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Evil Willow posted:AITA puting my future child first over paying back my mother-in-law.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 07:55 |
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I really, really hope OP sticks to his guns on this one! AITA for accepting money from a friend's estate against the wishes of their family? quote:I (35M) recently had a friend pass away unexpectedly from COVID. My friend (61M) was nearly twice my age however we met at a social event for gay men and struck up a friendship based on our shared love of 80s TV shows (particularly the Golden Girls). My friend, lets call him Jack, was estranged from his family because he divorced his wife and came out as gay when his kids were teenagers. This was back in the 90s and things weren't as accepting as they are now for gay people, so he faced brutal social isolation and rejection from his children after he came out. He told me he truly thought he was straight when he married his wife but through the course of their marriage he realized he was gay.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 08:31 |
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Evil Willow posted:I really, really hope OP sticks to his guns on this one! No you won't BTA. Tell them to take a long walk off a short pier during shark season- if they wanted more, they shouldn't have been such vile people to him. Reaping, sowing, ect.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 08:49 |
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Barudak posted:On this read there doesn't seem to be any indication 18 years and out dad doesn't love his kid or want to be part of their life (why plan a family christmas even when you're leaving otherwise). He's just done with the charade of giving a poo poo about the mother of his kid and wants to make a clean break. He doesn't even say he's going to reveal the infidelity. Yeah but... 18 years is some Christopher Nolan Prestige-style commitment to living a false life. e: like how is he ever going to have a relationship with someone else? "Oh yes well the story of my ex is I perfectly faked being in a loving relationship with this woman for 18 years and then stepped off when the appropriate criteria I had set at the beginning was triggered". Alchenar fucked around with this message at 09:11 on Oct 24, 2021 |
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Isn't that the one where she continued the affair for another year after being caught, too?
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 09:01 |
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Honestly I can see him doing it to not get hosed on custody.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 09:15 |
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Also saves the hassle of moving out and dealing with custody and uprooting and all that.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 09:17 |
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Alchenar posted:Yeah but... 18 years is some Christopher Nolan Prestige-style commitment to living a false life. I dont see why he wouldnt just say "I stayed with her for my son" given that he seems perfectly aware of proper responses and none of that sentence is a lie. The only difference between this guy and other dudes who divorce at their kids leaving after being bitter for a long time is he knew and made this clear at the outset instead of falling out of love slowly or realizing they never really recovered from the affair.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 09:54 |
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He didn't make it clear enough, given the woman had no idea by the end. Eighteen years is an insanely long time to live a lie like that, if he was basically doing normal couple things with her and they were sharing a life, it's not surprising she thought they were, you know, a normal couple. Like cheating is bad, but what the guy did was also bad, in my opinion. I feel like their kid almost certainly has a really hosed up idea of human relationships now.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 10:03 |
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New Super Metis posted:He didn't make it clear enough, given the woman had no idea by the end. Eighteen years is an insanely long time to live a lie like that, if he was basically doing normal couple things with her and they were sharing a life, it's not surprising she thought they were, you know, a normal couple. I feel like he was very clear? Shes the one who didn't stop seeing an affair partner and never bothered to ask how he was doing for 18 years and just assumed he started magically loving her and got wrecked when he was like "As per my previous email, this project was canceled"
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 10:20 |
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maybe he shouldn't have been loving her if he was done with the relationship the whole time
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 10:22 |
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Maybe she shouldn't have hosed someone else! Both people can suck, here.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 10:23 |
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yeah obviously she shouldnt have cheated, is anybody defending her about that?
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 10:24 |
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It sure seems like it when people not only try to ignore that, but that she continued to see the other man for an entire year. I'm not inclined to give the cheater a whole lot of sympathy. The kid, yes- her, no.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 10:27 |
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Nah the dude’s loving nuts. “Oh but she kept going for a year!” And he kept going for eighteen. Basically half of his entire life. That’s psychopath poo poo.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 10:51 |
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I guess I just don't see it any different than regular couples who fall out of love sometime while the kids are growing up but stay together except the dude in question was upfront and honest.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:05 |
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I wonder what happened to that one high school girl with the pregnant evangelical mom trying to convince everyone that the daughter is the one having the baby and insisting she prepare for motherhood because all associated costs will be on her.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:06 |
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Grammarchist posted:I wonder what happened to that one high school girl with the pregnant evangelical mom trying to convince everyone that the daughter is the one having the baby and insisting she prepare for motherhood because all associated costs will be on her. The guy who is the babys actual father convinced a fellow classmate of the daughters to pretend to be the dad and they got an imaginary abortion.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:11 |
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Barudak posted:I guess I just don't see it any different than regular couples who fall out of love sometime while the kids are growing up but stay together except the dude in question was upfront and honest. People don’t want upfront and honest, they want reasons to be mad. What he did doesn’t matter
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:37 |
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Being upfront and honest about the complete whackjob poo poo you’re about to take two decades to pull off doesn’t really invalidate the fact that it’s complete whackjob poo poo.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:39 |
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She shouldn’t have taken him back then. I can’t see how this isn’t on her for a deal she agreed with. Despite internally rationalizing it
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:41 |
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Barudak posted:I guess I just don't see it any different than regular couples who fall out of love sometime while the kids are growing up but stay together except the dude in question was upfront and honest. He wasn't up front and honest because he knowingly allowed his wife to believe they were back together for many years. Honesty is an ongoing thing, a reference to p291 sch. 6 from 18 years ago isn't good enough. Also springing it on the kid like that is clearly irredeemable and the fact that they were 18 is the most paltry figleaf possible.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:43 |
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He didn’t mislead her at all what are you on about. She mislead herself. Because she’s an idiot
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:44 |
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Strategic Tea posted:He wasn't up front and honest because he knowingly allowed his wife to believe they were back together for many years. Honesty is an ongoing thing, a reference to p291 sch. 6 from 18 years ago isn't good enough. Being fair, the standard thread opinion on cheaters is that they should be broken down into their constituent parts, bagged up, and thrown in a river, so I guess she should count her blessings that all she got was twenty years of being hosed with.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:45 |
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There is more to real honesty in the real world than 'beep boop you have received my memo you are now legally aware'. If you see someone blatantly deleuding themselves over something you said, yeah it is dishonest not to correct them.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:47 |
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Strategic Tea posted:There is more to real honesty in the real world than 'beep boop you have received my memo you are now legally aware'. Oh your a doormat now it makes sense. In just gonna ignore you like most should
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:51 |
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When that person has cheated on you and is in fact continuing to do so for the next year, correcting their delusion ain't high on your list of priorities.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:52 |
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See, the whole point of the big red “A” is to note that this is someone who is clearly no longer a person. You are encouraged, nay, obligated to do some real hosed up sociopathic poo poo to them. That’s just the social contract! I am very normal.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:53 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:Oh your a doormat now it makes sense. In just gonna ignore you like most should thats a lol right there
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 11:55 |
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Man, that post is breaking the thread all over again, just like someone said it did the first time, lol
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:01 |
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ops husband is basically a dollar store inigo montoya knockoff
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:02 |
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Batterypowered7 posted:Man, that post is breaking the thread all over again, just like someone said it did the first time, lol Goons love being weirdly contrarian and it’s pretty easy to predict which posts are going to bring that out
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:07 |
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Batterypowered7 posted:Man, that post is breaking the thread all over again, just like someone said it did the first time, lol Im currently stuck watching "Gnome Alone" so I will drag you all to posting hell together
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:15 |
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blatman posted:ops husband is basically a dollar store inigo montoya knockoff
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:17 |
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Barudak posted:Im currently stuck watching "Gnome Alone" so I will drag you all to posting hell together Is that part of the Gnomeo and Juliet cinematic universe
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:25 |
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Is that part of the Gnomeo and Juliet cinematic universe It is amazingly an unrelated film which is mostly about gremlins. It stars George Lopez.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:28 |
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It is pretty hosed up but funny as hell and she seems kind of like a shithead so he wins 2-1.
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# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:30 |
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Sorry but it's insane to do that!! It's insane to pretend to be happy sharing a life with another person and it's insane to basically sabotage both your lives!! They could have split up and both moved on and created genuinely happy lives during the EIGHTEEN YEARS of lying but this guy prevented the both of them from doing that! It's pure martyrdom, and is it similar to couples that "stay together for the kids"? Yeah it is that, and I already think that concept is idiotic because again, you're not happy and you're modelling a bad relationship for your kids, and here ON TOP OF THAT there's this sociopathic deception going on. (no i dont have baggage from my own parents, shut up) I loving hate cheaters, but you break up with the cheater and move on, you don't martyr yourself in this bizarre way. It's not healthy! edit: i will not post again on this topic, this is a promise to myself and the thread Metis of the Chat Thread fucked around with this message at 12:38 on Oct 24, 2021 |
# ? Oct 24, 2021 12:35 |
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fresh content! Friend (25f) put me (27f) on the spot by telling the judge she and her baby could move in with me before asking my permission. quote:I'm going to try to keep this short, but its a lot. I'll call her Emma. [Update] Friend (25f) put me (27f) on the spot by telling the judge she and her baby could move in with me before asking my permission quote:Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/q9np6c/friend_25f_put_me_27f_on_the_spot_by_telling_the
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Invisible Clergy posted:It is amazingly an unrelated film which is mostly about gremlins. It stars George Lopez. Trogs!!! Its also about why being career motivated and moving for jobs as a single mother is inherently wrong Edit: Im not sure I've been angrier at a film faster than this but boy opening dialog was 0->gently caress this film Barudak fucked around with this message at 12:49 on Oct 24, 2021 |
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