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Astro7x posted:Anyway, I really like how things are coming together so far, I just hope some people don't piss me off on my wedding day and upset me because there aren't chair covers or my wife's dress isn't long enough or whatever.  It doesn't make snarky comments any less annoying, but I doubt anyone will be mean to you about your choices on the actual day.
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Seo, it's actually Elisa Ilana A little worried by the google reviews, but if it doesn't work out there's also that Silversmiths place. My boyfriend told my Dad that he's going to propose tonight. Literally, my father's reaction was 'Oh good. We were wondering when you were going to.' Edit: Roger's Jewelry in Lincoln is also totally worth a drive down. Apparently their finance programs are awesome, and their stuff was lovely. Their customer service was also amazing, I mentioned that I wanted a chocolate diamond on a red gold band and the salesman almost swooned. I was really impressed. It's in Gateway Mall at about 68th and O. Effexxor fucked around with this message at 02:54 on Nov 27, 2010 |
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My thread was closed (And rightly so) so I wanted to drop in here and say to every one who offered suggestions, thank you very much! I've been reading this thread on and off for a while now, but 4000 posts was a bit overwhelming to wade through. I kind of spazzed out the other night when I posted, because well as I'm sure many of you know planning a wedding can be a very daunting task. Anyways I really appreciate the words of wisdom many of you posted for me and I took much of it to heart. Thanks!
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Nov 27, 2010 20:12
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Duckman2008 posted:And for the record she said yes Congrats!! Now learn these two phrases and use them often : "Yes, dear, that sounds great!" and "Here's my credit card." :P But that ring of yours is beautiful. I like unique rings and hope The Boy is as creative as you. I swear if he opens the box and the word "Jared" is on it anywhere I'm saying no. Call me shallow but I'm not mainstream and don't want my ring to be either!
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Nov 28, 2010 06:20
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I'm looking at engagement rings now and have a diamond question. The first jeweler I went to said I don't have to worry about conflict diamonds because all the diamonds are certified by the Kimberley Process. I've been reading about the Kimberley Process, and I see there is a lot of criticism that lots of bad diamonds get through. Do I need to get a Canadian stone to be (99.99%) sure my diamond is not a blood diamond? Are there other alternatives? I know some people say I should just not get a diamond, but I've decided I do want to go the diamond route.
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My fiance and I went to visit my dad for Thanksgiving and got to get started on wedding planning. My dad is giving us 20k as a wedding present! He had offered to help us pay for the wedding previously, but I was not expecting anything nearly this generous. We were able to get an initial guest list worked out, picked a (likely) venue, decided on the size of the wedding party, and select at least one potential photographer to check out. And we have tentatively decided on colors and a date. My stepmother is helping with a lot of the planning stuff (she is awesome and we get along really well). Even though the wedding is still a long way off (1.5 years) it doesn't feel like nearly long enough given that we are planning it from a distance and the event is going to be pretty large. At the moment my major concern is handling my mother. I will be visiting her for Christmas and get to discuss things with her then. Right now she is somewhat pissed at me for having the wedding where my dad lives and she keeps asking me how much money my dad is putting in because she wants to make sure he spends more than she does. We are actually pretty close normally, but she just gets so irrational about everything to do with my dad. It's frustrating, anyone have any tips for how to handle her on the money stuff?
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Nov 29, 2010 03:11
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Ceridwen posted:Even though the wedding is still a long way off (1.5 years) it doesn't feel like nearly long enough given that we are planning it from a distance and the event is going to be pretty large. You'll likely get to a point about 6 months out when you hit a wall- you can't really do much more until a week or two before the actual ceremony and that time will go soooooo slow! But I do remember that feeling in the beginning that I should have planned for a longer engagement because I had so much to do! As for the money situation, sadly weddings have a tendency to bring out the worst in people. Everyone wants to put in their two cents and for whatever reason drama circles weddings like crazy! I think the best thing to do is tell your mom you are not comfortable sharing with her what your dad gave you. You can then add that anything she gives you will be greatly appreciated. Then if she does give you money be very gracious even if it's just a fraction of what your Dad gave you. Trust me, it's better to have not enough money than too much drama! And already with $20K you can do a lot! I only spent $5,000 on my wedding and it was fantastic. My guests still talk about it as being the funnest wedding they've been to!
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Peace Fire posted:You'll likely get to a point about 6 months out when you hit a wall- you can't really do much more until a week or two before the actual ceremony and that time will go soooooo slow! But I do remember that feeling in the beginning that I should have planned for a longer engagement because I had so much to do! I am really hoping to hit a point where we have nothing to do just before the wedding because there is a decent chance that we will both be dealing with written exams for our PhD programs right before the wedding. So the less we have to do in that time frame the better! I honestly don't really care that much if my mother chips in at all financially. My dad is giving us more than enough money to have the wedding we want (relatively non-traditional beach ceremony, but with a kick-rear end reception) and the honeymoon we want, and still have money left over to save for a house or whatever. The rub is that the way she asks makes me loathe to say that to her, because she's just such a bitch about it. She wants to use this as one more chance to milk my dad for as much money as possible and I hate being a tool for her to do that. My dad (who is well aware that my mother is like this) suggested that I avoid telling her the exact amount, but make it clear to her that anything she gives me will mean that we have more leftover that we get to keep for buying a house (rather than more money my dad gets to keep). It seems like a decent idea. Hopefully it works. On a funnier note: My 9 year old stepsister was the first to ask me when we would be having kids. She is super excited about the possibility of being an aunt and I had to remind her several times that that was a few years off.
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Nov 29, 2010 06:25
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Does anyone have experiences with destination weddings? We're planning on the immediate family and inviting a few people who would be able to make the trip, and have been looking at getting married in Gullfoss in Iceland: We'll need to pay for us, her sisters, and her parents airfare and hotels, though my family will pay their own way. We're budgeting 3000 for travel, and much less for hotels. The main thing I'm curious about is other guests.
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Nov 30, 2010 04:25
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Peace Fire posted:Congrats!! Now learn these two phrases and use them often : What if it can only be Jared?
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Nov 30, 2010 05:16
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Low Carb Bread posted:What if it can only be Jared? She's already decided that brand names are more important than the sentiment.
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Nov 30, 2010 05:40
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Hey Johny, did you ever find out about the faceted basalt?
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Nov 30, 2010 05:44
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Oh poo poo Canada posted:Hey Johny, did you ever find out about the faceted basalt? I hate to tell you, but from what I'm seeing it might not be a good idea. The material is going to be a nightmare to facet. (Something about a non-homogeneous structure?) My offer for the black diamonds still stands, though! Brendas Baby Daddy posted:I'm looking at engagement rings now and have a diamond question. The first jeweler I went to said I don't have to worry about conflict diamonds because all the diamonds are certified by the Kimberley Process. I've been reading about the Kimberley Process, and I see there is a lot of criticism that lots of bad diamonds get through. Do I need to get a Canadian stone to be (99.99%) sure my diamond is not a blood diamond? Are there other alternatives? The Kimberley Process is imperfect at best, but luckily odds are on your side. 99% of all diamonds currently available on the market are conflict free. The loose 1% is essentially an outlier due to legal definitions. The term "Conflict Diamond" has grown to include any diamond that doesn't come from an approved channel. Find a diamond on the ground in Africa? It's legally a conflict diamond until a Kimberley Process monitor certifies it. Canadian is always an option, and soon there will be large numbers of lab-grown diamonds on the market. We're preparing to see wide availability in Q2 2011. Very exciting.
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Can you say anything more about the coming availability of lab-diamonds? I've been waiting a long time for those to hit the market in any real way (other than one or two limited distributers like there are now), and I'm definitely stoked to hear it's coming relatively soon.
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Nov 30, 2010 15:28
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Oh poo poo Canada posted:Does anyone have experiences with destination weddings? We're planning on the immediate family and inviting a few people who would be able to make the trip, and have been looking at getting married in Gullfoss in Iceland: It's a crime no one has commented on this because  holy poo poo that's amazing.
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Nov 30, 2010 15:43
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Oh I guess I should have said this in my last post, but I can officially be in this thread since I got engaged last night! My boyfriend proposed while we were doing a ustream run of Earthbound, he hacked the game so that a text scroll came up with a big speech and asked me to get married at the end of it. it was very sweet and I did not at all see it coming, and thanks to the magic of the internet there's now a little news blurb about it on Kotaku. If any of you people like dumb nerdy stuff, feel free to watch and laugh at me as I get more and more confused. http://kotaku.com/5701951/true-love-is-found-in-nintendo-classics
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Nov 30, 2010 16:33
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The big thing my fiancee and I are working on is where to have the wedding. Our first choice right now is the Rahr Brewery in Fort Worth, because we like beer and they can provide beer and it's a cheapish place to have a bunch of people hang out. Just wondering if anyone has any experience with this place and how they are about decorating for events, because it's just a warehouse with some stills and walls of beer. If we were able to get in there like Friday night or several hours early on Saturday (when we're going to have the wedding) and pretty the place up, it should be fine (and fantastic), but just looking for some experience if anyone has some. Here's the link to the place. http://www.rahrbrewing.com/
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Nov 30, 2010 16:59
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Rootbeer Baron posted:Oh I guess I should have said this in my last post, but I can officially be in this thread since I got engaged last night! My boyfriend proposed while we were doing a ustream run of Earthbound, he hacked the game so that a text scroll came up with a big speech and asked me to get married at the end of it. it was very sweet and I did not at all see it coming, and thanks to the magic of the internet there's now a little news blurb about it on Kotaku. If any of you people like dumb nerdy stuff, feel free to watch and laugh at me as I get more and more confused. Haha, I love the look on your face and the last line of the video is the best Good luck to both of you. You both look really happy.
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JohnnyRnR posted:I hate to tell you, but from what I'm seeing it might not be a good idea. The material is going to be a nightmare to facet. (Something about a non-homogeneous structure?) My offer for the black diamonds still stands, though! I figured this would be the case, I know I could have gotten away with it with an incredibly large faceted surface, but not for this. Thanks for the offer of black diamonds, but while achieving a similar look they aren't the same. Still, your offer was insanely generous, so thank you so much for that. What I may look at doing at a later date is taking a rock down to the furnace in the geo department and melting something down to a siliceous mass, then faceting it from there. That'd be much more like working with glass than a fine-grained fused aggregate. Boxman posted:It's a crime no one has commented on this because Thank you! I don't think they've actually got any formal way to do weddings there, so we're going to have to run out there with a priest, do some really quick vows, then run back so as to not piss off the tourists. There are a few other really awesome places we could do it in Iceland which have less in the way of tourists. This was our second choice (which I didn't actually notice the same photographer did a wedding at, we just randomly found pictures of it): 
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Nov 30, 2010 21:00
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Rootbeer Baron posted:Oh I guess I should have said this in my last post, but I can officially be in this thread since I got engaged last night! My boyfriend proposed while we were doing a ustream run of Earthbound, he hacked the game so that a text scroll came up with a big speech and asked me to get married at the end of it. it was very sweet and I did not at all see it coming, and thanks to the magic of the internet there's now a little news blurb about it on Kotaku. If any of you people like dumb nerdy stuff, feel free to watch and laugh at me as I get more and more confused. I love your look of utter confusion. What a sweet video! Congratulations!
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Nov 30, 2010 21:02
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Oh poo poo Canada posted:Thank you! I don't think they've actually got any formal way to do weddings there, so we're going to have to run out there with a priest, do some really quick vows, then run back so as to not piss off the tourists. There are a few other really awesome places we could do it in Iceland which have less in the way of tourists.
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Nov 30, 2010 22:22
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PopRocks posted:Don't worry about pissing off the tourists. They will love that they get to witness a wedding in such a beautiful place. That'll be a really great story for them to tell about their trip. Everone loves a wedding, it can only make people happy.
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Nov 30, 2010 22:47
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What would an alternative title be for the Father of the Bride at the wedding? My fiancee is going to have her uncle walk her down the aisle instead.
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Dec 1, 2010 02:39
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Escort. "Wedding Party: ... ...Escorting the bride is her uncle [full name]"
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PopRocks posted:Escort. Exactly this. My dad died a few years ago, so my uncle walked me down the aisle, and the programs said "Bride's Escort." Then, when walking into the reception, my mom and my uncle (her big brother) walked in together and they were announced as "mother of the bride, and uncle of the bride" I think. (I obviously wasn't in the room yet.)
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PopRocks posted:Escort. I have the same thing (as my avatar accurately states) and for my sister's wedding my Uncle escorted her, I believe it was Name, Uncle of the Bride.
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Thanks! I didn't think it would be as simple as escort hehe.
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I'v been dating my girlfriend for five months and am set to propose to her on Christmas Eve. I've got a couple of ring ideas to be finalized this weekend, planning to call her dad next week, and do this thing. Some might call it whirlwind; I know the romance is legit and the timing is right. MY biggest concern is about the ring! If you're a married/engaged guy, how long did you take for you to choose it? Did you have qualms, doubts, second guesses?
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Cup of Hemlock posted:I'v been dating my girlfriend for five months and am set to propose to her on Christmas Eve. I've got a couple of ring ideas to be finalized this weekend, planning to call her dad next week, and do this thing. Some might call it whirlwind; I know the romance is legit and the timing is right. If you are less than 30 years old you are making a terrible mistake. I let my wife pick out her own ring. I figured if it was something she had to wear every single day for the rest of her life, she should have a good bit of say in that piece of jewelry. Please have a long (2yr min) engagement.
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Bruce Hussein Daddy posted:Please have a long (2yr min) engagement. I'm young and getting engaged after not the longest relationship, but I have to second this. We're shooting for a long engagement for multiple reasons. That said, I don't think he's necessarily making a terrible mistake. I don't know the circumstances involved, and he hasn't said enough to really tell the circumstances either. v  ve. For rings, though I haven't given it to her yet we both went shopping for rings, she picked out a lot she liked and from there I picked something very similar to one of those. I didn't let her know my budget, so things she looked at ranged from a couple of hundred dollars to far far far far far over my budget (she actually didn't look at the prices, just the rings). WAFFLEHOUND fucked around with this message at 03:03 on Dec 3, 2010 |
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Bruce Hussein Daddy posted:If you are less than 30 years old you are making a terrible mistake. While this is often good advice, it's not always the best choice for everyone. My own parents have been married now for 39 years and they met and were married within 6 months. It can happen, and it can be good.
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Cup of Hemlock posted:MY biggest concern is about the ring! If you're a married/engaged guy, how long did you take for you to choose it? Did you have qualms, doubts, second guesses? In my experience, most guys take 4-6 months to buy the ring from the first phone call to delivery. I've always assumed that the men are deciding if they're going to do it or not, and shopping for rings in the meantime. Rings are a big part of the engagement ceremony, but the American market is fairly traditional. American engagement rings should have a classic style that will transcend fashion; this being so that they are never out of fashion when styles change. The central stone should be the focal point: Accents (filigree, engraving, diamonds) are fine design cues to add style, but they should never steal focus. This ring is one we made from a customer sketch, and I've always felt it had a good fundamental design. Some of the worst engagement rings I've seen are when the men (it's always dudes) get too wrapped up in the design process and make the jewelry overly complicated. Stay simple and you'll be fine. P.S. If your girlfriend complains about the ring take it as a sign that you shouldn't get married.
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Fire In The Disco posted:While this is often good advice, it's not always the best choice for everyone. My own parents have been married now for 39 years and they met and were married within 6 months. It can happen, and it can be good. I know a couple that got married a month after they met and they're still together 25 years later. Of course they don't always seem to get along so well so maybe that's an example for why it can be a bad thing.
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I designed this ring for my fiance, she's a nurse and had to have something low profile to wear with her gloves. It's set in a "tension" setting with the sides wrapping around to "hug" the stone in place. I knew she liked the tension settings, but other than that, that was all her input.
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I think it's gorgeous!
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AzCoug posted:Pretty That is a really nice design. I like how all the sharp edges fold in on themselves like a mobius strip
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NaturalLow posted:I know a couple that got married a month after they met and they're still together 25 years later. Of course they don't always seem to get along so well so maybe that's an example for why it can be a bad thing. There are plenty of stories like this (I know someone who... etc.) but there are orders of magnitudes more stories like "I know a couple who dated for x amount of months and then broke up" or "I know a couple who got married after x amount of months and then got divorced." It's just that no one ever tells those stories because they suck to hear. I don't think it's a good idea to let these heartwarming, love-at-first-sight anecdotes impact your own decisions. I find them sweet to hear about, but when it comes to my own life, being cautious and responsible is a lot more important than having a storybook, whirlwind romance. And AzCoug, that ring is gorgeous. That's awesome that you got something low profile--I always avoid wearing rings because of the glove issue (but I'm not engaged, so they would just be regular jewelry).
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NaturalLow posted:I know a couple that got married a month after they met and they're still together 25 years later. Of course they don't always seem to get along so well so maybe that's an example for why it can be a bad thing. To be fair, not being a perfect couple is a very natural part of a lasting marriage.
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The important thing is to take your time before you marry someone, because you'll be attached to them and their whole immediate family and their whole extended family for the rest of your life, so be sure you really understand your future spouse and all of the variables before you commit to anything legally binding.
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AzCoug posted:I designed this ring for my fiance, she's a nurse and had to have something low profile to wear with her gloves. It's set in a "tension" setting with the sides wrapping around to "hug" the stone in place. I knew she liked the tension settings, but other than that, that was all her input. I'm also marrying a nurse with glove concerns, and that's almost exactly the same as the ring I got. For the one I got, the wedding band is a jacket that adds a strip of small diamonds to the top and bottom.
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