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When it comes to erotic asphyxiation, the boring but true answer is that it's safer to mostly just pretend.
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Turtlicious posted:Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation question: Would it be safer to let my girlfriend choke me with a belt? Or water boarding? I feel like the second is safer, but it's more of a gut thing. If you can get off on being waterboarded (literally drowning), you have serious issues. Who am I kidding, we all know you have serious issues. Also, there is no safe way to be asphyxiated. Period.
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Oct 18, 2015 18:43
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Turtlicious posted:Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation question: Would it be safer to let my girlfriend choke me with a belt? Or water boarding? I feel like the second is safer, but it's more of a gut thing. It's not auto-erotic if somebody else does it. 
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Oct 18, 2015 20:53
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you need one of these: http://archer.wikia.com/wiki/Chokebot
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Oct 18, 2015 21:00
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Just jam cold cuts in your esophagus until you can't breathe.
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Oct 18, 2015 21:03
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I don't mean me like turtlicious I mean me like you or we out whatever
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Oct 18, 2015 23:08
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Sorry if this has been covered recently. It's a big thread. I'm dating a girl that is into light bondage. Tying up, spanking, some light (and I do mean light) choking. I've done the latter two. But I'm wondering about resources for ropeplay. How should I tie her up.
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Nov 15, 2015 21:39
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Affi posted:Sorry if this has been covered recently. It's a big thread. There are specific ways of tying up a person, since it needs to be tight but not pinch anywhere. Here's some how-to videos: http://www.twistedmonk.com/pages/how-to-videos; you can start wherever, but for your money, the two-column tie is simple and versitile. And just to mention it, rope is harder to use than cuffs/chains, so if it's purely the restraint you're after, it might be easier and cheaper alternative.
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Nov 15, 2015 21:50
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Started a FWB type deal with a younger, sexually inexperienced guy. Usually I am the younger, more inexperienced partner so I am liking the novelty but he gets really nervous and keeps losing his boner. I told him its normal (I think it happens about 50% of the time I sleep with a guy for the first time) but in case this is an ongoing issue, whats the most supportive way a gal can respond? It's not really an issue for me because I like fooling around just as much as PIV. I'm the second lady this guy has slept with so I would like to leave him feeling more confident about sex stuff  He kept hard with oral sex so it might just be a condom thing too (in that case, any brand recommendations?).
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Nov 15, 2015 23:47
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Kimono is the only brand that works for me. The others are either too lose (trojan) or too latexy (durex, etc). Kimono is a bit expensive compared to others and you generally can only get it at sex stores or ordering online. CVS doesn't carry them.
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Nov 15, 2015 23:59
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The guy I'm banging doesn't make ANY NOISE. It's weird. Feels good? Silence. Feels bad? Silence. Coming? Silence. I'm thinking about biting his dick to get a reaction out of him.
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Nov 17, 2015 19:55
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Some guys are just quiet. I have to consciously make noise during sex. Tell him noise turns you on and see if he's willing to give it a shot.
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Nov 17, 2015 20:02
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KillHour posted:Some guys are just quiet. I have to consciously make noise during sex. Tell him noise turns you on and see if he's willing to give it a shot. Same, another thing to try is tell him to talk to you about what you're doing for feedback. Sometimes the hurdle is just making any sound at all.
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Nov 17, 2015 20:15
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I feel like it's kind of a learned behavior from years of masturbation, you have to basically unlearn being quiet when dick stuff is happening.
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Nov 17, 2015 22:15
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A lot of people are really self conscious about it too, worried about sounding like bad porn actors.
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Nov 17, 2015 22:18
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I'm very quiet unless I make the conscious thought to make noise, and even then feel a bit silly doing it. I know how much I love hearing someone make noises though, so that helps me remind myself that auditory feedback is really great. Not sure if this is an option for you with him, but I get really loud when being hosed in the rear end, so maybe just get a dildo and see if you can get noises out of him? Corley: I sometimes just come too early or can't keep it up or whatever. Being supportive is of course good, but I found that being able to just transition to something else is how I keep feeling good about stuff. Have him gently caress you with a dildo, do oral, maybe he'd like a soft dick blowjob, if you're kinky switch to having him spank you or whatever until he's hard again. It was really helpful with one of my partners being supportive because I have a shame response to getting soft, and they had previously had bad experiences with partners who got angry over it, and we were able to both keep feeling good and sexy by just switching the activity. When the abs and legs are tired/something went limp using your arm to pound the poo poo out of someone's pussy with a dildo to get them off a few more times is great.
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Nov 18, 2015 00:38
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bobula posted:The guy I'm banging doesn't make ANY NOISE. It's weird. Feels good? Silence. Feels bad? Silence. Coming? Silence. I'm thinking about biting his dick to get a reaction out of him.
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Nov 18, 2015 00:52
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KillHour posted:Some guys are just quiet. I have to consciously make noise during sex. Tell him noise turns you on and see if he's willing to give it a shot. This dude is self professed selfish and lazy in bed. Probably won't gently caress him again, haha.
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Nov 18, 2015 03:27
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If you are not loudly broadcasting your every sex thought like Scott Taylor the Juicy Dickhole Guy, then you are missing out.
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Nov 18, 2015 11:17
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LOUD NOISES
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Nov 18, 2015 17:35
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The girl I've been dating is ticklish, and the front of her torso is super sensitive,. This sucks because I like playing with her boobs, but within 15 seconds of me starting she'll start giggling uncontrollably. Anybody have experience with ticklish boobs/any advice?
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Nov 18, 2015 17:57
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You're probably not going to make her not ticklish so I would recommend appreciating how cute that is.
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Nov 18, 2015 18:07
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bowmore posted:I'm the same, I have to actually think about making noise and that kind of distracts me This was me when I first started sex having in places where noise was OK, as time has gone on I've deconditioned myself to silence and it just comes naturally now.
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Nov 18, 2015 18:11
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IAmThatIs posted:The girl I've been dating is ticklish, and the front of her torso is super sensitive,. This sucks because I like playing with her boobs, but within 15 seconds of me starting she'll start giggling uncontrollably. Anybody have experience with ticklish boobs/any advice? Ease into it, caress the less sensitive bits of her first and slowly work into the more sensitive bits. That way, when you finally do get to the boobs, it'll feel good instead of tickly. It also helps if you use your palms more (more surface area tickles less). If it tickles, you're moving too fast, slow down and appreciate the cute .
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Shine posted:If you are not loudly broadcasting your every sex thought like Scott Taylor the Juicy Dickhole Guy, then you are missing out. 
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Nov 18, 2015 22:36
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Alternate plan: Develop tickling fetish, tie her up, tickle her until you get off or she stops being ticklish.
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IAmThatIs posted:The girl I've been dating is ticklish, and the front of her torso is super sensitive,. This sucks because I like playing with her boobs, but within 15 seconds of me starting she'll start giggling uncontrollably. Anybody have experience with ticklish boobs/any advice? Does the giggling in turn make her boobs jiggle? If so I'm not really seeing a problem here.
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I'm ticklish, but tickling is not sexyfuntimes, it's 'welp, there goes the mood...' I enjoy tickling as a run-up to intimacy but not during. It just doesn't work for me. Ask her about it. Does it really bother her or just you? To avoid tickling, touch with more pressure and more of the hand at once. Be firm about it. You can grab and massage a boob without being all delicate; just ask her to tell you if it's too much. Unless her boobs are tender (might happen before/during menstruation, see your partner for details) she'll probably enjoy a good firm squeeze. Alternatively, ask if she likes her nipples played with/pinched/twisted/sucked. Nipples being more sensitive than the rest of the breast, it's more likely that brushing over them with your fingers will feel drat good and maybe tickle less. Basically communicate and don't be a delicate little flower when it comes to touching your partner. She won't break if you squeeze, you're not King Kong. (But also definitely ask how hard is too hard first; she might not be into pain play)
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Goddamnit Koos Goop.
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For me and my partners, not sure if the behavior is universal, being ticklish stops being a thing after we're well and truly turned on. Maybe wait a little while longer? If this wasn't true for me, I basically could never have sex, because my pubic region is one of the super ticklish places on my body, making me squeal and twist.
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My wife and I recently acquired a super hot early 20s FWB, and the experience has led us to the understanding that we, now approaching our 30s, know jack all about 20 year olds. Broadly, what the gently caress do 20 year olds like? When they say they like folk, does that mean like Mumford & Sons? Because she didn't like the Gaelic yodeling so much... What we really need is a dirty primer on Netflix and chill. Thanks sex questions megathread!
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More relationship oriented question, (but it's about sex too), so.... TLDR - Boyfriend and I are in an open relationship, and he's experiencing guilt when he plays with others. Need input from others who've been down the 'open-relationship' path and the changes that entails as time moves along. Long - I've been seeing a guy for a bit now, and it's gotten pretty serious fairly quickly for both of us. Started as a simple Grindr hookup, (I know), then transitioned into a FWB, then dating, and recently the 'boyfriend' label was applied to us. He is the one who initiated that step after a trip to the ER when he got injured at work and I was there for him. All good, as I definitely care for him a lot, and would say I could be falling hard for him. We've spent more time together than apart the last few weeks too, even with our hectic work schedules, even if it's just to fall asleep together before we have to get up for work again. We started, (and have kept), and 'open' label so we can still play with others, generally when together, but that's not a requirement. He's vers, and I'm strictly a bottom, so usually when playing with a third it's so there's a second top in the picture. But last night, I realized this may not be the best deal for us, (particularly him). We went to dinner and relaxed together for a few hours, then I dropped him off at his place as he had a hookup coming over later, (and I had work early anyway). I park and tell him to have some fun and I'll talk to him later. He's staring out the window not looking at me. Ends up that he's crying, telling me he feels like he's cheating on me and stabbing me in the back. Says he wishes it was me staying with him. I reassure him it's okay, we had talked openly about our boundaries and I was still okay with them if he wanted to continue them, (ie; we only 'sleep', as in spend the night, with each other, we don't hide if we hookup, etc). He says that he knows, but he doesn't want to hurt me. So now I'm conflicted. I already knew it was starting to get serious, but seeing him in that state, and that this was affecting so much that he was crying made me realize just how serious it is, and it's not just fluff talk. So that's reassuring I suppose. But the fact he has that much guilt? That made me feel like hell, I hated to see him that upset. And it can't be healthy for him. Part of me wants to say he needs to either deal with it if he wants to play with others, or just not play with them. But that seem like the easy way out putting it all on him. Is this thing doomed? Obviously we need to sit down and reassess our 'rules', modify them, something. Appreciate any input if anyone has dealt with the 'open-relationship' hurdles before. I don't want to write this thing off, because I honestly think we are a great fit and I would cautiously even say I'm beginning to love him. Ugh, loving emotions, they're such a double-edged sword.
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Kofi Annan posted:My wife and I recently acquired a super hot early 20s FWB, and the experience has led us to the understanding that we, now approaching our 30s, know jack all about 20 year olds. Are you just loving her or are you trying to reclaim your youth here? If it's just a sex thing, you really don't need to "get" her taste in music or TV or whatever. Also, as someone halfway between your age and hers, I really don't understand what's so mystifying about Netflix or indie music. Just provide her with pot and cheap beer, and she'll keep loving your brains out. Madbullogna posted:More relationship oriented question, (but it's about sex too), so.... If he's telling you he's uncomfortable with an open relationship, you need to either be monogamous or sever. You don't want to get into the situation where one person views the relationship as more serious than the other person. KillHour fucked around with this message at 22:22 on Nov 20, 2015 |
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KillHour posted:Are you just loving her or are you trying to reclaim your youth here? If it's just a sex thing, you really don't need to "get" her taste in music or TV or whatever. Also, as someone halfway between your age and hers, I really don't understand what's so mystifying about Netflix or indie music. Just provide her with pot and cheap beer, and she'll keep loving your brains out.
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In that case you can say things like "oh, what kind of folk?"
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Nov 20, 2015 22:54
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IronicDongz posted:maybe they want to get to know them because they're friends If you have so little in common with a person that you have to ask "What is it with kids these days and their Netflix and folk musics?"  on the internet instead of just getting to know them, you're probably better off just keeping it in the bedroom.Edit: As I type that, I realize I sound like a pedophile. So thanks for that.
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Kofi Annan posted:My wife and I recently acquired a super hot early 20s FWB, and the experience has led us to the understanding that we, now approaching our 30s, know jack all about 20 year olds. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gukKIuHFOeY But for serious: just ask them. If you can communicate well enough to have threesomes and a FWB you can communicate well enough to find out what music they like.
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Jesus just binge watch some Netflix old soul Kofi.
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Madbullogna posted:More relationship oriented question, (but it's about sex too), so.... Obviously you have to search your heart for this kind of thing, but it sounds like you're falling for this guy and you gotta make the decision whether to act on it or not. Good luck. I've been in your shoes and in his shoes and it's hard either way. I can't tell you how to act but you must act decisively.
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Bomrek posted:I see you talking here about he wants (or doesn't want) but I don't see you talk about what you want. Is a monogamous relationship with this guy something that would satisfy you? Is it more or less satisfying than keeping things open? This definitely. You have to know what you want and are happy with, and communicate it clearly. It sounds like he needs to get more comfortable with what isn't cheating because it's all honest and open, but that doesn't mean he has to force himself to play with other people if he doesn't want to. If he's having an emotional problem about it you probably need to both take some time to focus more on each other. I guess too that there isn't a long solid trust relationship built between you so that's having an impact - not knowing what might come back to haunt him if you suddenly change your mind. You may just need to define the rules more clearly too, to reduce any misunderstandings (or even just reduce the fear of misunderstandings)
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