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This can probably clear up a lot of confusion for a lot of dudes, so lemme get this on the record: Imagine if heterosexual intercourse consisted of a woman rubbing her clit against a man's scrotum until she came (within like three minutes) and then she acted completely mystified and somewhat annoyed when the man didn't get off from this act within the same amount of time. This is what heterosexual sex is like for a lot of women.
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SammyWhereAreYou posted:This can probably clear up a lot of confusion for a lot of dudes, so lemme get this on the record: Pretty much what I was getting at but better said. 
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You put it well too, I just wanted to make sure the point wasn't missed.
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Where can I find a good database of doctors and/or therapists that deal with minor sexual issues like a low sex drive, for the Saint Louis, MO area? My fiancee has been struggling with his for a good while now. It went from us having sex a few times a week to now about once every month or so (and even that is him forcing himself to have sex) over the course of a year and a half. He says he's just disinterested in sex. We've talked about it, and he wants to get back to where he was when the relationship first began, but he has no idea where to begin looking for help on this. He'd like to do a physical exam first just to make sure it's not hormonal or something, but I honestly feel it's more psychological. He's been under a lot of stress lately (we moved from Lousiana to Missouri, he went from a decently paying job to a lower paying one, he's feeling insecure about our relationship because he thinks that if he doesn't start sleeping with me more I'll leave him (not true), and his (undiagnosed) depression has been kicking in a lot more than normal lately too). I honestly think that just having a therapist help him work through his mental/emotional stuff will get him to a place where his libido will naturally get back to normal.
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Soysaucebeast posted:Where can I find a good database of doctors and/or therapists that deal with minor sexual issues like a low sex drive, for the Saint Louis, MO area? My fiancee has been struggling with his for a good while now. It went from us having sex a few times a week to now about once every month or so (and even that is him forcing himself to have sex) over the course of a year and a half. He says he's just disinterested in sex. We've talked about it, and he wants to get back to where he was when the relationship first began, but he has no idea where to begin looking for help on this. He'd like to do a physical exam first just to make sure it's not hormonal or something, but I honestly feel it's more psychological. He's been under a lot of stress lately (we moved from Lousiana to Missouri, he went from a decently paying job to a lower paying one, he's feeling insecure about our relationship because he thinks that if he doesn't start sleeping with me more I'll leave him (not true), and his (undiagnosed) depression has been kicking in a lot more than normal lately too). I honestly think that just having a therapist help him work through his mental/emotional stuff will get him to a place where his libido will naturally get back to normal. The best ways are going through your insurance, or getting a recommendation from another mental health professional. I'd also recommend seeing someone if he has depression issues for that alone; depression sucks, affects every part of your life, and rarely gets better with time.
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If you're absolutely batting zero on getting recommendations/referrals from actual people, the Psychology Today therapist directory is better than nothing.
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Turtlicious posted:Note: Getting women off is hard, be happy she can take care of it herself. Do people really think this is true?
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Oct 12, 2014 16:47
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Mans posted:Do people really think this is true? Can you prove it one way or the other?
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Oct 12, 2014 17:03
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Mans posted:Do people really think this is true? While not as hard as they make it sound, it is significantly more difficult than getting a man off. Or at least less straight forward
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The Door Frame posted:While not as hard as they make it sound, it is significantly more difficult than getting a man off. Or at least less straight forward Less obvious result too.
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Oct 12, 2014 18:22
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Unless they're into g-spotting. 
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neongrey posted:Unless they're into g-spotting. Is that like dogspotting?
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Nah, more like trainspotting, in that it works better when you have lots of hard drugs.
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LingcodKilla posted:Can you prove it one way or the other? If Orangutans know how to rub each other off i'm pretty sure even a goon will know after a few months of experiment how to produce a female orgasm. There's even a dude who is offended that his woman is getting off during sex. If all else fails i guess you can study this guide in detail. http://www.wikihow.com/Arouse-Girls
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Mans posted:If Orangutans know how to rub each other off i'm pretty sure even a goon will know after a few months of experiment how to produce a female orgasm. There's even a dude who is offended that his woman is getting off during sex. Yeah none of that is proof. Did the orangutan tell you personally that she wasn't just faking it to make her partner feel like a stud? I got it on good authority that study feeling orangutan give you 100% durans. A puddle of cum dripping out of a penis is proof. Go watch "when Harry met Sally" that seminal movie on the subject.
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LingcodKilla posted:Yeah none of that is proof. Did the orangutan tell you personally that she wasn't just faking it to make her partner feel like a stud? I got it on good authority that study feeling orangutan give you 100% durans. How much do you like trains?
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Mans posted:How much do you like trains? Oh right I got this.... Not as much as your mom?( tell her I said hi) Back on subject and the point of the whole thing is the data would be skewed pretty hard because of the nature of the female orgasm it's really her just her word.
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LingcodKilla posted:Oh right I got this.... Are you suggesting that women regularly lie about orgasming?
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Drink and Fight posted:Are you suggesting that women regularly lie about orgasming? I'm saying it's hard for a layman to prove compared to a man orgasming. I'm sure a scientist in a lab with all sorts of sensors could prove it for an individual woman.
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Hypothesis: A lady's ease of achieving orgasm is directly correlated with her partner's trust in her to accurately report orgasms. Anyone know how to submit poo poo to the Mythbusters?
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LingcodKilla posted:I'm saying it's hard for a layman to prove compared to a man orgasming. I'm sure a scientist in a lab with all sorts of sensors could prove it for an individual woman. Hahah oh my god
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Soylent Pudding posted:Hypothesis: A lady's ease of achieving orgasm is directly correlated with her partner's trust in her to accurately report orgasms. I can buy that. If a woman communicates her likes and dislikes both verbally and through body language and gives good feedback during sex it's both easiest to get her off and easier to believe its a real orgasm. If a man listens to and responds to said feedback he's both more likely to get her off and more likely (as he has noted her reactions) to believe she has orgasmed. Correlation rather than causation though.
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LingcodKilla posted:Back on subject and the point of the whole thing is the data would be skewed pretty hard because of the nature of the female orgasm it's really her just her word. LingcodKilla posted:I'm saying it's hard for a layman to prove compared to a man orgasming. I'm sure a scientist in a lab with all sorts of sensors could prove it for an individual woman. Marvelous.
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Heh, layman.
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LingcodKilla posted:I'm saying it's hard for a layman to prove compared to a man orgasming. I'm sure a scientist in a lab with all sorts of sensors could prove it for an individual woman.  It's pretty loving obvious when it's real vs fake. Audio queues are the least important part. EDIT: If you can't tell if your girlfriends orgasms are real or not they probably aren't.
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Forums poster LingcodKilla has a legitimate point. When I encounter the issue I solve it by just printing out a bunch of these and issuing them as needed http://i.imgur.com/EmGnum5.png
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whydirt posted:Heh, layman. Had a good ring to it. Kinda proud of that one. ^^^ please supply a copy written in orangutan ^^^
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LingcodKilla posted:Had a good ring to it. Kinda proud of that one. Came for the sex FAQ, stayed for the hot ape-on-ape action.
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LingcodKilla posted:I'm saying it's hard for a layman to prove compared to a man orgasming. I'm sure a scientist in a lab with all sorts of sensors could prove it for an individual woman. hahahahahahaha
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LingcodKilla posted:I'm saying it's hard for a layman to prove compared to a man orgasming. I'm sure a scientist in a lab with all sorts of sensors could prove it for an individual woman.
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He has a point though: what if all of the women are lying??? im scared
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A lot of women do lie about having orgasms, I don't see how this is controversial at all. A number of studies have shown that women report faking orgasms in huge numbers, like 60-80% of the sample size. Men are often weird about it when you can't come from intercourse or need extreme measures to even come from clitoral stimulation. I've been told that I have a broken vagina and lectured about how we just need to try X thing and I'll get there a number of times. At this point I know my body pretty well and know it's not going to happen, although I might try the position or act anyway just because it can be fun in itself without an orgasm. Faking is a bad idea if you are just trying to appease your partner and are self-conscious about taking a long time to come or having to ask them to do a certain thing (because you could absolutely be having better sex if you're honest), but in a situation where it will make no difference to your own pleasure and improve your partner's self-esteem, you might as well.
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Weldon Pemberton posted:A lot of women do lie about having orgasms, I don't see how this is controversial at all. A number of studies have shown that women report faking orgasms in huge numbers, like 60-80% of the sample size. That pretty much sums up what I was trying to convey before primates got brought up.
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You guys should start mocking people who say stupid things, just saying.
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Weldon Pemberton posted:I've been told that I have a broken vagina and lectured about how we just need to try X thing and I'll get there a number of times. I am legit sorry this happened to you. But: Weldon Pemberton posted:Faking is a bad idea if you are just trying to appease your partner...but in a situation where it will make no difference to your own pleasure and improve your partner's self-esteem, you might as well. So you shouldn't fake it to appease a partner's frustration, but you should fake it to comfort their insecurity? gently caress that. Why should you work so hard to disguise how you're feeling, just to spare someone else's feelings? Why should your partner's feelings matter more than yours? I'm not saying guys aren't allowed to feel bad in the situation; I just think you don't have to lie about your feelings to be supportive of them. Please don't resign yourself to having to be the bigger person, to persuade yourself that faking "makes no difference to your pleasure."
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If you fake it how will your partner ever learn what actually makes you feel good? If s/he is not interested in learning why would you even want to be loving them?
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I think sometimes it's just easier. There's times when I know I'm not going to have one (which is nothing to do with anything my partners doing - the stars just aren't going to align), don't particularly care about having one or not and everything is perfectly nice without one so I just exaggerate a bit.
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LingcodKilla posted:That pretty much sums up what I was trying to convey before primates got brought up.
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