loving lol quote:She thinks I'm being petty. He is being petty, but I think that this is one of those times where it is justified.
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DreamingofRoses posted:AITA for replacing everything of mine my wife breaks or damages with money from our joint budget. undiagnosed add? weapnized incompetence?
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:49 |
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Scathach posted:Honestly she's bringing it on herself. I don't know why she even works when she'd make more money staying home There is more to working than the salary.
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:51 |
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Don't use metal utensils on non-stick pans but also don't buy $200 non-stick pans
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:53 |
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DreamingofRoses posted:AITA for replacing everything of mine my wife breaks or damages with money from our joint budget. First of all, the word is "bourgeois". Use it, it's not hard. I'm confident you can manage. Second of all, how much you wanna bet the wife was raised upper middle class? Over the years, I've met a few people who showed utter disregard for material possessions, both their own and other people's, and every one of them had rich parents. Shanghaied fucked around with this message at 23:57 on Apr 18, 2024 |
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I don't really understand how that relationship works but then again it may be better that he just replaces it than telling her she can't use the fancier cookware?
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# ? Apr 18, 2024 23:55 |
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Shanghaied posted:First of all, the word is "bourgeois". Use it, it's not hard. I'm confident you can manage. Don’t get prescriptivist
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Shanghaied posted:First of all, the word is faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaart
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DreamingofRoses posted:Don’t get prescriptivist No u r rite, i shouldn't b scripie.
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Shanghaied posted:First of all, the word is "bourgeois". No it isn't. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/bougie
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DreamingofRoses posted:AITA for replacing everything of mine my wife breaks or damages with money from our joint budget. maybe her long-con is "accidentally" feeding him enough teflon to give him cancer i guess?
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# ? Apr 19, 2024 00:28 |
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Um, actually, if you don't spell it bourgeoisie then you're a filthy philistine.
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Shanghaied posted:No u r rite, i shouldn't b scripie. Exactly. Also AAVE is distinct form of communication and deserves to be respected.
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