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Alterian posted:My husband gets jealous of ovulation test strips cause I get to pee on something and he doesn't. He can pee on some, too, they just won't mean anything.
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Oct 19, 2010 14:04
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Banana Cat posted:Also if you're tall/large-framed you may have nothing to worry about. Being underweight can also gently caress up your cycle, so no worries about not being a size 0, either I'm 5'4 - 5'5 in a size 16 comfortably. Honestly, if you've ever seen Christina Hendricks, that's my shape but a bit I'm shorter. I've always had an hourglass figure (Large rack, small waist, wide in the hip and butt region). I've gotten down to my "ideal" weight and I looked like Skeletor and I didn't feel all that healthy. Hopefully I don't have any weight related problems with conception. I'm going to buy a stepper tonight so I can do something while I watch TV at night.
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Oct 19, 2010 14:14
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Bahunter22 posted:I'm 5'4 - 5'5 in a size 16 comfortably. Honestly, if you've ever seen Christina Hendricks, that's my shape but a bit I'm shorter. I've always had an hourglass figure (Large rack, small waist, wide in the hip and butt region). I've gotten down to my "ideal" weight and I looked like Skeletor and I didn't feel all that healthy. Hopefully I don't have any weight related problems with conception. I'm going to buy a stepper tonight so I can do something while I watch TV at night. I worry about that, too. Between being 37 and being overweight I'm half convinced I'm never going to get to have another kid.
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Oct 19, 2010 14:15
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I think weight was a contributing factor to my problems. I admit I was a bigger girl but I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Hell, much larger women than me got pregnant all the time. But I had been off of the pill for well over a year just "casually" trying with no results. I had also been told almost all my adult life that I had PCOS, so I thought that was a problem too. I finally broke down and went to a fertility specialist, bought TCOYF, and started tracking my temps. Doc did some tests and did an ultrasound of my ovaries and found that I was perfectly healthy with no obvious reason for fertility problems, no PCOS, nothing wrong at all. So the next course of action was to lose weight and see what happens. Over 9 months I lost 60 lbs and in that last month took my second month of Clomid. It's kind of hard to say which part of it really helped in me getting pregnant so I credit all of it. Three more months until I really get to hold the result. :3 I wish you all the best of luck and just remember that it may not be ONE thing that's making conceiving more difficult. I'm rooting for all of you!
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Hello everyone, I'm Chicken McNobody and I wanna get pregnant. But I am worried that my motivation is not so good... My dad died on September 2nd, and ever since then, although I've always known I want to have a kid or two, it has felt like there's a person-shaped hole in my life and it should be filled by a baby. Also my husband's dad died last year, so I feel incredibly guilty that I have deprived our future children of both grandpas (and they would both have made awesome grandpas). I might be nuts, but I'm also 30 and my husband is 34, we aren't getting any younger and we talk about kids all the time. We decided last month that I would stop taking my Yasmin and we would just see what happens; we aren't really trying hard right now, I'm charting my cycle casually but no ovulation tests or anything like that, but if it happens it happens (and also I need to lose weight, and hoped it would be easier without the pill). I've read this thread and seen how sad people were when they miscarried, and how much they wanted to try again, and that I understand...but is it crazy to want to try after a different kind of loss? Does anyone have experience with this?
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Oct 19, 2010 19:01
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Don't feel like it's *you* who "deprived" your future kids of grandfathers, it's not something you could have really planned for and if you weren't ready to have kids a couple of years ago, there is nothing wrong with that.  I will say that my husband's sister died a few years ago, but the subject came back up recently (both between us, because no one else knows we're trying, and between his family in general when his oldest sister got pregnant earlier this year). His family felt like it was important that no one named any future kids after the dead sister, because they just weren't comfortable with it. My favorite aunt died a couple of years ago as well, and while I wouldn't mind using her name as a middle name if we had a daughter, it's also not something I will do if it distresses my family for whatever reason. I know this isn't something you directly asked about, but since it came up with us I just wanted to pass that on in case you were thinking about anything like that. Some people say not to make any big decisions regarding family, relationships, moving, etc., after a big loss in your life for at least a year. However, personally I think that sometimes making those big decisions can be what helps someone through their grief. I don't think it's crazy that you want to try for a kid right now, especially if it is something you and your husband have talked about for a while, but be careful if you feel hesitant or doubtful and try to figure out what's at the root of those feelings if you do.
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Oct 19, 2010 21:46
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Banana Cat posted:while I wouldn't mind using her name as a middle name if we had a daughter, it's also not something I will do if it distresses my family for whatever reason. I know this isn't something you directly asked about, but since it came up with us I just wanted to pass that on in case you were thinking about anything like that. I don't think we will be naming any kids after our dads. For one thing, it would feel weird; second, I have a huge family, and if someone wants a kid named after my dad, they'll probably get to it before I do; and third, my dad's name was Clifton and my FIL was Gary. Those are not little boys' names  It's been a rough couple of years... For now I guess we'll just see what happens. My family is incredibly fertile so it won't really be a surprise if we turn up pregnant, if not that's cool too. The guilt will definitely be something I'll need to deal with. I've been on antidepressants for years, though, and my doctor said if I do turn up pregnant I'll have to quit the Zoloft, and then I'll be a wreck.  I've seen some folks in this thread and the pregnancy thread say that they'd heard that it was okay to take, though, so it may be worth getting a second opinion?
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Oct 20, 2010 16:44
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Chicken McNobody posted:my doctor said if I do turn up pregnant I'll have to quit the Zoloft Just chiming in to say that I am nearly 8 months preggo and been on Zoloft for hormone-induced anxiety issues since month 2. I actually was never on it before this pregnancy, and both doctors I've seen claim it to be very safe. My baby is very healthy, active and thriving in there so I'm not too worried about it. My current doctor actually just recently brought the dosage up a little bit because my anxiety has been worse in the 3rd trimester. I trust her completely and from everything else I've heard, Zoloft is one of the safest antidepressants you can take during pregnancy. So maybe get a second opinion?
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Oct 20, 2010 17:20
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Definitely second opinion. I was taking Cymbalta when I met with my OB last year and he said that before I started trying I should switch to Zoloft. I switched to Wellbutrin instead, but the point still stands that Zoloft is considered safe during pregnancy and is the preferred antidepressant if you must take one while pregnant.
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Oct 20, 2010 18:13
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...Especially since depression and/or anxiety, on top of the already out of control hormonal issues that go along with pregnancy, is absolutely an awful thing to go through. Ive had a few "episodes" on days that I forget my medicine and it really sucks. I wouldnt wish it upon my worst enemy. So I definitely don't think going off zoloft right when you get pregnant is going to do anything except make you even more incredibly miserable.
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Oct 20, 2010 18:41
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I will certainly get a second opinion when the time comes, then...I work at a university and go to the health center on campus when I need a doctor, so this was just a GP talking. I'll ask an OB!
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Chicken McNobody posted:The guilt will definitely be something I'll need to deal with Chicken, I know guilt is not really a feeling that you can just turn on and off, and it isn't always based in logic, but I really don't think you should feed guilty over your future children not knowing their grandfathers. A lot of kids don't know have living grandparents or have grandparents who aren't loving. My maternal grandma was an abusive control freak (though not abusive towards my brother and me), my maternal grandma was emotionally distant from her children and said incredibly cruel things to me. They're both dead. My grandfathers are alive, but my maternal grandpa has never seemed to care for his grandchildren (my mother agrees) and even made fun of me at my wedding while my paternal grandpa simply doesn't have the energy to give a rat's rear end about his 15 grandkid and 20 something great-grandkids. However, my parents are/were very loving parents and raised my brother and I well. We didn't feel unloved or anything and were only a little sad sometimes because our grandparents sucked. In some ways I think a kid would be better off with deceased grandparents who would have been very loving if their parents tell them often about them than living grandparents who don't care or are unkind. The important thing is that your children have parents who love them and support them  Grandparents are just icing on the cake and it sounds like they'll still have two grandmas.
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Sooo, my period is now officially 4 days late. I stopped cramping and everything. But I haven't gotten a positive pregnancy test. I hate my uterus. Or my urine. One of them is slacking on the job.
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Oct 21, 2010 00:05
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oval office Pickle, I hope you get good news!
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Oct 21, 2010 02:40
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The oval office Pickle posted:Sooo, my period is now officially 4 days late. I stopped cramping and everything. But I haven't gotten a positive pregnancy test. Fingers crossed for you! I think I may be out for a few months to try to get my weight down a bit before hard-core trying again. We probably won't actively prevent, but wont be actively trying.
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Oct 21, 2010 04:58
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The oval office Pickle posted:Sooo, my period is now officially 4 days late. I stopped cramping and everything. But I haven't gotten a positive pregnancy test. Go go implantation!
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Oct 21, 2010 05:08
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How do I not go through tests at the rate of once a day until my period shows up?  I have about 20 left, but I don't want to fly through them. I haven't taken one today, but it's really hard not to. I'm trying to wait a week.
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Oct 21, 2010 22:40
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The oval office Pickle posted:I'm trying to wait a week. Once you figure out how to do this, please share. I'm almost at the point where I think I have to do the same thing as with my credit card some months, and give my package of tests to my husband to hide somewhere from me so I don't pee on them all in one day. Except I don't know that he'd want to go work and have a bunch of pregnancy tests he'd forgotten about fall out of his bag and all over his boss or something.
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Oct 22, 2010 01:06
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The oval office Pickle posted:How do I not go through tests at the rate of once a day until my period shows up? My period wasn't even due for like 6 days ... so I would have been only 3 weeks, but I tested anyway. Just cause I had the envelope of tests there lol But... it paid off today. I got the faintest line. So I rushed out and got a digital test...PREGNANT !!!!!! Omg omg omg. Here we go again!
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Oct 22, 2010 01:18
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CONGRATS DISHONESTY. I hope this one is a good experience for you. You deserve one!
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Oct 22, 2010 01:22
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dishonesty posted:My period wasn't even due for like 6 days ... so I would have been only 3 weeks, but I tested anyway. Just cause I had the envelope of tests there lol OMG! Congrats, Dishonesty!!!!!
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Oct 22, 2010 01:40
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Yay, congrats Dishonesty! I take it you've miscarried before? How many times? I really hope this time you end up with a baby in your arms
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Oct 22, 2010 01:50
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dishonesty posted:My period wasn't even due for like 6 days ... so I would have been only 3 weeks, but I tested anyway. Just cause I had the envelope of tests there lol Yay! Huzzah! Hooray! I'm so excited for you!
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Oct 22, 2010 01:56
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So happy for you Dishonesty! 
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Oct 22, 2010 02:55
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Congrats Dishonesty!!
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Thanks guyssssss Moosephant posted:Yay, congrats Dishonesty! I take it you've miscarried before? How many times? I really hope this time you end up with a baby in your arms Ectopic in December and miscarriage in April. I really really hope I do too. Go go healthy baby go!
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Oct 22, 2010 05:09
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Woo-hoo! Congrats, dishonesty!
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Oct 22, 2010 05:14
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Congrats Dishonesty! SO exciting!
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OMG, dishonesty! I'm so excited! I'm not testing until Sunday... at least that's what I keep telling myself.
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Yay Dishonesty! So happy for you
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Sometimes I wonder why nothing ever seems to go as planned. I'm on birth control for the cysts now, right? Right. Should be simple; I take the pills, I get my period, I go in to see if the cysts are gone. But, no, it can't be that simple. On Thursday I had a little bit of spotting, which I figured was no big deal. Yesterday I had what seemed like light period bleeding, which got heavier throughout the day. Today I have had pretty heavy bleeding and very sharp cramps (the you-have-to-stop-what-you-are-doing-and-breathe-through-them cramps). I am in the middle of the birth control pills, so I shouldn't have my period, but it feels like a very painful period. Now, this happens every four cycles or so for me. I basically can't leave the house or do anything useful for the first day or two because of the horrible cramps combined with the diarrhea that always tags along (sorry if that's TMI). Anyway, that being said, this should NOT be my period. I will call the fertility clinic on Monday since I don't think it's serious enough to warrant immediate attention. It's more that I'm frustrated because I don't understand what the heck is going on. I read somewhere that you can have bleeding when cysts burst, but I didn't think it would be this much bleeding. I had some sharp pains a few days after starting my birth control pills which I thought might be the cysts going away but I am flying blind here pretty much. Sometimes I want to kick my girly bits for being troublesome If the pain and bleeding is from cysts bursting, I'm wondering if we've been having trouble conceiving because of the cysts. If I get them frequently it could prevent me from ovulating (I did chart BBT, etc., but my charts were frequently odd) and so the actual number of cycles that were feasible could have been hampered. I'm really just venting/lamenting. If anyone has any idea of they the heck could be going on, I'd love to know. It's quite disconcerting to bleed from your vagina, accompanied by severe pains, when you're not supposed to have your period.
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I have no advice, as I'm not schooled on ovarian cysts, but I just wanted to give you a big internet hug. I'm sorry, and it sucks to not understand what your own loving body is doing. On my front: Still no period. It was due the 17th. Tested yesterday- it's negative. WHAT THE gently caress. I'm starting to wonder if I got a bad batch of test strips or some weird poo poo. I've never skipped a period before, and I've been having them since I went off birth control in August, so I just don't know what the gently caress.
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The oval office Pickle posted:On my front: Still no period. It was due the 17th. Tested yesterday- it's negative. WHAT THE gently caress. I'm starting to wonder if I got a bad batch of test strips or some weird poo poo. I've never skipped a period before, and I've been having them since I went off birth control in August, so I just don't know what the gently caress. I never skipped a period either until we decided to try to have a baby! Thanks for the psyche, body. 
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The oval office Pickle posted:I have no advice, as I'm not schooled on ovarian cysts, but I just wanted to give you a big internet hug. It took me until I was 7 weeks along to get a positive pregnancy test. I very clearly remember my disappointment when I took one at 4 weeks along and it came back negative. But around 7 weeks my breasts got tender and I got really mad at my husband for a very little thing (he didn't bring me Jack in the Box for dinner), and those two combined had me thinking I should test again. Lo and behold, I got a positive. So while I don't want you to get all super excited, I don't think you can rule it out quite yet.
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I asked my best friend last night how long it took her to get a positive test and she said 7 weeks as well. I'm just frustrated with not knowing. I have issues with planning and feeling out of control. I guess this is my first lesson in letting that go, since I'm going to have to eventually. God knows I've been moody as hell the last few days. My boobs started hurting today like they did when I first went on birth control. I'm trying to NOT get excited since I don't want to set myself up for disappointment. I just hope it's not all psychosomatic.
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The oval office Pickle posted:I'm just frustrated with not knowing. I have issues with planning and feeling out of control. I guess this is my first lesson in letting that go, since I'm going to have to eventually. I have super big issues with this also. I would really like life to have some sort of planner that I can look at and say "Oh, alrighty. This will be happening next so I need to do this." Or "I'm going to be doing this 10 years from now, better start getting such and such in line."
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The oval office Pickle posted:I asked my best friend last night how long it took her to get a positive test and she said 7 weeks as well. I'm just frustrated with not knowing. I have issues with planning and feeling out of control. I guess this is my first lesson in letting that go, since I'm going to have to eventually. Are you using the test strips that you get online with the ovulation strips? I know that they are supposed to be just as sensitive, but I tested with one of those and saw nothing but i used a digital just after(because I was late and wanted to pee on something dammit!) it said pregnant. Being the lunatic that I am, I broke it open and saw a pretty dark line--this was at 4 weeks.
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So my wife and I got a bit of interesting news. My younger brother and his girlfriend are expecting a child...after they just had one 2 months ago  . Now while we have not been actively trying to have a baby, if we happened to have one we are ready for it. I can't wait to hear how my sister in law responds (they have been trying for a few years now)
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Roxy Rouge posted:Are you using the test strips that you get online with the ovulation strips? I know that they are supposed to be just as sensitive, but I tested with one of those and saw nothing but i used a digital just after(because I was late and wanted to pee on something dammit!) it said pregnant. Being the lunatic that I am, I broke it open and saw a pretty dark line--this was at 4 weeks. I'm using these: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0002YIQEQ/ref=oss_product My husband just doesn't understand why I want to buy another test from a store that costs over twice as all those cheap ones. "I'm sure you'll develop other symptoms. Why is it so important to know NOW? You're already acting like you're pregnant so it's no big deal." I swear he's not that dense usually. He just doesn't understand the urgency with the need to know RIGHT loving NOW GODDAMMIT. BacknoMy brother knocked up his girlfriend about 3 months before my husband and I decided to start trying. I was devastated. They had only known each other for 4 months, he is a drug addict, and she is too. She already had a 5 year old and neither of them have ever held a job. She's 24 and he's 23. They're pulling it together somewhat and she's about 6 months along now. They both still live with my Mom and he's doing handyman work. She refuses to work and they both gripe that my mother, who lets them live and eat there for free, doesn't bend over backwards buying them poo poo. It's really hard to watch someone close to you get pregnant at a bad time when you want it so badly and feel it would be fantastic if it happens to you. Even if you're happy for them, it's like a loving dagger to the heart man. And it makes you feel terrible because you don't want to rain on their parade and seem like a jealous oval office. It's a very conflicted bundle of emotions.
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