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AngryRobotsInc posted:Depends on the kid, really. My son has always bruised if you even just look at him funny, but I have known other kids who can just absolutely eat it onto concrete and not bruise.
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AngryRobotsInc posted:Depends on the kid, really. My son has always bruised if you even just look at him funny, but I have known other kids who can just absolutely eat it onto concrete and not bruise. I remember being confused as a kid when I'd descriptions of kids getting bruised from fights/falls/etc., because I was a terrible klutz and would routinely faceplant onto every surface of the playground and never saw anything remotely black or blue or purple.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 00:38 |
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Kids of a certain age will at all times have tons of bruises on the front of their legs, in my experience.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 00:42 |
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blight rhino posted:Gramps is a total dick. I don't have kids, and extreme limited experience around little ones, but don't they bruise like bananas? Or, is it the opposite where they have like super human resistant to bruising? For whatever unknown, uneducated reason, I assumed they would bruise if you poke them hard. Uh, not quite like a banana. That’s more like an old person on blood thinners. Like, some kids bruise easily, but even with that you should never put your hands on a kid in such a way as to bruise them unless maybe wrestling/roughhousing with a much older kid, and then bruises would still be a sign that you need to tone it down. If he had been at all gentle the kid wouldn’t have bruises. In my state leaving marks that last longer than 24 hours is the state’s definition of the line between physical discipline and physical abuse, which this absolutely was. The kid is only a year old.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 00:45 |
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Nextdoor, but definitely belongs here. https://twitter.com/bestofnextdoor/status/1451321699371151360/photo/1
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Invisible Clergy posted:Nextdoor, but definitely belongs here.
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Invisible Clergy posted:Nextdoor, but definitely belongs here.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 00:51 |
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therobit posted:Uh, not quite like a banana. That’s more like an old person on blood thinners. Like, some kids bruise easily, but even with that you should never put your hands on a kid in such a way as to bruise them unless maybe wrestling/roughhousing with a much older kid, and then bruises would still be a sign that you need to tone it down. If he had been at all gentle the kid wouldn’t have bruises. In my state leaving marks that last longer than 24 hours is the state’s definition of the line between physical discipline and physical abuse, which this absolutely was. The kid is only a year old. gotcha. as I said, I was just ignorant in the little human subject. Did I land in the "friend zone? quote:*Correction: I used the phrase "friend zone", which I dont really use because I find it derogative but apparently most people thinking the same(luckily). So when I say "friend zone" I mean a situation when in a friendship one wants to escalate to a romantic relationship but the other not really recognise it because the nature of their relationship. Please handle it that way in my post even though it has a different interpretation in every day use. Thanks Posted mainly for the bolded part. Is "..for this sub" the ending of that saying? I've never seen it. Plus, i wanted to contribute something. I read some stupid sad ones looking for one.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 00:52 |
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blight rhino posted:gotcha. as I said, I was just ignorant in the little human subject. Bro you are gonna have to ask her out or to do something and see how it goes. poo poo or get off the pot.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 00:57 |
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Inexperienced, just looking for advice if anyone has some.quote:Little background for reference: I (29M) have a soft and feminine side that I typically keep to myself. Wear womens underwear daily, and while I'm home sometimes leggings or yoga pants, and only occasionally dress up more, but never to fully pass as a women. Fav comment? quote:Tbh I would take cue from the late artist formerly known as Prince… he’s very feminine and he gets women like crazy. Not fair of me to assume, but I don't think many people can pull of the Prince look, unless you're Prince.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 00:58 |
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blight rhino posted:Posted mainly for the bolded part. Is "..for this sub" the ending of that saying? I've never seen it. Pretty sure he's saying it might cut the mustard (meet the standards) for this sub (for this subreddit).
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 00:58 |
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Haschel Cedricson posted:Pretty sure he's saying it might cut the mustard (meet the standards) for this sub (for this subreddit). loving . I thought a sandwich i'm very dense, sometimes.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 01:00 |
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AITA for chipping dog poop into my neighbor's front yard?quote:I bought my house about three months ago. When I moved in, I noticed there were a couple dozen lumps of dried dog doo on one side of my front yard. Before I mowed the first time, I went out and picked them up with a plastic bag over my hand. My personal hero.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 01:02 |
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Zurtilik posted:My(27F) boyfriend (37M) plays Dr. Mario but never saves his game. Is this normal behavior?Personal is If you do the math, a 37-year old likely started playing games in the NES/Game Boy era where plenty of games would forget your score and progress the instant you shut the system off. She, being a full decade younger, probably first played N64 or PSX games where that was no longer commonplace. Which explains why he sees this as totally normal and she's thinks it's insane.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 01:09 |
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coronatae posted:I posted this classic Dear Prudence in the last thread and I'm posting it again, primo r/relationships material and it's been 10 years since the birth of a legend dayyyyuummmm Was that Emily Yoffe or Daniel Lavery as Prudence? The snark sounds like Emily.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 02:08 |
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It's Emily yeah. I never get tired of reading that one.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 02:35 |
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OhAreThey posted:dayyyyuummmm It was Yoffe. While Lavery had much better opinions and advice overall, being much better about queer stuff and less susceptible to poisoning, I do wish he was as comfortable directly insulting bad guys who'd write in as Yoffe was.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 02:38 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:It was Yoffe. While Lavery had much better opinions and advice overall, being much better about queer stuff and less susceptible to poisoning, I do wish he was as comfortable directly insulting bad guys who'd write in as Yoffe was. Agreed!
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 02:42 |
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AITA for not attending my sister's wedding due to it being child free?quote:My sister's getting married in a month and she just now announced that her wedding is gonna be child free. I don't mind the idea, my wedding was child free too and I'm a believer of child free weddings in general.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 02:47 |
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the holy poopacy posted:I remember being confused as a kid when I'd descriptions of kids getting bruised from fights/falls/etc., because I was a terrible klutz and would routinely faceplant onto every surface of the playground and never saw anything remotely black or blue or purple. When helping a former friend move (unrelated issues) we were carrying a giant statue when it slipped and got me in the shoulder with a corner. I was fascinated by the resulting bruise because I can't remember getting one before, at least not often. He thought my constant checking of it was trying to guilt him. It was a fascinating shade of yellow.
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AITA for telling my gf I can't be a parent because she won't let me?quote:Gf and I have been together 10 years. Never married due to commitment issues on her part. She conceived using donor sperm, and while the child is biologically and legally hers alone, I've been raising the child together since day one. Child will turn 6 soon. We both work full time and split the expenses but I do the lion's share of chores, if it matters.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 02:54 |
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therobit posted:AITA for telling my gf I can't be a parent because she won't let me? I want to thank this person for not doing the usual thing of preemptively refusing to do the correct thing so since its on the table I say go hop in your time machine and stop yourself from being a colossal dumbass 7 years ago.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 02:59 |
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Lol how did that guy get cucked so hard without even another dude in the picture
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:04 |
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AngryRobotsInc posted:Depends on the kid, really. My son has always bruised if you even just look at him funny, but I have known other kids who can just absolutely eat it onto concrete and not bruise. While some kids bruise more easily than others, location plays a huge role in whether or not a bruise is concerning or not. Bruising where one expects bruising, shins, arms, etc. are fine because they're all a little bit of soft tissue right next to a bone. Of course blood vessels are going to ooze on impact because they're getting squished. Neck (or butt) bruising is a huge red flag because it's all soft tissue which either means you provided two hard surfaces (think fingers squeezing around a neck) or provided a whole lot of force.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:06 |
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therobit posted:AITA for telling my gf I can't be a parent because she won't let me? Wtf lol what a dummy
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:08 |
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therobit posted:AITA for telling my gf I can't be a parent because she won't let me? "I don't care about anybody else. When I think abOOOOOuut you, I cuck myself." OP has no rights legally, or in practice, his gf sucks, the kid who isn't his sucks, his staying present in the relationship is not having any positive effect since both of them are just whining about it. In other words: Nooner posted:Lol how did that guy get cucked so hard without even another dude in the picture He put in his 10,000 hours.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:15 |
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Yeah, never married, not his sperm or his name on the birth records, just bounce dude.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:20 |
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ShootaBoy posted:Yeah, never married, not his sperm or his name on the birth records, just bounce dude. Couldn’t he technically still be on the hook since he’s essentially been raising the kid since birth?
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:22 |
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MarcusSA posted:Couldn’t he technically still be on the hook since he’s essentially been raising the kid since birth? yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyes he can. de-facto parentage is absolutely the case here. though if the mother refuses payments i don't think there's a lot a judge or arbitor could do?
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:37 |
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MarcusSA posted:Couldn’t he technically still be on the hook since he’s essentially been raising the kid since birth? Possibly? But she'd have to try and take him to court and if he's not on the birth certificate that really hurts anything she might try. edit: like im no lawyer but I have seen more enough custody bs here, and she has really hampered herself with her weirdass paranoia ShootaBoy fucked around with this message at 03:40 on Oct 22, 2021 |
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I assume he doesn't want to leave because he loves his daughter and wants to be a part of her life even though she isn't biologically or legally his. But it's a completely untenable situation that will just get worse with time, so leaving is the only thing he can really do here. If the girlfriend decides to kick him out first then he's going to be poo poo out of luck. She might not though because it sounds like he does all the housework.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:42 |
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:if the mother refuses payments i don't think there's a lot a judge or arbitor could do? i wouldn't count on it
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyes he can. de-facto parentage is absolutely the case here. though if the mother refuses payments i don't think there's a lot a judge or arbitor could do? Yeah he’s in a pretty poo poo situation because unless he gets something in writing he’s gonna be on the hook for 18 years. The GF is just using him.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:47 |
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Kid bruising chat: I was a skinny kid who always bruised, no matter how carefully I played. (With also having three bruised, skinny siblings, I'm frankly glad my parents weren't accused of abusing us!) Some people bruise super easily, and it's weird to explain to people. I actually recently (I'm in my mid-30s) banged into a wall and my shoulder turned chartreuse for two weeks. I still have scars from shaving my legs while drunk in my early 20s. So, yeah, people are weirdly different about it. My older niece is like me, but my younger one was nicknamed "Teflon" as a toddler because the kid is just weirdly tough and doesn't get banged up by anything. That said, pushing a baby into their birthday cake by their neck? Murder. I'd be in jail like the other goon said.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 03:55 |
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Betazoid posted:Kid bruising chat: The other part of that is that mandatory reporters and the child welfare people are used to seeing the normal bruises that kids get from bonking their shins into things or falling on their knees or elbows. So unless you ran your eye or your cheek into a doorknob or something like that that looked like someone struck you, probably nothing would happen. But the neck? I think there are only a handful of ways one bruises one’s neck and nearly all of them are concerning.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 04:05 |
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WIBTA if I tell my college friend that I'm sorry and disappointed to see that she revoked her RVSP?quote:Back in college, my fiance Stu and I were close to the five other students (mid-20s, M and F) in our flatshare. One of our flatmates, Lysa, was in love with our other flatmate Brenton. Brenton liked Lysa, but didn't love her like the way she did for him. Eventually Brenton started dating Michelle, who started hanging out in our group more often. By the time we were in our senior year, Michelle was living with us in another flatshare. I've always considered ourselves to be a tight knit group, but I noticed that Lysa would distance herself whenever she was in the same room as Michelle. We think Lysa has always resented Michelle for dating her crush, but she would never confirm or deny it.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 04:12 |
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therobit posted:AITA for not attending my sister's wedding due to it being child free? Well, no, of course OP isn't thinking of her sister's "special day", she's thinking of her loving child's welfare.
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 04:21 |
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I'm pouring through a previous thread trying to find a "woe is me life sucks" about a guy bemoaning his life talking about how little the sawmill is paying and how the country is being run by communists who won't given a hard working man a fair wage and casually mentions his family used to be really wealthy but they lost everything and moved North shortly after 1865..... Anyways this made me cackle like a maniac and I wanted to remind everyone of it La Brea Carpet posted:me: i think i might have a severe intestinal parasite that is causing me lots of anguish please don't sing dragula
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 04:22 |
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What is this 'bruise' thing. I'm certain I've never had one of those in my entire life
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# ? Oct 22, 2021 05:08 |
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therobit posted:AITA I got a caretaker and nurse for my mom against my wife's wishes Look: Dementia is a horrible disease and you're often between a rock and a hard place when deciding between lovely nursing homes vs the horrible soul-sucking grind of trying to take care of a loved one in your own home. It's extra horrible reading between the lines here that OP's mom likely has early onset dementia(given his age and the fact that it was a thing before he even got married), meaning they could be dealing with this for decades. But if you make the decision to bring a demented parent into your home indefinitely, you do not bring a baby into that. It's not fair to your kid or your parent. If having his wife rent a place right next door is unironically an option, him and her should move there so they can get some space from his mom+caretaker team(and so having a new baby in the home doesn't make his mom's dementia worse, or possibly create danger for the baby because granny thinks it's her own baby/granny doesn't remember that babies don't go in the fridge/etc). Of course he's not going to, because his wife and child are obviously just an afterthought to him, and he's going to be really mystified that his kid will resent growing up in this situation. (assuming his wife doesn't divorce him first)
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