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I mean, like, I don't think there's a gland or reservoir anywhere in there that's chock full of single cream ready to eject in case of predator attack or anything. Which seemed to be what you were describing. That sounds a little unusual to me. Though maybe ladies do have chaff dispensers, I dunno.
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Some ladies can get creamy sometimes when especially turned on, hope that helps
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khysanth posted:Some ladies can get creamy sometimes when especially turned on, hope that helps
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FilthyImp posted:post-coital sexlube cream I think this is it. Checks out.
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Worst DP of my life.
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Massive DP Mobile.
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I dp'd.
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I thought this was the Falcon BMS thread for a minute and got very confused.
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Vahakyla posted:Worst DP of my life. Vahakyla posted:Massive DP Mobile. Vahakyla posted:I dp'd. Please don't post my pornhub uploads tia
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Im a het female with cerebral palsy who found out today that I really cant have sex. My legs wont spread open far enough and my vagina burns when something goes in it. Am I doomed to not have sex forever. I made an appointment to see my GP on monday because looking up similar stories on the internet told me it was the best option. I cant even orgasm because my bodys too tight.
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there'll most probably be at least one position you can get to work for the leg spread problems once you start experimenting, so the muscle tightness is your real issue here look into treatment for vaginismus, it might help - it involves learning to insert gradually increasing sizes of objects to get your body to stop freaking out the moment anything goes in there, takes a while but is reportedly very effective it's a very common problem so your GP should be able to help out, good luck!
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Violet_Sky posted:Im a het female with cerebral palsy who found out today that I really cant have sex. My legs wont spread open far enough and my vagina burns when something goes in it. Am I doomed to not have sex forever. I made an appointment to see my GP on monday because looking up similar stories on the internet told me it was the best option. I cant even orgasm because my bodys too tight. Butt stuff?
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I also feel like poo poo because we couldnt do poo poo and I ended up apologizing a lot. I couldnt even suck him off because I have a strong gag reflex.
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FROOOOOOOOG posted:Butt stuff?
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While I appreciate that you already know this and it isn't going to stop you feeling that way, it bears pointing out that it is 100% not your fault that you have a medical condition interfering with your sex life. Nor, frankly, would it be if you just ended up not wanting to do anything for whatever reason. Sex isn't an obligation or a right, and I've found there's little psychologically more likely to make it not work than feeling like it is. That said, sex necessarily about orifices, though they help. You can give someone a real good time without sticking anything into anywhere if that's an issue, your other half may or may not be satisfied with that and that's between the two of you, but there's a huge amount of sex you can do outside of penetrative intercourse, and it's not something I'd turn my nose up at.
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Plus it might not even be vaginismus, right? It could be just the condom or the lube involved that made it feel burning. And there are positions like doggy or lying on your stomach where you don't even have to spread your legs. I know you must be super concerned, but just chill as much as you can. Go to your doctor to see what's up, but it's probably not nearly as big a deal as it seems. Definitely don't even start worrying about anal.
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And you were a virgin, right? Had you ever done penetration with any toys prior to this?
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Was? I think I still am. We couldn't even get the drat thing in. And no, no toys or poo poo like that. Was I supposed to?
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Violet_Sky posted:Was? I think I still am. We couldn't even get the drat thing in. I would say most men and women masturbate, and women usually use their fingers or toys for penetration. I think I remember from a documentary that many women also can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, not penetration.
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goodness posted:I would say most men and women masturbate, and women usually use their fingers or toys for penetration. I think I remember from a documentary that many women also can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, not penetration. Not "many" - "most"! The majority of women can't orgasm from penetration alone and require clitoral stimulation. Violet Sky, I would try stuff like masturbating together, or each other. Don't put pressure on yourself to have penetrative sex if it's going to be painful. Take it slow. Also you commented you can't give head due to gag reflex. It is not necessary to fit the entire shaft in your mouth. Try put a hand on the shaft to limit how much ends up in your mouth. Even if it's just the head or so, it's going to feel really nice.
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Violet_Sky posted:Was? I think I still am. We couldn't even get the drat thing in. If this was your first time doing anything penetrative I am completely unsurprised you tensed up. I know my first time was awkward and I'm sure many other women (and men!) in this thread have uncomfortable virginity stories. Definitely try playing with yourself and exploring, it will make you more comfortable with your body and your sensations. I'm also not surprised that general tension and anxiety may have exacerbated any CP related issues. A huge part of enjoying sex is about being relaxed and comfortable with yourself and your partner. A new partner can also make things awkward.
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Violet_Sky posted:Was? I think I still am. We couldn't even get the drat thing in. Not supposed to, but it's a thing a lot of women do. It might be something to help you practice and get more comfortable with penetration. It's also easier to get used to it first just by yourself, since you have 100% control and know how everything feels. Some of the most intimate sex I've had was mutual masterbation, just two people getting naked and watching porn together. I can't pretend to know a lot about cerebral palsy and how it affects your sex life, but one thing no one tells you about sex is the number one thing that makes sex good isn't how you do it, it's who you do it with. I understand you're frustrated you're not able to do everything you wanted right away, I get that and it sucks, but you can totally have fun, fulfilling sexy times. As long as you're creative and passionate, I'm sure you can both enjoy yourself, while still working on getting more comfortable with penetration. One tip about blowjobs too, I don't know if your gag reflex is especially strong, but you don't need to put it in the back of your throat for it to feel great. Deepthroating is way more of a psychological thing than a physical pleasure thing.
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Welp the guy I saw blocked me and didnt answer my texts. I apologized a lot and we ended up having really bad sex but that isnt a reason to block someone. Again, I know this isnt e/n but I feel like poo poo. : :
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Violet_Sky posted:Welp the guy I saw blocked me and didnt answer my texts. I apologized a lot and we ended up having really bad sex but that isnt a reason to block someone. Again, I know this isnt e/n but I feel like poo poo. : Sounds like he is just a lovely dude. Don't let it get you down Violet Sky. Use what happened to learn, you already are from the responses here. There are lots of lovely people out there and we all have to deal with them, whatever lot in life we have.
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Violet_Sky posted:Welp the guy I saw blocked me and didnt answer my texts. I apologized a lot and we ended up having really bad sex but that isnt a reason to block someone. Again, I know this isnt e/n but I feel like poo poo. : Oh wow. What a turd. Don't let it get to you :/
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Violet_Sky posted:Welp the guy I saw blocked me and didnt answer my texts. I apologized a lot and we ended up having really bad sex but that isnt a reason to block someone. Again, I know this isnt e/n but I feel like poo poo. :
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Lunchmeat Larry posted:sex will probably go better with someone who isn't an rear end in a top hat, so there's that. For real!  How insensitive and unkind can that guy be? Totally lacking in basic empathy. You don't block someone after a bad first time, even if you don't want to go out again. What a dick!! The problem is with him not caring enough, period. He didn't make sure you felt comfortable during or after and he's just a heel! Bad! Ugh! I'm sorry. You had a stressful experience and weren't supported by your partner and I'm mad for you!!
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Well we couldnt do anything so we just cuddled and I felt terrible. He kept saying it was okay and we'll figure it out. Maybe he was just upset I dunno.
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Violet_Sky posted:Welp the guy I saw blocked me and didnt answer my texts. I apologized a lot and we ended up having really bad sex but that isnt a reason to block someone. Again, I know this isnt e/n but I feel like poo poo. : nthing that this guy is a jerk and sex with him was always going to be bad, because he is a jerk you did nothing wrong, and hopefully you will find someone who is willing to take it slow and explore, not just try to cram it in as fast as possible and get huffy when that inevitably sucks
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Violet, please go see your therapist. I'm so worried about you and your safety. Please take care of yourself. Was this the Internet dude that was giving you weird vibes you talked about? Or someone new? It's not unusual for hook ups to happen only once and never again. Given your challenges you may need a partner who is in for more than one session, and is willing to experiment and accommodate. I worry when you post here and elsewhere that you aren't interested in your own pleasure and satisfaction and more the validation of someone wanting to have sex with you. Please please please be safe darling.
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He couldnt even get the thing in. Im not sure we even had sex because it hurt too much when he close to the opening.
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Violet_Sky posted:Well we couldnt do anything so we just cuddled and I felt terrible. He kept saying it was okay and we'll figure it out. Maybe he was just upset I dunno. Sounds like he just wanted to gently caress a virgin, all other considerations ignored. Five'll get you ten he'd have blocked you even if it went right.
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Agreeing with everyone else. Even if you were able to do everything you wanted to do physically, and even if this guy wasn't a total garbage human being, you would be here posting a lot of the same stuff. Everyone has a bad first time; I (a man) couldn't cum the first time I did it, and she made me feel really inadequate for it afterwards. So trust me, everyone's first times are awkward and disappointing, even without a complicating medical condition or a total rear end in a top hat for a partner. But think of this: a guy had sex with you (and yes, it counts as sex). That means a guy will have sex with you in the future. And the next time you do, you'll know more about yourself and your sexual side, you'll have talked to your doctor, and you'll have time to practice by yourself. You'll will have plenty of opportunities for good sex in the future, and learning from a bad first time is a necessary stepping stone to having good sex. I hope that helps.
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I just feel so lovely. I think my mental illnesses scared him away as well. I just want the pain to stop. 
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vaguely posted:nthing that this guy is a jerk and sex with him was always going to be bad, because he is a jerk Indeed. You are much better off.
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Violet_Sky posted:I just feel so lovely. I think my mental illnesses scared him away as well. I just want the pain to stop. Sex with randos doesn't make any pain go away. You need to work on building yourself up internally. Outside forces don't fix internal problems in most circumstances. Sexually, you need to learn to appreciate yourself and what makes you feel good. If you think you are garbage and just want to be used to validation, you probably won't feel good and it won't be comfortable or easy. Knowing how to masturbate and orgasm makes sex easier. Go to therapy, darling. Maybe with a new therapist. Be honest with them. Reach out online to support groups for people with similar challenges to yours. You aren't alone in the world.
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And remember ghosting is super common right now, it happens to absolutely everybody. It doesn't matter how able-bodied you are -- I have a friend who's a yoga teacher, I have another who's a circus performer -- they can put their feet behind their head upside-down and all kinds of poo poo, but it doesn't stop them from being ghosted on either. Beyoncé just got cheated on, this poo poo seriously happens to everyone.
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Drink and Fight posted:If this was your first time doing anything penetrative I am completely unsurprised you tensed up. I know my first time was awkward and I'm sure many other women (and men!) in this thread have uncomfortable virginity stories. Good Lord, me and my friends all have terrible stories Violet_Sky this dude was a manipulative rear end in a top hat don't let him get you down, some people are massive poo poo heads, and there's no good way to know which ones those are. You did your best and you're still a good person, try not to let this dude rent out any headspace.
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Violet_Sky posted:I just feel so lovely. I think my mental illnesses scared him away as well. I just want the pain to stop. It will, poo poo just takes time. I'm sorry that your first time was with such an rear end in a top hat, and that's really the main story here. Like, to be a bit hard nosed and nebby, I noticed a lack of mention of him touching you besides trying to shove his dick in. Did he even attempt any foreplay? Fondle your breasts? Caress your thigh? Did he even send preliminary scouts into your Wondrous Cavern before attempting to breach your walls with his battering ram? If none of those things happened, it's pretty unlikely that he would've made the pain go away. You also found out that sex didn't quite work out, but you've done everything you can in that regard. You researched your issue and took the big step of making an appointment with your PCP about not being able to have sex. And, as far as I can tell, that's a really hard appointment to make unless you're a dude with an AARP membership! So, congratulations, none of this poo poo is easy. Lastly, if we are talking depression here, I really wish I had some words that I knew would make the pain stop. But I've been through it myself (like a surprising number of goons, it seems), I know there are no quick and easy solutions. The best I can offer is keep it up. I don't know how old you are nor do I know how long it took you of working towards meeting and dating men to get to this point, but, please, don't think of this as the capstone of your efforts. Everyone has to work and try at this whole companionship thing; it's us looking at it from the outside that makes it seem easy for everyone else.
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