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WampaLord posted:What a year 2016 is where "don't kiss other people" is a weird thing to want in a relationship. In my first few months of dating my now-fiancee, we disagreed on whether it was ok for her platonic male friend to share a bed with her when he was staying in town. She didn't see why I might not be thrilled with this. Her mom actually set her straight on it lol
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darkhand posted:Idk I think selling your body is kinda hosed up personally, just my opinion sorrey if you disagree
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zakharov posted:Her mom actually set her straight on it lol
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:43 |
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zakharov posted:In my first few months of dating my now-fiancee, we disagreed on whether it was ok for her platonic male friend to share a bed with her when he was staying in town. She didn't see why I might not be thrilled with this. yeah that's not chill lol
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:44 |
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Either make fun of poly people or be super progressive about letting your girlfriend do whatever with whoever, you can't have both.
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:44 |
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Moridin it's great that you and your gf have a happy relationship but surely you see you are in the minority here. Most people in a monogamous relationship would not be ok with their partner sharing naked pics.
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also this one is sad quote:I [36F] am taking my god son [14M] in. I bought him furniture for his room and my husband [40M] has got rid of it because my god son is not our child.
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:45 |
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zakharov posted:Moridin it's great that you and your gf have a happy relationship but surely you see you are in the minority here. Most people in a monogamous relationship would not be ok with their partner sharing naked pics. that's fine and whatever people decide for their relationship is cool with me. My GF and I have been together for over 5 years at this point and we're good and happy, obv what we do isn't going to work for everyone and everyone should do what they are comfortable with. I fully realize it's crossing the line for most people and that's fine. Just be nice enough to realize your way isn't the only way, either. I'm just saying it's better to communicate clearly rather than be a jealous rageball who ghosts people
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:46 |
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zakharov posted:platonic male friend
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Khorne posted:I kind agree with Moridin though. Kissing some guy for a youtube video is no big deal. The only big deal is the girls in those videos are usually paid because the entire premise is stupid and it's designed to be porn for children on youtube. Kinda like the Sears catalog was in the 90s. It could be a boundary thing. I broke up with a girlfriend of ~2 years for kissing a dude at a party, she was honest about it the next day and apologized profusely but I just couldn't get it out of my head that if I let it slide the next time it'd be more than 1st base. Full on severed and didn't talk to her for ~half a year at which point I had finished up school, was dating someone else, and wanted missed the friendship a bit. We still talk on and off and I hang out with her whenever I visit my hometown but I was 100% right and she's basically cheated on every boyfriend she's had since then. I think kissing someone outside the relationship is a potentially forgivable offence but maybe at that point he just felt disrespected or worried that things wouldn't stop there if he didn't put his foot down, I'd have broken up in his shoes too.
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Xaris posted:also this one is sad yeah, husband is being a bit of a dick there even though yeah I feel him. Shouldn't have agreed then changed his mind like that kinda a dick move but yeah. ArbitraryC posted:It could be a boundary thing. I broke up with a girlfriend of ~2 years for kissing a dude at a party, she was honest about it the next day and apologized profusely but I just couldn't get it out of my head that if I let it slide the next time it'd be more than 1st base. Full on severed and didn't talk to her for ~half a year at which point I had finished up school, was dating someone else, and wanted missed the friendship a bit. We still talk on and off and I hang out with her whenever I visit my hometown but I was 100% right and she's basically cheated on every boyfriend she's had since then. Ultimately I'm not trying to say what people should do, if you're uncomfortable then that's fine break up. No one set of rules is going to work for everyone. What I'm saying is, don't just full on sever people (assuming they aren't abusive) without at least a token 'hey you kissed that dude that wasn't chill with me sorry girl we done.' For all you know that sudden sever made her insecure and unable to really connect with other people in a relationship and that's why she cheats on everyone, or had you not ghosted she would have realized how lovely that was of her and changed her ways then and there for the future Prolly not, but you never know what goes on in people's heads. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 22:51 on Aug 3, 2016 |
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Mmhmm. Most of my friends are female, if we distrusted opposite-sex friendships this woulda ended looooong ago.
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a hole-y ghost posted:what the gently caress are you guys even talking about what is this youtube video poo poo I've been trying to put it together from context, apparently some guy makes Youtube videos that are all "watch me put the mooooves on this hot Starbucks barista be like me for only 40 bucks a month, insecure teenage boys" and the girls in them are actually models willing to make out with some dude on Youtube for money after he says "excuse me do you know what time it is" using his super sexy proprietary method
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ArbitraryC posted:It could be a boundary thing. I broke up with a girlfriend of ~2 years for kissing a dude at a party, she was honest about it the next day and apologized profusely but I just couldn't get it out of my head that if I let it slide the next time it'd be more than 1st base. Full on severed and didn't talk to her for ~half a year at which point I had finished up school, was dating someone else, and wanted missed the friendship a bit. We still talk on and off and I hang out with her whenever I visit my hometown but I was 100% right and she's basically cheated on every boyfriend she's had since then. How I'd react would admittedly depend on who I was dating. I've had a girlfriend or two where it wouldn't have been a big deal, and I've had some where it would be really weird. Khorne fucked around with this message at 22:56 on Aug 3, 2016 |
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Moridin920 posted:Ultimately I'm not trying to say what people should do, if you're uncomfortable then that's fine break up. What I'm saying is, don't just full on sever people (assuming they aren't abusive) without at least a token 'hey you kissed that dude that wasn't chill with me sorry girl we done.'
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Xaris posted:also this one is sad
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:53 |
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Breaking up because you decide you can't get over your partner kissing someone else: fine, if you communicate about it Ghosting: stupid and for babies Do we all pretty much agree on this
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One more thing about the Youtube camwhore boyfriend story: the dude is about to start a new job in a new city, it's possible he was looking for any excuse to burn his bridges and start fresh If other people are allowed to read a bunch of stuff into her motivations I can do the same with his e: zakharov posted:Breaking up because you decide you can't get over your partner kissing someone else: fine, if you communicate about it I'm on the record as thinking this already, can we just break up with people using words like grownups
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:55 |
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anyway im derailing again so here this one is long so I'll just link and tease quote:My girlfriend [32F] gave away a lot of my things at a "clothing swap"/charity, and says that I [28M] am overreacting and too attached to material possessions also quote:Our [13F&14M] brother [20M] is coming home. He hits us and said he will kill our cat if we tell mom & dad Non-Romantic
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:55 |
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man, that little girl has not mastered the craft of writing tl;drs yet
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 22:57 |
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Don't post the depressing ones you assholes, funny trainwrecks only
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zakharov posted:Breaking up because you decide you can't get over your partner kissing someone else: fine, if you communicate about it Ghosting is okay if it's an abusive relationship.
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and https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4vzjag/my_colleague_34m_mocked_me_when_i_29f_asked_him/ quote:Two days ago, one of the boys in my homeroom class told me that some 12-year-old boys in this sports group were calling me a slut and going into details about why I must surely be one. Their reasoning for it is that I'm very busty, wear clothes that are tight around the bust and that accentuate my figure, and that when they try to speak to me, I ignore them.
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Holy poo poo that's sad. Looks like it might have a happier ending tho as the first couple comments were telling OP to tell their parents and the OP replied that they did and are staying (with their cat) at their aunts now.
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 23:00 |
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Xaris posted:also this one is sad quote:...I am taking in my best friends son Chad [14M]... oh boy
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Moridin920 posted:this one is long so I'll just link and tease quote:We didn't exactly fight about it but I'm still pretty bummed that she would do that. My girlfriend says that my "attachment to material things is troubling" and that I'm overreacting. loquacius posted:man, that little girl has not mastered the craft of writing tl;drs yet Khorne fucked around with this message at 23:06 on Aug 3, 2016 |
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fits my needs posted:Ghosting is okay if it's an abusive relationship. I agree, I said it upthread.
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Moridin920 posted:and These idiots are asking for a lawsuit.
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SciFiDownBeat posted:oh boy don't forget quote:I [36F] jon pop spent hundreds of dollars to warn us about the Chads. the prophecy was true
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zakharov posted:Don't post the depressing ones you assholes, funny trainwrecks only my bad
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zakharov posted:These idiots are asking for a lawsuit. that's exactly what I was thinking too lol esp when she said the headmaster didn't give a poo poo and other female colleagues were like 'yeah that's just the way it is here '
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Lockback posted:Nope, this is what you do. Sever immediately, sever completely, sever friends who try to bring it up. Never stop severing. The only way to prevent all the bad things is to live alone and, god forbid, to never interact with people.
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# ? Aug 3, 2016 23:11 |
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https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4vys0n/is_my_23f_boyfriend_30m_of_3_years_showing_red/quote:My boyfriend "John" and I met at a seasonal position just over 3 years ago, and when I went to finish my studies in college after my contract was over he moved in with me.
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Moridin920 posted:like my gf sells topless photos online for $ and I don't give a poo poo whatsoever Sounds like someone needs to (Keep the console though.)
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how in the gently caress is your immediate first response not going to be to cancel the card the correct response there is 'girl that money is gone and you should have told the CC company they were fraudulent charges then and there bc now you're just on the hook for it' and prolly give BF the boot for stealing your goddamn identity doesn't know how credit cards work lmao suuuuure Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 23:20 on Aug 3, 2016 |
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zakharov posted:The r/relationships material is coming from inside the thread. It's quite glorious.
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Moridin920 posted:why? prude Who the gently caress pays actual money for photos of boobs on the Internet. E: the subtext here is she's selling something worth buying and telling you it's tit pics you loving tard MyChemicalImbalance fucked around with this message at 23:26 on Aug 3, 2016 |
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They should also MyChemicalImbalance posted:Who the gently caress pays actual money for photos of boobs on the Internet. A bunch of people, believe it or not.
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Call me heartless but I think I'd immediately break up and claim identity theft if my gf took a credit card out in my name to "help my credit" when she barely works.MyChemicalImbalance posted:Who the gently caress pays actual money for photos of boobs on the Internet. She's probably selling custom pictures upon request. Some guys will pay a lot for the thrill of a hot girl sending them a picture taken the way they want it (pose, outfit, etc.) Still sounds pretty unlikely but it's not entirely impossible. flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 23:31 on Aug 3, 2016 |
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You should look up findom (financial domination) where they basically pay to a be A Nice Guy to a girl. It seems pretty far removed from carnality, is so weird. darkhand fucked around with this message at 23:34 on Aug 3, 2016 |
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