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Migishu posted:I thought this was going to be a happy ending. It's not over yet! 
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Migishu posted:I thought this was going to be a happy ending. It kind of does. This is the last E/N carepost I make on this topic, so let me try to get my point across. My wife is clearly unhappy with our marriage. I can't fault her for her feelings. I can fault her for the lovely way she handled it, but it's happened, it's done, and being pissy and vindictive about it is going to accomplish nothing but making me pissy and vindictive. I, too, have been dissatisfied with our marriage, to a degree. I love her as much as I ever have, but the truth is that we rushed into our relationship as a double-rebound after her first divorce and the end of an eight year relationship with my ex-fiance. We have very little in common. She's a country bumpkin Luddite married to a middle class, geeky city boy. Literally Country Mouse and City Mouse get hitched. When we're together, it's always kind of awkward with us trying to enjoy what the other does. We have two children, one is nearly two and the other is 4 months. Kids are a never-ending, full-time job. It's stressful as poo poo trying to juggle the two of them, and there is absolutely no break from it at all. I love my children more than anything, but sometimes I just don't want to be around them, for my own sanity. I wake up at 5:00, keep them entertained until I leave for work at my lovely job, then come right back home and entertain them until they fall asleep. By then, I'm too exhausted to do anything else, but there's always dishes to wash, messes to straighten, and clothes to fold. We can get a portion of anything done before we physically can't do it anymore and pass out to start the process over again at 5:00. Every day. There's no end to it. There's no respite. There's not even a light at the end of the tunnel where I can remind myself that if I can just hold onto my sanity for a few more days I'll get a break and can mow the lawn or just sit down and watch a single thirty minute television show. It never ends and it's suffocating. So, divorce. We claim joint custody of the children, which means we split our time with them evenly. Alternating weeks, or every two weeks, it means someone gets a break to do their own thing. I can move back to the "city" like I've always wanted to and get a swanky upscale apartment with my new job cash, she can stay in the country and bang whoever the flavor of the week is. Whatever makes her happy. She can find a guy that's into mud riding, country music, and rodeos, and I can focus on myself and maybe find a nice girl who's at least partly into nerd stuff. The kids are young enough that it won't completely gently caress them up, and I'm not going to be an absentee parent. I'm gonna be there every step of the way. Maybe one day I can get out of this place, but that's in the future and I gotta worry about now. In the end, we both get to pursue what makes us happy, or what we've been lacking in our marriage, while getting court sanctioned breaks from the kids to take care of our personal biz. It's a lot less bleak than the current situation, to me, and I'm kind of excited about it  Does any of that make sense? TL;DR version is that it's a blessing in disguise, so stop feeling sorry for me. We're all gonna be happier for it, or at least I know I will be. With that said, no word from CE, yet, but a quick update on how things are going: Remember the HP Z-Series that was the catalyst for my exodus? The one I wanted to price out to replace a near-dead editor in the promotions department? The one CE said was a stupid idea and then spun into his own idea? The one he never ordered? Guess which editor BURST INTO GODDAMN FLAMES THIS AFTERNOON. The place is literally burning to the ground already, guys.
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Nov 24, 2015 03:01
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... he never answered whether it was with the CE or not.  Stay strong, fellow single parent dad   Edit: oh, he just updated. Kids are tough, Larches. I've kind of been down the same road you're on now. Send me a PM if you want someone to talk to about this. Volmarias fucked around with this message at 03:06 on Nov 24, 2015 |
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Nov 24, 2015 03:03
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larchesdanrew posted:Guess which editor BURST INTO GODDAMN FLAMES THIS AFTERNOON. Man it hasn't even been 24 hours. Honestly sometimes I think you're just using this forum as a focus group for the soap opera you're writing. But for now I'll continue believing that all this poo poo is actually your life, and just say good for you for having such a hopeful outlook.
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Nov 24, 2015 03:08
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Che Delilas posted:Man it hasn't even been 24 hours. I'd watch this soap opera, honestly  Good on you for seeing the silver lining in all the bullshit though, Larches. And it tickles a small but very important part of me that the CE's world is already literally bursting into flames without you to pour poo poo on 
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Nov 24, 2015 03:11
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larchesdanrew posted:It kind of does. Holy poo poo its like Im lookin in a mirror. Not too specifically, but broad strokes kind of thing. Unrelated to what I just said, but if you wnated to save the thing, did you consider not bringing it up upfront and instead working it from a stealthier angle. Never saying you knew, but implying that maybe you did. This would be predicated on you giving a poo poo and wanting to keep the thing running. I've been drinking and watching too much fargo/homeland. If you end up in cleveland for a night on your journey to a new job I'll gladly offer a GoonBnB to you.
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Nov 24, 2015 03:22
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Larches you're good people.
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Nov 24, 2015 03:50
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Larches, when it's all said and done. You are a Hero to me.
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Nov 24, 2015 03:53
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larchesdanrew posted:
Dude, you're good people. Hope it all works out in the end. larchesdanrew posted:Guess which editor BURST INTO GODDAMN FLAMES THIS AFTERNOON. 
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Nov 24, 2015 03:57
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Come to the east coast, there's a million production houses out here. I used to work for one in MD and I support a bunch in the New York Metro area. I know you were in broadcast but the jump to production wouldn't be too bad and I know WWE is hiring Disclaimer: you must be able to tolerate cold weather. But really man, you are good people and props for not murderizing the CE though I doubt any jury would convict you.
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Nov 24, 2015 04:22
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So a fresh start for you, larches. Never a bad thing. Go get paid, put up with less bullshit, and work less hours. Enjoy.
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Nov 24, 2015 04:23
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Fresh start works cleanly only for someone without kids.
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Nov 24, 2015 04:37
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larchesdanrew posted:
Holy poo poo I just binge read all your posts ITT and all I can say is that I wish you all the best man, you deserve it after all that bullshit 
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Nov 24, 2015 04:39
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Potato Salad posted:Fresh start works cleanly only for someone without kids.
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Nov 24, 2015 04:39
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I will never understand why people have kids.
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Nov 24, 2015 05:08
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beep boop
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Nov 24, 2015 05:27
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larchesdanrew posted:Don't waste your money on me. If you gotta spend something, donate it to charity. I'm sure there's one for single parents or something. That's what we're trying to get you to do so we can donate to a charity of a single parent. 
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Nov 24, 2015 05:52
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As a longtime lurker of this thread, it was a beautiful feeling as I was scrolling through my bookmarked threads and saw 231 new posts, and realized that today was Monday, and what that must mean. As I started reading today's pages I was giddy... then brought down just as quickly. That's my report on reading this thread today.
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Nov 24, 2015 06:06
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KoRMaK posted:Um, male privilege + child support Somebody has gone out of his way to not read anything larches has posted..
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Nov 24, 2015 06:20
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KoRMaK posted:Um, male privilege + child support I'm not sure if this is a joke post or not, but it's still a lovely thing to suggest.
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Nov 24, 2015 06:32
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larchesdanrew posted:Remember the HP Z-Series that was the catalyst for my exodus? The one I wanted to price out to replace a near-dead editor in the promotions department? The one CE said was a stupid idea and then spun into his own idea? The one he never ordered?  Jesus, literally 3 days removed from the job and things are going tits up in spectacular fashion. I was tempted to post the "that escalated quickly" Anchorman meme but I spent enough time away from SA while I was hospitalized (sad, I know). I know you said you didn't want to give away anything about your job - is there a way your "mole" can snap pictures of the things that break without including any incriminating details? I'd love a shot of the hallway of dead CFL bulbs and the charred shell of the editor box.On the upside, glad you're looking at the personal/home situation positively for both parties, whether your wife will see it that way or not. It's a good starting point to recognize the flaws, see where things went sideways, and figure out the rest from there. You're a good dude and no doubt a great dad Larches, wish more people had the outlook and perspective you have during tough times. 
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Nov 24, 2015 06:38
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Seriously larches... get a damned paternity test. I hope you find something else man, I cannot believe some of the stories in this thread, yours in particular. I've been in IT since 91 and the poo poo some of you put up with is loving mind-boggling.
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Nov 24, 2015 09:11
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Guys, he doesn't care about the paternity test, it doesn't matter to him. He's already said he's determined to love and raise these kids, why does it matter if they resulted from his wrigglers or the other guys?
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Nov 24, 2015 09:45
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It seems to me that this whole sage is a start of a better life for you: some much needed freedom, a more agreeable workplace, ending an unhappy marriage. Sure it's all a bit poo poo now, but there's ample opportunity to create a better life for yourself and very little to nothing holding you back from doing so. Finally you can become that what you've always wanted: vigilante hackerman buffalo killer 3000!
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Nov 24, 2015 11:24
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Erwin posted:I will never understand why people have kids. There's this weird thing that two people do together, let's call it something like "sex". While having "sex", a woman can get pregnant and kids can ensue.
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Nov 24, 2015 12:19
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Haquer posted:There's this weird thing that two people do together, let's call it something like "sex". I read this in ulillillia's voice and that makes it even better.
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Nov 24, 2015 12:57
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Malachite_Dragon posted:Guys, he doesn't care about the paternity test, it doesn't matter to him. He's already said he's determined to love and raise these kids, why does it matter if they resulted from his wrigglers or the other guys? Because it could affect the outcome of his custody determination?
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Nov 24, 2015 13:34
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Malachite_Dragon posted:Guys, he doesn't care about the paternity test, it doesn't matter to him. He's already said he's determined to love and raise these kids, why does it matter if they resulted from his wrigglers or the other guys? It matters because if they aren't his then his medical history isn't relevant to them and. And that could cause some trouble in the future.
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blackswordca posted:So an email came in. blackswordca clearly heard the call and is now back to lead us to the promised land of insanity and wtf workplace stories. (again, dear god some of you are cursed)
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Nov 24, 2015 13:54
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EAT THE EGGS RICOLA posted:It matters because if they aren't his then his medical history isn't relevant to them and. And that could cause some trouble in the future. Medical history is the only reason he should possibly want to do this, unless his lawyer suggests doing it for divorce related reasons. He wants the kids in his life, don't keep making suggestions that he cut ties with them and move across the country because they're maybe not his. Be the good dad those kids deserve, larchesdanrew
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Nov 24, 2015 14:20
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Haquer posted:There's this weird thing that two people do together, let's call it something like "sex". I'm no scientist but I'm fairly certain that not every instance of sex (often intervened with, we'll call them "contraceptives") can result in sex without children. I'm with Erwin but I get it that people do want to. And larches, let me know if you need anything so I can assist.
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Nov 24, 2015 15:12
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It'd be pretty cool if we could stick to "I'm sorry to hear that Larches" without devolving into redpill poo poo, tia
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Nov 24, 2015 15:19
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Ursine Catastrophe posted:It'd be pretty cool if we could stick to "I'm sorry to hear that Larches" without devolving into redpill poo poo, tia This. Let's do this. also: We have heat again! Let's play: "IT - The Sauna"
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Nov 24, 2015 15:24
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Ursine Catastrophe posted:It'd be pretty cool if we could stick to "I'm sorry to hear that Larches" without devolving into redpill poo poo, tia
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LordVorbis posted:blackswordca clearly heard the call and is now back to lead us to the promised land of insanity and wtf workplace stories. (again, dear god some of you are cursed) My money's on Dick Trauma being the newly-returned star of the thread before blackswordca is again. All bets are off if the word 'entrapment' is involved.
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Nov 24, 2015 15:28
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DigitalRaven posted:My money's on Dick Trauma being the newly-returned star of the thread before blackswordca is again. Yeah the writing seems to be on the wall again for Dick. Left off the org chart, boss giving him the cold shoulder, company not willing to spend on infrastructure to grow intelligently. Why do the IT gods find Dick Trauma's blood to be the sweetest of all?
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Nov 24, 2015 15:30
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BaseballPCHiker posted:Yeah the writing seems to be on the wall again for Dick. Left off the org chart, boss giving him the cold shoulder, company not willing to spend on infrastructure to grow intelligently. Why do the IT gods find Dick Trauma's blood to be the sweetest of all? Don't forget a bunch of people at his company, including the head of HR that felt it necessary to teach DT a "lesson", were fired recently. The company is in crazy turmoil and DT seems to be caught in the undertow. DT are you married? Do you have kids? Have you ever pissed on a native american grave? We need to know these things ahead of time to avoid last minute bombs on our success stories.
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Nov 24, 2015 15:46
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Guys, let's not forget there was a time Dick Trauma was posting from the pod and everything was perfect. This stuff could happen to anyone of us. edit: What I'm saying is you could be next.
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larchesdanrew posted:
Sounds cheesy, but with every change comes opportunities. You have the right attitude, you will be fine. even thought the "change" sometimes sucks rear end. also, MORE CE STUFF PLEASE! the last 4 pages was awesome!
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