Johnny Truant posted:

What I don't get about some of the "drinking at work" stories is like, how tf does anyone else not just smell it on their breath? Like, fuckin absinthe, how did that absinthe interviewer not just emit a 5ft odour of alcohol

Kenshin posted:

This is hilarious because I've worked at multiple places with kegerators or beer in the fridge and would regularly (though not every day!) have a beer with lunch. So would other folks. Nobody cared.

Hooray PNW software office culture!

The Bloop posted:

I can't remember explicitly seeing Don't Drink At Work in an employee handbook

I would think any reasonable person would think that was the default condition

Halloween Jack posted:

Edit: One time I bought drinks for work, and the ginger beer was so spicy that some people just assumed they were tasting alcohol.

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Hello all,

I am a 2nd year college student and live in a suite with 3 other guys. One member of the group, K, I have known since before coming on campus and for a long time. He is one of my closest friends, but also very on/off, meaning he is sometimes genuine to me but also sometimes quite fake (lying about simple things to hide from me, gatekeeping friends, gatekeeping opportunities, being unnecessarily secretive). For example, the 4 of us have each other's location for solely safety reasons and convenience, and K turned his off (but not for our last suitemate, only G and myself). Another example is that he acts very close to some people but then goes behind their back to either shittalk them or trade some information about that person with someone else. He often manipulates people into believing they can be close with him even if he doesn't feel close to them, to get on people's good side. Despite his moments of genuine helpful behavior and being a very good and loyal friend, his moments of artificial behavior and odd secrecy has put distance between us and I have been hanging out with him less.

My other suitemate, G, was walking back to our dorm with K sometime last week and were talking about our suite dynamic. G told me today that during that walk, K said that as a friend, he wants me to develop a personality/develop my own personality/develop a personality of my own (not sure about the exact wording). G told me that K meant it in a friend-helping-friend way. K has also been quite fake with G sometimes. I trust G's word because his gf and my best friend are best friends, and the 4 of us know most of what happens between us.

What does this mean? I have known K for so long and despite our similarities in some hobbies and very similar sense of humor, we are different in other interests and general personality. He is also helpful to me and in the past, there have been many times where he has truly been a good friend to me. Does it mean that I am too similar to him and he wants me to find my own personality to be different from him? Does it mean he thinks I'm just boring? Did he bring up me in the conversation in case G said something against me, and then he would tell me what G said to get closer to me instead? Why would he say that, I'm trying to understand what this means. Thank you!

tl;dr: My sometimes manipulative but close friend has told me to develop a personality but I'm not sure what that means and what he thinks of me.

PancakeTransmission posted:

Yeah and maybe peanuts so we don't get another kid that has to ruin it for everyone around them

hawowanlawow posted:

alternatively: threadban anyone who complains about derails

Dr. Video Games 0135 posted:

Runcible Cat posted:

Has anyone else seen Volere Volare? It's a hoot. The woman the hero's in love with is a sex worker and among her clients are a couple who take turns pretending to be dead while the other and her mourn as dramatically as possible, threaten to kill themselves because they can't go on living alone etc etc. So obviously the OP and gf need to open their relationship to include another mourner.

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tl;dr My partner's friend is having sleepover at his place and he didn't tell me.

We've been together for almost 6 year but didnt live together since the culture in our country is pretty religious. We lived closed enough though (walking distance).

I walked to his house and found this girl there. Turns out she's been having sleepover for a few days. Just the two of them. He didn't tell me about sleepover, but he did tell me about hanging out with this friend.

I trusted him fully and never once doubt him. We never forbid another to hang out with opposite sex. But somehow I feel betrayed that he didn't tell me about the sleepover. Am I too possessive? Should I be worried? I plan to tell him what I felt but I need to know whether I'm overthinking this and if this is normal.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and until this morning I thought we were destined to be married. I walked into the kitchen this morning and witnessed my boyfriend pouring a 1 Liter bottle of Mountain Dew into my relatively new coffee maker. Into the spot where you normally put water. Mountain Dew. For about 3 seconds I literally thought maybe I didn't wake up and that this was some sort of dream. But no, it was real life.

I shouted "What are you dooooooooooooooooooing!!!!!!" He giggled and said he was making "Mountain Dewfee" and told me it was supposed to be a "romantic surprise." I could not believe what I was hearing. Before I could take decisive action he hit the "brew" button, sending the sugar-laden carbonated green soda into the innards of my coffee machine.

"Trust me it'll be great", he said. I was like "You are RUINING my coffee machine!" He was very confused and kept insisting he was being romantic and that I'd like his "invention" when I tried it.

I stormed off in a state of horrified amazement. A few moments later he came in with two mugs of disgusting colored hot liquid and said "Dewfee service!" He kept insisting I give it a try and making exaggerated orgasm sounds whenever he sipped his. Finally I relented and believe it or not Mountain Dewfee tastes like garbage and bullshit.

I spit it out in the floor into his shoes as a show of my distaste and as an immediately immature form of retaliation. "You don't like it?" he said confused and disappointed. I told him that I had never hated anything more in my entire life. He walked out of the apartment and left.

I sent him a text message with a link to my coffee maker and said "We have 2 day shipping so I expect it here by Monday." He never replied until hours later and said "We are breaking up, this was my most romantic gesture of all time and you poo poo on my heart. We're done."

I have not replied yet. I thought we were going to get married but he ruined my coffee maker. But maybe he was trying to be romantic and I could have been calmer. My sister says that I should propose marriage to him, which I think is a bit of an escalation too far in the other way, but I don't know. I don't know if I really want our relationship to end but I just can't believe he is the type of person to make romantic soda coffee.

TL;DR - My boyfriend destroyed my coffee maker with Mountain Dew and I hated it, now we might break up.

Malkof posted:

Just Dew it:

My (23 F) boyfriend (24 M) put Mountain Dew in my coffee to make "Mountain Dewfee" (yes really) and thought it would be "romantic".

mllaneza posted:

Just run some vinegar through there, it'll be fine.

mllaneza posted:

Just run some vinegar through there, it'll be fine.

lament.cfg posted:

Should have gone with Baja Blast

Malkof posted:

Just Dew it:

My (23 F) boyfriend (24 M) put Mountain Dew in my coffee to make "Mountain Dewfee" (yes really) and thought it would be "romantic".

Malkof posted:

Just Dew it:

My (23 F) boyfriend (24 M) put Mountain Dew in my coffee to make "Mountain Dewfee" (yes really) and thought it would be "romantic".

rotinaj posted:

I just want to hear from the boyfriend to hear what aspect of a horrible soda coffee was supposed to be romantic

Why did he keep insisting that this weird invention was a gesture that would somehow mean more to her? It doesn’t sound like Mountain Dew is a big fave of hers, so where does the romance come into the picture?

pentyne posted:

Wasn't there an AAM about some middle manager who organized a happy hour or something, was encouraging everyone to eat some weed edibles, then surprised then with a drug test the next day?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Close friend told me I [M19] should develop a personality, what does this mean?

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I had three sons and when I had my daughter I was so excited. I decided to name her my all time favorite girl name that I read in a book in adolescence: Cataleya. Her entire life since preschool she insisted on being called “Taley” pronounced like “tally mark”. It’s so ugly. I have always refused to call her that nickname and always called her by her full name which she said she didn’t like.

I was very upset when she legally changed her name to Taley in her early twenties and told her that no matter what I’d call her Cataleya. She said that I was being disrespectful but we eventually got over it. She got married and in June and ever since then she’s been extremely persistent on being called her nickname only. She says that she thinks I’m being rude for being the only person to use her “old name” and I said it’s because it’s her name! Even her nickname is a shorter version of her name. I told her there’s nothing wrong with having a nickname but I won’t call her it. She threatened to cut me off! My husband says she’s overreacting but her brothers are on her side. Aita?

Soylent Pudding posted:

Incoming estranged parent in 3... 2...

Aita for refusing to call my daughter by her nickname?

Mx. posted:

selfish gits always being like "they're overreacting!!! it's such a minor thing so why can't they just put up with it" bitch if it's such a minor thing why can't YOU

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My wife got pregnant 5 years ago. I had told her that it was due to a contraceptive fail and I don't want to have a child. I wasn't allowed to get a vasectomy done because I was too young then.

She told me I have no choice but to now take care of the child. We had a major breakout. I told her I'll be sending her about $20000 each year but she'll never see me again. I left the house and never went back. I've only been sending her the money every month through mail order.

Recently she contacted me saying the child is 4yo and i should at least try to connect with her(female child). I told her I can only send money and she wanted the child so she should be the one taking care of the child too.

She was crying and telling me the child misses her father. I told her I cannot love the child that I never wanted.

AITA?