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Don't get hung up on the idea that you need a close romantic partner to be happy, then you end up seeing the first person who treats you with any level of interest like an angel sent from heaven and fall for an idea of them that isn't real At least in my experience anyway
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keyboard vomit posted:Don't get hung up on the idea that you need a close romantic partner to be happy, then you end up seeing the first person who treats you with any level of interest like an angel sent from heaven and fall for an idea of them that isn't real yep thats like the #1 reason Ive been avoiding this poo poo I am prone to it and I recognize that my approach is tremendously hosed up
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but then again, does that mean Im just never going to try?
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Pollyanna posted:but then again, does that mean Im just never going to try? that's been my strategy
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Pollyanna posted:yep thats like the #1 reason Ive been avoiding this poo poo I'm gonna ask a serious question: do you have an ongoing relationship with a therapist? you often have fears and questions that a good therapist can help you with. therapy is a better solution than just avoiding dating because you're afraid of your own tendencies.
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Casual Encountess posted:start by paying your gas bill on time lmao
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jit bull transpile posted:I'm gonna ask a serious question: do you have an ongoing relationship with a therapist? you often have fears and questions that a good therapist can help you with. yep, thats a New Years res I have - though Ive only had a couple of therapists that Ive actually had good experiences with, cause they often end up as sounding boards for my anxieties and worries and not much else (or they become way too focused on my parents) Im going to make sure the next therapist I get is a good match!!!
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jit bull transpile posted:I'm gonna ask a serious question: do you have an ongoing relationship with a therapist? you often have fears and questions that a good therapist can help you with. yeah this is what i was going to say but didn't want to sound confrontational. therapy is relationship school (or can be)
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Pollyanna posted:...but I kinda want a long term partner...its just only something that happens over a long time of being with someone. and uhh has a high likelihood of going horribly wrong. but still! everything is risk you're probably not going to do great your first or your second or your fifth time out. and sometimes things have a life and they are great and they run their course. that is not failure that is just life.
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i love pollyanna but she can be really bad at doing every day things
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ultravoices posted:
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Pollyanna posted:wow I’m broken 
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Who among us is functioning properly
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keyboard vomit posted:Who among us is functioning properly Not me
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keyboard vomit posted:Who among us is functioning properly i put the functional in dysfunctional
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we don't need any of you functional programming zealots itt
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jit bull transpile posted:we don't need any of you functional programming zealots itt
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Fatty Crabcakes posted:yeah, keep your monads to yourselves, weirdos 
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speaking of relationship school maybe when I learn how to do it Ill start a training course or sth goon project
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Fatty Crabcakes posted:yeah, keep your monads to yourselves, weirdos monads in the lightning, in the lightning, in the rain
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Oh great, now strife is inevitable
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Fatty Crabcakes posted:Oh great, now strife is inevitable hope nobody is suffering from any hypothermia this Xmas
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keyboard vomit posted:Don't get hung up on the idea that you need a close romantic partner to be happy, then you end up seeing the first person who treats you with any level of interest like an angel sent from heaven and fall for an idea of them that isn't real this i have someone right now who's trying to be that way towards me and it's really annoying. they're recently out and recently on HRT so i am trying to be kind, but i have given them so much distance. it's a huge turn off to me and it should be for anyone else if they want to save themselves trouble on a related note: i was at a house party last night and i think a girl who i either liked or had liked me on Her was there. i dunno if we recognised each other but it was kind of funny
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distance is healthy
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one of my co-workers just transferred to another office and I'm writing a "hey it's been great to have you on the team, sorry to see you go." email. Would it be weird to point her to yospos / this thread? She started transitioning a year or so ago and I feel like this is a pretty welcoming forum for trans people in tech + I've learned plenty here. In the past i def wouldn't because then they could see my bad posting, but now we're on different teams so it doesn't matter.
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thats fine? this community is not likely to have much natural discovery at this point on (tho we did get a few new users from that ex-Tesla employee going viral) so as the active user base shrinks word of mouth is probably a good idea. this place self enforces standards too, but they can probably get it if theyre online a lot and observe a bit. just keep in mind its a public space and some other boards or even threads might not be so nice necessarily
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but yeah this place is good. its a p queer and left leaning tech community with a good balance of expertise and stupid jokes
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Found out the queer-friendly communist bookstore moved and is now a couple blocks from my office. They do food and coffee and have all-gender bathrooms, so if I ever get hassled in the work bathrooms and want to stay away for a bit I can dip by there. Got a few books on trans stuff and a book on syndicalism and the FAI and stuff.
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Fujoshisaur posted:Found out the queer-friendly communist bookstore moved and is now a couple blocks from my office. They do food and coffee and have all-gender bathrooms, so if I ever get hassled in the work bathrooms and want to stay away for a bit I can dip by there. Got a few books on trans stuff and a book on syndicalism and the FAI and stuff. that sounds amazing
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We were talking about gender neutral language in the Mestizone (the Latinx/Hispanic thread on SA). Link to that thread - https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3813960&pagenumber=8&perpage=40 This interesting Twitter thread got posted about the word Latinx from a Mexican perspective. https://twitter.com/DavidOBowles/status/1076913379422490626?s=19 E: nothing to see here, la la la WrenP-Complete fucked around with this message at 00:35 on Dec 29, 2018 |
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WrenP-Complete posted:We were talking about gender neutral language in the Mestizone (the Latinx/Hispanic thread on SA). Link to that thread - https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3813960&pagenumber=8&perpage=40 this is really good, thank you
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WrenP-Complete posted:We were talking about gender neutral language in the Mestizone (the Latinx/Hispanic thread on SA). Link to that thread - https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3813960&pagenumber=8&perpage=40 thank you for sharing this
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Illusive gently caress Man posted:one of my co-workers just transferred to another office and I'm writing a "hey it's been great to have you on the team, sorry to see you go." email. Would it be weird to point her to yospos / this thread? She started transitioning a year or so ago and I feel like this is a pretty welcoming forum for trans people in tech + I've learned plenty here. In the past i def wouldn't because then they could see my bad posting, but now we're on different teams so it doesn't matter. keep the internet as far away from your personal and professional life as you possibly can
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SmokaDustbowl posted:keep the internet as far away from your personal and professional life as you possibly can this x1000
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the best part of being trans is hiding it constantly for fear of getting assaulted for not passing, and also the substance abuse
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SmokaDustbowl posted:the best part of being trans is hiding it constantly for fear of getting assaulted for not passing, and also the substance abuse if you dont address this properly you might end up killing yourself one way or another. Im serious, its a much more pressing concern than a fear of others
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OldAlias posted:if you dont address this properly you might end up killing yourself one way or another. Im serious, its a much more pressing concern than a fear of others I'm old, it's ok
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