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Three hour glucose tolerance test results (that I had to go to the ED to find out because again I’m getting the runaround on the phone): 60 minutes: 209 120 minutes: 92 180 minutes: 88 My body was shocked by the infusion of pure sugar and took a while to figure out wtf to do but then compensated beautifully. But because of the 209 I have to repeat the test in 4 weeks which is the outcome I was really dreading. Just diagnose me with GDM and don’t make me go through that again 😫 Edit: apparently the protocol in the U.S. would be to just consider me negative and send me on my way with only one value out of range, so, not the first time I’ve missed American healthcare in my European socialist paradise. Although I did come across this study that suggests the American approach is wrong and maybe I should just consider myself diabetic anyway. boquiabierta fucked around with this message at 21:41 on Nov 15, 2019 |
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Has anyone else’s work given them a complete run around when it comes to maternity benefits? Every time I talk to these benefits people at work it seems like they are trying to talk around my questions and not give me the answers I need purposefully.
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:Has anyone else’s work given them a complete run around when it comes to maternity benefits? Every time I talk to these benefits people at work it seems like they are trying to talk around my questions and not give me the answers I need purposefully. Yes. I Couldn’t get any questions answered. When I called specifically citing the leave directive they acted like it did not exist and I was making it up.
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Sarah posted:Yes. I Couldn’t get any questions answered. When I called specifically citing the leave directive they acted like it did not exist and I was making it up. This is so frustrating. Why do they do this and how is it legal??
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boquiabierta posted:Three hour glucose tolerance test results (that I had to go to the ED to find out because again I’m getting the runaround on the phone): I don't know if it's always true that they would consider you negative with one out of whack value. With my first, my 60 min was 184, and since it was over 180 they automatically considered me to have GD. The other numbers were fine. It super sucked to manage (eating vegetarian and GD at the same time is... full of measuring and math) but I'm glad they diagnosed me as such. I was extremely meticulous about diet and exercise and was able to get all of my post-meal numbers on target, but even with drugs my fasting draws were always a touch over 100. If they had considered the one high number an anomaly and passed me, they would have missed the GD and been doing my kiddo a disservice. And just a word of encouragement for anybody dealing with GD- I was super worried I would also have it with subsequent pregnancies since they really stress how awful the odds are. But I passed both 3 hours they made me do with this pregnancy, and even cratered out at 40 for my 180 min draw on the last one. (Do not recommend)
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:This is so frustrating. Why do they do this and how is it legal?? I have no idea. I had my daughter in October 2019 at 36 weeks. I remember in September I called HR to ask about my leave. Because I had just started working there in January and would not have FMLA. The directive said I get 6 weeks unpaid. According to HR, maternity leave is only for FMLA. There is no maternity leave at all unless you invoke FMLA (I work for the federal government). If I wanted more leave than I had on the books then to take leave I would have to request advance sick leave and the director would have to approve it. So I asked how I do that. They said they didn’t know. Ooooookaaaaay ...? Huh? How do you not know? So I asked how I was supposed to plan this all out it I had no idea when I was having the baby. Again, she didn’t know. She said I would have to put it my time when my labor started (she guessed).Again I asked how am I supposed to make the request? She started to get mad at me. I think they were hoping I would get frustrated and quit. It was such a mess. I asked for FMLA even though I wasn’t on board a year and it was approved. Which is good because before it was approved I was told I had to be back to work on Monday (I wasn’t allowed to take the leave I earned). The official word passed down from the female director was that a week was more than long enough to recover from a vaginal birth. Glad that FMLA got approved because on that Monday they wanted me back I was still pissing myself.
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Jfc that’s absolutely infuriating. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that.
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Wife is already stressing about that, she started her current position at around 7 weeks, so she won't be eligible under FMLA. How hard should it be to find an OB/GYN? We had one appointment just before her benefits kicked in, paid for out of pocket which was just confirmation of pregnancy. She had an appointment scheduled for yesterday at 15 weeks and they called to cancel it, apparently because her benefits *did* kick in. Oh, she works for a hospital and the pregnancy center she went to is under that hospital and the insurance company is also a division of that hospital. WTF.
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ilkhan posted:Wife is already stressing about that, she started her current position at around 7 weeks, so she won't be eligible under FMLA. don't most people with hospital insurance have lovely insurance that basically requires you only get care with them?
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I'm 32 weeks and I've been having a lot of pelvic and groin pain and I don't know if it's normal. I don't remember if I posted about it in here before. It's vaguely located, hard to describe, feels kind of like my whole pelvis is really sore. It comes with movement primarily and is fine at rest. But it hurts a ton to move my legs, like, at all, whether it's turning over in bed, getting up and walking, getting into a car, etc. Sometimes it kind of radiates down the inside of my thighs. Sometimes it feels like it's actually my vulva that's sore, or right inside my vulva. I figure this is probably something normal like ligaments stretching in preparation for birth, or idk, something else normal for third trimester aches and pains, but it's getting worse and I can't imagine how I'm going to get through labor if I'm already feeling this kind of pain. Any thoughts?
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I haven’t had the same issue, but, my hip pain started back up around the same time, which I know is related to the body prepping for birth. My stomach is absolutely hosed today. I’ve also had low back pain and a bit of cramping recently. 34 weeks now. Guessing my body is prepping for the baby. It’s not any fun, though.
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boquiabierta posted:I'm 32 weeks and I've been having a lot of pelvic and groin pain and I don't know if it's normal. I don't remember if I posted about it in here before. It's vaguely located, hard to describe, feels kind of like my whole pelvis is really sore. It comes with movement primarily and is fine at rest. But it hurts a ton to move my legs, like, at all, whether it's turning over in bed, getting up and walking, getting into a car, etc. Sometimes it kind of radiates down the inside of my thighs. Sometimes it feels like it's actually my vulva that's sore, or right inside my vulva. I had this really bad - it sounds like SPD (symphysis pubis dysfunction). It's pretty common and normal but sucks A LOT. The biggest thing that helped me was sleeping with a pillow between my knees (I had a big C shaped pregnancy pillow) and a small wedge pillow under my belly so the weight of my belly wasn't pulling my hips weird. Try to train yourself to use the power of your arms to help you turn over in bed (I would pull myself up to sitting, adjust my hips/legs, then go back down) and keep your knees together getting in and out of cars and other similar movements. I had an epidural so I can't say much about it during labor but it definitely went away right after birth. It sucked though and always hurt a little bit (up to a lot) doing anything. marchantia fucked around with this message at 18:12 on Dec 3, 2019 |
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It does sound a lot like SPD. I had an SI belt from a previous hip problem and wearing that over the widest part of my hips helped a lot. You can get an SI belt on the Internet, or your provider could write you a prescription for one and you can see if your insurance will cover it. Make sure you get one that you can pull to tighten, and not one that just Velcros one time. During labor that pain was not on my mind at all, you will be much more focused on contractions.
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Would this be the proper thread to ask about sleep training? My wife is about to go work in a month and we've been trying to sleep train our little 6 month old for the past two weeks and it seems to be going nowhere. This is our basic outline of what we've been trying... 1. Baby gets one boob 2. Bath time (usually 10-15 minutes for her to play and get clean) 3. Gets dressed 4. Mom reads her a book or two 5. Lights are dimmed and she is given 1 or both boobs 6. When she is semi-asleep, I pick her up and move her into another room ?. We watch her on a baby monitor Now those 6 steps are pretty solid and we've done those consistently for two weeks now, but because there doesn't seem to be any progression in her sleep. Here is what I've tried after step 6... 1. Drop her down, kiss her good night and let her cry for 10 minutes, come back in, soothe her for 5, drop her back down, let her cry for 15, come back in, soothe her for 5, drop her back down, let her cry for 20 etc. She will either cry the entire time (even when I'm holding her), or cry when I put her down. 2. After going into the other room, I rock her for 5-10 minutes until she's sleepy, drop her in... repeat step 1. 3. Rock her until she is totally asleep, repeat step 1. I'm pretty much at a loss here and not sure what else I can do in terms of progression. She is literally fighting and wrestling with herself in the crib until she passes out. A lot of the time, she is on all fours looking around and crying. Any suggestions? Please?
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Honestly at about that stage we just ended up co-sleeping most nights, or at least for the start of them. We were both studying full time and were so sleep deprived that it came down to "whatever makes the baby sleep is what we'll do". Our son was sick all the time and I had to prop him up to get him to go to sleep anyway, so he'd fall asleep usually in my arms and then one of us would read in bed/pass out from exhaustion next to him for the rest of the evening. If he stirred, one of us being right there was enough to soothe him back to proper sleep quickly. It's not a parenting approach we planned on but it's the one that ended up working for us at that age and stage. Just figured that if his tiny primate instincts dictated that being near us was what he needed to calm himself enough to sleep then that was what we'd go with. Night time feeds were obviously also easier. Rest assured that it didn't ruin him for his cot, we got him going to sleep pretty consistently at 7pm from about 7-8 months onward. He's just turned 1 and goes down in his cot most nights after a brief rage moment (of course as I write this he is intermittently crying 1hr after bedtime). Some nights when he really struggles we do still get him to sleep in our bed with someone next to him, and then transfer him to his cot when he's been asleep for at least 30min.
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obi_ant posted:Would this be the proper thread to ask about sleep training? My wife is about to go work in a month and we've been trying to sleep train our little 6 month old for the past two weeks and it seems to be going nowhere. This is our basic outline of what we've been trying... I’m going to send you a PM of the article that helped me out a lot when my daughter started standing and didn’t want to sleep. I’m not posting it here because it will probably cause the “if you sleep train you’re a mean parent” crowd to appear.
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Could you PM it to me too, please?
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Zack Ater posted:Could you PM it to me too, please? Sure!
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We sleep trained! Anti-sleep training army can yell at me all they want, I did my research and feel more than comfortable with my decision. I sleep trained at 3.5 months, bought Dr. Ferbers book and gave it a go. She took to it quickly and has been sleeping 7-7 the vast majority of days with a dreamfeed when I go to bed at 10 since maybe 4 months or so (she's almost 7 months now)? I kept an additional night feed when I started around 2-3am that she dropped on her own over time. I didn't want to cosleep because of the increased SIDS/SUID risk, minute as it may have been. A huge part of getting bedtime to work is getting wake windows during the day to be age appropriate. As far as resources, I thought Dr. Ferber's book was well reasoned and had a lot of background information about infant and child sleep cycles. As far as nitty gritty stuff I joined a FB group called "Respectful Sleep Training/Learning" that was very helpful in figuring out a nap schedule. They have a lot of files you can read and are helpful for troubleshooting schedule issues. They support sleep training at every age, which I really can't get on board with, but you can use your own judgement on that. Happy to discuss further in PM if you are uncomfortable discussing it here.
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obi_ant posted:Would this be the proper thread to ask about sleep training? My wife is about to go work in a month and we've been trying to sleep train our little 6 month old for the past two weeks and it seems to be going nowhere. This is our basic outline of what we've been trying... I would move the full feeding to the beginning of the bedtime, before bath. Boob, bath, books, bed. She should be going into the crib fully awake. Drowsy or farther can cause confusion/distress when they wake up and are like... WHAT GIVES this isn't mama's nice warm lap?? We did progressive checks based on ferber's schedule in his book, but there was no picking up the baby in the check. The check isn't to get the baby to stop crying, but rather to reassure them that you are still around. I would go in, rub her back or stomach and say some soothing words. Checks are less than a minute. Other things to consider - Is the room she sleeps in dark dark? We put tinfoil over the windows behind darkening curtains. And more importantly, what does her daytime schedule look like napwise? Babies that are either overtired or undertired at bedtime have a lot harder time going down. Another source worth looking at is Taking Cara Babies. Very hand holdy but it has a lot of validation and troubleshooting. I never paid but follow her IG and blog that has lots of good info.
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I swear, people get so caught up in how they think it should be done that when someone says they did it differently, it's like a personal insult. I'm actually getting poo poo from my mom/MIL from the other end because we didn't sleep train and still nurse my 17 mo to sleep. It's the only thing close to an off-switch the kid has, and has always been the path of least resistance. He can fall asleep on his own...if one of us is also there, and also it take like 30 min to an hour. But 10-15 min on the boob and he's out. IDGAF because he sleeps through the night (well, mostly, to like 4 or 5 am, and then another hour or so after that) and most days it's the only snuggle time I get dammit. Do what works and keeps you sane, gently caress the haters.
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2DEG posted:I swear, people get so caught up in how they think it should be done that when someone says they did it differently, it's like a personal insult. I'm actually getting poo poo from my mom/MIL from the other end because we didn't sleep train and still nurse my 17 mo to sleep. It's the only thing close to an off-switch the kid has, and has always been the path of least resistance. He can fall asleep on his own...if one of us is also there, and also it take like 30 min to an hour. But 10-15 min on the boob and he's out. IDGAF because he sleeps through the night (well, mostly, to like 4 or 5 am, and then another hour or so after that) and most days it's the only snuggle time I get dammit. Hard agree. Honestly that sounds delightful - my kid was never snuggly around bedtime, so it wasn't as difficult a transition to go from her thrashing around in my arms to thrashing around in the crib before bed. That said, she could probably do the 10pm dreamfeed now but I'm going to keep doing that until she refuses it because I love the sleepy snuggles I get and she falls asleep on me afterwards before putting her back down to sleep.
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I echo moving feeding to beginning of routine and putting them down awake instead of half asleep. Also echo nailing appropriate wake windows (I also love Taking Cara Babies and have found her instagram and blog advice really useful). We found that going in to check made things worse so we went to full on extinction method - just let them cry as long as necessary. Luckily it never went on for more than an hour, earplugs and alcohol help. And they usually figure it out really fast so you don’t have to withstand too many days of wailing. But be prepared to retrain every few weeks bc regression.
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Parenting really is all about doing what works for you, unless it’s dangerous, obviously. My seven month old gets a bath, then nursed to sleep every night, and I wait until she is out cold before putting her in her crib. Bedtime takes one to two hours, but I enjoy it, so that’s what we do. I can count on one hand the number of times she’s woken up scared/crying, she almost always wakes up and coos until I wake up, and I know that’s because I’m lucky. Not all kids are like that, many need some method of training or co sleeping so that mom/dad don’t go insane. Find what works for you and go with it.
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marchantia posted:I had this really bad - it sounds like SPD (symphysis pubis dysfunction). It's pretty common and normal but sucks A LOT. The biggest thing that helped me was sleeping with a pillow between my knees (I had a big C shaped pregnancy pillow) and a small wedge pillow under my belly so the weight of my belly wasn't pulling my hips weird. Try to train yourself to use the power of your arms to help you turn over in bed (I would pull myself up to sitting, adjust my hips/legs, then go back down) and keep your knees together getting in and out of cars and other similar movements. I had an epidural so I can't say much about it during labor but it definitely went away right after birth. It sucked though and always hurt a little bit (up to a lot) doing anything. Koivunen posted:It does sound a lot like SPD. I had an SI belt from a previous hip problem and wearing that over the widest part of my hips helped a lot. You can get an SI belt on the Internet, or your provider could write you a prescription for one and you can see if your insurance will cover it. Make sure you get one that you can pull to tighten, and not one that just Velcros one time. During labor that pain was not on my mind at all, you will be much more focused on contractions. Thanks, this is helpful. I told my doctor about it today and he had nothing useful to tell me and I think thought I was just describing round ligament pain. But I'm glad to know what it is at least. I do have a supportive belt that I'll try wearing. Does anyone else experience weird hormonal side effects with Braxton Hicks? My face feels really flushed and/or I get this tight, panicky sensation in my chest. It was hard to identify as coming with a contraction for a while because I have anxiety anyway, but this felt different and eventually I realized whenever it happened I was also having a contraction. I did a quick google and can't really find information on OTHER side effects that come with Braxton Hicks besides the actual contraction but since it's all hormones I figure it makes sense.
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bobquiabierta, I just got through a pregnancy with spd and it was like what you're describing, at least at first. As others said, a belt can help, but I found it only relieved symptoms enough to do anything for a month or so. After that the problem got much worse and the belt sort of helped but I couldn't function even with it. Things can get worse but it will go away after birth so just get mentally prepared to hang in there. I'm 2 months post and still have some pain but it's SO MUCH BETTER. Make sure not to exacerbate it at this early stage. Don't overdo things. Keep your knees moving together at all times if possible. Don't get in or out of a car the normal way, sit and swivel, swinging your legs in and out together. Sit down to put your pants on, do not stand on one leg. You can go up and down stairs one step at a time. In my case moving to a house with stairs halfway through made it a lot worse. Avoid stairs if you can. :/ I actually started going up and down on my butt it was so bad toward the end. There is an exercise you can do, where you lay on your side, put both fists between your knees, and squeeze. This can help align things long enough to, say, get up and go to the bathroom in the middle of the night without excruciating pain. But it can't solve the issue alas. Birth will eventually help, like all pregnancy poo poo. I found the hardest part was keeping mentally sane with the amount of pain and not being able to go anywhere or do anything. Hang in there. (I really hope yours doesn't get so bad.)
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^^^ ugh I'm so sorry yours got so bad. I hope that doesn't happen to me. I'm already noticing a huge difference with wearing a belt, my pain has decreased significantly. Hoping it doesn't get worse through these last weeks.
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I guess this is the place to ask. My wife is pregnant with twins (our first kids) and we are currently looking at newborn carseats. However, since we have twins we will need to place one behind the driver and one behind the passenger. The problem is that I am quite tall and have had trouble fitting a carseat we bought behind my drivers seat (I drive a Mazda CX-5 CUV). Does anyone have any suggestions for newborn carseats that are compact and fit in smaller back rows?
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Mind_Taker posted:I guess this is the place to ask. I used to have a two-door convertible. The smallest seats I found are the Chicco Keyfit 30 (note: I last tested three years ago, so there may be even smaller seats on the market now idk). Likewise, the smallest convertible rear facing seats are the Maxi-Cosi Pria 75/80 and the Peg Perego Primo Viaggio. I literally spent hours one day outside a Babys R Us (lol) testing various seats in my tiny car with the roof down.
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Mind_Taker posted:I guess this is the place to ask. I’ve read from a few places that the safest place for a car seat it’s the middle; because you avoid the side air bags in most cars and because baby seat is wider than the driver and passenger seat, the chances of them flying through the window are small. Does your car allow you to have the seat in the middle and one behind the passenger?
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boquiabierta posted:Does anyone else experience weird hormonal side effects with Braxton Hicks? My face feels really flushed and/or I get this tight, panicky sensation in my chest. It was hard to identify as coming with a contraction for a while because I have anxiety anyway, but this felt different and eventually I realized whenever it happened I was also having a contraction. I did a quick google and can't really find information on OTHER side effects that come with Braxton Hicks besides the actual contraction but since it's all hormones I figure it makes sense. I get that panicky sensation in my chest sometimes when breastfeeding. I’ve never heard of anyone else experiencing it, but I also never asked because I wasn’t quite sure how to describe it. I imagine it’s the same thing though since they’re both connected to oxytocin.
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obi_ant posted:I’ve read from a few places that the safest place for a car seat it’s the middle; because you avoid the side air bags in most cars and because baby seat is wider than the driver and passenger seat, the chances of them flying through the window are small. Many cars don't have LATCH attachment points for the middle. My pediatrician's hold recording has, as one of its helpful tips, that the safest place is the middle of the back seat, and sure, that's probably true, but not having available lower anchors (and potentially not even a top tether attachment point) is pretty frustrating, especially since the middle seatbelt is often less convenient to use than the side seatbelts anyway.
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You can do a seatbelt install. As long as you get a good install with whatever method, both latch and seatbelt installs are equally safe. I'd try that in the middle seat. Most infant seats are similar sized so you may have a problem getting a comfortable install behind the driver seat.
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KasioDiscoRock posted:I get that panicky sensation in my chest sometimes when breastfeeding. I’ve never heard of anyone else experiencing it, but I also never asked because I wasn’t quite sure how to describe it. I imagine it’s the same thing though since they’re both connected to oxytocin. Oh my friend had/has that! It's called D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex) and it's a thing. She had it bad enough she had to go on antidepressants for it.
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Thanks everyone. I went to Target and tested several car seats out. The Graco Snuglock fits behind my driver seat okay after moving my driver seat forward slightly and tilting the seat forward slightly. My seat should be fine for driving anything but very long distances. I might try the center + passenger arrangement at some point if I find it too uncomfortable having the car seat behind me while I’m driving. The bad thing is that I can’t use 2 bases attached using the LATCH in this arrangement since they can’t share a common lower anchor point, so I would have to use a seatbelt install instead for the passenger side seat which will be more annoying I imagine.
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Should I be counting kicks? My providers haven't mentioned it. The Sprog is very active and I would notice if the level of movement were to decrease, I think. But is it really important to be counting kicks every day?
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boquiabierta posted:Should I be counting kicks? My providers haven't mentioned it. The Sprog is very active and I would notice if the level of movement were to decrease, I think. But is it really important to be counting kicks every day? My provider only really wanted me to do it if I thought there was a decrease/hadn’t noticed any in a while.
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It's finally happened. I got the 'rhoids. hemorrhoids nooooooooooooo edit: omg whoever changed my avatar I love you edit 2: I'm 35 weeks and feel like the fetal movements have diminished a bit. They're still there, regularly, but I feel like a few weeks ago Sprog was kicking up way more of a storm than now. Is it just less room to move around in now, or should I be concerned? boquiabierta fucked around with this message at 17:22 on Dec 24, 2019 |
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37 weeks tomorrow. Experiencing cramping and back pain consistently, so nothing to time. Doctor has me resting and waiting to see if there will be any increase in pain, and timetable contractions. Wondering if the baby will make an early appearance. Last Wednesday I was 1cm dilated, 50% effaced and baby was at -1.
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boquiabierta posted:It's finally happened. There’s less space in there the closer you get to your due date, so less room to thrash around. As long as the frequency doesn’t change you’re good. The rrhoids were the worst part of my pregnancy and recovery after birth. Eight months postpartum and I’m convinced my b hole will never be the same.
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