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I don't think, for me, it's self-actualization. It's simply not hating every waking moment and wanting to die. I guess, in comparison to that, anything else is an infinity-percent improvement. There are still things I hate about my body and want to change, including things I'll never be able to change, but at least that I can have in common with nearly anybody. Nobody is 100% satisfied with their body, I think. The fact that I can experience anything akin to happiness regarding my body is nothing short of a personal miracle.
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After some things happened to me as a newly minted teenager I spent a long time, literally years, feeling as though my own body had betrayed me/been used as a weapon against me and I hated it and damaged it regularly for a long time. After I turned eighteen I started the process of taking it back and making it into something that felt new and safe for me. I have any number of piercings (mostly lining my ears) and a couple large tattoos and I dress completely differently than I used to, and it took a decade and a half but I finally nearly feel like a whole, healthy person that is completely my own. I've got the mess of scars for life but at this point they're part of me too and I don't particularly care when people see them. It's part of what happened and it's part of what I needed to learn to accept and move past. Moving to California helped; the sun is lightening my hair significantly and tanning my skin just a little and it feels like I've finished my transformation into someone physically new, which is huge in combination with the other things I'm working on. So while as a cisperson I'll never fully understand I definitely feel as though I have a grasp of it.
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Aug 23, 2019 18:48
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 I miss my mohawk.  Spring 2020 it'll be back, just gotta let my follicles do they thing. (also gonna dye it then I think, since my beard is a different color it might as well be wayyyy different lol) Turbo Fondant has a new favorite as of 20:28 on Aug 23, 2019 |
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Aug 23, 2019 20:17
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That's a nice rear end mohawk. I had one at 34 (2017) years old with thin, short, grey hair. I tried.   
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Aug 23, 2019 22:09
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Let's just pretend i quote everyone's pictures and then quote Bird's "She's Beautiful!!" post for each one.
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Aug 23, 2019 23:27
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LITERALLY A BIRD posted:
Having been through something very similar, I have felt very.. similarly. Echoing Six, you are all beautiful 
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Aug 23, 2019 23:43
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 Early 30s? Yep. Dead end job? Yep. Feel like my life is falling apart around me? Yep. Feel like I've got nothing else going for me? Yep. gently caress it. Dye my hair blue.
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Aug 24, 2019 00:04
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CIS here. I hated my body for a while, then was okay with it, then got a little overweight and hated myself again. Currently feeling better, but now I'm getting hairy everywhere and balding up top so I'm back to self loathing. It's a cycle
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Aug 24, 2019 00:17
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Thoughts on my relationship with my body later, right now I'm OMW to the hospital because my right cheek suddenly swelled back up to where it was two weeks ago and now has some gnarly fluid coming out of the incision site alongmy gums. Wish me luck, goons!
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Fender Anarchist posted:Serious question for the cis folks here: is it normal to feel this good? Do y'all just naturally feel this content and connected to your own body? i hate my flesh prison, but my dysphoria isn't related to gender (cis woman, here) Karnegal posted:I'm OMW to the hospital because my right cheek suddenly swelled back up to where it was two weeks ago and now has some gnarly fluid coming out of the incision site alongmy gums. Wish me luck, goons! good luck, get well soon, dont let anyone drink your precious jaw juice
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Aug 24, 2019 01:17
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Karnegal posted:Thoughts on my relationship with my body later, right now I'm OMW to the hospital because my right cheek suddenly swelled back up to where it was two weeks ago and now has some gnarly fluid coming out of the incision site alongmy gums. Wish me luck, goons! Good luck, and don’t let them sap/impurify your precious bodily fluids 
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Aug 24, 2019 02:27
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Turns out it's infected. So now I get to ramp up the perception mouthwash to twice what I was doing before, and I get a new course of antibiotics. But nothing major is wrong, and this apparently more just unpleasant as opposed to an actual problem.
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Aug 24, 2019 02:40
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 it me. I'm the summer tramp
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RC Cola posted:CIS here. I hated my body for a while, then was okay with it, then got a little overweight and hated myself again. Currently feeling better, but now I'm getting hairy everywhere and balding up top so I'm back to self loathing. It's a cycle Cis woman, hated my body as a kid and teen, took some Feminist Studies classes at 19 and learned to love my body, and genuinely did love the hell out of it. But it turns out the things I loved were still defined by a patriarchal framework, so every time my body changes as I age, I have to relearn to love it. Especially as the older you get, the less you fit the standard.
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Aug 24, 2019 08:05
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Haven't posted in a bit. Low light Friday night. Leaving Thursday morning to Japan for 31 days. I've always wanted to go, and even though this is a work thing, I'm super loving excited. Not sure how much free time we're going to get but I'm sure it's going to be rad as hell regardless. Will take many pics, maybe even some with me in them!
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Aug 24, 2019 12:06
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I’m heading to the Keys today for some training on how to wrangle a python and not get wrapped up in their struggle-snuggle.  I’d nearly forgotten that this was going to b part of my job until my boss told me that I needed this training 🤣
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Aug 24, 2019 12:09
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3rd morning in the hospital after my wife gave birth to our daughter on Thursday. Super excited that we get to go home today. Also, my wife says I'm pretty in the mornings. e: and apparently my timg tags aren't working. Huh. 10 Beers has a new favorite as of 02:34 on Dec 11, 2019 |
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Aug 24, 2019 12:26
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10 Beers posted:3rd morning in the hospital after my wife gave birth to our daughter on Thursday. Super excited that we get to go home today. Also, my wife says I'm pretty in the mornings. Because that isn't an image link. You need a url that ends in .jpg or .png or whatever flavor of image file you are using. 
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Aug 24, 2019 12:39
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10 Beers posted:3rd morning in the hospital after my wife gave birth to our daughter on Thursday. Super excited that we get to go home today. Also, my wife says I'm pretty in the mornings. Congrats on the new baby! Here's to many sleepless nights 🍻
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RFC2324 posted:Because that isn't an image link. You need a url that ends in .jpg or .png or whatever flavor of image file you are using. Thanks! Apparently imgur doesn't just give you the bbcode link anymore.
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10 Beers posted:Thanks! Apparently imgur doesn't just give you the bbcode link anymore. You can get it from the website, and on mobile you can get the direct link by clicking the pic, then the share button
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Aug 24, 2019 14:13
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So many handsome and beautiful people in here. Each and every one of you.
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Aug 24, 2019 18:13
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 Being alive is neat sometimes  And Toby is happy again 😻
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10 Beers posted:3rd morning in the hospital after my wife gave birth to our daughter on Thursday. Super excited that we get to go home today. Also, my wife says I'm pretty in the mornings. 
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Aug 24, 2019 18:30
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Fatty Crabcakes posted:baby pics now or gtfo Ehhhhh. I've already talked to my wife about locking down her Facebook before she posts pics. Be pretty hypocritical for me to put em up here. Plus, I've been here long enough to remember people getting doxxed, etc. Sorry, friend Fatty. 😞
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Aug 24, 2019 18:44
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AC is broke at home, so chilling at the local library and enjoying the internet-you-have-to-reset-hourly (seriously though I'm so luck to live within walking distance of a library) Yesterday, when I was working on the car (radiator fan buzzing, not broken just annoying) 
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Everyone looking cute, though obviously Toby is looking cutest (sorry, humans). Some body thoughts: (this will be kind of long and rambling, feel free to skip it, I kind of want to write it out because I don't have a ton of venues to talk about this stuff) I've had a weird relationship with my body over the years. I knew I was "supposed to be a girl" when I was 7, but it was the early 90's and I lived in rural PA, so aside from not even knowing what being trans was, I can't imagine transitioning in that place and time. But, I was lucky enough to be fairly androgynous when I was younger. Through my teens, I had next to no facial hair, and I've always had minimal body hair -like less hair on my arms and legs than the majority of cis women I know, so while I wasn't thrilled with my body I kind of made do and it wasn't awful most days. It got worse in my 20's when facial hair started to come in my lip/chin area and my shoulders finally decided to gently caress me over and fill out a bit. By the time I was in my late 20's (and nearly done a PhD minor in Gender and Women's Studies) I identified as non-binary, but I didn't tell anyone but my wife since we were moving around for her post docs and I had no idea where we'd end up and if it would be safe. Fast forward though some really depressing years, and I finally started actually presenting as non-binary shortly after my wife threw in the towel on academia and took the corporate pay check which let us move to Boston. At first I thought that was going to be an OK way to negotiate things with myself even if I knew I was actually just a trans woman. The thing that pushed me over the edge and made me realize I wasn't going to be alright was last year when I started getting some facial hair on my cheeks and some chest hair. A couple weeks later I came out to my wife yet again, and after she said she was on board, I started HRT the next week. So, now I'm closing in on 10 months, and it's a weird place. There are aspects of my body that I like. There are some I don't like, but many of those could also potentially change over the next 1-2 years of HRT while I'm still in the active changes period. Overall, I'm certainly WAY happier than I used to be, but I'm also increasingly trying to come to terms with the challenge of unpacking what is gender dysphoria and what is issues with internalized beauty standards. I assume this is a fairly common experience among trans women, but it's not quite as simple as wanting to pass as a woman (which isn't everyone's goal, but it's certainly mine). In my experience, there's also a significant component of wanting to be conventionally attractive. I had FFS* back at the beginning of the month, and if I'm honest, the procedures I had done were varying mixes of addressing dysphoria and trying to be more attractive. My insurance covered it, so I sort of went all in -because if you're going to have your face peeled off, you should probably do everything in one go. Getting my brow and Adam's Apple flattened were addressing things that I agonized about pretty much every day, but other elements are a little more nebulous. One of the things I had done was cheek implants, and while I think more prominent cheekbones will help feminize my face, I didn't have the same sort of constant oppressive anxiety about my cheekbones that I did with my brow. So how much of that change to my cheeks was trying to look feminine and how much was trying to look attractive? I honestly don't know. In terms of how all of that has made me feel, it's a mixed bag. The brow and Adam's Apple changes are fairly stark and already very noticeable, so that's been pretty good even if I'm still getting used to it. I took an Uber when I went to the hospital yesterday and I defaulted to holding my head in a way that made it hard to see my Adam's Apple when I realized that I don't have a noticeable one anymore, and I was like "woah, I can just not worry about this." Meanwhile most of the rest of my face - nose, jaw, cheeks, are still swollen and won't 100% settle for 6-12 months, so it's kind of another version of transitioning generally where you sort of go in on a long term process and hope that you're going to be happy with the results on the other end. So I would say that I am happier than I was and generally optimistic, but also a little nervous as well since the wait and see component is a little scary. Facial Feminization Surgery: A series of surgeries that are designed to undo the effects of going though puberty on testosterone the first time. A lot of it involves shaving down your bones. The goal, in theory, is to eliminate dysphoria and allow you to pass as a woman.
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Cis man, and I can't really say I've been overjoyed with my body, nor have I hated it. It's just me, and what I've been given. Content enough would be a good way to put it. Good vibes though! I'm visiting the Canadian East coast for the first time. My brother underwent a drastic career turn. Bucking the trend, he moved from the oilfields of Mordor province, to the maritimes to work on a fish boat. We're out here for his wedding!  This place is apparently in the heart of Acadia. It's pretty cool to hear people just speaking French, or English just interchangably, hell even the local radio dj was switching between both during the same interlude.
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Still figuring this poo poo out. Brows and makeup tutorials. (I own several other dresses, I promise!) EDIT: gently caress fyad AMISH FRIED PIES has a new favorite as of 01:13 on Jan 2, 2020 |
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AMISH FRIED PIES posted:Still figuring this poo poo out. Brows and makeup tutorials. (I own several other dresses, I promise!) From someone who has no experience with brows or makeup, I think your brows is 100% on point and whatever makeup you're wearing looks fabulous!
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I can not do my own eyebrows and I am waaaaay overdue for a waxing I am a titty mentat rn
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To add to the body image chat: Cis woman here, and have been plagued by low self esteem and terrible body image for as long as I can remember. I stopped working out recently, which is stupid because it helped, but I don't have the energy for it anymore. I don't think I'll ever be 100% happy with my body, but I take some kind of selfish comfort in knowing I'm not alone in the struggle. I agree with Karnegal though, in that Toby is the most beautiful of all the goons :3 Thank you for this feel-good thread goons. I'm stupidly emotional tonight and it may or may not be getting a little dusty in here...
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Aug 26, 2019 20:58
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Happy first day of fall semester, binches.
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Aug 26, 2019 23:36
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Work selfie! Then I realized that tropical storm Dorian is heading our way, and the next few days are going to be fun 🙃
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Six-Of-Hearts posted:Happy first day of fall semester, binches. LITERALLY A BIRD posted:she's beautiful Icon Of Sin posted:Work selfie! Stay safe ocean ghost.
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