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High five, Mr Darcy! I mostly lurk in this thread, but I got a positive test this morning as well.  Was beginning to think it would never happen.I'm already terrified of a miscarriage, having watched my best friend go through two before having her babies, but I'm going to try not to let that get in the way of things. I've seen a link posted either here or in the pregnancy thread for a website that has comprehensive info as to what products, meds, etc are safe/unsafe during pregnancy. Does anyone happen to have it?
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Assuming you are in the US, Women's Heath(dot gov) is a good resource for categories in medications. EPA's Fish and Fish Consumption Advisory lists. This gives you a good overview of how much of what kind of fish is safe during pregnancy. I don't have a definitive link to something that has everything, but the MayoClinic's pregnancy suite is always a good source. Avoid What To Expect because it will make you think everything is wrong. Also: join the pregnancy thread.
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Congrats to you both!
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Oct 15, 2011 18:39
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Cheers folks! I'd always said to Mrs D. that I wanted our kid to have a birthday somewhere in the middle of the year as we (and most of my immediate family) were winter babies. According to the due date calculators the little goonling is due about 14th June. Freaky!
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Oct 15, 2011 19:08
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I refer to the kellymom table when looking up pregnancy-safe (or unsafe) stuff: http://www.kellymom.com/health/meds/aap-approved-meds.html
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ThirstyGirl posted:I've seen a link posted either here or in the pregnancy thread for a website that has comprehensive info as to what products, meds, etc are safe/unsafe during pregnancy. Does anyone happen to have it? For medication info, I like safefetus.com.
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Peeing on sticks again.. no positives yet.. sad, because it's now been 4 months with no results, but kid of happy because I want my week in Vegas to not be a "Don't drink, don't smoke, don't even think about setting foot in a casino" event. I think my husband is starting to wonder about his little boys though (I'm pretty sure if there's an issue, it's with me and not him).
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Oct 16, 2011 15:20
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4 months really isn't that long to be trying. Most doctors won't bat an eye until its been closer to a year (unless you're older)
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Alterian posted:4 months really isn't that long to be trying. Most doctors won't bat an eye until its been closer to a year (unless you're older) Well, I'm 35 and he's 36, so neither of us are spring chickens, but a lot of his military buddies who he served with in Iraq are having issues and theories range from being exposed to weird chemicals, to the anthrax vaccination...
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by that point, the doc will sometimes start looking into things after 6 months. It never hurts to go in at any time, though! I was 26 and my husband 27 and we'd only been trying for like 7 or 8 months when my doc went all out trying to figure out what was wrong, instead of insisting we wait.
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My wife took a pregnancy test last night, and again this morning. You know, the kind with one pink line for not pregnant, and two for pregnant? It's still 5 or 6 days before her period is supposed to occur, so I imagine the hormone levels could be fairly low at this point. At any rate, the second line was very light. Like, very, very light, but definitely there. I even compared it to an unused test and there's a noticeable difference. I guess what I'm asking is how likely is she to be pregnant. We just started trying and it's very surreal to me. Should I just wait and have her take another test? She's certain she's pregnant, and has been having weird stomach feelings for a week or so to boot.
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No Butt Stuff, sounds like she's knocked up to me. Congrats! And congrats to Mrs. Darcy as well  We are on month 4 of trying, although we're not obsessive about it or anything, and I've decided to just stop testing unless I miss a period. All the negatives are too discouraging. I know it's not a long time to have been trying so I'm not all depressed or anything, but it's hard to stay hopeful when it's negative after negative. As far as age, I'm 30 and my husband is...older than I am. By a lot. So hopefully we won't have any issues; I had an ultrasound a few weeks ago for an unrelated reason and my ob-gyn said it looked like I'd be ovulating very soon and everything looked very good aside from a tiny fibroid in my uterus. So we are just trying to be way more relaxed about it.
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No Butt Stuff - Generally speaking.. Not always, but generally, the line will get darker every day as the pregnancy hormone increases, so if she waits 48 hours or even just 24 hours and takes another test with first morning urine, you will probably see a line that is slightly darker than the previous one.
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Oct 18, 2011 21:31
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Thanks guys. She was getting a bit irritated with me not being 100% certain that she is pregnant. I guess I better just ride the wave and accept that even with a really light line, it's probably true, so I can go ahead and start getting excited with her.
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False positives are really, really rare, unless there are certain hormonal medications involved. Chances are that she is pregnant and just not very far along yet.
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Oct 18, 2011 22:24
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My husband was the same way, it was only when I took a digital test that said PREGNANT that he really allowed himself to believe it and be excited. Before that he was just too skeptical of the light lines.
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She did that last night. And it said PREGNANT, so I guess we're gonna have a baby. Now to not tell anyone for 2 or 3 months, I guess.
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Schweig und tanze and Cathis I agree with the others that it never hurts to call your dr. and see if they will see you. But be prepared in case they won't. In my area, I have very limited choices for ob/gyns especially if I want a woman. Even when I was over 100 days into a cycle with no period in sight, they refused to let me in to see the dr. unless I had been infertile for a year. I finally had to lie (around 120 days) and say I wasn't trying in order to see a dr. My medical records now show that we didn't start trying until Apr. (10 months into the process...) Now we're just about to hit 16 months and I still have to wait until next April to have a chance at any sort of test or treatment...(well, besides the medroxyprogesterone to induce periods since I have a vast family history of cancer.) Congrats to those with good news! (edit to clarify)
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Ok, so after 4 cycles of trying (only 3 months, but my cycle is sometimes as short as 21 days, so 4 cycles), my husband and I decided to stop trying and revisit this again next year because poo poo is going down with my two young half-sisters and I might need to step in and take custody of them. We figured getting two kids dropped on us out of the blue was enough and we didn't need to add a pregnancy to the situation. Then of course, the month that we don't try, I end up pregnant. Just peed on a stick a few hours ago (my period was late), and the line was immediate and just as dark as the control line. And of course, because we weren't trying this month, I had caffeine, alcohol, sushi, etc. And I ran out of my prenatal vitamins, and didn't bother refilling them because hey, we're not trying anymore! Now I have to run out to Target and get a bottle right now to assuage some of my guilt. EDIT: Holy poo poo, freaking out.
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You're gonna be fine You were taking prenatals for ages before that, and the sushi, etc isn't going to do anything so early on. I'm sure if you were doing hardcore cocaine that'd be one thing, but don't worry about this... and congrats and welcome to the Pregnancy thread!
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Congrats! Don't worry, you'll be fine!
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How long before starting to try to get pregnant is it generally recommended that you get on prenatal vitamins or folic acid? Any good suggestions for ones that are easy on the tummy? How do you go about choosing a provider? I want as natural as a birth as possible, but don't know what to ask other than things that sound very accusatory such as asking about their c-sections rates and what not.
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I love the gummy prenatals. Vitafusion has one type, and Target has a generic knockoff that's the same thing. There's no iron or calcium, so you'll want to get a calcium supplement or compensate for that somehow, and check with your doc about whether you need extra iron.
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sheri posted:How long before starting to try to get pregnant is it generally recommended that you get on prenatal vitamins or folic acid? Several months, at least. Some women start at a year prior. I just take them as my regular vitamin. As for the birth. Research, research, research. Also, ask any close friends you might have with kids for recommendations. Your family doctor is also a great place to start. I found my OBGYN through mine.
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Congrats to the newly pregnant! sheri posted:How long before starting to try to get pregnant is it generally recommended that you get on prenatal vitamins or folic acid? Any good suggestions for ones that are easy on the tummy? I tried several different brands of prenatals, and never found anything that stuck out as being better. I ended up with a gigantic bottle from Costco, since I figured I'd be taking them all throughout the pregnancy and while breastfeeding as well. They all give me gross burps though, so I always take vitamins in the middle of me eating something else. As far as finding a provider, I knew I wanted a natural birth, too. I'm lucky to live close by to a great birthing center, and I really like the midwives there. My favorite thing is that our prenatal appointments are usually 45 minutes, so the midwives have really gotten to know my husband and I well over the last few months. (The one prenatal OB appt I had at the beginning of the pregnancy was like 15 minutes long max, including the pap smear. The doctor was nice enough, but the difference between the type of care I got from the OB vs. the midwives was really significant to me.) I've been preparing on my own for a natural birth with the Hypnobabies course, but I like that at the birth center, natural birth is the default. I don't have to worry about pressure to induce, and nobody will be pestering me about pain meds throughout the labor. I think that kind of supportive environment is really important for someone who wants a natural birth. If I decide during the birth that I really DO need an epidural, or the midwives decide that I need a C-section, then I'll be transferred to a hospital (and they come with me). Not all midwives are educated, trained, or licensed the same way, so this is something to research thoroughly for your state/country as well.
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I love the Vitafusion gummy prenatals, wish I didn't have to take a calcium supplement too, but it's not the worst thing in the world.
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MoCookies posted:As far as finding a provider, I knew I wanted a natural birth, too. I'm lucky to live close by to a great birthing center, and I really like the midwives there. My favorite thing is that our prenatal appointments are usually 45 minutes, so the midwives have really gotten to know my husband and I well over the last few months. (The one prenatal OB appt I had at the beginning of the pregnancy was like 15 minutes long max, including the pap smear. The doctor was nice enough, but the difference between the type of care I got from the OB vs. the midwives was really significant to me.) I've been preparing on my own for a natural birth with the Hypnobabies course, but I like that at the birth center, natural birth is the default. I don't have to worry about pressure to induce, and nobody will be pestering me about pain meds throughout the labor. I think that kind of supportive environment is really important for someone who wants a natural birth. If I decide during the birth that I really DO need an epidural, or the midwives decide that I need a C-section, then I'll be transferred to a hospital (and they come with me). Not all midwives are educated, trained, or licensed the same way, so this is something to research thoroughly for your state/country as well. This just goes to show you how important it is to shop around for providers to find what you're looking for, because personally I have and prefer the exact opposite approach with my prenatal care. I love the fact that my appointments are so short, I want to get in and out of there and on with my day, although a lot of that might have to do with the fact that I'm considered high-risk so I'm there a lot more frequently, plus extra sonograms, and next week I'll have to start non-stress tests twice a week. Seems like I spend half my life at the doctor as it is. Also I'm a wuss and have no interest whatsoever in giving birth with no medication. Point is, everyone's wants and needs are different and you can find a provider who will do things exactly the way you want, so don't settle if something isn't the way you'd like it! Oh, and prenatals, I get the big bottle of generic ones, Sun Valley or something, they have all the same stuff in them and were only like $4 for a bottle of 100, whereas a lot of the name-brand OTC ones were $20-$30 for a month's supply. Gotta love generics!
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I took (and still take) the CVS prenatals. You'll end up getting coupons for CVS brand products after a while that will make them cheaper. When I was pregnant and it made me kind of queasy, I started taking them right before I went to bed, so at least I was asleep when the nausea hit.
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Well, husband made an appointment with a fertility doctor for early December. Apparently, I'm going as well. This makes me cranky. Testing HIS bits to see if they are working is FAR easier than testing MY bits. Also, if the doctor says any variation of "just have more sex" I'm walking out.
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Cathis posted:Well, husband made an appointment with a fertility doctor for early December. My wife was terrified when she went to my urologist appointment. I guess in girl-world the doctor leaves the room, you change and get all comfy, have a mocha and whatever. Guys have a different deal entirely. The doctor just said "ok, drop trau" and started yarding on my wang. She was jaw-drop petrified. I was cracking jokes with the doctor. Just remember that if they give him some kind of result with a bad count that you do the test again before jumping to any conclusions. a friend of mine was told that he had a less than 1% chance of conceiving. when he went to the fertility specialist to do IUI, they told him that his count and quality was low end of normal. Hopefully the fertility specialist is a good visit for you guys. The one we are seeing now has been super helpful with info and procedures. Info: after my wife had an ectopic in July and lost a tube we have not had any luck, even w/ Clomid. So we are doing injectables now w/ a carefully monitored IUI cycle. It's going to be interesting having to sneak off at Thanksgiving to do the shot without tipping her parents or any of the other dinner guests off.
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My husband and I are starting to try this month. I'm trying to figure out my ovulation date using those first response pee sticks. When the the LH surges, is there any lead up to it? Or do the sticks look completely negative (no line), and then BAM- super dark line?
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For me, they get gradually darker, but then drop back to light really quickly after the surge. Some pieces of advice: use them twice a day, because you may have a short enough surge that you could miss otherwise, and consider tracking your temp and cervical mucous too, so you can get the big picture and know with more accuracy when you're really ovulating. On another topic, Mr. FITD and I are trying for #2, and we're hoping that fertility tracking will help is get knocked up quickly like it did last time. I am using a new website called Kindara to track temp, CM and sex, and they are looking for more people to use it. If anyone's interested, give me an email address and I'll get you an invite. I can invite 5 people.
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Okay - Thank you to all the people who recommended Taking Charge Of Your Fertility, it is such an amazing book! I have it out from the library, but I'm totally buying a copy, it's teaching me so so much about my body and how it works! (I had NO idea how a cervix looked/worked. Seriously, I thought it was something that blocked the opening though to the uterus, not the actual opening itself. There's a hole through it! No idea why I thought this, but I did miss pretty much all of health class in school.) Now, questions. My husband and I aren't going to be trying for kids for another year or two for health reasons (chronic fatigue syndrome/depression/anxiety that I have to work though, all going well so far) but I was wondering what anyone knows about being pregnant with epilepsy? I have complex partial seizures that just make me kind-of space out for a few minutes, and am on quite a high dose of epilim to control them. Also taking folic acid - that's incase of an oops pregnancy, I think, because of neural tube defect risks with epilim. I'll have to come off the epilim before getting pregnant, but how long before? Does it have to get out of my system? I'll of course be seeing my neurologist when I want all this to happen, but I have babies on the brain lately (going to a friends baby shower this afternoon) and my husband seems to think it goes from decide to start trying to baby in a week or something. TL;DR - Epilepsy, medication and pregnancy - how does it work?
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I really recommended the TCOYF software for charting too. It's something like 40 bucks but then you have it forever and I think the charts are much prettier than something like Fertility Friend. You can try it for 15 days for free to see if you like it before purchasing. Avalinka, I think your questions are really things you need to ask your doctor. It doesn't hurt anything to go to your OB for a pre conception appointment.
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This might sound like a stupid question, but here goes. We did he injectable fertility drugs this month. Wife had the trigger shot (hcg) on black Friday. the line on the tests fade out almost entirely and then today, after my wife smacked me with a 6" meatball marinara sub (Parmesan oregano, of course) the line came back way darker. pretty much a given that it's for real?
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Well, it sounds like your wife is carrying a little meatball sub, but I'm no marinara expert.
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it's funny, because the last time she was pregnant, we found out the day that she went batshit crazy and flipped me off while freaking out over paper plates. Tonight it was that I wanted subway and she wanted KFC. So I grabbed a sub and pointed the car toward the colonel's chicken shed, and then she got mad that I I'd don't get her a meatball sub ($2 6"). so I drove to the othe subway, and ordered her the sub she wanted but they aren't participating in the promo so it was $4. So she got mad at me for paying for the sub... and tossed the sub at me. I looked at her and declared her pregnant, we went home and took the test. The only real down side is that since we ordered the meds out of country, we had to order a 2nd round a few days ago for them to be here on time. Ah well. We saved thousands and it should keep until she wants another one.
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Husband and I went to the fertility doctor on Monday.. we're going in for the beginning stages of tests this month. Kind of funny.. the doctor said all the things I have been telling the husband, but apparently they all sound WAY BETTER coming from him!
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My uterus is an enigma. The husband and I recently started trying. I came off the pill October 30th, and got my period November 2nd-12th. It was weird, very off and on depending on my level of activity. I tried to use the ovulation strips in November, but it always seemed like the line was faint. Maybe I missed the surge, I don't know. So I've been expecting my period, which I thought started on Wednesday. I got to work at 2:30p and my panties had a few drops of blood on them. I put down a pad, but it was clean for the rest of the day! Actually, today is Friday, and those few drops were the only blood I've passed. I considered it being implantation bleeding, but it was too red for that, I think. Any ideas? Did I have a 5 minute period this month?
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Sometimes cycles can be wonky after coming off of birth control. Before the pill mine were about the average 5-6 day period, 28 day cycle, pretty textbook. When I went off the pill they kind of started out like that and then after 3 months they went down to 2 days, 24 day cycle, barely any blood. You might not ovulate for a couple of months too after coming off the pill. All you can really do at this point is wait for your body to stabilize and practice, practice, practice. I mean, what's the harm in sexing while you wait?
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