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Shame Boy posted:can we get a gang tag of this think you can just upload it to SA via their image hosting then link to it, on mobile or I would
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Nov 19, 2019 17:24
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animist posted:but am i *really* bisexual idk, are you? labels don’t rly capture the nuance of it, just do whatever
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just remembered i was going to ask you fine folks if you had any advice for a poc who needs her face hairs lasered off. any suggestions? also: 
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Nov 19, 2019 18:36
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Nov 19, 2019 18:57
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Zamujasa posted:just remembered i was going to ask you fine folks if you had any advice for a poc who needs her face hairs lasered off. any suggestions? electrolysis is really the only option for dark skin.
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Nov 19, 2019 19:06
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OldAlias posted:think you can just upload it to SA via their image hosting then link to it, on mobile or I would It won't work if it's an attachment. You need a mod (graph) to do it. Yospos isn't my jurisdiction.
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Nov 19, 2019 19:09
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jit bull transpile posted:electrolysis is really the only option for dark skin. I thought the longer wavelength setting of Nd:YAG systems worked for dark skin tones, although it isn't able to deliver as much energy to the follicles so it isn't as effective per treatment as other lasers.
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Nov 19, 2019 19:17
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OldAlias posted:think you can just upload it to SA via their image hosting then link to it, on mobile or I would You can buy it as an avatar, it'll get uploaded to the server and can then be used in img tags in anyone's title text. Downside is you have to buy a new av twice. Or just ask an admin or mod nicely.
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Nov 19, 2019 19:25
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jit bull transpile posted:electrolysis is really the only option for dark skin. thanks. it looks like it runs about $50-100 a session, though how many sessions she would need is an unknown.
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Nov 19, 2019 20:28
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Zamujasa posted:thanks. it looks like it runs about $50-100 a session, though how many sessions she would need is an unknown. it's many many hours. I think to clear my chest was about 25 hours? Ms Twiggy is currently doing her face so she might have better insight on the time commitment for face electro.
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Nov 19, 2019 20:59
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that sounds like it gets up to the thousands-of-dollars range, oof.
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Nov 19, 2019 22:09
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Zamujasa posted:that sounds like it gets up to the thousands-of-dollars range, oof. yeah. my insurance covers it or I couldn't do it. laser costs that much too though. the package I bought to clear my face was 9 sessions for 2500 bucks. and I'm pale af and had dark facial hair and I'm still doing electrolysis to pick off stragglers the laser didn't get.
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Nov 19, 2019 22:49
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I chickened out of my last electrolysis appointment and have been procrastinating on scheduling another one because I am really embarrassed about it and I kinda just want to get knocked the gently caress out for it
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i am not looking forward to when i need to switch to electrolysis to knock out the grey facial hairs i have. i’ve been tolerating the pain of laser surprisingly well so far though
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Nov 20, 2019 00:52
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I started going gray at 19 so yah 
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Shame Boy posted:can we get a gang tag of this yep
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Nov 20, 2019 02:37
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iospace posted:It won't work if it's an attachment. nah you just need somebody to buy it as an avatar. I did the needful
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Achmed Jones posted:nah you just need somebody to buy it as an avatar. I did the needful Yeah, but the mod way is cheaper 
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Achmed Jones posted:nah you just need somebody to buy it as an avatar. I did the needful 🙏 minivanmegafun posted:i am not looking forward to when i need to switch to electrolysis to knock out the grey facial hairs i have. i’ve been tolerating the pain of laser surprisingly well so far though I’ve been tweezing the stray white hairs. kinda sucks lol. I gotta go in for 1 or 2 more sessions I think, but 5 has gotten me most of the way there. have a couple teeny tiny spots I shave in the morning which isn’t ideal, but $$$ and I don’t tolerate the pain well Fatty Crabcakes posted:I chickened out of my last electrolysis appointment and have been procrastinating on scheduling another one because I am really embarrassed about it and I kinda just want to get knocked the gently caress out for it I’ve heard of some people doing this. getting put under or sufficiently drugged out to do an extra extended session and do a bunch at once. doesn’t seem super common, tho benzos or painkillers beforehand seems like it could be a good idea
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iospace posted:Yeah, but the mod way is cheaper yeah i put in a request for it 
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graph posted:yeah i put in a request for it bless.
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Having paid for years of full body laser and electro out of pocket, it's not great but one of the things you could do if you can't take the pain is get some lidocaine gel prescribed from your dentist (if necessary in your area? I dunno if it's controlled everywhere) and smear that on your face before going for your electro and it might help a bit. I only tried it once thought; after that I just went into the "this is what you signed up for" mode. I'm also not sure how accurate it is that electro is the only viable thing for dark skin; every laser place I've been to has been run by hairless Arabic women of varied tones and some of them have been pretty dark but still have no hair. There's also a Black customer of my laser lady who was always there right before my appointments and she seemed to be getting results. I'd talk to your laser tech/electrologist and see what's best. It'll end up being a combination of both laser & electro of course, but if you can kill 2x4 inch squares at a time instead of the much slower bulb-burner that electro is you'll come out ahead of the game.
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The pain is a big part of it and the gel does help (I can't afford it or injections tho) but it's a whole big thing: not being able to shave, which makes me feel horrible, taking the bus there, which makes me feel worse, and trying to fight my way through the blind panic of someone looming over me and hurting me over and over again. I do not handle that well.
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jit bull transpile posted:it's many many hours. I think to clear my chest was about 25 hours? Ms Twiggy is currently doing her face so she might have better insight on the time commitment for face electro. I’m probably 60-65 hours in at the moment and have more or less gotten a first pass clear on everything but my upper lip. But I didn’t have a ton of facial hair to start with and I still probably have a good 20 hours or so before my chin is 100% clean of lighter colored regrowth. Including my upper lip would probably put me at another 5-10 hours overall making for a total electrolysis time of 90-100 hours when all is said and done. And that’s just the face. In other news, I came out at work recently! It’s going well so far and I’ve only deadnamed myself twice in two days!
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Nov 20, 2019 22:34
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Achmed Jones posted:nah you just need somebody to buy it as an avatar. I did the needful thanks <3 i'll buy a few for other people later when i'm not busy
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Ms. Twiggy posted:In other news, I came out at work recently! It’s going well so far and I’ve only deadnamed myself twice in two days! Gotta stop talking in the 3rd person!
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trashy owl posted:bless. here yall go  https://fi.somethingawful.com/images/gangtags/crimen.png
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not trying to be dumb, but is there some reason that the other link (https://fi.somethingawful.com/safs/titles/98/f0/00066400.0001.png) wouldn't work?
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Achmed Jones posted:not trying to be dumb, but is there some reason that the other link (https://fi.somethingawful.com/safs/titles/98/f0/00066400.0001.png) wouldn't work? I think graph just didn't see that you were buying it
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oh ok cool, I thought I goofed or something. thanks! the more gay skeletons the better imo
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I’m going to come out in work tomorrow, only 2 months more and I might finally get hormones, and my mother is willing to go with me to psychologist and talk this through. My life is finally getting together and I wish the same for all of you. Also started dating another trans woman, this is the first person in my 22 years of living (yes I’m basically a child here but whatever) that I actively pursue romantically.
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RustyKnight posted:I’m going to come out in work tomorrow, only 2 months more and I might finally get hormones, and my mother is willing to go with me to psychologist and talk this through. My life is finally getting together and I wish the same for all of you. Also started dating another trans woman, this is the first person in my 22 years of living (yes I’m basically a child here but whatever) that I actively pursue romantically. OwO Congratulations! I'm having my first romantic relationship at 33, it's amazing and scary af.
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RustyKnight posted:I’m going to come out in work tomorrow, only 2 months more and I might finally get hormones, and my mother is willing to go with me to psychologist and talk this through. My life is finally getting together and I wish the same for all of you. Also started dating another trans woman, this is the first person in my 22 years of living (yes I’m basically a child here but whatever) that I actively pursue romantically. I'm rooting for you! and you too Anarchist Mae! just remember people aren't exaggerating at all when they say communication is the most important part of any relationship.
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Anarchist Mae posted:I'm having my first romantic relationship at 33, it's amazing and scary af. please don’t call me out like this
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but seriously, before i came out, no romantic relationships for 32 years, and now i’ve had two in a single year sure one of them was a slow burning shitshow that i never really felt head-over-heels about, but i needed that to loosen up about dating (33 years of complexes!!) and now this second one is very nice and cozy in all the ways the first one wasn’t...
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RustyKnight posted:I’m going to come out in work tomorrow, only 2 months more and I might finally get hormones, and my mother is willing to go with me to psychologist and talk this through. My life is finally getting together and I wish the same for all of you. Also started dating another trans woman, this is the first person in my 22 years of living (yes I’m basically a child here but whatever) that I actively pursue romantically. super congrats buddy  Anarchist Mae posted:I'm having my first romantic relationship at 33, it's amazing and scary af. also super congrats buddy Shifty Pony posted:just remember people aren't exaggerating at all when they say communication is the most important part of any relationship. fuckin' absolutely, burn this into your mind if nothing else. if you can get to the point where you connect with your partner in a way that there's no like, bullshit filters, you'll never have any real big internal relationship problems. my wife and i are practically melded into a big gay hivemind at this point and our relationship has been rock stable for nearly 10 years now
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Nov 21, 2019 15:47
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Shame Boy posted:fuckin' absolutely, burn this into your mind if nothing else. if you can get to the point where you connect with your partner in a way that there's no like, bullshit filters, you'll never have any real big internal relationship problems. my wife and i are practically melded into a big gay hivemind at this point and our relationship has been rock stable for nearly 10 years now also part of communication is being able to tell or be told "I need some alone time right now" without any sort of guilt. woo relationships hive mind crew. I hope everyone gets the opportunity in their life to regularly collapse into giggle piles with their best friend because you both had to tell the other the exact same completely random thought.
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Shame Boy posted:fuckin' absolutely, burn this into your mind if nothing else. if you can get to the point where you connect with your partner in a way that there's no like, bullshit filters, you'll never have any real big internal relationship problems. my wife and i are practically melded into a big gay hivemind at this point and our relationship has been rock stable for nearly 10 years now Shifty Pony posted:also part of communication is being able to tell or be told "I need some alone time right now" without any sort of guilt.  i've also found non-violent communication stuff really helpful, practicing using "I" language and stuff. especially having grown up around some not-entirely-healthy relationships. the goal isn't to never disagree or gently caress up, imo. it's to know how to accommodate disagreements and fuckups when they do happen. if you can do that, you're golden
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