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PopRocks posted:Here's a question for the jewelry experts: We both really like the look of 2-tone rings, and the idea of having a matching his-and-hers set. This will be just fine. The only difficulty will be in resizing down the road, but any skilled jeweler would be able to fabricate the custom three layer stock needed. My advice is to buy three wedding bands. Two to wear and one to keep for your future jeweler to have a ready-made source of the custom metal pattern he'll need to seamlessly resize your rings. And if you wind up not needing it you can always have the third band cut in half to make a pair of matching earrings.
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Ugh, just found out that my rich aunt from Chicago is coming for the wedding. I guess my Oma kinda invited her. I've never actually met her and just heard stories that she's a huge pain to be around and demands that people do whatever she wants. She at least better bring a nice gift, but judging from what I know of her, it will be something useless that neither of us need or want because she doesn't know us at all. Also, the other day, the hotel nearest to our venue burnt to the ground. Hopefully, it'll be rebuilt by July, but there is plenty of room to camp out at the farm and another hotel 15 minutes down the road.
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samizdat posted:I know I'm supposed to ask my younger sister but honestly she's kind of full of dumb drama (Facebook is never ending Marilyn Monroe quotes and whining about men, she's 23 going on 17) and will likely need to be managed herself just to make sure she shows up in clothing appropriate for a religious Jewish wedding and not a club. (My family is Catholic but I converted.) Sup religious Jewish wedding buddy! The boyfriend and I are not even close to engaged but I would loooooove to hear more about your experience in planning your wedding as I'd imagine we'll encounter some similar issues (I did not convert, but I am significantly more religiously observant than the rest of my family).
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Jan 27, 2014 06:06
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I've got a sticky situation (so much for nothing going wrong) that I need some advice on: We used personal sentimental items (horse show ribbons I personally won) to mark our reception tables. Two came up missing during cleanup, and after exhausting all other possibilities we've come to the conclusion that someone took them (maybe accidentally?) along with one of the special cupcakes the cake baker left for us for our honeymoon (complete dick move). Seeing as they're MY ribbons I won, I want them back. I have no idea who could've done it, we thought our friends weren't that lovely but I guess we were wrong. Is it completely tacky to include a note in our thank you cards asking for them back? I'd like the cupcake back too but I'm assuming that's a lost cause.
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Jan 27, 2014 21:24
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I wouldn't think it would be tacky at all to send out a polite request that "hey these personal items went missing, if you saw them or accidentally took them home please let us know". Maybe they thought they were part of the wedding favors or something. I've been to weddings where you're free to take the centerpieces home, it could have been an honest mistake.
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:I've got a sticky situation (so much for nothing going wrong) that I need some advice on: It could be some family member thought they were doing you a favor by making sure the personal items on their table didn't get thrown out, and just hasn't had a chance to let you know that yet. I still have my boyfriend's brother's ring boxes since he was the best man, we just keep forgetting / haven't gotten around to driving them over yet, and their wedding was a over a month ago. Maybe a Facebook message or email chain to track down your ribbons would be enough? It's only been a couple of days.
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Hi thread  I recently (NYE) got engaged to fellow TFLC goon Secret Asian Man and I thought I'd share some of the pics we just got back. Sneaky man got a photographer    ^^That one is my favourite  We are getting married in Tasmania in October, then we'll have another wedding in the USA for his family/friends (and our mutual USA friends, and my mother who lives in the UK) to attend in summer 2015. I'm a bit of a lurker in this thread so it's fun to be able to post something
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PopRocks posted:It could be some family member thought they were doing you a favor by making sure the personal items on their table didn't get thrown out, and just hasn't had a chance to let you know that yet. I still have my boyfriend's brother's ring boxes since he was the best man, we just keep forgetting / haven't gotten around to driving them over yet, and their wedding was a over a month ago. Maybe a Facebook message or email chain to track down your ribbons would be enough? It's only been a couple of days. I think my plan is when I post our wedding pictures on Facebook I'm going to add a note to any pictures of our table markers saying something along the lines of "hey we think these got lost during cleanup, if anyone has seen them please let us know". That way we're not directly accusing anyone but letting most of the people know we want them back. I've also let the biggest gossips on each side of the family know we're missing them so hopefully word spreads that way.
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Jan 28, 2014 14:45
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We are getting married in October, and would like to go to a tropical all inclusive resort for our honeymoon. We are looking to spend under 5k with flights out of BOS. So far our top choice is Excellence Riviera Cancun, but the beach seems a it ify. Does anyone have any other ideas?
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Linco posted:We are getting married in October, and would like to go to a tropical all inclusive resort for our honeymoon. We are looking to spend under 5k with flights out of BOS. So far our top choice is Excellence Riviera Cancun, but the beach seems a it ify. Does anyone have any other ideas? If you haven't already, I would ask in the Travel & Tourism forum. I got a lot of ideas for my impending honeymoon and past trips from friendly goons there. Goin up to Chapel Hill this weekend to check out and probably put in an order for my wedding bands, it's starting to get real!
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How many years in advance do you have to book an off-site caterer? I'm 9 months out and this is frustrating that they're all booked.
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blinkeve1826 posted:Sup religious Jewish wedding buddy! The boyfriend and I are not even close to engaged but I would loooooove to hear more about your experience in planning your wedding as I'd imagine we'll encounter some similar issues (I did not convert, but I am significantly more religiously observant than the rest of my family). The main issues I've been worrying about have been kind of logistical: it's in 5 months, legally I'm married already but not Jewishly, and I live a thousand miles away from the venue and everything else. I don't have a caterer, dress, shoes, anything. We are assembling a guest list. I only have the venue, rabbi, and photographers. I need to make invites in a week or so (might as well skip the save the date route since it's so soon) and have no idea what to do. I am somewhat crafty so I can manage but I feel like I'm flying by the seat of my pants. My husband has no real strong opinion on anything wedding related which is good because it means I'm not doing anything ridiculous. I'm looking to spent under 10 grand on everything because we honestly don't really have money for this but our families are more broke. The only Jewish issues (aside from worries about family involvement when they have limited understanding and some things they technically don't count for) are fewer catering options because it has to be kosher, including the cake. I'd also like to have a DJ or band that is familiar with Jewish stuff. My photographers haven't shot any Jewish weddings before but I will fill them in. (I'm willing to do that because I know them already and got their services for about half off, which includes 2 week turn around with full rights to the photos. Since I do photography myself, I already have an account with a good printer and can get my pictures printed at wholesale prices.) It got a little awkward when I started telling people about the date because my cousin announced a few hours later that she was having her second kid--due the day before my wedding. She was waiting for her 12 week ultrasound that day so it's not deliberate, but still. At least I can likely assume that she, her husband and first kid, and possibly my aunt and uncle might not attend? I really want people to go but I know they're each going to cost me at least $20.
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FogHelmut posted:How many years in advance do you have to book an off-site caterer? I'm 9 months out and this is frustrating that they're all booked. At least 1 year if you're getting married in a popular wedding month. Most of our vendors are already booked solid for wedding season 2014 (~April-October). Our photographer is booked solid for all of 2014 and is beginning to book 2015. I was struggling to find available vendors when I started planning over a year in advance when our wedding was still scheduled for June. If you're willing to freeze to death for pictures, having a (non-holiday) winter wedding practically guarantees your choice of vendors!
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Anyone have any thoughts on breakfast for a wedding reception? The ceremony is going to be late afternoon/evening followed by dinner and dancing. We both really like breakfast for dinner but aren't sure everyone else would enjoy it. We're thinking it'd be a buffet, closer to a brunch than just breakfast food, and as long as there was something for people that didn't want just breakfast food, maybe a nice ham, it'd go over ok. Just wondering if anyone else has tried this and how it went.
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Dodger posted:Anyone have any thoughts on breakfast for a wedding reception? The ceremony is going to be late afternoon/evening followed by dinner and dancing. We both really like breakfast for dinner but aren't sure everyone else would enjoy it. We're thinking it'd be a buffet, closer to a brunch than just breakfast food, and as long as there was something for people that didn't want just breakfast food, maybe a nice ham, it'd go over ok. I think some people would be weirded out by a breakfast dinner. Also finding a caterer who'll do a big breakfast buffet might be a little tricky. What about having a waffle bar? Set out cups of waffle batter with some waffle irons set up with a bunch of toppings and let people make their own waffles, but also have some dinner food available as the main meal. That way you've got breakfast for those who want it but people who don't can just skip the waffles.
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Dodger posted:Anyone have any thoughts on breakfast for a wedding reception? The ceremony is going to be late afternoon/evening followed by dinner and dancing. We both really like breakfast for dinner but aren't sure everyone else would enjoy it. We're thinking it'd be a buffet, closer to a brunch than just breakfast food, and as long as there was something for people that didn't want just breakfast food, maybe a nice ham, it'd go over ok. I would find this kind of charming if I were a guest.
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:What about having a waffle bar? Set out cups of waffle batter with some waffle irons set up with a bunch of toppings and let people make their own waffles, but also have some dinner food available as the main meal. That way you've got breakfast for those who want it but people who don't can just skip the waffles. The waffle bar kind of sounds like a hot mess (literally) waiting to happen at a reception. I think breakfast/brunch food for a reception sounds great. There are plenty of items that fall into that category that should please everyone. Hell, steak, ham, fried potatoes, etc. are all staples. As long as the food is high quality and not just continental-breakfast-at-Holiday-Inn-Express, you should be fine. There are of course people who might be thrown off by the unorthodox nature of it, but whatever.
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Sharks Below posted:Hi thread These are wonderful pictures, congratulations on the engagement! Goon love
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LogisticEarth posted:Hell, steak, ham, fried potatoes, etc. are all staples. As long as the food is high quality and not just continental-breakfast-at-Holiday-Inn-Express, you should be fine. This is what we keep coming back to, and I think makes the most sense. We'll probably spread the word a little before the wedding so people at least know it's coming. Thanks for the input.
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So my fiancée and I decided to go with a video for our save the dates. It was a concept I came up with and asked the videographer to help put together. We had a ton of fun making it and I think it was totally worth it. http://vimeo.com/85148375
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There's probably a better thread for this question, but what's the general process for an American citizen like me to get married to a non-US citizen and have her live with me here in the States? My girlfriend is an international student currently in grad school here, and with me locking down a stable job with good pay and her finishing her program by the end of the year, now seems as good a time as any to get ready for question-popping. In a perfect world I would be proposing on our anniversary this fall, but is there anything I can start reading or paperwork I can start working through in order to get a head start on it?
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C-Euro posted:There's probably a better thread for this question, but what's the general process for an American citizen like me to get married to a non-US citizen and have her live with me here in the States? My girlfriend is an international student currently in grad school here, and with me locking down a stable job with good pay and her finishing her program by the end of the year, now seems as good a time as any to get ready for question-popping. In a perfect world I would be proposing on our anniversary this fall, but is there anything I can start reading or paperwork I can start working through in order to get a head start on it? There's an Ask me about US immigration thread, it's relatively active.
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uraninjs posted:There's an Ask me about US immigration thread, it's relatively active. Fart, I totally glazed over that. Thanks.
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ihatepants posted:So my fiancée and I decided to go with a video for our save the dates. It was a concept I came up with and asked the videographer to help put together. We had a ton of fun making it and I think it was totally worth it. This was so well made and fun! The music was great too. If you don't mind sharing, how much did this cost, ballpark?
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I'm getting married this June, in Detroit. I'm currently in Santa Clara, my best man is in Rochester NY, and my other two groomsmen are in Baltimore and Madison. What's the best way to make sure they all have matching suits? I'm getting a suit custom made for me because it's my wedding and I want to look nice, but we're all in our mid-twenties and at least one of us is still in grad school, so I'm not expecting the three of them to buy their own suits to match mine. A friend suggested that I can go to some place like Men's Wearhouse and find a suit that I like, get the serial number for that style of suit, and then have my groomsmen each go to their local MW and get fitted with that exact suit. Good idea? Bad idea? Good idea, but a different chain would be a better platform for it? Once they're all fitted, is it reasonable ask for suit-pickup in Detroit, so they don't need to fly with the suits? Or is that unlikely to be a think, and I'll just have to ask them to invest in a garment bag?
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Coca Koala posted:I'm getting married this June, in Detroit. I'm currently in Santa Clara, my best man is in Rochester NY, and my other two groomsmen are in Baltimore and Madison. Men's Wearhouse is the devil. Sure, go with them if you want to be called 2-3 times a day every day asking if you've ordered your tuxedos yet. Go to Jos. A. Bank and start a wedding account there. You pick out what you want them to wear and they'll enter it all under your account, then your groomsmen all go to their local Jos. A Bank locations and tell them your name and they can pull it up on their computer and order them all the exact same suit. You can probably get it set up for all the suits to be delivered to the local location, that doesn't seem unreasonable.
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https://theblacktux.com/ Looks pretty legit too.
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testifeye posted:This was so well made and fun! The music was great too. If you don't mind sharing, how much did this cost, ballpark? It was expensive, but videography and photography were the priorities of our budget anyway, since that's what we'll have forever. Anyway, everything cost about $700 which included the videographer's fees, the permit to shoot at the amusement park and tickets for my fiancee, our two friends and the three videographers (meals, too). I also didn't really mind spending the money on it since we are saving so much on everything else (our wedding will be in the Philippines where basically everything is a fraction of the cost here in the USA). Our overall budget is about $25k and thats for almost 500 guests. Edit: also, thank you very much for the kind words
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:Go to Jos. A. Bank and start a wedding account there. You pick out what you want them to wear and they'll enter it all under your account, then your groomsmen all go to their local Jos. A Bank locations and tell them your name and they can pull it up on their computer and order them all the exact same suit. You can probably get it set up for all the suits to be delivered to the local location, that doesn't seem unreasonable. J Banks is also the devil. And to look right you need to have the suits tailored after delivery. Which, if you go with J banks, you will need to do even more so than if you use another retailer unless your friends are all shapeless man-blobs. At the very least pick a retailer and a model/color, and have each dude take delivery a month prior to the event. Tell them to roll out to a local tailor and HAVE THEIR SUIT CUT TO FIT THEM, holy poo poo. this is the difference between looking like a child and looking like a person fit to be married. Flying with a suit aint poo poo, thousands of business persons do it every day.
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All our groomsmen went to Jos A Bank and they didn't look awful  All of them are pretty trim and thin, too.I thought you couldn't custom tailor a rental suit/tux anyway. I'd hope the OP isn't forcing his groomsmen to buy a suit for the wedding?
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You're right! I assumed he was talking purchase. Also a different story for suit vs. tuxedo, because a suit can be reworn for a whole lot of occasions, and a tuxedo will be difficult to justify a purchase. I think the last time I rented for a groomsman tux they wanted me to be at the place to get measured like, a day early, and then the next day was the event before which we picked up our decently-properly-sized tuxes. But that was pretty generic stuff: you got your standard black/black tuxedo with a rainbow of cumberbuzzles and bowties. Not sure how a suit rental would work in this situation.
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Just to toss this out there: I'm really, really, picky about menswear. Every time someone asks me to drop $150 on a terrible, ill-fitting, polyester shitbag rental from Men's Wearhouse, I want to vomit, but I suck it up and do it because I'm a good friend. Jos A. Bank is marginally less terrible. It's financially impossible to expect normal people to buy good matching suits, and unless everyone is local, it's usually impossible to get a rental that doesn't suck. My solution is that I'm not asking my groomsmen to match. Someone's mom might get really offended by the concept, but it's actually a wedding trend that's picking up a lot of popularity. It does require your groomsmen to have some fashion sense and ability to judge a suit's fit, or you'll be doing a bit too much handholding. I'm asking them to wear a charcoal to medium-grey suit, which means for the most part, they already have something in their closest, but failing that, I've tossed them some suggestions for good, cheap-ish suits that will last them for years (like this). I'll be tying it together by giving providing them with their ties (HA GET IT). Obviously, don't do this when you want everyone dressing in light brown or linen or something, this is best kept to charcoal/grey/navy wool suits so people will already have one or be buying something very usable. For what it's worth, every time I've had to deal with a rental from MW, I've had to fight them to get adjustments made that no professional tailor would ever let slide. At the last wedding I was in, the groom didn't know better and had a jacket that was way too big in the shoulders, that had a collar gap of like two inches, and nasty bubbling all over because it was a poorly treated fused tux. BRAKE FOR MOOSE fucked around with this message at 21:18 on Feb 3, 2014 |
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Since we had a mix of military and civilian groomsmen no one was going to match anyway, so we let the groomsmen who already owned tuxes wear theirs and let the others pick out their own. They all ended up matching (I mean, there were some subtle differences like shirt styles and lapel width, but who gives a poo poo) despite zero direction from us. No one looks at the groomsmen anyway so having 100% matching guys was at the bottom of our list of things to care about.
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We just obviated the problem by not having any groomsmen or bridesmaids  I am now wrestling with what to do for my suit: the men's stores in this town are not exactly wielding the most current fashion sense. Also I'm a dirty Yankee. Accomplishments this week: Invitation design finalized, sent to print Wedding bands designed and put into production Honeymoon finalized, deposit paid The moms continue to propose frivolous additions and question decisions already set in stone, my fiancee is at her wit's end, but we've made it explicit that anything changed from here on out is on the family to pay for.
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Just wait till the week of the wedding. EVERYONE becomes a wedding planner. I think my only "bridezilla" mement was going on a tirade at my fiancé about his family suddenly having Opinions on Things less than a week beforehand when they were totally silent and provided no help the previous 14 months. I think I was justified.
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Sent in our signed paperwork and deposit for our venue. It's really happening! Not until September 2015, but still, it's happening!
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I've started writing a wall of text in response to fork bomb's post, so instead here's a list of weddings lessons learned:
All things considered nothing went drastically wrong, everyone we've talked to (and other people have talked to, so it's not just flattery) have said it's the most fun wedding they've ever been to. That's kind of surprising to me, since we're not big party people so we didn't expect to be able to throw such a great party for the reception  It was the kind of wedding goons love to hate-- big, expensive and traditional, but I can't imagine doing anything differently. I can't wait till we get all of our pictures back, right now all we've got is the "sneak peeks" our photographer put on her Facebook page before she left for a wildlife photography internship in Africa. I hope nothing terrible happens to her or her cameras while she's there  Also I rode my horse in my wedding dress. 
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I don't think I'm an intimidating bitchy person, but who knows why no one wanted to help. Also this is your day, you don't get a do-over, so you have every right to insist things go as you envisioned them (within reason, sometimes you gotta roll with the punches).
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I finally got my engagement photo proofs! We also talked with our marriage commissioner. He seems really cool and will do it for $400, since it's a smaller affair.
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