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Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
:synpa:

quote:

TL;DR: found a hidden file on my GF’s computer with over 7,000 files (photos/videos/screenshotted texts) of/from her step-sister. Have no idea how to proceed.

lol

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Fart Puzzle
Jul 25, 2007

compressed fart pieces

Uhhhh what kind of pics and videos are we talking here?

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless

quote:

The other night, we had been drinking together, and headed to bed. He wanted to have sex, but he couldn't get it up. He immediately got frustrated, and the harder he tried, the more angry he got. He was on top of me, and in a burst of anger he bit my neck where he had been kissing it moments before. It wasn't hard enough to draw blood, but hard enough for me to yell. I immediately threw him off of me and asked him what was he thinking, ect.
The next morning, I woke up fuming and allowed myself to process everything and calm down. I told him we needed to talk, and he seemed confused. He was defensive at first, saying "But I apologized"


ahahaha

Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
post the full stories

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
photos of step sister one:https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4sl3fu/i_22f_found_a_hidden_folder_on_my_girlfriends_22f/

bf bit me one:
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4smd65/me_21f_with_my_bf_22m_2yrs_hurt_me_what_to_do/



quote:

I [25F] found panties that aren't mine (AGAIN)! Is he [25M] definitely cheating?

lel

Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 22:37 on Jul 13, 2016

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



Mordja posted:

So how many Redditors jumped in with an "actually he would be an ephebophile :spergin:"?

I wonder how many had a spike of adrenaline and opened the thread to make sure it wasn't about them.

Robot Style
Jul 5, 2009

quote:

How do I(19F) convince my mother(50F) not to adopt another child? She already has me and my daughter(7F).

Nice! Mom got a bogo.

Khorne
May 1, 2002

quote:

Edit: I decided to take the PM off and give him a chance to better explain himself and talk to him about being depressed and walked in to him watching videos of neighbor girl on our desktop. When he had the choice to pull up his pants or X out of the video, he chose the former. This now explains the $400 charge at Summit Hut which he didnt convincingly lie about in June as he went and bought a GoPro camera. So obviously this was all premeditated and has been going on for a while, he just got "greedy" and wanted to see a multitude of girls yesterday and not wait for the footage from his hidden camera which I just found hidden in our oleanders thaf grew on the wall. Found as he was trying to physically drag me back inside after telling me there was no camera anywhere despite the crystal clear video of our neighbors yard that was playing on our monitor. So yeah. He's kicked out and NEVER coming back and I have a meeting with a divorce attorney who will advise me on what to do with everything I found out today. I have no idea what to say to our neighbors as I'm sure they will seriously consider suing the hell out of us. My life is in shambles.

Update from the wife and husband peeping story. To the surprise of no one, he wasn't just inadvertently being a goony motherfucker while trimming some bushes.

Khorne fucked around with this message at 23:35 on Jul 13, 2016

blarzgh
Apr 14, 2009

SNITCHIN' RANDY
Grimey Drawer

Robot Style posted:

Nice! Mom got a bogo.

a 19 year old daughter and a 7 year old daughter, no wait it says her daughter, but 19 minu.....

blarzgh
Apr 14, 2009

SNITCHIN' RANDY
Grimey Drawer

Khorne posted:

Update from the wife and husband peeping story. Turns out he wasn't just inadvertently being a goony motherfucker while trimming some bushes.

Don't say a goddamn thing to the neighbors, dipshit. How do you plan to prove to the rest of the world that you didn't know about the camera?

Someone send this excellent advice to the Reddit for me, thanks.

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



Khorne posted:

Update from the wife and husband peeping story. To the surprise of no one, he wasn't just inadvertently being a goony motherfucker while trimming some bushes.

drat, I was really hoping he would just turn out to be a clumsy oaf bumbling around trying to do some yardwork and that the update would be she is now pregnant.

Oh well, maybe next time someone accuses their spouse of pedophilia on reddit it will have a happy ending.

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!

Moon Atari posted:

Those are the funny ones where someone gets what they deserve. The sadder cases are when a selfish and more confident partner basically talks an insecure partner who fears losing them into letting them cheat under the guise of opening the relationship up. Especially sad if they use all the open relationship books and lingo to gaslight them into feeling guilty about feeling jealous and hurt rather than happy for their partner getting down with other people.

There is a NSFW subreddit called /r/hotwife for men that like to see their wives getting plowed by other guys. I guess there were plenty of "I want to have my wife gently caress other people, help me convince her!" threads that they started up /r/HotWifeLifestyle

Enjoy

quote:

Conflicted. Need help processing emotions about wife playing

Background: So we have an open relationship. We get to do anything anytime. Only rules are complete honesty and we have to be upfront about plans to play. Exceptions are if it is spur of the moment consent is implied. We also get Veto power. At anytime we can say no to anything. It has worked out for us. we are honest and talk about how each "event" or whatever you want to call it makes us feel and what not. We have complete trust.

So the wife has a best friend a woman. She goes over there once a week. She has sex with her and her husband. At first not every time but pretty close. Now it is almost everytime no big deal she has fun and comes home and we have great sex. It has never bothered me and this kind of thing is why we decided to open our relationship.

My feelings of enviousness/Jealousness are creeping up though. Usually I don't have any trouble with those emotions. But the husband is always texting her and he is so thirsty and comes of as if he expects to have her. Their conversations and relationship is looking more and more like an actual romantic relationship. Then today he brings his kids over while I was at work and our kids played together. Ofcourse while the kids were outside they snuck off and had sex. So now he is coming over beyond their one day and having sex with her. I should add while the kids are playing 50 feet away when normally I can't even see boobs when the kids are awake. He keeps asking her when she will stay the night with them.

It is a combination of many things. All are pretty petty. She has my permission so she isn't doing anything wrong. However the fact that instead of it staying light and an occasional thing my wife is becoming his side chick. Which I am having trouble processing. Then the fact she seems much more wiling to take risks with him. Having sex with the kids awake and not far away. No Condom. Which I get it he isn't me so the whole thing is more dangerous and edgy and taboo. I get why she does it and why she likes it.

I think it is a combination of our sex life has been slowing and a little stale lately but she has actually increased the frequencies and riskiness with him. Playing more without his wife and with Kids not far away and throughout the week.

I need experienced husbands to tell me this kind of thing is normal and how you managed your emotions about it all. Tips for getting our sex life back on track would help as well.

Moon Atari
Dec 26, 2010

The photos of stepsister one isn't actually a hidden folder it's just a folder labelled 'uhhh' that isn't kept in the normal picture folder. I imagine the explanation is actually that stepsister borrowed the computer to make a copy of her phone's pics library before formatting it. Lol at the porn-addled doofus immediately suspecting incest.

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
^^^ heh yeah that's why I didn't link the full story until someone asked

Bonzo posted:

There is a NSFW subreddit called /r/hotwife for men that like to see their wives getting plowed by other guys. I guess there were plenty of "I want to have my wife gently caress other people, help me convince her!" threads that they started up /r/HotWifeLifestyle

Enjoy

goddamn that guy is getting c ucked so hardcore

quote:

Ofcourse while the kids were outside they snuck off and had sex. So now he is coming over beyond their one day and having sex with her. I should add while the kids are playing 50 feet away when normally I can't even see boobs when the kids are awake. He keeps asking her when she will stay the night with them.

a ha ha ha ha

mbt
Aug 13, 2012

Moon Atari posted:

The photos of stepsister one isn't actually a hidden folder it's just a folder labelled 'uhhh' that isn't kept in the normal picture folder. I imagine the explanation is actually that stepsister borrowed the computer to make a copy of her phone's pics library before formatting it. Lol at the porn-addled doofus immediately suspecting incest.

the OP is a woman. both people involved are lesbians. maybe not porn-addled but knowing that makes the story sound <1% more plausible

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

Bonzo posted:

There is a NSFW subreddit called /r/hotwife for men that like to see their wives getting plowed by other guys. I guess there were plenty of "I want to have my wife gently caress other people, help me convince her!" threads that they started up /r/HotWifeLifestyle

Enjoy
lol his wife is literally some other dude's sidepiece. If that wouldn't just destroy your self esteem I don't know what would.

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
Yeah I fully get having some kinky sex or whatever but 90% of 'cu ck' fetish people are really just getting manipulated into some poo poo like that and it's amazing.

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
i guess that just ties back into our running theme of 'these people have 0 self respect' though

Moon Atari
Dec 26, 2010

Let's open up our relationship, aka cheat on me with my permission and without even hiding it from me so that I can be more completely traumatised by it and can't even scoop up the shattered pieces of my ego by reassuring myself that you were a bad person for cheating.

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!
A few more from r/HotWifeLifestyle, titles are mine

My wife will gently caress two guys at the same time as long as (a I'm not one of them and b) not around.

quote:

After about a year of talk, my wife says she's ready (at age 39 "before it's too late"). Aside from it not being too late - she'll be plenty hot at age 45, it sounds like she's warmed up to the idea of meeting up with a stranger for sex, probably in another town after a month of steamy texting. There's been no outreach yet, but real talk instead of fantasy talk between us. Together 20 years, best friends, kids, our sex and her body-confidence never better.

I'm supportive/think the idea is hot, but my ideal scenario involves my presence, watching quietly or in the next room and taking over after he finishes. Her ideal scenario is me not being present, but she'll tell me about it after. Sending an action pic or two to me seemed like a big ask when last discussed. She thinks she's even ok with two guys, as long as I'm not one of them. I see a security benefit to her with my presence, though admit my deeper reasons are more selfish.

I am debating on whether I should: A) Hold fast that I need to be present, and it needs to be planned that way (a deal killer until/unless she comes around), B) Give up on being there and see how I like it her way (she offered that I could always withdraw my consent if it doesn't work out for me), or C) Continue Wickr and late night dialog to learn more about all aspects of her ideal scenario and try to finagle a way to merge it with my scenario.

She's shy, but wants to be the center of attention in any hotwife experience. Please share opinions or experiences that may enlighten paths forward toward mutual satisfaction here. Am I being silly and will get plenty of excitement out of her way? Is it an unnecessary risk for her to go solo?

My Wife is loving her boss so should I just accept this lifestyle?

quote:

My GF and I have been together the better part of two years and things have been a bit rocky to be honest. Pretty much from the get go we've talked about the possibility of hooking up with other people and while we both get off on the idea it hasn't gone past dirty talk while we're having sex.

We had a brief period where we were broken up and right around that period she blew her boss after hours while I was on vacation. She told me about it and forgave her since she claimed she was super drunk and thought we weren't fully back together. I thought I was pretty hot and told her so. She was also leaving the company so she claimed it wouldn't be an issue.

Due to our busy schedules our sex life hasn't been fantastibut overall shes pretty open sexually and its good when when we have it. Last night I took our dirty talk up a notch and asked her to describe her encourage term with her boss. She tensed up and she wasn't into it so it killed the mood.

This morning I saw a her receive a text from him and since she quit over a month ago there wouldn't be any work reason for any communication. I looked at it and from what I saw there's obviously been stuff going on at least since the episode months ago.

So my question to the hotwife community is whether it's a bad idea to try and explore the hotwife aspects of this situation or if I should take it as cheating (obviously it is) and move on? Normally I feel like cheating is something that is able to be recovered from. However, because I've made it very clear in the past that if she wanted to sleep with someone that I'd be ok with it I feel it deepens the deceit.

Has anyone here had a situation like this end up successfully or is it pretty much doomed from the start?

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

Moon Atari posted:

Let's open up our relationship, aka cheat on me with my permission and without even hiding it from me so that I can be more completely traumatised by it and can't even scoop up the shattered pieces of my ego by reassuring myself that you were a bad person for cheating.

My favorite is when they set rules about time/frequency/days people are and aren't allowed to cheat to assure themselves that they're the biggest priority as if someone who actually gave half a poo poo about you would need guidelines on how to not come across like they didn't care at all.

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
"My wife is cheating on me should I try to make this a swinging thing or ......"

no idiot you're getting cheated on this is obviously not a fetish/swinging thing lmao have some goddamn dignity

ArbitraryC posted:

My favorite is when they set rules about time/frequency/days people are and aren't allowed to cheat to assure themselves that they're the biggest priority as if someone who actually gave half a poo poo about you would need guidelines on how to not come across like they didn't care at all.

Heh yeah that too

TastyAvocado
Dec 9, 2009

ArbitraryC posted:

My favorite is when they set rules about time/frequency/days people are and aren't allowed to cheat to assure themselves that they're the biggest priority as if someone who actually gave half a poo poo about you would need guidelines on how to not come across like they didn't care at all.

Then when the person breaks the rules anyway their reaction is "am I selfish for being upset?"

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

TastyAvocado posted:

Then when the person breaks the rules anyway their reaction is "am I selfish for being upset?"

That part actually mostly makes me sad because that kind of thing largely comes up in situations where one partner browbeat the other into agreeing with the situation and is essentially gaslighting them over it using progressive language.

vyst
Aug 25, 2009



this is hands down the best thread in gbs. I get the best reddit E/N content curated for me

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



Are there any other sad, pathetic subreddits to scour for good posts?

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

Nazzadan posted:

Are there any other sad, pathetic subreddits to scour for good posts?

r/polyamory is basically everything you thought about poly relationships and more

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



ArbitraryC posted:

r/polyamory is basically everything you thought about poly relationships and more

Both people have undercuts and only one of them actually has multiple partners?
Count me in

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug
TLDR: My girlfriend wants to have a kid and we both want for me to be involved, but her metamour (monogamous, just moved in last month with them) is very possessive of her when it comes to me. Girlfriend says to just let metamour deal with jealousy, but I don't want to break up a new family. What do?
I'm still figuring all this out. I met my partner 2.5 years ago, and it was an instant connection- we have always had an incredibly romantic relationship, like fireworks and Shakespeare and soulmate sort of love. I am seeing only my partner right now, though I have some experience in poly.
Her other partner of almost 2 years, Q, (only will give the first initial cuz I dont know if he follows this sub) and I used to be on good terms, liked each other well enough, but when I became more available for P (my lover) last year she jumped into it with me and I think Q got really threatened by how intense our relationship is.
P wants forever with me, but I'm long-distance, there's a big age gap, and she and I agree that I'm not equipped to have a kid right now. I'd love to have kids later with her, and I want forever too. I know she's working on her relationship with Q but it's a little inconsistent because Q is having a hard time with me and P's relationship- Q is super jealous. P wants to have a child as soon as possible. Q moved in with her last month at her house. Q wants to co-parent. I like Q and want a friendship with him but I know it's not possible right now because Q is so jealous.
P and I talked about my relationship to her and her desired child while Q is moving in, and P tells me that she wants me to be a part of the child's life and that while she considers herself the only true parent to the child, she wants me to do pregnancy support and baby support and that I shouldn't feel like I should have to shy away or that I'm less family just because I don't live with her. As for Q's jealousy - which is so intense it keeps us from being in the same room together - Q will have to "work it out".
Am I right to feel on edge about the situation? I love P and in a perfect world I would love to temporarily stay with her and Q and the rest of her family, to help care for the kid however I can (my job is remote), and that is sort of what P has offered me- as much involvement as I'd like, short of being a parent. But with the tension with Q (that I would love to help mend but P says I should just give him time to sort it out alone) that doesn't seem like a good idea.
P's not pregnant yet, I'm just trying to sort this out while I have time.

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



So...she wants to be the only actual parent? At least I was right about only one of them actually having multiple partners

Roki B
Jul 25, 2004


Medical Industrial Complex


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Laffo, more!

Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
it's sad how afraid some people are of being alone

Drunk Nerds
Jan 25, 2011

Just close your eyes
Fun Shoe

P-Mack posted:

I'm going to imagine the 25 year old who can't go downtown is a recovering drug addict. He moved back in with his parents to rehab and they won't let him go downtown cause they don't trust him to stay clean if he goes back to the old neighborhood where his dealer and fellow addicts live.

That's why he still hangs out with his ex even though they're not together, she's in the same boat and it's like a mini support group.

I think you solved the mystery, well done.

Moon Atari
Dec 26, 2010

The poly lifestyle is brave and progressive and only repressed jealous losers assume it is all about selfishness and narcissism. Also, when planning to have a child with my live in partner I call dibs on it. My two partners can coparent but that baby belongs to me alone, I'm its only true parent, they just care for it and in one case biologically fathered it. Me, my baby: parent as a noun. My harem members (who I graciously allow to share my baby): parent as a verb.

YeahTubaMike
Mar 24, 2005

*hic* Gotta finish thish . . .
Doctor Rope

Gaunab posted:

it's sad how afraid some people are of being alone

seriously

rakovsky maybe
Nov 4, 2008

ArbitraryC posted:

TLDR: My girlfriend wants to have a kid and we both want for me to be involved, but her metamour (monogamous, just moved in last month with them) is very possessive of her when it comes to me. Girlfriend says to just let metamour deal with jealousy, but I don't want to break up a new family. What do?
I'm still figuring all this out. I met my partner 2.5 years ago, and it was an instant connection- we have always had an incredibly romantic relationship, like fireworks and Shakespeare and soulmate sort of love. I am seeing only my partner right now, though I have some experience in poly.
Her other partner of almost 2 years, Q, (only will give the first initial cuz I dont know if he follows this sub) and I used to be on good terms, liked each other well enough, but when I became more available for P (my lover) last year she jumped into it with me and I think Q got really threatened by how intense our relationship is.
P wants forever with me, but I'm long-distance, there's a big age gap, and she and I agree that I'm not equipped to have a kid right now. I'd love to have kids later with her, and I want forever too. I know she's working on her relationship with Q but it's a little inconsistent because Q is having a hard time with me and P's relationship- Q is super jealous. P wants to have a child as soon as possible. Q moved in with her last month at her house. Q wants to co-parent. I like Q and want a friendship with him but I know it's not possible right now because Q is so jealous.
P and I talked about my relationship to her and her desired child while Q is moving in, and P tells me that she wants me to be a part of the child's life and that while she considers herself the only true parent to the child, she wants me to do pregnancy support and baby support and that I shouldn't feel like I should have to shy away or that I'm less family just because I don't live with her. As for Q's jealousy - which is so intense it keeps us from being in the same room together - Q will have to "work it out".
Am I right to feel on edge about the situation? I love P and in a perfect world I would love to temporarily stay with her and Q and the rest of her family, to help care for the kid however I can (my job is remote), and that is sort of what P has offered me- as much involvement as I'd like, short of being a parent. But with the tension with Q (that I would love to help mend but P says I should just give him time to sort it out alone) that doesn't seem like a good idea.
P's not pregnant yet, I'm just trying to sort this out while I have time.

I suggest this fellow mind his Ps and Qs a little more.

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



"My girlfriend is cheating on me. Is she cheating on me?"

quote:

I opened Facebook on my girlfriend's laptop today to see a message from someone I've never heard of/met before mentioning him "fantasizing about us playing again". Her response to the mesage before that (and lack of response on Facebook) make me feel very weird and it seems to me like this conversation heavily implies she is sleeping with this guy. Please check it out and let me know if this seems like paranoia (edit, apparently I can't link to an image in /r/relationships at all. The conversation went:
Her: "How was your fourth?"
Him: "It was pretty good, uneventful...it's too bad we didn't hang out so we could 'make some fireworks' :P haha. How about yours?"
Her: "Haha I know, that would have been fun! One of these days we need to get together :) it was pretty chill, went down to [local park]"
Him: "Yeah it would have! Yeah we do, we need to soon. I keep fantasizing about us playing again :P"
I've had suspicions that she's cheated on me in the past and have discovered messages between her and someone else in the past that were borderline, and we almost broke up over those (the text mentioned them getting together and drinking in a hot tub recently, and I had no idea who the guy was) but I let her have the benefit of the doubt and moved past it. Now my heart's racing from the prospect that she's potentially been seeing multiple people without my knowledge or consent while we have been dating.
tl;dr: Am I paranoid, or does this conversation strongly suggest my monogamous girlfriend of almost 7 years is sleeping with another guy?

Frosted Flake
Sep 13, 2011

Semper Shitpost Ubique

Personally I'm a fan of the Red Pill commentaries on r/Relationship posts. The original posts are hilarious, but the commentary through the lens of "all women are cheating whores" is pretty funny too, especially when people take that advice and burn their relationships to the ground.

quote:

TRP is for men who want to make their lives better through logic and understanding. Usually it takes a metaphorical kick in the nuts for a guy to wake up and smell the roses.
/r/relationships is for guys who want to keep believing the poo poo that women, the media, and other guys are telling them. That they are smelling roses, when really, they are smelling poo poo.
Guys who go on TRP may not like it and might not stick around. Guys who go on /r/relationships will be back there in 6 months wondering why another girl has cheated on them.

https://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/31y8to/who_was_right_rrelationships_asktrp_neither/

SilvergunSuperman
Aug 7, 2010

Those open relationship trainwrecks give me a really queasy feeling, even putting yourself in their shoes for a few seconds is so hosed up.

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Cthulu Carl
Apr 16, 2006

Nazzadan posted:

"My girlfriend is cheating on me. Is she cheating on me?"

"Am I paranoid, or does this conversation strongly suggest my monogamous girlfriend of almost 7 years is sleeping with another guy?"

Nah, it's cool dude. I don't think they were doing much sleeping :quagmire:

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