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Evil Willow posted:I really, really hope OP sticks to his guns on this one! He left them a token amount, so I'm guessing they have no legal legs left to stand on and can go right to hell. They treated their father like poo poo and he still paid for their college educations. gently caress 'em. Take the money, be gay, do crime.
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It's weird to characterize it as "she continued to have the affair for another year" when based on her description they had for all intents and purposes broken up, and he just refused to move out or acknowledge it. The normal thing to do in that situation, when you've insisted you're going to 'stay together for the kids' (bad) but can't actually bear to look at the other person, is to realize it won't work and leave. The only reason it's being characterized as continuing to have the affair, versus seeing her affair partner after the breakup, is that this dude refused to leave. She would not have gotten back together with him if he had done the healthy thing and left instead of bizarrely insisting that they were staying together, only to say after a lifetime of functional partnership that they had broken up years ago (and I guess she should have kept dating if she wanted love?) And actually, rereading, I'm not convinced she did continue seeing the other guy? A year was how long it took for him to start acting like a normal boyfriend again, but she says getting caught prompted her to end the affair. Everett False fucked around with this message at 12:58 on Oct 24, 2021 |
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New Super Metis posted:fresh content! It's like traveling half a billion years back in time and watching a spine gradually, painfully evolving in a sea squirt.
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Batterypowered7 posted:Man, that post is breaking the thread all over again, just like someone said it did the first time, lol This happens almost every time someone posts an old favourite. Pretty much the same arguments too. Megillah Gorilla posted:He left them a token amount, so I'm guessing they have no legal legs left to stand on and can go right to hell. Hell yes. I’d love an update where he tells them to gently caress themselves.
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Oct 24, 2021 13:46
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spouse posted:But tipping the security guards? Mall security guards are not cops. Most of them are basically just service industry workers whether they acknowledge it or not.
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Oct 24, 2021 13:47
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Am a security guard, can confirm. It's not even a tin badge, it's straight-up embroidered into the work shirts.
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Oct 24, 2021 13:50
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teen witch posted:Well something might be going loose so tangentially. Loss: Gaiden A fetus “getting loose” is a hell of a new term for a miscarriage, at least to me! Like at the dog shelfter when a dog gets off the leash and they all yell “loose dog!”, i am imagining a bunch of nurses running around the NICU yelling “loose zygote, loose zygote!”
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New Super Metis posted:Sorry but it's insane to do that!! It's insane to pretend to be happy sharing a life with another person and it's insane to basically sabotage both your lives!! They could have split up and both moved on and created genuinely happy lives during the EIGHTEEN YEARS of lying but this guy prevented the both of them from doing that! He never prevented her from walking away from the situation after the affair either. She had as much choice in the situation as he did: she could split with him & be a single mom, or hope that he stuck around to father a kid that isn't his (while she's still banging her affair partner behind his back). Regardless of how it's painted, she had every opportunity to ask, clarify & understand he was being serious; sounds like she didn't do any of that & just assumed he "forgave" her even after he told her his plan. They both suck, but the one continuing the affair & acting like her partner's future plan was a joke is the bigger rear end in a top hat IMHO.
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Speaking of the categorical imperative "be gay, do crime", does anyone have the saga from /legaladvice where a family disowned their son for being gay, the son leaves his entire estate to his fiance, then the family "decide as a family" they actually deserve the money for the anguish son put them through by being a homosexual, and successfully pressured the executor to illegally give it to them. Then the fiance found out and the family freaked when told about the civil and criminal liability they were facing.
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Oct 24, 2021 15:05
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"Hey, can we be heartless monsters?" "I'll do you one better: we can be felons."
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Do I deserve this divorce?quote:I came clean to my wife in June about having a one night stand with our neighbor one drunken night not long after moving to the neighborhood approximately 7 years ago. A big part of the issue is that the neighbor and my wife proceeded to became best friends for the next 5 years. They even got matching tattoos. Neither of us mentioned the one night stand to my wife for obvious reasons which is why they became good friends. We would hang out regularly, sometimes nightly as a group since she was right nextdoor, we even went on trips to the neighbors parent's cottage. Apparently, people who saw us had their suspicions and made comments to my wife which she would deny. I was an alcoholic at the time and have been sober for 4 years now. This happened 7 years ago but she still wants a divorce. The neighbor moved away 3 years ago and they stopped being friends for unrelated reasons. Do you think that's fair? Or an over reaction to something that happened a long time ago? Everything else in our relationship was good prior to this revalation. 
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LadyPictureShow posted:Do I deserve this divorce? Wow, that is a long time ago, A long time you were hiding a massive lie and letting your wife become close friends with someone who'd already betrayed her trust A very long time!
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The woman was so far up her own rear end that she never bothered to talk to her partner about the elephant in the room. For 18 years. She convinced herself she’d eaten her cake kept it too. That’s on her. The dude kept a stable home environment for his child and his partner was pretty happy by her own admission too. I’m not seeing a problem.
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I may be misreading that sudden divorce post, but the way I read it she had the affair 1 or 2 years after the kid was born, "it's been good for 16 years," "even though this happened 16 years ago," etc Also kind of confused why people are saying the kid wasn't his or she continued the affair for a year, was it in the comments? This doesn't read like "carried on with the affair for a year" to me. quote:For about a year afterwards I could tell he could barely stand the sight of me but getting caught forced me to pull my poo poo together. Either way, it doesn't sound like they ever talked about it from the initial convo until now which is kinda dumb! Nancy fucked around with this message at 16:21 on Oct 24, 2021 |
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Oct 24, 2021 16:19
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The guy saying it one time then never discussing it again for 18 years while continuing to have sex with her and behave as though they were together *even in private* is cold-blooded psycho poo poo and way more hosed up than the instance of adultery imo. 18 years is a massive amount of time to live a lie and every single person going “but he told her one time when they had a fight 18 years ago!” would have assumed the exact same thing she did if they were in her position. Also this is absolutely going to gently caress up the kid way worse than separating and co-parenting at the outset; he’s been lying to his child for literally his whole life. People here are talking about it like it’s contract law lol
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Oct 24, 2021 16:35
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two people can be poo poo at the same time
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blatman posted:two people can be poo poo at the same time The guy is a lot worse
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You all are insane Jesus I bet Reddit has better takes than y’all
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Oct 24, 2021 16:39
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Yah the real "backbone" thing to do would be to separate as soon as it happened and give your kid the chance to come to terms with it over time and still try and provide a stable environment in that space. Not to slowly develop a soul bomb of drama ready to explode after 18 years.
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Olewithmilk posted:Yah the real "backbone" thing to do would be to separate as soon as it happened and give your kid the chance to come to terms with it over time and still try and provide a stable environment in that space. Not to slowly develop a soul bomb of drama ready to explode after 18 years. Son I’ve been faking my love in front of you for your entire life so you can be happy. Now that you’re a slightly older teenager than you were last year I want you to know that I hate your mother and I tricked you. Good luck in your future relationships ChunTheUnavoidable fucked around with this message at 16:55 on Oct 24, 2021 |
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Oct 24, 2021 16:42
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blatman posted:two people can be poo poo at the same time It's not even an AITA post, she is just looking for advice. And unfortunately there really isn't any to give - if the husband is this vindictive, she's not going to negotiate a better outcome here. Short of time travel, she can't undo the cheating and neglecting her family. Sometimes bad old decisions come back to haunt people, even if they have made an effort to atone since. Fair or not.
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CharlestheHammer posted:You all are insane Jesus I bet Reddit has better takes than y’all reading through the reddit comments it seems people there also think that dude is crazy that level of self-sabotage and emotional dishonesty is truly remarkable, my guy is living his absolute worst life and I respect it
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AITA for telling my husband to have his therapy sessions somewhere else?quote:Me [F34] And my husband [M33] live in a 2 bedr apartment. He started recently attending online therapy. Reasons? No reason in particular. no losing family member, no recent traumas or accidents he just says he feels too overwhelmed with work (he works a demanding job but I won't mention it because I don't want him to be judged for it) he wanted to let off some steam and attend therapy. I 100% encouraged him and said 'go for it. However these therapy sessions have been happening for a period of 3 months. And he'd have 2 sessions in just one day. He says he found another therapist which's illogical to me but anyway. he'd stay in the bedroom for hours on end preventing me from coming in. I'm talking 3 to 4 hrs a day and Whenever I walk into the bedroom which was only twice the laptop gets slammed shut and my husband would just stare at me confused. I pointed out how rude it was to do this to his therapist(s) and he agressively replied that what's really rude is the way I barge in while he's trying to have his therapy session. He told me if I walk in one more time he will take matters into his own hands. From the comments quote:We have a joint account but he said he's not using it to pay for his therapy since he has money in another account that was dedicated for saving for a new truck but he's no longer sure about buying it. So what does everyone think, porn or gambling?
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I have such a hard time wrapping my head around maintaining the act for so long that I’m wondering if he wanted to leave her for other reasons and figured this would be a valid out since he did say something along those lines 18 years ago
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Piell posted:AITA for telling my husband to have his therapy sessions somewhere else? gacha gamer
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Piell posted:AITA for telling my husband to have his therapy sessions somewhere else? quote:(he works a demanding job but I won't mention it because I don't want him to be judged for it) Whatever the weird addiction, no bonus points for guessing the dude is a cop.
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Piell posted:AITA for telling my husband to have his therapy sessions somewhere else? Zoom escort
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Piell posted:So what does everyone think, porn or gambling? Mistress.
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Piell posted:AITA for telling my husband to have his therapy sessions somewhere else? Both, he's on chatroullete
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annoying wife (knocking timidly at locked bedroom door): h-honey…. Is your therapy session almost over? husband: no 
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Oct 24, 2021 17:16
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Piell posted:AITA for telling my husband to have his therapy sessions somewhere else? Onlyfans
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Soylent Pudding posted:Speaking of the categorical imperative "be gay, do crime", does anyone have the saga from /legaladvice where a family disowned their son for being gay, the son leaves his entire estate to his fiance, then the family "decide as a family" they actually deserve the money for the anguish son put them through by being a homosexual, and successfully pressured the executor to illegally give it to them. Then the fiance found out and the family freaked when told about the civil and criminal liability they were facing. Here you go (MA) late brother's partner suing family for Money quote:Our brother age 34M died of cancer 9 months ago. He was very successful and left behind money and assets. He also had a Will. My brother was also in a gay relationship for 8 years with a 28M partner. Our family is religious and yes we may not have approved the relationship we still loved our brother. He unfortunately died of cancer and left a will. Left most of the money to his gay partner. They weren't even married. We decided money to be kept within the family and but gave his partner some money. We also paid for brothers funeral and medical Bill's. We thought that was the end of it. But now his ex partner is suing us for the rest of the funds. I don't know how he got hold of the will. My family is still grieving and now this man wants to take us to court. Trying to see how to solve this without involving the court. Thank you for your advice top rated comment posted:So, things you can worry about : OP posted:OMG, we didn't know it could be this serious. It is all my fault, I convinced my sister to do what the family wanted. We didn't k ow and are shocked that his boyfriend would sue us. I am going to have a family meeting with friends and try to come up with as much money as I can. Omg am very nervous and didn't realize how horrible this could get. Thank you for the advice. The part that always gets me is how OP is completely fixated on how the son's partner got a copy of the will, like that was the real problem and not the theft.. I also vaguely remember OP's original comments referring to the son's partner as just "friend" before editing to partner/boyfriend, trying to downplay their relationship as much as possible. I hope the partner eventually got the money that was rightfully his.
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Do you think Reddit would overload from white hot rage if someone posted an AITA as a Christian dealing with a drug problem who cheated on someone? Or would MLMs and children need to be involved?
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I'll zay its actually therapy and he is terrified of his wife finding out the horrific things he has done on his job and she tries to leave him. I say "try" because once you marry a cop they typically don't let you leave or make it so bad she has to flee the state. Joke option is he somehow lost his police job and is himself doing porn to pay the bills.
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Soylent Pudding posted:Speaking of the categorical imperative "be gay, do crime", does anyone have the saga from /legaladvice where a family disowned their son for being gay, the son leaves his entire estate to his fiance, then the family "decide as a family" they actually deserve the money for the anguish son put them through by being a homosexual, and successfully pressured the executor to illegally give it to them. Then the fiance found out and the family freaked when told about the civil and criminal liability they were facing. (MA) late brother's partner suing family for Money quote:Our brother age 34M died of cancer 9 months ago. He was very successful and left behind money and assets. He also had a Will. My brother was also in a gay relationship for 8 years with a 28M partner. Our family is religious and yes we may not have approved the relationship we still loved our brother. He unfortunately died of cancer and left a will. Left most of the money to his gay partner. They weren't even married quote:I am trying to see how I can approach him and his lawyers to set up a plan. He is very angry at us. My father said some negative minor racial massages and am trying to see how I can work with him without making things worse. quote:Yeah you are mostly right, but we had no issue with him getting inheritance, we just didn't think he deserved all the money he got. Especially because we paid for most of the things connected to my brother. quote:My sister was in charge of the will, according to his partner he did not want to be in charge because ' he didn't want to deal with us' 'he hates us' so my sister who was best friends with my brother acted as the middle ground for us and his partner. We were shocked when we read the will. We didn't expect it to be that unfair. I am trying to make it right quote:We are a big family, most of the money was distributed throughout family members which we thought was only fair. We cant pay the full amount because the money is mostly gone. quote:Wow that is very harsh, money wise we made a mistake and thought his friend would understand since as family we have contributed to our brothers success. We are also not bigots. quote:We are trying to make it right. Most of his money he made we helped support him with his business. My parents raised him and paid for his school, dont they deserve that money more than his so called friend? They weren't even married let alone engaged. Top comment quote:So, things you can worry about :
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Piell posted:AITA for telling my husband to have his therapy sessions somewhere else? quote:(he works a demanding job but I won't mention it because I don't want him to be judged for it) At least one of his therapists (probably the second one) he acquired to brag about his infidelity when he didn't get the reaction he wanted from his first one who he now sticks to telling about ways he violated the Geneva conventions while at work.
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New Super Metis posted:fresh content! So You don't want to go to a shelter because you will lose your kid. Fair, though I'm unsure of how that works (not being sarcastic I don't know the law here) So your big brain idea is to commit perjury, which will ensure your kid will be taken away. The moment the court finds out you've lied to them they will destroy you in whatever ways are allowed, both legal and underhanded
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Seems extremely normal to discover your wife is cheating on you, treat her as a despicable whore for a year, then reach enlightenment and treat her as your whore for another 15 years before discarding her. Yes, all relationships are transactional, why do you ask?
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limp_cheese posted:I'll zay its actually therapy and he is terrified of his wife finding out the horrific things he has done on his job and she tries to leave him. I say "try" because once you marry a cop they typically don't let you leave or make it so bad she has to flee the state. Nobody does therapy three hours a day. Either he's got more than one therapist and is lying to both of them about whether the other exists, or he's lying to his wife. I know which of those is easier to believe.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Nobody does therapy three hours a day. Either he's got more than one therapist and is lying to both of them about whether the other exists, or he's lying to his wife. I know which of those is easier to believe. doing the mrs doubtfire restaurant scene but I’m going to two therapy appointments in the same building
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