Arsenic Lupin posted:

This. I'm very likely not to have grandchildren, and it makes me sad. Not because of the Lupin lineage, but because I liked the idea of a little bit of me going on after I'm gone. Like, one of my kids is a social worker and the work they do will help people, so that's also a heritage. But I wanted there to be people who didn't know I ever existed, whose lives still have some infinitesimal sliver of mine.

Needless to say, I don't say poo poo about this to my children.

Cloacamazing! posted:

Yeah, that and the memories we have of people and the things they taught us are worth more than the genetics in my opinion. I couldn't care less about some of the DNA I'm carrying. By all accounts one pair of great grandparents I had were incredibly lovely people, and we have so little to do with that branch of the family that when I got married, my dad was happy there was now one less person carrying on our name. Besides, I'm not having any biological children anyways from what it looks like, so passing on knowledge and values is the only thing I can hope for anyways.

Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:

It was really classless of you to ruin your own reception that we planned to ruin first

Neito posted:

It definitely feels like anxietybrain talking; reading the worst possible outcome of an ambiguous phrases is, at least for me, a classic anxiety symptom, as is the complete avoidance of any sort of conversation around it.

Baronjutter posted:

It's wild to me that plantations aren't seen in the same extremely dark and evil light as like concentration camps or SS headquarter buildings are in europe. I guess because the US never really did any sort of purging of pro-slavery culture.

Shanghaied posted:

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

Look I'm sure that's just a weird coincidence, there's no way he conveniently decided to just not pay a big batch of student loans.

And one of the complaints from his mom is that the 15-year-old is not biologically his, so the 15-year-old was either adopted or his current wife had the kid years before meeting him.

DreamingofRoses posted:

Don’t forget gold star lesbians being biphobic as hell towards the idea of dating a bi woman!

StrangersInTheNight posted:

I mean, there's no one-size-fits-all flavor or autism, but the likelihood that he'd be a people pleaser kinda goes up yeh. Especially if he's high-functioning, the more modern term for that being high-masking. Masking is inherently connected to trying to please the people around you.

idiotsavant posted:

that's why the immediate annulment is kinda weird tho; like if you're actually eyes open going into it you should probably realize that you're going to run into struggles like this, where your dopey spouse doesn't really think things through "right" cause that's how his brain is wired, and you'll probably either have to directly manage the whole thing or just be able to accept what happens with as much grace as you can

tbh kinda sounds like the bride got the rose-colored glasses smacked right off and is maybe figuring out that actually she can't do any of that

Midnight Voyager posted:

Okay but... you're acting like big breaches of trust are just to be expected for anyone with autism and I guess that feels kinda crappy to me. It's not rose-colored glasses to think autism wouldn't cause you to hear a no, be pressured into a yes, and then sneak around your wife's back to make it happen. There are plenty of autistic people who do not do those things. It's not just an "oh bother, dopey spouse's brain wiring has done it again!" thing.

And "directly managing the whole thing" doesn't help if your spouse is lying to you and hiding things. What kind of management in this situation would have kept the proposal from happening? Just refusing to allow him to interact with his family?

Halloween Jack posted:

AITA being pissed at what my wife said to our niece

UPDATE: AITA pissed at what my wife said to my niece

AITAH for waking out on my “adoptive daughter” and telling her everything is her fault

Update AITAH for waking out on my “adoptive daughter” and telling her everything is her fault

babypolis posted:

I dunno, OP 1 is clearly trying his best. lovely situation for the wife for sure but I think they are working through it as best as they can. Agreed on the second OP tho

Mordiceius posted:

It feels like, in that situation, wife was somewhat forced by husband into a situation she didn't want. But then.. she did nothing about it but act lovely and spiteful?

Like, sure, husband seemed to disregard her feelings and desires in this situation. That's lovely. He likely feels justified in forcing this to happen because he's trying to save a teenage girl from a bad situation which could have ended in tragedy.

Wife didn't want to have to deal with this and didn't sign up for this and feels like her feelings are being trampled all for a teenage girl. I totally get if she doesn't have the bandwidth or desire to deal with it. In that case, she should have gotten out of the situation immediately instead of growing mean and spiteful over it.

It's a really lovely situation and I feel really bad for both of the children for being caught in the middle of this.

Tarezax posted:

Why are people writing Charlotte/Kelly when they're only referring to the girl in one of the two stories

They're completely separate stories btw, not the same story from two perspectives. A lot of things may be similar but the first OP has had custody for 3 years whereas 2nd OP says her husband brought Kelly in 14 months ago.

Tarezax posted:

Oh the usernames weren't shown so I didn't make the connection when I read that sentence

Call Your Grandma posted:

WIBTA if I dump my big, gay horse

DoctorTristan posted:

Racing horses aren’t allowed to be bred using artificial insemination.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for spending my son's university fund on a trip to Europe to drink beer like I always threatened instead of giving it to his step brother after he passed away.

but get hosed ex wife you vulture.