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I'm on an upswing now that I'm through my effexor withdrawal, and it feels really good. Today after work I bought groceries, went to therapy, cooked dinner, and did laundry! Normally any one of those would wipe me out for the night. It's my second day in a row cooking an actual meal, too! I have no idea what's happening but I feel like a functioning adult now
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Arivia posted:(good advice but removed by Aardvark) Hi, thanks for posting  Like legitimately, a lot of cspam threads are sarcastic about that but I mean it. as far as I'm concerned this is thread switzerland, anyone can post here equally as long as they respect others' experiences. Somebody has issued a correction as of 19:55 on Jun 12, 2020 |
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Nov 12, 2019 17:32
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Goon Danton posted:I'm on an upswing now that I'm through my effexor withdrawal, and it feels really good. Today after work I bought groceries, went to therapy, cooked dinner, and did laundry! Normally any one of those would wipe me out for the night. It's my second day in a row cooking an actual meal, too! I have no idea what's happening but I feel like a functioning adult now  I got to work today vaguely on time which is a step forward. Agoraphobia is gonna get bad this time of year, and I'm just going to have to live with that until/if it settles down. Also slightly hypomanic, I posted an LP update last night and I'm in a p good mood despite it being cold. Maybe I'll do some housework today to burn it off.
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I screwed up pretty bad at work yesterday because of sleep deprivation on multiple nights and now here I am awake at 4am unable to sleep because I can't stop thinking about how the issue is gonna get escalated because the customer I pissed off is a lawyer. It's bad enough to screw up but having management review it and think "wtf was his decision making here" while I'm still on probation is super fun. My mistake was being too nice on a partial refund (it should have been fully rejected) so I look like a pushover idiot, and my trainer even let me know I shouldn't do it in advance but I somehow forgot that and did it anyway. Then the customer went ballistic over not getting a full refund when it was entirely my fault for even agreeing to a partial one. It's all via email too so every dumb decision I made can be analysed. Along with being dopey from chronic insomnia I'm also getting lots of ageism since everyone else is early to mid 20s (I'm 39). Most of it is light hearted jabs but when you actually feel old it's not so fun. I have no idea why the 21 year old HR guy hired me to be honest. He even admitted I was much older than he thought I was gonna be. Admittedly I did remove a lot of experience in my resume to make it look that way. It's fun feeling like you're barely clinging on to entry level employment as you reach 40 I tell ya whut UnfortunateSexFart has issued a correction as of 18:29 on Nov 12, 2019 |
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Nov 12, 2019 18:21
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Re: the above, another thing that is stressing me out is my wife has pre-planned at least three vacations since, despite having entry-level employment, this is the first time we've ever not been destitute since entry level in Australia = $25 an hour with a month of paid vacation per year. Our 10 year wedding anniversary is coming up in July. It's great to see her having some hope, but I'm so terrified of losing my job through my own dopeyness that the idea of planning for the future only gives me more stress. I don't know if I'll still be employed by December let alone July. ...and once again I have been unable to go back to sleep before people start working out in the gym below me at 530am. Wonder what mistakes I'll do at work today.
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Nov 12, 2019 19:27
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Chokes McGee posted:Hi, thanks for posting Hiiii!
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Nov 12, 2019 19:35
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Geeeez, I'm so bad at interviewing. I spent the last 10 years of my career working alone, at home, completely independently, and it's like I forgot how to communicate with people in real time. I'm a relatively intelligent person, but when I have to talk to people face to face, I just fall apart and resort to babbling. I hate it. 
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Nov 12, 2019 19:57
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mekyabetsu posted:Geeeez, I'm so bad at interviewing. I spent the last 10 years of my career working alone, at home, completely independently, and it's like I forgot how to communicate with people in real time. I'm a relatively intelligent person, but when I have to talk to people face to face, I just fall apart and resort to babbling. I hate it. Have you tried practicing? Or even grabbing an online friendo (or real life one) and doing RP? There's scripts online and doing reps in a friendly environment goes a long way towards creating canned answers they'll accept and move on, which is more or less the point.
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Nov 12, 2019 20:27
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mekyabetsu posted:Geeeez, I'm so bad at interviewing. I spent the last 10 years of my career working alone, at home, completely independently, and it's like I forgot how to communicate with people in real time. I'm a relatively intelligent person, but when I have to talk to people face to face, I just fall apart and resort to babbling. I hate it. rehearse with a friend, even if it's through skype or something wear what you'd wear to the interview to help get yourself into the mindset, it's like a costume. you're playing a part in a scene, putting yourself into that costume can help pull your brain in that direction. find a script with common questions and if push comes to shove, start off by restating the question they ask: "how would you deal with one employee harassing another?" -> "i would deal with another employee harassing another by..."
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Nov 13, 2019 05:56
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I talked to my boss and the FMLA administrator at work. They're both incredibly supportive and encouraged me to file for FMLA leave for both my anxiety/depression issues and caretaker leave for my mom who has gone from diagnosed with Stage IV pancreatic cancer with doctors not even willing to talk about how long she had left 2 years ago to in remission since she needs someone to be there to help her some days. Once FMLA is filed, I still have to use paid sick days (15 per year but is banked "as-if accrued" for anything left over) but those sick days legally and contractually don't exist for anything related to reliability or attendance when it comes to disciplinary action or my annual reviews. The day the semester started, I had a transformation from zombie to actual person. I have no idea why this happened since responsibilities and stress levels are exactly the same as always, but it was like flipping a switch in my brain from "miserable" to "able to function." I see my doctor tomorrow and I'm going to ask him to up my dose of Xanax again for anxiety attacks and go over my depression and see if he thinks a different dose or medication would help. Chokes McGee posted:
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Nov 13, 2019 07:07
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GWBBQ posted:You don't have to use a camera as old as the cat :p ??????? ??????????????????????
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Nov 13, 2019 17:17
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Volunteered to do a presentation for Lakes (the main Austin mental hospital) on Dec. 27th. The last time I went was pretty bad for me due to the time of year but mostly because someone I knew was there. But, I've worked my way through it—kinda—and anyone that's in Lakes for the holiday is going to need someone from the outside coming in and talking to them.
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Nov 13, 2019 17:18
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my supervisor is out of town, inexplicably taking a secretary with her on a personal trip (I guess theyre friends) and I am doing the work of three people and its absolutely insane. I dont have the bandwidth to do all of this stuff no matter what but Im far less inclined to try making $27k after taxes. they keep me dirt poor and just keep adding tasks to my duties as the whole system here becomes more absurd and held together by little more than hope adult life sucks. I havent even gotten to play videogames in ages cus my girlfriend is a theater teacher doing a school play so I have to drive an hour and a half most nights to pick her up from the school in another city. I dont even mind because I love and support her Im just feeling frustrated with spending endless days cleaning up after a private company we contracted for university recruitment and doing meaningless work with no recreation time, just time to exercise and discharge other commitments
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Nov 13, 2019 17:23
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you should quit and become a theater teacher too then you can carpool!
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Nov 13, 2019 17:50
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funny thing is the school she teaches at is a tiny arts magnet school where I also went, but I spent a year looking for soul crushing office jobs because I know Id be a terrible teacher all of this doesnt even have me particularly depressed, just vaguely dumbfounded at the useless repetition of postgrad work and annoyed that Ive lost track of most of the stuff I used to enjoy for what feels like insufficient compensation, both emotional and monetary also I think a modern version of the inferno would include a level of hell thats just all webcam based meetings full of people eating loudly and saying things about touching base other meaningless bullshit signal phrases ed: fun addition to my stress levels: the university recently banned tobacco on university grounds, so i step out onto the sidewalk to smoke. today i was having a cigarette and looking at my phone walking towards the sidewalk but I guess I paused right at the gate as opposed to through the gate. i saw one of the professors from my department come out, maybe say something i couldn't hear, and then she kept walking and hid behind some bushes, pulled out her phone, and started taking pictures of me. i guess she's going to complain to someone but like, she was at least 30 feet away from me and i was far from the doors, it was just so aggressively rude and unnecessary. i loving hate all of these people so goddamn much. i am going to start applying to other jobs immediately, gently caress them. Frog Act has issued a correction as of 20:57 on Nov 13, 2019 |
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Nov 13, 2019 18:22
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god I really do have some sort of social phobia. my therapist gave me some super easy instructions, to just talk to my wife about objectively minor things I've been putting off because I've been afraid of how she'd receive them. it's been almost two weeks since then and I still haven't done it and every time I think to myself that now's the time to finally talk I just freeze up and try to act like nothing's wrong. I wrote everything down on paper today with the intent of just handing it off to her, but now I'm just dreading handing it to her so much I can't focus on anything else. I hate this feeling so much
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Nov 13, 2019 23:18
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U-DO Burger posted:god I really do have some sort of social phobia. my therapist gave me some super easy instructions, to just talk to my wife about objectively minor things I've been putting off because I've been afraid of how she'd receive them. it's been almost two weeks since then and I still haven't done it and every time I think to myself that now's the time to finally talk I just freeze up and try to act like nothing's wrong. I wrote everything down on paper today with the intent of just handing it off to her, but now I'm just dreading handing it to her so much I can't focus on anything else. I hate this feeling so much
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Nov 13, 2019 23:23
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FactsAreUseless posted:Talk to your therapist about specific mental strategies you can use to understand and deal with your anxiety. That's a good idea, I'll talk to my therapist about that during my next appointment. It's strange to think of this as an actual anxiety disorder and not just me being a wuss.
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Nov 14, 2019 01:14
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TheAardvark posted:While she has so far been a good therapist for my other issues, I'm not comfortable sharing those issues with her. Thinking about it, it's less that I'm attracted to her, and more that it's hard to share my issues with someone who might feel alienated by them. I don't leer or do anything like that, but I'm petrified by the thought of coming across like that, I guess? I'm not obsessed with her, or currently anyone else, but I have a hard time even broaching the subject with her. I don't think that kind of fear is going to work long time, so I am probably going to seek a new therapist. One of my thoughts was that she might offer me a very direct point of view to help me overcome these issues, but I'm not sure if I can push through the awkwardness of broaching the subject with her. Write it down first. That's what I did.
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I guess I'll come forward with some stuff of my own. I dunno if I need therapy or anything, but I guess it couldn't hurt? I've been doing comparatively well financially, as in: I can pay my bills, I have no outstanding debts and even have a bit of cash saved although that supply has been dwindling recently. I have a creative hobby that I pursue with great relish (and sometimes great disappointment - as all creative endeavors) and a small but close circle of friends, so it sounds - to me - as if I'm whinging on a very high level, but alas. I've never enjoyed work and well I don't expect myself ever to. But it is getting increasingly harder to drag myself into work every day and then back home into my place in which I live by myself and which is falling into further and further chaos. Now I manage to keep it not gross, it's clean hygienically speaking, but it's still a mess. I guess I have to pull back a little and turn this into a full on E/N. I guess it kind of started when I had a poo poo job, but was living with my fiancee. Then my mother got transferred to a hospice because of cancer and I couldn't visit her because she was very far away, I was very poor and my employer wouldn't give me off. I'm not on talking terms with my father who is an entire thing onto himself. But yeah. I guess that was blow one. Fiancee and I broke off soon thereafter, because I was a dick and a mess. Blow two came at another company where I had a medical emergency that drat near cost me my life, and while I got back to work as soon as possible the first thing they did after I came back from the 2 month hiatus was change my job position to something I had no qualification for and then continue to yell at me until my stress levels were so high that I just randomly started shaking and startled at the most random poo poo. I quit and changed jobs. Now I'm here at this job and just having constant fights over politics with my gf who says she has "no ideology" but says poo poo that is either liberal, idiotic, or just plain makes me burst out in anger and say things that are sometimes deserved and sometimes probably just mean. When it calms down she says stuff like there's no good ideologies and she's not fundamentally opposed to socialism and the current system is poo poo etc. When I'm at my job I just spend hours staring into the distance not doing anything and just feeling that I've completely ceded any and all control over my life. I feel like I'm just waiting to get fired. Now why I'm posting this is, because of a dream I had last night. I was in our old house that we were evicted from, when my family was still whole and my mother alive. My cat (who died last year) was there. And she somehow broke through an invisible barrier and came through my mothers old room to me. Everything was peaceful and quiet, the curtains blew in the breeze and sunlight mottled the floor and walls. I heard some insects outside. I just lay down and felt my cats purring through the body. Then I startled awake, waking up at like 4am in a cold, dark, cramped room that was vibrating from the trains passing by and which I had only to myself. I felt how we (humanity, myself) are just circling the void and falling into it one by one, each to himself. And I started crying and couldn't make myself stop ... it just kept on coming and I dragged myself into work as a completely tired and wrecked mess. Yay. I love my life
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VomitOnLino posted:I guess I'll come forward with some stuff of my own. I dunno if I need therapy or anything, but I guess it couldn't hurt? I've been doing comparatively well financially, as in: I can pay my bills, I have no outstanding debts and even have a bit of cash saved although that supply has been dwindling recently. I have a creative hobby that I pursue with great relish (and sometimes great disappointment - as all creative endeavors) and a small but close circle of friends, so it sounds - to me - as if I'm whinging on a very high level, but alas. This stuff seems way too familiar to me, and I'm concerned. Do you have a therapist? e: I mean that's a milquetoast answer but I really think you need breathing room right now, even if it's a room to rant in weekly. You're always welcome here, but bringing in a professional will do even more good for you. Chokes McGee has issued a correction as of 05:20 on Nov 14, 2019 |
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Chokes McGee posted:This stuff seems way too familiar to me, and I'm concerned. Do you have a therapist? No. Not yet, it took me this long (forever) to come to terms with the fact that something might not be right with my brain as well. (Im already hard of hearing, which creates its own share of issues.)
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VomitOnLino posted:No. Not yet, it took me this long (forever) to come to terms with the fact that something might not be right with my brain as well. (Im already hard of hearing, which creates its own share of issues.) I would start there. The reason I'm worried is because that was nearly a shot for shot remake of my breakdown and it's not a good place to be. Try to be kind to yourself, and prioritize getting someone to help you out. You deserve to be happy.
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VomitOnLino posted:I guess I'll come forward with some stuff of my own. I dunno if I need therapy or anything, but I guess it couldn't hurt? I've been doing comparatively well financially, as in: I can pay my bills, I have no outstanding debts and even have a bit of cash saved although that supply has been dwindling recently. I have a creative hobby that I pursue with great relish (and sometimes great disappointment - as all creative endeavors) and a small but close circle of friends, so it sounds - to me - as if I'm whinging on a very high level, but alas. These are very profound dream elements you've been able to extract. It's not easy and you should feel proud at that ability. When you do search for a therapist, try adding the "Jungian" tag on psychologytoday profiles. These therapists will have a lot of experience with dream interpretation and will probably be insight based; my 2c says that could be pretty effective for you right now. Personally I had a lot of trouble making progress with solution-based therapy and/or cognitive-behavioral theory. I needed deep insights and the ability to sit safely with my pain with a professional to move forward, and your post resonated with my history quite a bit. And just a note on CBT. It's a very common type of therapy right now because when you bill your insurance they want firm timelines and increments and eventually an end to therapy so they don't have to keep paying for it. A therapist can much more easily get paid by insurance if they have those timelines, whereas saying, "well I dunno we're going to explore what we explore for some undefinable amount of time and hopefully they will see improvements." Which is a real shame because CBT, which can be INCREDIBLY effective for MANY scenarios, doesn't always provide the opportunity to really sit with your poo poo and process it. In American society we are taught to avoid all negative feelings and supplant them with consumerism (thanks capitalism) even if those "negative" feelings are actually there to help us. Insight based therapies are really there to help you explore those feelings and understand why you have them and where they come from. edit: if that sounds like an attack on therapists it's not it's directed at insurance companies/capitalism
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Frog Act posted:my supervisor is out of town, inexplicably taking a secretary with her on a personal trip (I guess theyre friends) and I am doing the work of three people and its absolutely insane. I dont have the bandwidth to do all of this stuff no matter what but Im far less inclined to try making $27k after taxes. they keep me dirt poor and just keep adding tasks to my duties as the whole system here becomes more absurd and held together by little more than hope I really feel you on all of this. It's so disheartening to spend half of your waking hours at a job where you're under paid and under appreciated, then another hour or two commuting to and from said job, then whatever time is required to physically and mentally recover from said job. When you're not working, you have to spend at least some time taking care of yourself, then you have to try to tidy up your disaster of a living space. When you do finally manage to carve out a little leisure time for yourself, it feels so vitally important that you wring every last bit of joy from it that you find yourself getting anxious about it, unable to enjoy yourself, and then, oh, look at the time, you need to try to get some sleep so you can get through your next day of work. It's complete and utter horseshit. My hope is that getting better at managing my depression and anxiety will help with this. Something I often forget is how everything just takes longer to do when you're dealing with serious depression. You sleep more, you're more tired, the simplest things take forever to do... Anyway, sorry for this depressing post. I just wanted to remind you that you're not alone.
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mekyabetsu posted:I really feel you on all of this. It's so disheartening to spend half of your waking hours at a job where you're under paid and under appreciated, then another hour or two commuting to and from said job, then whatever time is required to physically and mentally recover from said job. When you're not working, you have to spend at least some time taking care of yourself, then you have to try to tidy up your disaster of a living space. When you do finally manage to carve out a little leisure time for yourself, it feels so vitally important that you wring every last bit of joy from it that you find yourself getting anxious about it, unable to enjoy yourself, and then, oh, look at the time, you need to try to get some sleep so you can get through your next day of work. this is a good post and I need to do more of this ty
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I had a job interview that was supposed to be an hour long, but it barely lasted 20 minutes lol. I know really need to get my anxiety in order and learn to speak slower in interviews, but I can't help but feel that my race (black) is a factor in me getting rejection after rejection. Or maybe it's my ugliness, I don't know.
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Nov 14, 2019 19:32
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for the last couple of years i've been having a really weird vision problem with my vision, and i don't really know how to describe it other than similar to what happens when you look at this gif for 10-15 seconds and then look away https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/transcoded/d/d3/Illusion_movie.ogv/Illusion_movie.ogv.480p.vp9.webm has anyone who has taken a lot of medications run into something similar? i've been to a bunch of doctors and nobody has been able to even begin to figure out what is going on, and the best guess any of them have had is that it's a medication related side effect.
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turn off the TV posted:for the last couple of years i've been having a really weird vision problem with my vision, and i don't really know how to describe it other than similar to what happens when you look at this gif for 10-15 seconds and then look away https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/transcoded/d/d3/Illusion_movie.ogv/Illusion_movie.ogv.480p.vp9.webm I cant view the video oh any of my computers] /phones in Firefox (encoding is broken) or Safari (no support). Cpuld you find another link or describe it? Im especially interested in whatever you may be experiencing as my own medications rob me of stereoscopic vision.
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Mawarannahr Bucket posted:I cant view the video oh any of my computers] /phones in Firefox (encoding is broken) or Safari (no support). Cpuld you find another link or describe it? Im especially interested in whatever you may be experiencing as my own medications rob me of stereoscopic vision. i experience distorted vision that makes parts what i'm looking it seem like they're shifting around, like a motion optical illusion
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Nov 15, 2019 06:39
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turn off the TV posted:i experience distorted vision that makes parts what i'm looking it seem like they're shifting around, like a motion optical illusion i have not taken many prescription medications, but the visual effect you are describing and what i get from staring at the gif are very similar to the visual effects i get from hallucinogens. the gif-induced effect is far shorter lived, but the visual sensation i get from the gif is very similar to those i have had after taking several different hallucinogens. i don't know how this helps if you're not taking those though!
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mekyabetsu posted:I really feel you on all of this. It's so disheartening to spend half of your waking hours at a job where you're under paid and under appreciated, then another hour or two commuting to and from said job, then whatever time is required to physically and mentally recover from said job. When you're not working, you have to spend at least some time taking care of yourself, then you have to try to tidy up your disaster of a living space. When you do finally manage to carve out a little leisure time for yourself, it feels so vitally important that you wring every last bit of joy from it that you find yourself getting anxious about it, unable to enjoy yourself, and then, oh, look at the time, you need to try to get some sleep so you can get through your next day of work. I appreciate the commiseration, honestly, its nice to see other goons with a similar problem because it feels like a comparative non issue (oh no I have to have a job and do normal person things) but its all just so soul sucking. I havent turned on my gaming computer, PS4, or picked up a history book in almost a week and I know Ill be paralyzed by exactly that desire to wring as much enjoyment as possible out of the three or four hours Ill have over the course of the weekend having a job and a girlfriend has really improved my ylife, objectively, but I cant help but reminisce about being a NEET or a grad student where I got to spend all day smoking weed, playing cool games, and reading/writing history. all of that is mostly gone except I get high after work before I exercise. its all just so pointless compared to the stuff I was doing in grad school or even sitting around exploring my own interests online. at least, luckily, I was accepted to give a presentation at an academic conference discussing the stuff I did in grad school. its a nice 15 minute presentation on Marxist philosophy and modern neoliberal concepts of aid so I hope I still have the wherewithal to produce decent academic writing
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This is going to be kind of ranty so I apologize. Mental health has such a profound impact on our lives that its really a shame that its not only stigmatized, but also purposefully neglected by insurance companies. I feel like there has been a lot of movement to end the stigma of mental illness, but ultimately treatment depends on being able to afford it and much of the stigma is driven by the profit motive of insurance companies who want to minimize the amount of treatment people seek. After all, if someone commits suicide at a young age, that prevents the company from being exposed to the risk of someone developing an expensive medical condition as they get older. dont have to pay for cancer treatment if someone kills themselves before they are even diagnosed! Stigma also means people dont go to get therapy because they think therapy is for crazy people or people who are severely mentally ill. That suits insurance companies just fine. I think a lack of quality mental health care is exacerbating so many problems in this country. A lot of people who suffer from delusions etc end up latching onto right wing conspiracy theories and become CHUDs who end up working to make poo poo even worse for everyone in the country.
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turn off the TV posted:i experience distorted vision that makes parts what i'm looking it seem like they're shifting around, like a motion optical illusion I get alice-in-wonderland syndrome sometimes where I perceive everything around me as much smaller than it is. This is particularly concerning since I am very short to start with. It seems harmless and may actually be a feature of my migraines.
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Padams posted:This is going to be kind of ranty so I apologize. Mental health has such a profound impact on our lives that its really a shame that its not only stigmatized, but also purposefully neglected by insurance companies. I feel like there has been a lot of movement to end the stigma of mental illness, but ultimately treatment depends on being able to afford it and much of the stigma is driven by the profit motive of insurance companies who want to minimize the amount of treatment people seek. After all, if someone commits suicide at a young age, that prevents the company from being exposed to the risk of someone developing an expensive medical condition as they get older. dont have to pay for cancer treatment if someone kills themselves before they are even diagnosed! Stigma also means people dont go to get therapy because they think therapy is for crazy people or people who are severely mentally ill. That suits insurance companies just fine. This. It's why it's particularly infuriating to me Warren's plan is refusing to cover mental health. I will not have a single thing to do with her as a candidate. Also I'm convinced most of the CHUDs are victims of rampant childhood abuse, since you hear the most hosed up stories if you sit quietly in the background and listen to them as they talk to someone else about their past. I mean, sometimes people are just hateful assholes, and they still have to answer for the decisions they make regardless. But, a lot of monsters are made and not born.
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The biggest realization I ever had was that, as an adult, I can make the choice to deal with my past on move on from it. There are experiences in life that shape you; as an adult you get to decide how those experiences shape you. Maybe your parents were shite, you don't have to be, you can be best. Challenge yourself and grow.
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eric ciaramella posted:The biggest realization I ever had was that, as an adult, I can make the choice to deal with my past on move on from it. There are experiences in life that shape you; as an adult you get to decide how those experiences shape you. Maybe your parents were shite, you don't have to be, you can be best. Challenge yourself and grow. Yeah. It takes self awareness which is way more difficult than a lot of people think but past abuse is not an excuse to perpetuate it forward. Even trying to make amends for it goes a long way. Tripling down because THAT'S HOW IT WAS FOR ME SO NOTHING'S WRONG is the clearest sign that someone is a complete waste of skin
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Chokes McGee posted:Even trying to make amends for it goes a long way. Tripling down because THAT'S HOW IT WAS FOR ME SO NOTHING'S WRONG is the clearest sign that someone is a complete waste of skin I hate that poo poo. It's the same with people who justify spanking their kids with "I was spanked when I was a kid, and I turned out fine!" Did you, though? Because you're hitting your child...
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