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Rad-daddio
Apr 25, 2017

alpaca diseases posted:

cut out the fake plastic middleman and just use your homies rear end next time imo sexventure goon

Sounds like yous have the sort of relationship where he’d be open to considering it

"bro, I broke my dick and/or rear end while screwing a heavy sex toy. Do me a solid and go clean it up before my wife gets home?"

"Yeah bro! No problem. Uh, you got some gloves there right?"

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bell jar
Feb 25, 2009

Turns out that confessions suck when there's a poster attached to it

Elephant Parade
Jan 20, 2018

Zero VGS posted:

That's my other confession... my favorite porn is that pornhub stuff where someone holds their smartphone over/under the stall and catches the other person fapping at work. I feel bad about it because obviously I'd be loving furious if someone did that to me, but at least the ones where they don't get the person's face, or blur it out, I can feel not completely sleazy about. There's something really hot about that to me; porn actors know they have a camera on them, and amateurs adjust their behavior too. Only when you catch people completely unaware can you get a candid window into real human sexuality, and that's beautiful to me, even if the methods to procure it are disgusting. Another reason why I feel guilty about having a sex drive.
This is incredibly hosed up. What you are doing—watching creep-cams of people masturbating taken without their knowledge or consent—is morally wrong and you need to stop.

Zero VGS
Aug 16, 2002
ASK ME ABOUT HOW HUMAN LIVES THAT MADE VIDEO GAME CONTROLLERS ARE WORTH MORE
Lipstick Apathy

Elephant Parade posted:

This is incredibly hosed up. What you are doing—watching creep-cams of people masturbating taken without their knowledge or consent—is morally wrong and you need to stop.

Well yeah, that's exactly what I just said: it's hosed up, I feel bad about it, and I want to stop. That's literally what a confession is, right? At least in the Catholic sense.

Edit: It's interesting how many problems ITT can be solved by cutting your dick off. I actually ordered licorice root because it blocks testosterone, but turns out it was loving with my potassium absorption.

Zero VGS fucked around with this message at 09:18 on Sep 13, 2018

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Zero, (a) these are supposed to be anonymous, and (b) please stop illegally taking drugs to help rid you of your impurities and see a therapist instead

Even in a vacuum without the other stuff, "I find this genre of porn morally repugnant but simply can't stop myself from using it" is a red flag. Considering chemically castrating yourself to stop masturbating is probably the biggest red flag.

That's what I'd tell an anon and so that's what I'll tell you :shrug:

D-Pad
Jun 28, 2006

Zero VGS posted:


Jeez, I hope not. Is that from personal experience, anecdotes from friends, or a study?

I wonder if I could cycle between similar drugs like Naloxone or Nalmexone without developing a cross-tolerance? Guess I'll research that.

I was told this by an addiction medicine doctor.

ALFbrot
Apr 17, 2002

Zero VGS posted:

That's my other confession... my favorite porn is that pornhub stuff where someone holds their smartphone over/under the stall and catches the other person fapping at work. I feel bad about it because obviously I'd be loving furious if someone did that to me, but at least the ones where they don't get the person's face, or blur it out, I can feel not completely sleazy about. There's something really hot about that to me; porn actors know they have a camera on them, and amateurs adjust their behavior too. Only when you catch people completely unaware can you get a candid window into real human sexuality, and that's beautiful to me, even if the methods to procure it are disgusting. Another reason why I feel guilty about having a sex drive.


This is probably a bad time to mention that I'm a fan of Soylent drinks, huh? OK, that's about as far as I'm willing to volunteer. I'm a piece of work.

close the thread

sandoz
Jan 29, 2009


loquacius posted:

Puzzle goon sent a followup, not about puzzle store recs unfortunately:

lol this is funny because I actually ordered a different cat puzzle from amazon BEFORE reading this post

kalel
Jun 19, 2012

loquacius posted:

Zero, (a) these are supposed to be anonymous,

technically it is anonymous. I'd wager very few of us know the real identities of more than one or two goons

lol but
Feb 24, 2007

body is a dinosaur
Slippery Tilde
everyone is their avatar and no forensic science will sway me from this belief

Elephant Parade
Jan 20, 2018

SciFiDownBeat posted:

technically it is anonymous. I'd wager very few of us know the real identities of more than one or two goons
it's pseudonymous

Azza Bamboo
Apr 7, 2018


THUNDERDOME LOSER 2021
It's a post truth world in which our online identities have become more of our self than our real world interactions.

Zero VGS
Aug 16, 2002
ASK ME ABOUT HOW HUMAN LIVES THAT MADE VIDEO GAME CONTROLLERS ARE WORTH MORE
Lipstick Apathy

loquacius posted:

Zero, (a) these are supposed to be anonymous, and (b) please stop illegally taking drugs to help rid you of your impurities and see a therapist instead

Even in a vacuum without the other stuff, "I find this genre of porn morally repugnant but simply can't stop myself from using it" is a red flag. Considering chemically castrating yourself to stop masturbating is probably the biggest red flag.

That's what I'd tell an anon and so that's what I'll tell you :shrug:

a) Whups, I'll use the anonymous mail next time, didn't realize that was a requirement. I was posting for a friend anyway, it's just easier to write in the first person.

b) Therapy doesn't do jack for some people; changing sexual orientation through therapy is considered impossible by today's doctors and scientists, so I think it's fair to say that changing taste in porn is difficult or ineffective at best. Official advice in therapy literature is stuff like "tell the patient to try that porn right after they orgasm and maybe they'll be train themselves to be less interested in it that way". That's seriously the best we've got - a laughable concept if you've actually tried. I appreciate it but if things aren't working then I don't think there's any shame in self-medicating. That's what all of TCC and most of America does.

Danaru
Jun 5, 2012

何 ??
Jacking it to privacy invasion isnt a loving sexual orientation, get some therapy dipshit

sugar free jazz
Mar 5, 2008

Confessing for a friend I like 2 have sex with animals well thx for reading ((:

lol but
Feb 24, 2007

body is a dinosaur
Slippery Tilde

sugar free jazz posted:

Confessing for a friend I like 2 have sex with animals well thx for reading ((:

if its geese/a specific goose then your friend (;D) is a braver man than me

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Zero VGS posted:

a) Whups, I'll use the anonymous mail next time, didn't realize that was a requirement. I was posting for a friend anyway, it's just easier to write in the first person.

b) Therapy doesn't do jack for some people; changing sexual orientation through therapy is considered impossible by today's doctors and scientists, so I think it's fair to say that changing taste in porn is difficult or ineffective at best. Official advice in therapy literature is stuff like "tell the patient to try that porn right after they orgasm and maybe they'll be train themselves to be less interested in it that way". That's seriously the best we've got - a laughable concept if you've actually tried. I appreciate it but if things aren't working then I don't think there's any shame in self-medicating. That's what all of TCC and most of America does.

I'm not trying to convince your friend to stop masturbating or even to, like, train himself to not like a certain kind of porn, I'm saying that those posts indicated someone with a whole lot of hangups and impossible standards for themselves to the point of, again, considering chemical castration as "self-medication" for having a sex drive. There's a whole lot of issues at play here. You're correct in that going to therapy specifically to turn off the weird-porn switch in your head won't work, because the human brain is a complex machine, but that just makes it all the more important to do the right kind of maintenance on it. Buying black-market drugs to stop jerking off is not the right kind of maintenance.

And yeah liking a specific porn genre is not the same thing as a sexual orientation and nobody was suggesting conversion therapy

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

Azza Bamboo posted:

It's a post truth world in which our online identities have become more of our self than our real world interactions.

A man in a mask will show you his true face.

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

SUCK A MALE CAMEL'S DICK WITH MIRACLE WHIP!!

lol but seriously I posted:

everyone is their avatar and no forensic science will sway me from this belief

Am I the picture or caption?

Azza Bamboo
Apr 7, 2018


THUNDERDOME LOSER 2021

wesleywillis posted:

Am I the picture or caption?

Yes.

Nobody loves Trump more than Trump.

kalel
Jun 19, 2012

loqacious is lying, it's perfectly okay to make a confession directly in the thread, as long as it's innocent and not completely nuts like yours

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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I love this thread sometimes.

kalel
Jun 19, 2012

My non-anonymous confession is that most dogs and cats are not cute at all. Only my dog and my friend's girlfriend's dog are cute.

Zero VGS
Aug 16, 2002
ASK ME ABOUT HOW HUMAN LIVES THAT MADE VIDEO GAME CONTROLLERS ARE WORTH MORE
Lipstick Apathy

loquacius posted:

I'm not trying to convince your friend to stop masturbating or even to, like, train himself to not like a certain kind of porn, I'm saying that those posts indicated someone with a whole lot of hangups and impossible standards for themselves to the point of, again, considering chemical castration as "self-medication" for having a sex drive. There's a whole lot of issues at play here. You're correct in that going to therapy specifically to turn off the weird-porn switch in your head won't work, because the human brain is a complex machine, but that just makes it all the more important to do the right kind of maintenance on it. Buying black-market drugs to stop jerking off is not the right kind of maintenance.

And yeah liking a specific porn genre is not the same thing as a sexual orientation and nobody was suggesting conversion therapy

I definitely agree they're not the same thing, just that they're both things that make your boner move involuntarily and thus are extremely difficult to change. I'll agree too that you shouldn't want to change your orientation, and you should want to move away from ethically problematic porn.

Maintenance is a good way of putting it. It's ironic because my privacy has been violated by therapists before; a chaplain, who is the only kind of therapist available when you're in the military, threatened to rat me out for being gay, which was really traumatic. I've seen my own psychiatric file compromised as well because a doctor tossed it up on Google Drive because he was too lazy to properly log into a HIPAA-compliant medical records server and wanted a shortcut. So, I have a justified distrust for therapists.

I was actually looking into one of those online therapy things that use licensed therapists, and doing some elaborate stuff with pre-paid credit cards or Bitcoins to get myself 100% anonymous. Maybe I should take another look back into that route.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

The process of finding a therapist who is both competent and a good match for you is definitely way too hard. If I had the time to write a phone app I'd probably make a therapist/patient matchmaker platform, because that's an extremely unfilled need.

I like my therapist a lot and can offer to point you at his office (since I know you live in the Boston area), or if you have a primary-care physician you trust (you should have one of these) you can ask for a referral, but honestly if you'd rather go the Extremely Online route that's better than nothing. I don't have enough experience in that area to speak for or against it. Give it a shot :shrug:

e: I just realized I unwittingly missed an opportunity to sincerely say "see thread title"

loquacius fucked around with this message at 18:04 on Sep 13, 2018

keppke
Mar 3, 2013

Azza Bamboo posted:

It's a post truth world in which our online identities have become more of our self than our real world interactions.

I think this is true for most people that uses a lot of internet, it is true for me at least

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

SciFiDownBeat posted:

My non-anonymous confession is that most dogs and cats are not cute at all. Only my dog and my friend's girlfriend's dog are cute.

I require visual evidence to confirm.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

SciFiDownBeat posted:

My non-anonymous confession is that most dogs and cats are not cute at all. Only my dog and my friend's girlfriend's dog are cute.

counterpoint: my dog is cute

I'm sorry, the numbers don't lie

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

.
All dogs over 30lbs are cute. Even the ugly ones.

Gynovore
Jun 17, 2009

Forget your RoboCoX or your StickyCoX or your EvilCoX, MY CoX has Blinking Bewbs!

WHY IS THIS GAME DEAD?!

Elephant Parade posted:

This is incredibly hosed up. What you are doing—watching creep-cams of people masturbating taken without their knowledge or consent—is morally wrong and you need to stop.

Dude, chill. All that poo poo is staged.

ALFbrot
Apr 17, 2002

Gynovore posted:

Dude, chill. All that poo poo is staged.

lol

BENGHAZI 2
Oct 13, 2007

by Cyrano4747

Solice Kirsk posted:

All dogs over 30lbs are cute. Even the ugly ones.

My mom's dogs are eighty plus pounds each

At some point they just become lumps that you can't help but love

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

I should probably post some regular content

quote:

So, I've been married for over 20 years to a woman I met in high school. All that time, I've sort of just...settled. My wife was a thicker gal when we were younger, and I was totally okay with that. However, in the intervening years she's gained over a hundred lbs. She's just a bit over 300 lbs now, and I hate it. Not only that, but she's incredibly lazy. After having our kids, she had mild depression, but she never got help for it outside of a diagnosis from her MD. So, I ended up taking care of everything. I raised my two kids, I take care of the house, I pay the bills, I do the grocery shopping. Literally everything is done by me. Occasionally, she'll manage to cook a meal. But, it's usually some grease saturated nightmare and I'll have to clean the entire kitchen afterwards because she's just destroyed it.

At the time, I was hoping she'd take the free time to work on herself. Go to a gym, find friends with a healthy outlook. She's done none of that. She just goes to work, comes home and sits on the couch and reads. She used to do Weight Watchers, but she stopped doing that also.

I think what's bothering me the most is that I actually took care of myself as years passed. I'm 41, but I'm in great shape and I also took care of my skin so I look like I'm in my early 30's. I'm not trying to brag, I just figured that's what people do as they get older, they take care of themselves.

I've tolerated this relationship since my wife is still like my best friend. You spend 20+ years with anyone, and you're likely to grow attached, attraction or not. That's also part of why I've stuck around. part of me thinks that she'll wake up one day and have an epiphany where she starts exercising or giving a poo poo about things.

Things in the bedroom are dying slowly, mainly because I'm not really interested in having sex with someone who just lays there, and is also 300+lbs. She claims I need steroid therapy because of my low testosterone and lack of sex drive, and I keep biting my tongue so I don't blurt out that I don't find land whales attractive.

Now onto the health problems. Given my wife's severe, criminal obesity, she's starting to have mobility issues. it's just joint pains right now, but I know for a fact that her skeleton can't support how much she weighs. As I see it, I have a few more years until I'm a fit and attractive middle aged dude following behind my wife as she rides a mobility scooter everywhere. I didn't sign up for this. If she was injured in an accident, I'd support her to the death and care for her until the day I died. But, as I see it she's just a victim of her own laziness and bad diet.

Our outlooks on life are vastly different also. I've always been somewhat optimistic and upbeat. I'm successful at work, and I make good money. I may be in a position to buy the company I work at, and I'm considering making the jump. My wife has been camped at the same do nothing desk job for over 20 years. She's pessimistic, and thinks that everyone is out to get her, or owes her something. Naturally, she doesn't want me to buy the company since I'd be spending more time at work than at home taking care of her.

Maybe this is just the typical mid life crisis getting ready to go off. I don't know. I've tried to help my wife in the past. But, there's only so many times you can bring up your spouse's weight without seeming like an rear end in a top hat. I could only do so much, especially with all the other stuff I've had to take care of over the years. I apologize if I'm coming off as an rear end in a top hat or anything like that. I'm just fed up, and I feel like I'm coming out of some kind of hibernation where I'm waking up and realizing that I can still make a great life for myself. I can have a relationship with a healthy woman who's also motivated and kind and at least makes an effort to take care of themselves.

Long story short; wife is gigantic and bad, and I am not. I'm considering separation or divorce.

I say go for it because you are miserable

Like, honestly your wife sounds like a chore to be around and a gigantic dark cloud fogging your entire life, or that's how it sounds from your account, anyway. If she was exactly the same in all ways except that she had some kind of magical super-metabolism that would cause her to be a normal weight with her horrible diet and personal habits, would you be happy in your marriage? (I posit that no, you would not)

Her weight is a symptom, and the main problem has many symptoms, one of which is that you are miserable. Detach yourself from her and move on with your life.

This one is 9/11-focused so I should probably preface it by saying it's a couple days old and was sent in on 9/11:

quote:

i had a bit of an anxiety attack today because an interviewer thought it'd be cheeky and fun to ask where i was on 9/11. guess that's how you spot "cultural fit"?

what do you say to that? if i say i dont want to talk about it, the office gossips will google stalk me, find out i didn't have anyone die, and whisper that i stole valor or some poo poo. (it's happened before.)

so i lie. i pick out the bits that sound normal, because the truth is i was in an "approved private school" AKA a reform school. I wrote it up once for boing boing on a lark when I was especially down:

https://boingboing.net/2013/01/05/pedagogyofthedepressed.html

it was really abusive and lovely. i have a deviated septum and i don't know if it's slander to blame them, since i also got beat up in the psych ward when i felt like killing myself that one time :smith:


i know i should put it in perspective - i know someone who did lose someone back then for example.

to be honest, it's the passing, the faking that sucks. i've seen people suffer for outing themselves. people assume autism is a superpower that makes you touch computers good. it isn't. you can pass, learn to be social and poo poo, but it's hard. you have to actively think and parse each word people say, it's not... automatic. any convo over 30 minutes or so is super draining. a coping strategy is to speak less, listen more, but then you aren't networking, you're at best that quiet guy...

anyways sorry for talking so much. it's been a really bad day.

i'm going to go watch bob ross on netflix and zone out for a bit. maybe some people can submit some uplifting feshes - like, as a favor?

thanks for your work loq, i like reading your posts. (all of them not just the feshes)

Honestly if people ask you this question a lot you can probably just be really vague instead of refusing to answer. That doesn't work for a job interview, but uhhh that's a pretty hosed-up job interview question tbh so don't worry about it.

The article was well-written by the way -- I'm currently workposting so I didn't read it particularly in-depth, but *looks directly at stylometry goon* my wife would probably appreciate it and I'll pass it along :tipshat:

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

SUCK A MALE CAMEL'S DICK WITH MIRACLE WHIP!!
*runs to check the "my 600 pound life" thread to see if I can figure out who fat wife goon is.

Elephant Parade
Jan 20, 2018

Gynovore posted:

Dude, chill. All that poo poo is staged.
OP sure didn't seem to think so, and I imagine websites for sharing that kind of poo poo exist

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

SUCK A MALE CAMEL'S DICK WITH MIRACLE WHIP!!

Elephant Parade posted:

OP sure didn't seem to think so, and I imagine websites for sharing that kind of poo poo exist

What a liar, next thing they'll be saying that like baby sitter, and step parent/sibling, bang bus and whatever else porn is staged too.

BENGHAZI 2
Oct 13, 2007

by Cyrano4747

Elephant Parade posted:

OP sure didn't seem to think so, and I imagine websites for sharing that kind of poo poo exist

Creepshot poo poo absolutely exists

RCarr
Dec 24, 2007

Why wouldn't you just say "I was in school on 9/11." You idiot. You absolute loving moron.

Elephant Parade
Jan 20, 2018

wesleywillis posted:

What a liar, next thing they'll be saying that like baby sitter, and step parent/sibling, bang bus and whatever else porn is staged too.
:rolleyes: If he said he was finding this stuff on regular porn sites, I'd be agreeing with the naysayers. But he left it ambiguous, so there's a high chance he's looking at real creepshots

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keppke
Mar 3, 2013
to the husband of a whale anon: Before just leaving you should try confronting her, the way you narrate things seems like you suffer silently and she isn't aware of you point of view. A rude comment can do wonders to proud people. If she is not willing to work on herself then leave her because it clearly sounds like it's a deal breaker for you. best of luck

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