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tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe
Yo send me one of those millennium falcons

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Splicer
Oct 16, 2006

from hell's heart I cast at thee
🧙🐀🧹🌙🪄🐸

Subjunctive posted:

I hope this is one of those spinning bookcases that reveals your play tables and mead collection.
What do you think happened to the other $200,000 of warhams?

Sjs00
Jun 29, 2013

Yeah Baby Yeah !
Legos are stupid. They just made the entire Star Wars Saga on Lego for console. There's probably loving VR Lego Batman or something.
These are really fake lately.

Alcoholic goon imagine drinking so much actually and needing to be told it's a lot of drinking
Just don't drive around me rear end in a top hat

Splicer
Oct 16, 2006

from hell's heart I cast at thee
🧙🐀🧹🌙🪄🐸

Sjs00 posted:

Legos are stupid. They just made the entire Star Wars Saga on Lego for console. There's probably loving VR Lego Batman or something.
These are really fake lately.

Alcoholic goon imagine drinking so much actually and needing to be told it's a lot of drinking
Just don't drive around me rear end in a top hat
Oh he won't drive around anything.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

I'm in my early 40's and am starting to have problems maintaining an erection during sex. I'm not even getting morning wood anymore. This all started about a month ago and it's really bumming me out because I just started jumping back into the dating game and only had about 6 months before all this stuff started happening.

I've been going to my same doctor since I was about 12 years old, and I'm finding it hard to bring something like this up to him. Does anyone know if these online ED prescription places work at all? I know it's more expensive for the scripts, but I'd honestly be fine with that if I didn't have to mention anything to my doctor about this. I'm from a small town and really don't want this to start floating around.

No idea honestly, I'm not at an age where I have to think about stuff like that, buuuuut I wouldn't worry about your doctor telling everyone in town you asked for boner pills, that seems unlikely

If it seems likely to you for actual concrete reasons beyond anxiety, you should find a new doctor because that's insanely lovely

ED drugs wouldn't be such a huge industry if tons of guys didn't go through issues like this when they hit middle age; it's very common and not something to be ashamed of. Ask your doctor if you think you can trust them, and if not, find a doctor you can trust.

quote:

I was practically a recluse for almost a decade and haven't dated in 5 years because i have severe complex PTSD from years of abuse and abandonment as a child. I recently decided to start hanging out with people again mainly because i was bullied out of one of my jobs by a new boss who fired our whole department and my father (my abuser) was recently put in hospice. I was in a vulnerable place but suddenly had extra free time and wanted to try to be social again.

I started reconnecting with friends and immediately met a guy. We were friends at first and everything was going great for me socially and i thought i was finally going to be able to be around people again and have a full life. Then it soon became clear me this guy i met and me were into each other. We made out casually at first but I told him i didn't want to do anything serious unless we were a real couple because i had undergone serious longterm abuse and have abandonment issues because of it so i need to be careful w my emotions but he seemed ok with that so it eventually moved that way. At first it was magical and he was so wonderful then after we got serious, he began freaking out on me and doing things that triggered my ptsd and abandonment issues like ghosting me for days at a time, talking about missing exes and wanting to gently caress my best friend, saying he didn't believe in love or marriage, saying he wanted to drink himself to death, saying nothing matters cuz the world is about to end, threatening to disappear all together, drinking himself into oblivion, and breaking up w me randomly and getting back together w me for things like finding out people in our friend group knew a secret about him he failed to hide well or because he would suddenly decided he didnt like people caring about him and wanted to be alone.

I ignored the red flags because by that time i was hooked and into him and thought i could fix it but he made me more and more insecure and triggered and once my issues were triggered it made him pull away more which made me clingy. The more clingy i became the more he pulled away causing a bad cycle. He eventually broke up w me in a horrible way saying was fat and ugly and stupid and a trash person who deserved the abuse i got from my dad etc. He even put his hands on me and threw me on the ground leaving bruises on my legs and arms. At that point i became truly triggered and couldnt let go and just wanted to fix it and make it like it was when we first got together and began texting a lot and looking for him at his hangouts or his house to talk and fix it because i wanted a quick relief from the crushing pain and abandonment i felt from having someone treat me this way that i became intimate with and gave my heart to.

He ended up calling the cops on me a month after we officially stopped being "together" and blocking me and saying he hated me and that i was a stalker and that everything that went wrong in our relationship is all and only my fault and that soon id snap and kill myself and he wouldnt care. I never got in legal trouble but im ashamed that i behaved that way and even more ashamed that im still having a hard time letting go. I havent spoken to him in weeks but i still hope he will want to be my friend one day or at least give us a chance to end things more nicely. ive had to go back into reclusion and isolate myself from everyone and be solitary because i am so triggered and messed up from it. I'm usually a strong person but when im triggered im a mess and i wish i didn't act the way i did, that it didnt end this way, and that i didn't care that he obviously never wants to have anything to do with me again.

i don't know how long it will take before im not triggered anymore and back to myself and able to be around people again. i also don't know how something so good could end up so bad and i dont know if he ever really cared about me or wanted anything more from me than a fling even though i was careful to express i did not want to have just a fling with someone. I don't think ill ever be able to let go of the hope we can reconcile and things could be ok between us again one day and im more afraid than ever of letting myself be around people or fall in love again. I hosed up royally.

I read all of this (and added linebreaks) and I didn't see a single good thing about this dude to make him worth pursuing. Seriously just :sever:. Trying to use a toxic relationship like this as a coping mechanism for your issues is an incredibly bad idea, and it kind of sounds like both of you were doing that. I'm sorry you've gone through all of this stuff, but it's time to seek out some real treatment for it before you end up in another situation like this (or the same situation like this for one second longer, honestly).

Bust Rodd
Oct 21, 2008

by VideoGames
PTSD goon(nette):

If someone puts their hands on you they are trash, they won’t ever respect you, and they never respected you in the first place.

They transparently agreed to date you for physical intimacy, and now they they got a piece the mask is off. Delete this loser’s number and don’t rush into the actual first relationship you’ve had in 5 years.

Nocheez
Sep 5, 2000

Can you spare a little cheddar?
Nap Ghost
If you're having trouble with your dick, go to a doctor and figure out what's going on. Could be just you need a pill once in a while, could be a problem with your prostate. Finding out sooner is always better than later.

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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Broke dick goon, I guarantee your doctor writes tons of prescriptions for dick pills. There's no way he'll care. You're probably just embarrassed. Talk to your doctor about stuff. It's what you pay them for.

Leviathan Song
Sep 8, 2010
A lot of the middle age slow down is your body failing to compensate for bad diet/exercercise. Young bodies can put up with a whole lot more abuse before they start to malfunction.

ED goon should also try a multivitamin, L-arginine/L-citrulline complex supplements, and exercise. Also eat a healthier diet. Even if it doesn't fix you're ED issues, all of that will make you healthier.

DivineCoffeeBinge
Mar 3, 2011

Spider-Man's Amazing Construction Company
Brokedick Goon, your early 40s is when your prostate starts to go to hell and your poo poo stops working properly. I guaran-drat-tee you your dick pills are not going to be the only dick pills that doc is prescribing. Just talk to the loving guy and get your dick pills.

Dawncloack
Nov 26, 2007
ECKS DEE!
Nap Ghost
Hey PTSD goonette:

The posters above are right. Also, I get it, man, one wants.some companionship and puts up with BS for the privilege, hoping the bad stuff will go away.

Unfortunately it doesn't. Trash dudes are trash. (Obviously there's a longer version, he was making you pay for his own mental issues, he's suffering too, etc.... but that's no justification for how he treated you).

Please, take care of yourself, heal and grow strong. I wont tell you to wait until you are firmly on your feet do date and all that, since... well... when is one ever totally ready? But at least work on yourself so that your own psyche doesnt get in the way of telling a toxic dude to just gently caress off.

Also don't feel bad for still having feelings for the trash dude. That's feelings at work. They are sticky, they have inertia.

I hope you'll be well and good things will happen for you, and I know it gets better, for you too.

sugar free jazz
Mar 5, 2008

Mid 40s goon you may want to consider cutting your dick off. It sounds like it’s causing a bunch of stress and if you can’t get an erection why even have a dick? Chop it off and enjoy the peaceful zen of never having to worry about erections again imo

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

SUCK A MALE CAMEL'S DICK WITH MIRACLE WHIP!!

sugar free jazz posted:

Mid 40s goon you may want to consider cutting your dick off. It sounds like it’s causing a bunch of stress and if you can’t get an erection why even have a dick? Chop it off and enjoy the peaceful zen of never having to worry about erections again imo

Give it time and he won't need to chop it off and clean up all that blood. He just won't get it up anymore....

kazr
Jan 28, 2005

Erectile dysfunction is commonly a first symptom indicator for heart disease. The blood vessels in your dong are small and as your lovely body's vascular system clogs up with cholesterol the dick is the first to go.

Get your cholesterol checked, do some minimal exercise, and stop eating garbage.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

It sounds like hippie nonsense but eating better and exercising helps with a surprising number of common afflictions

I really need to start exercising regularly again because it would help keep my brain from dissolving into ADHD slime and dripping out my ears

soy
Jul 7, 2003

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Regarding boner problems: just google blue chews or any if their competitors. You just fill out a form online and a doctor reviews it, but it’s virtually a rubber stamp.

Totally normal issue to have mid 30s on. Exercise, balanced diet, and healthy weight and muscle ratios can help but there’s no reason to suffer. The side effects of Cialis generics are virtually nil.

Also unless your doc is a complete dipshit, if you just straight up ask for boner help, they’ll give it to you. Unless there’s drug interaction or other health issues there’s no reason why they shouldn’t. If they don’t, fire them.

soy fucked around with this message at 01:23 on Aug 6, 2019

Bobby Digital
Sep 4, 2009


kazr posted:

Erectile dysfunction is commonly a first symptom indicator for heart disease. The blood vessels in your dong are small and as your lovely body's vascular system clogs up with cholesterol the dick is the first to go.

Get your cholesterol checked, do some minimal exercise, and stop eating garbage.

Losing weight meant more and better boners for me, it owns.

kazr
Jan 28, 2005

soy posted:

The side effects of Cialis generics are virtually nil.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4178948/

Study is on sildenafil (viagra) and not tadalafil (cialis) but they both have the same mechanism of action. Shutting down biological pathways in your body is always going to have poor side effects.

btw melanoma is the bad one

soy
Jul 7, 2003

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

kazr posted:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4178948/

Study is on sildenafil (viagra) and not tadalafil (cialis) but they both have the same mechanism of action. Shutting down biological pathways in your body is always going to have poor side effects.

btw melanoma is the bad one

oh please you're not going to experience any of this taking it every now and then for sexy times

if you're a sex addict seeing hookers every day and night then yeah maybe. don't do that.

kazr
Jan 28, 2005

soy posted:

oh please you're not going to experience any of this taking it every now and then for sexy times

if you're a sex addict seeing hookers every day and night then yeah maybe. don't do that.

Maybe, maybe not. Almost doubling the chances of a very aggressive cancer is pretty shocking though. I see first hand how much of this poo poo some people eat daily, and if your limp dick ain't working and you wanna gently caress your partner you're gonna keep taking it regularly.

The alternative is moderate exercise and diet lol

soy
Jul 7, 2003

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

kazr posted:

The alternative is moderate exercise and diet lol

A lot of perfectly fit people have boner problems.

But yeah, if you don't need it, don't take it. That said, I'd rather be dead than not be getting laid regularly.

My big issue turned out to be stress related. After a hard day working there's no way I'm getting a schlongdong without a back rub or something first.

kazr
Jan 28, 2005

Ya dicks full of atherosclerotic plaques son, roto root that hog

RCarr
Dec 24, 2007

kazr posted:

Ya dicks full of atherosclerotic plaques son, roto root that hog

This is sound advice.

Hauki
May 11, 2010


RCarr posted:

This is sound advice.

gross

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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Jam packed with blood and honey, my dickhole is ready to go.

mfcrocker
Jan 31, 2004



Hot Rope Guy

loquacius posted:

It sounds like hippie nonsense but eating better and exercising helps with a surprising number of common afflictions

I really need to start exercising regularly again because it would help keep my brain from dissolving into ADHD slime and dripping out my ears

The problem here being that ADHD makes it hard to get down the gym in the first place :P

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.
For most people now, have a consistent enough life with enough free time to do regular exercise and activities, and also having a reliable job to afford them, are mutually exclusive.

Bust Rodd
Oct 21, 2008

by VideoGames

Ghost Leviathan posted:

For most people now, have a consistent enough life with enough free time to do regular exercise and activities, and also having a reliable job to afford them, are mutually exclusive.

Speaking as someone without a wife/husband and no kids: Planet Fitness is dirt cheap, every city has one, and if you can’t find time to spend 30-60 minutes every few days then your schedule is truly nightmarish. I am an extremely poor person but for the cost of a single take-out meal a month (and an annual fee of $35) you have access to a perfectly reasonable 24/7 gym.

A big part of it is also perspective. Shifting gears from “this is something I want to do” to “this is something I have to do and I have to make time for it” is crucial. I love and enjoy my fitness time, partially because you get to feel super full of yourself when you’re done.

There is literally no “good excuse” for not getting healthy.

Again I’m not trying to speak to people with families, but if you live and work on your own like broke dick goon sounds like, I’m sure he can watch 45 fewer minutes of TV/Porn here and there to get some cardio in.

soy
Jul 7, 2003

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

Ghost Leviathan posted:

For most people now, have a consistent enough life with enough free time to do regular exercise and activities, and also having a reliable job to afford them, are mutually exclusive.

Anyone in my industry (tech) who claims this is the case is a huge baby.

Just get some sandbags and running shoes or whatever.

Colonel Cancer
Sep 26, 2015

Tune into the fireplace channel, you absolute buffoon
Vigorously jerking your dead limp penis is a form of cardio exercise.

Nocheez
Sep 5, 2000

Can you spare a little cheddar?
Nap Ghost

Bust Rodd posted:

Speaking as someone without a wife/husband and no kids: Planet Fitness is dirt cheap, every city has one, and if you can’t find time to spend 30-60 minutes every few days then your schedule is truly nightmarish. I am an extremely poor person but for the cost of a single take-out meal a month (and an annual fee of $35) you have access to a perfectly reasonable 24/7 gym.

A big part of it is also perspective. Shifting gears from “this is something I want to do” to “this is something I have to do and I have to make time for it” is crucial. I love and enjoy my fitness time, partially because you get to feel super full of yourself when you’re done.

There is literally no “good excuse” for not getting healthy.

Again I’m not trying to speak to people with families, but if you live and work on your own like broke dick goon sounds like, I’m sure he can watch 45 fewer minutes of TV/Porn here and there to get some cardio in.

I'm a fully converted mountain biker. It gets me outside (which I need to be happy), it's a hoot while you're on the trail and ripping it up, and it burns calories without destroying my knees.

Find a type of exercise you enjoy, and do it often. Make excuses to do it.

Dawncloack
Nov 26, 2007
ECKS DEE!
Nap Ghost
Yeah, cycling for the win (of the knees)

Android Blues
Nov 22, 2008

Even just going to the gym once a week feels great. Anything's better than nothing!

I have a real crummy local gym but like, it is a place where I can run and lift weights for an hour a week, and that's really all you need. I have an incredibly hectic schedule and am constantly tired, but exercise makes that fatigue a little less pronounced, if anything.

mfcrocker
Jan 31, 2004



Hot Rope Guy

Bust Rodd posted:

There is literally no “good excuse” for not getting healthy.

Yeah well executive dysfunction is a bitch (though even then I'm managing to get a weekly sesh in minimum)

Sjs00
Jun 29, 2013

Yeah Baby Yeah !
I'm watching the hummingbird do its thing and now I feel guilty for having witnessed flowers orgasm

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Yeah like I could get in more exercise without even adding anything to my schedule -- it's nice outside right now, I have a dog I already walk every morning, and she is a sight-hound who loves running. Instead of walking her, I could just put on some gym clothes and load up a Couch To 5K run/walk/run program and run her. It's just hard to wake up, not yet having any blood-sugar or caffeine in your system, when you have a brain disorder that makes it harder than usual to put effort into things you don't want to do, and go "today I will exert willpower to improve my health". It's kind of a catch-22.

e: I've even already done Couch to 5K a few years back, I have basically no excuse other than "I don't wanna and my brain is bullshit"

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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I've been trying to get myself to go to the gym and take better care of myself lately as well, but am in the same laziness loop. It's not helping that I'm getting laid with like no effort ever since I bought my condo, so that motivation isn't even there. I'm assuming once I have an actual girlfriend I'll get back in shape since that's usually how it works for me.

If you wanna know the sheer depth of laziness I'm working with the gym is a block and a half away, open 24/7, has everything I could ever need to use, and costs less a month than getting three drinks at a bar.

Nocheez
Sep 5, 2000

Can you spare a little cheddar?
Nap Ghost
Have you tried training for an event? Doesn't have to be a huge triathlon or anything, just a 5k or whatever is within your reach. I do a lot better when I have a goal I'm striving for, instead of just going "when I feel like it."

Sjs00
Jun 29, 2013

Yeah Baby Yeah !
Yeah the event is sex and he's got a medal

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Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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Nocheez posted:

Have you tried training for an event? Doesn't have to be a huge triathlon or anything, just a 5k or whatever is within your reach. I do a lot better when I have a goal I'm striving for, instead of just going "when I feel like it."

I thought about getting back into boxing and jiu jitsu, but I don't want to be the 38 year old throwing up on the mat 20 minutes into the warm up, so that puts me back at square one.

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