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The Mighty Moltres posted:Hey yo this nicotine gum I'm chewing is to hold off withdrawal from smoking, you brooding there instead of just going outside and having a cigarette is counteracting its intended purpose. Ugh I get this but with drinking. I used to have a huge drinking problem, yes. But you having a glass of wine at dinner isn’t going to set me off on a drinking binge, just have some drat wine! Or beer or whatever, I don’t care. Except keep the wine, especially red wine, far away in terms of distance cause the smell makes me gag. That is all I ask. Thank you.
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yeah I eat rear end posted:In my experience it's always said with an undertone of resentment, like "my life sucks, i would kill for your life, what do you have to be sad about". I get it all the time, like "you get to travel the world, you get to look at space stuff all day, how could you possibly be sad?" It does come from a place of not understanding but I don't think it's ever coming from a place of "trying to help". Telling someone they shouldn't be depressed is never helpful.
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“But you have a job and a nice apartment and x y z!!!” 
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Aug 2, 2018 13:21
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Thin Privilege posted:“But you have a job and a nice apartment and x y z!!!” What do I have to be depressed about? (actually said to me on more than one occasion.)
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Aug 2, 2018 13:33
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MightyJoe36 posted:What do I have to be depressed about? (actually said to me on more than one occasion.) Same  
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On a related note I've had people tell me that my chronic lung disease that I've had since I was an infant is "all in my head." What the hell, dude!? I guess that's way beyond a pet peeve at that point.
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In that vein "it's all part of god's plan" or "god doesn't give you anything you can't handle" Eh, no.
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Aug 2, 2018 16:40
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"Happiness is a choice uwu"
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MightyJoe36 posted:What do I have to be depressed about? (actually said to me on more than one occasion.) That's the kind of thing I understand why they say that. It doesn't help 99% of the time, but they're trying to give you reasons for why they think you should be happy. What they don't realize is that you already know that; this isn't new information. Depression is incredibly complicated, and those who don't suffer, don't get it.
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Leavemywife posted:Depression is incredibly complicated, and those who don't suffer, don't get it. Same with like, all mental illnesses and I guess the frustrating part is that people done even try to understand. You can talk to them for hours and explain in specific minute detail what it is, how you suffer, the consequences, etc, and they’ll still be like “well just go for a walk!” My favorite is always when people (including AA/NA/rehab people!) “just don’t do [drug]!” Uh dude not very many addicts want to stay addicted. It isn’t fun and if you could “just not do it” there wouldn’t be addicts in the first place you loving rear end in a top hat.
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"I'm just not gonna do heroin today!' *Shakes, sweats, vomits, has diarrhea* *Thinks happily about the peace of the grave* *Sees untold horrors behind eyelids* "Well that was great, I'm gonna do it again tomorrow! I feel better already!"
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Brawnfire posted:"I'm just not gonna do heroin today!' I tried explaining that to someone once and was just met with "she shouldn't have started using to begin with!"
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Iron Crowned posted:I tried explaining that to someone once and was just met with "she shouldn't have started using to begin with!" That's aggravating because nobody wakes up and says "I want a crippling substance problem that will destroy my life!" Most people who use any given drug actually don't become addicts and don't set out to be. Addiction is also very complicated.
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"I watched Trainspotting... why would anyone choose a life like this?" *watches Requiem for a Dream* "See? What's so glamorous about this?!?"
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I'm fully on board with addiction being a huge issue that affects a lot of people, but I still hate the phrase "addiction is a disease." I get that by the broadest definition it is a dysfunction in your brain/body that keeps you needing whatever substance, but to me it feels like they're trying to put addiction on the same level as things like depression or parkinson's. Am I wrong in thinking that addiction is actually usually a symptom of some other problem? Addiction itself is not the disease, your depression or anxiety or whatever is the disease. My opinion is of course not based on any kind of science or background in the subject (other than my own issues with alcohol), I think those stupid Addiction Network Hotline commercials are just getting really annoying.
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Iron Crowned posted:In that vein That sucks because it implies that you can't be annoyed about it. You can accept it's all part of a plan, but you can also feel free to feel that said plan sucks! If I was in one of those positions and ended up meeting the guy who made it happen, I'd be all "Dude, what the gently caress? This plan sucks!" We can complain when work gives bad hours, we can complain when people drag us out to things we don't care about, but when God does it, suddenly it's different!
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Inspector 34 posted:I'm fully on board with addiction being a huge issue that affects a lot of people, but I still hate the phrase "addiction is a disease." I get that by the broadest definition it is a dysfunction in your brain/body that keeps you needing whatever substance, but to me it feels like they're trying to put addiction on the same level as things like depression or parkinson's. Am I wrong in thinking that addiction is actually usually a symptom of some other problem? Addiction itself is not the disease, your depression or anxiety or whatever is the disease. It's all connected. Depression can drive you in to alcoholism, but I don't think it's fair to call it a symptom. Once you get addicted to alcohol it becomes its own issue where it worsens your depression, but you can't even start to treat the depression until you are free from the addiction.
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I think the one thing that stopped me from being an alcoholic was how much I hated being dehydrated. That was too much of a price to pay while getting real drunk every night.
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yeah I eat rear end posted:It's all connected. Depression can drive you in to alcoholism, but I don't think it's fair to call it a symptom. Once you get addicted to alcohol it becomes its own issue where it worsens your depression, but you can't even start to treat the depression until you are free from the addiction. Yeah that makes sense and I don't mean to discount people who didn't start with any major psychological issues either. Like people who start drinking or doing drugs purely recreationally and just weren't ever able to kick the habit. Like a lot of people I started drinking heavily in college and just kind of never stopped. I think my hatred of that particular phrase is just my own irrational peeve.
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My office apparently now has a gnat infestation. I've killed at least 10 of them already today. I was worried it was me somehow, but as it's gotten worse, I've noticed them in other areas. I'm buying a Venus fly trap tonight.
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Aug 2, 2018 20:08
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MightyJoe36 posted:What do I have to be depressed about? (actually said to me on more than one occasion.) “Ignorant assholes that don’t understand mental illness & make dumbass assumptions”
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Always wondered how you would know it if you had a minor form of depression. EDIT: Anyone here with parking/driving pet peeves will love this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jetEMPrPCF0 Apparently police in Russia rarely enforce certain traffic laws. Midig has a new favorite as of 21:30 on Aug 2, 2018 |
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Midig posted:Always wondered how you would know it if you had a minor form of depression. Hell, I didn't know it when I had pretty major depression. I just thought I was a broken, useless failure who couldn't hack it the way everyone else seemed to be able to, and that's how it would be for my whole life. It was actually a huge relief when I finally got sent to a therapist who said "Uh, no, that's not how it has to be forever. We can treat this."
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I’m gonna start honking and/or screaming at bikers and pedestrians who almost get hit by my car. I am the most paranoid driver I know but there’s ALWAYS some moron pedestrian who walks through a DO NOT WALK sign when I have a turn arrow (especially if they’re on their phone) or just now, some psycho biker just CUTS IN FRONT OF ME FROM THE LEFT???? Bikers are supposed to bike on the RIGHT. You and I are lucky I was going 5mph and could slam on my drat brakes otherwise you would be dead and I’d be in jail. From this moment on I’m slamming on my horn on anyone who does either of these things. Btw side note I’m parked, I don’t type while driving, which is a whole other thing entirely. E: just noticed some jackass left their big rear end dog in their car and it’s like 100 degrees outside. This isn’t even a pet peeve. This is pure hatred. My phone just happens to be open to this page. Thin Privilege has a new favorite as of 23:17 on Aug 2, 2018 |
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I've called the police on someone for leaving their dog shut up in the car in sky-high summer temps. That's just abuse.
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Parasol Prophet posted:Hell, I didn't know it when I had pretty major depression. I just thought I was a broken, useless failure who couldn't hack it the way everyone else seemed to be able to, and that's how it would be for my whole life. It's extremely difficult to pin down without outside help, yeah. I thought things didn't interest me, I thought I was incapable of normal tasks, I thought I was romantically unlovable, I never had any energy or drive to do things, I slept whenever or not at all. It all felt "normal". Other people just had a problem with it. Now I recognize the patterns and self-sabotage because of counseling and reading, and am able to say, go for a walk or drink a glass of water before I end up on a couch in a darkened room thinking about how I'll struggle with money and happiness until I die.
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Parasol Prophet posted:Hell, I didn't know it when I had pretty major depression. I just thought I was a broken, useless failure who couldn't hack it the way everyone else seemed to be able to, and that's how it would be for my whole life. Same for me. I thought all that emptiness was part of my anxiety until I mentioned to my dad about how the medication I was on treated depression too, but hey, I don't have that! Then came the talk that, no, he's actually pretty sure I *am* depressed too, I was just only listed as having anxiety due to a panic attack in the 5th grade that I STILL have no idea what was prompted by, listed the symptoms, and I'm just going, "...Huh" in my brain. Then I went to Google and that turned to "OH!"
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In that same vein, the number of assholes who get weirded out/judgemental/preachy as soon as you mention that you're in/ have been to therapy is just astounding. I've been going off and on since I was a toddler, and I'm pretty sure it keeps me more sane/functional than I would be without it!
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Those god damned metal plates they lay down in the street to cover up unfinished work by a road crew. I hate slowing down for them, I hate driving over them even at a reduced speed, and I have the stubborn certainty of a credulous stay-at-home mom posting a Facebook comment about "toxins" that they are loving up my tires and shocks.
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Chef Bourgeoisie posted:In that same vein, the number of assholes who get weirded out/judgemental/preachy as soon as you mention that you're in/ have been to therapy is just astounding. This, along with the ones who do the same for anyone taking antidepressants and/or anti-anxiety meds. "It's a crutch"; "You're just weak." Yeah, and you can't go five minutes without smoking a cigarette, or stuffing your fat pie hole, and you need 2 Vicoden when you stub your toe.
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MightyJoe36 posted:This, along with the ones who do the same for anyone taking antidepressants and/or anti-anxiety meds. "It's a crutch"; "You're just weak." There’s many studies showing links between statements like the ones you used and the people making them being full of self loathing, depression, and a myriad of other problems. These manifest in the actions you listed (eating, drugs etc) as well as things like correcting other people’s grammar and personal attacks on others for no reason. Btw, you used “vicoden” when it should have been “Vicodin” you complete goddam idiot
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Another tip-off is when anyone tries to minimize your problems by saying, "That's normal! Everyone is like that!" No, not everyone is like that...but that person probably is, and either is un-self-aware or in denial.
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oldpainless posted:There’s many studies showing links between statements like the ones you used and the people making them being full of self loathing, depression, and a myriad of other problems. These manifest in the actions you listed (eating, drugs etc) as well as things like correcting other people’s grammar and personal attacks on others for no reason. poo poo, I didn't even know you could read.
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MightyJoe36 posted:poo poo, I didn't even know you could read. I’ve been able to read for years!
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parents that scream at their kids in public I don't like hearing kids screaming at all but like you're honestly worse, tbqh, imo
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oldpainless posted:I’ve been able to read for years! More like oldilliteracyless.
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The Snoo posted:parents that scream at their kids in public There was one mom at the water play area at the zoo who had no chill, she couldn't just let the kid play like all the other parents there. she kept repeatedly yelling his name every time he did a Kid Thing with Other Kids and of course his name was Cayden. Not sure about the spelling but who loving cares, it is just the most irritating name to hear repeated every thirty seconds in that voice.
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Wife and I plan on having kids somewhat soon and I'm probably going to whistle at them the same way I do with our dog. Will this be more obnoxious than constant shouting, or less? I have not told my wife about this plan. My grandpa used to whistle at servers in restaurants, I do not do that at least.
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Inspector 34 posted:Wife and I plan on having kids somewhat soon and I'm probably going to whistle at them the same way I do with our dog. Will this be more obnoxious than constant shouting, or less? I have not told my wife about this plan. My grandpa used to whistle at servers in restaurants, I do not do that at least.  How about talking to them???? Normally???
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