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Mechafunkzilla posted:Here's my advice on dating an asexual person if you're someone who enjoys sex: don't Alternately, sleep with other people.
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KillHour posted:Alternately, sleep with other people. At that point, what's the point of the relationship as opposed to friendship? It's a trainwreck looking for a moment to happen.
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Jul 1, 2016 03:08
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Liquid Communism posted:At that point, what's the point of the relationship as opposed to friendship? It's a trainwreck looking for a moment to happen. I think at that point, it's "romantic feelings" or "familial partnership". That said, there's no shame in not being able to make either of those things work without sex. Mechafunkzilla posted:Here's my advice on dating an asexual person if you're someone who enjoys sex: don't I half-heartedly agree with this. If you're starting out with concerns about how to manage your sex life with an asexual person because you have a sex drive of note, it's probably not a situation where you'll be comfortable or happy in the long-term. (A general "you" here, not specifically addressing the person who started asking!) Asexual people are cool and good and valuable people who deserve love and happiness and mutually satisfying relationships - but non-asexual people deserve these things, too, and it can be stressful and painful if you expect to be considered sexually desirable by your partner and there's no way that they're going to provide that for you. Like... that's not a mutually satisfying relationship! If your idea of an acceptable sex life is "occasional with not a lot of enthusiasm" then you're set! Otherwise... 
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Jul 1, 2016 04:16
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be good and try hard! 
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Mechafunkzilla posted:Here's my advice on dating an asexual person if you're someone who enjoys sex: don't Definitely not for everyone, but maybe an open relationship? That happened with two friends of mine. One was bi/pan and the other was asexual. The bi person has explicit permission to sleep with other people, but no falling in love or dating. I haven't spoken to them in 6 months, but I don't think this could work long term.
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Jul 1, 2016 13:50
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Hazzard posted:Definitely not for everyone, but maybe an open relationship? That happened with two friends of mine. One was bi/pan and the other was asexual. The bi person has explicit permission to sleep with other people, but no falling in love or dating. I haven't spoken to them in 6 months, but I don't think this could work long term. "but no falling in love" Like this is a choice. Mein partner, you can sleep with others but you better keep your eyes closed and heart shut, block that oxytocin from affecting your brain.
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Jul 1, 2016 14:41
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I don't think that rule can work, but maybe there's a thread on being poly to look at?
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Jul 1, 2016 18:23
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Hazzard posted:I don't think that rule can work, but maybe there's a thread on being poly to look at? There is a really good thread in GBS about open relationships right now.
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Jul 1, 2016 18:25
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Opening Up by Tristan Taormino is a good book about open relationships.
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Jul 2, 2016 04:02
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In my experience most people claiming to be asexual are heavily medicated. Mostly SSRIs. 
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Jul 2, 2016 07:52
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Previa_fun posted:In my experience most people claiming to be asexual are heavily medicated. Mostly SSRIs. It varies. When I was seriously depressed, my sex drive was nonexistent. I guess you could say I was "asexual" at the time. When I was prescribed an SSRI, not only did my sex drive return, but one of the side effects was being able to last a lot longer than I ever had before.
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Jul 2, 2016 14:28
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Hazzard posted:Definitely not for everyone, but maybe an open relationship? That happened with two friends of mine. One was bi/pan and the other was asexual. The bi person has explicit permission to sleep with other people, but no falling in love or dating. I haven't spoken to them in 6 months, but I don't think this could work long term. That sounds like a special kind of hell, and the fastest recipe for resentment I can possibly think of.
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Jul 3, 2016 10:07
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Hazzard posted:Definitely not for everyone, but maybe an open relationship? That happened with two friends of mine. One was bi/pan and the other was asexual. The bi person has explicit permission to sleep with other people, but no falling in love or dating. I haven't spoken to them in 6 months, but I don't think this could work long term. Liquid Communism posted:That sounds like a special kind of hell, and the fastest recipe for resentment I can possibly think of. Yeah, this sounds like a plan made by someone who totally doesn't understand why sex is important to most people.
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Jul 3, 2016 19:12
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Travis343 posted:There is a really good thread in GBS about open relationships right now. Link?
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Jul 4, 2016 03:45
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goodness posted:Link? http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3781218
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Jul 4, 2016 04:00
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On that topic, you know what's hosed? My boyfriend who I've been with two years now has little to no sex drive, but he always swears he's attracted to me and still gets me off without wanting any reciprocation. We're both totally healthy young guys. Then, he tells me, that *I* should try an open relationship, and he'll stay monogamous with me. That's like, a completely horrifying concept to me because I'm a romantic type, I have no interest in polyamory at all, but he keeps bringing it up because I need to jerk off or have sex 2-3 times a week and he's 2-3 times a month. Eh, I guess I'll just keep jerking off because jerking off is pretty cool too, I just wish he'd stop being like "tee hee, you should hire a prostitute and gently caress him and I'll just watch!"... like, dude.
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Jul 4, 2016 05:33
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Have you considered dating a meme?
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Jul 4, 2016 10:44
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Travis343 posted:There is a really good thread in GBS 
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Jul 4, 2016 15:15
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Waci posted:Have you considered dating a meme? Eh I'm fine, I guess I'll just come in here and complain once a year.
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Zero VGS posted:Eh I'm fine, I guess I'll just come in here and complain once a year. I'm sorry, you're just not compatible with this thread. We need to complain at least once every couple of months.
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Jul 4, 2016 16:48
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Yeah that thread was not what o expected
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Jul 4, 2016 18:13
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Okay, I know this a common story, but I'd like to post mine anyway. I'm a guy in my thirties, had some long-term relationships years ago, now I've been seeing this woman for a few weeks. The "dates" have thus far been pretty much drinking with friends and then going to her place to get it on. There are a million weird things about this situation: she's one of my buddies' exes, she is a good friend of one of my exes, and this has caused some drama, but I think I'm staying on top of it, and all that history literally 4-6 years old. I used to have trouble getting hard with women in the beginning of relationships due to nervousness, and I was prepared for this to be an issue, but thus far it's been more the opposite. I get rock hard, we gently caress every which way, but I don't come. I've felt close a few times, but never made it. I know I am lasting longer because I am on a low dosage ssri, which I probably don't need, but which is a crutch I am a little worried about getting rid of. I have started tapering very, very slowly. This medication is prescribed by a GP, and I am taking it in conjunction with advice from a psychologist I see every few months, but I am a few years past last significant depressive experiences. In other words, I have had few side effects, and basically my thinking has been, hey, maybe it's still helping, so why not. I have had little trouble coming when I masturbate, but before my current situation, I hadn't had sex for .... well, a long time, so my junk might be wired to only firing the cannon when my own hand is doing the work, and that includes a certain, ah, speed and precision that I cannot expect from someone else. I am also conscious that perhaps being nervous and stressed could affect things in this way as well. Basically, I know my next few moves (so long as we keep seeing each other, which is another question) will be to keep doing stuff, being happy that I can please her, maybe cutting down on the alcohol in conjunction with sex, and then seeing how it goes. But for those who have had significant inorgasmia or delayed ejaculation from ssris, is there any good solution besides quitting or getting some other meds? Lasting for 30-45 minutes before we call it a night is magnitudes more satisfying to me than nervousness-induced ED, but at some point I would like to bust this nut.
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Jul 13, 2016 21:58
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Stop jerking off entirely
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Jul 13, 2016 22:13
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Trainrides posted:Okay, I know this a common story, but I'd like to post mine anyway. I'm a guy in my thirties, had some long-term relationships years ago, now I've been seeing this woman for a few weeks. The "dates" have thus far been pretty much drinking with friends and then going to her place to get it on. There are a million weird things about this situation: she's one of my buddies' exes, she is a good friend of one of my exes, and this has caused some drama, but I think I'm staying on top of it, and all that history literally 4-6 years old. I had this problem with SSRIs, and I hate to recommend weed and butt stuff, but it worked for me. You could also look into moving to a different antidepressant that doesn't have the side effect. Welbutrin's only sexual side effect is increased libido, and it generally has fewer side effects for most people compared to SSRIs.
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Jul 13, 2016 22:54
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Lots of foreplay. Do whatever gets you really horny without direct simulation. After doing that for a good 20 minutes, you'll be ready to blow as soon as you stick it in.
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Jul 13, 2016 23:37
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Trainrides posted:Okay, I know this a common story, but I'd like to post mine anyway. I'm a guy in my thirties, had some long-term relationships years ago, now I've been seeing this woman for a few weeks. The "dates" have thus far been pretty much drinking with friends and then going to her place to get it on. There are a million weird things about this situation: she's one of my buddies' exes, she is a good friend of one of my exes, and this has caused some drama, but I think I'm staying on top of it, and all that history literally 4-6 years old.
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Jul 14, 2016 10:53
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So thick white fluids running out of a girls vagina. Totally normal i know, but this was a lot and the first time I've actually reacted to how much it was. Whats the deal with it? Google won't help me here. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Jul 15, 2016 17:07
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Affi posted:So thick white fluids running out of a girls vagina. Totally normal i know, but this was a lot and the first time I've actually reacted to how much it was. Condom broke. Have a cigar!
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Jul 15, 2016 18:20
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Affi posted:So thick white fluids running out of a girls vagina. Totally normal i know, but this was a lot and the first time I've actually reacted to how much it was. a gentleman's sperm
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Jul 16, 2016 05:49
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DandyLion posted:Condom broke. Have a cigar! Not the right color! Also I'd be seriously impressed with myself if I could produce that much cum.
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Jul 16, 2016 09:07
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Affi posted:Not the right color! Also I'd be seriously impressed with myself if I could produce that much cum. Congratulations, it's a yeast infection!
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Jul 16, 2016 10:08
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Yay!
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hoobajoo posted:I hate to recommend weed and butt stuff A shocking upset for the Something Awful forums.
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Jul 16, 2016 17:07
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Affi posted:So thick white fluids running out of a girls vagina. Totally normal i know, but this was a lot and the first time I've actually reacted to how much it was. Color, consistency, smell?
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Jul 17, 2016 16:49
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If there's more fluid than you produce when cumming, that sounds like a horrific infection.
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Jul 17, 2016 21:25
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Faerunner posted:Color, consistency, smell? Milky white, creamy almost like say lotion. Didn't actually notice the smell.
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Jul 18, 2016 10:19
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Araenna posted:If there's more fluid than you produce when cumming, that sounds like a horrific infection. I wouldn't know how much is normal?
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Jul 18, 2016 10:32
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Affi posted:I wouldn't know how much is normal? As far as I know there is no part of the female anatomy that is intended to produce thick white fluid so any amount is perhaps a little abnormal.
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Jul 18, 2016 12:33
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If it didn't smell and she wasn't uncomfortable, it's probably normal and fine. http://m.newhealthadvisor.com/Milky-White-Discharge.html
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i like nice words
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OwlFancier posted:As far as I know there is no part of the female anatomy that is intended to produce thick white fluid so any amount is perhaps a little abnormal. Anne Whateley posted:If it didn't smell and she wasn't uncomfortable, it's probably normal and fine. http://m.newhealthadvisor.com/Milky-White-Discharge.html I like that these two posts are so different. I'm going to trust the second poster though. She's stressed, it was a few days before her menstrual cycle, no discomfort, she was sexually aroused and yeah gently caress she might actually be preggo too because her period is late now. (she is often late though and she did take a pregnancy test a few days later that was negative) Anyway, thanks for the replies everyone. Surprising how difficult it was to find anything on google about this.
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I don't know what you were googling, but "white discharge" gets you plenty of relevant info.
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