Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for accidently causing a kid to be outed to his parents?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for accidently causing a kid to be outed to his parents?

Facebook Aunt posted:

I wish I'd had "lets play happy families for 16 years" dad instead of the dad I had. My parents broke up when I was 2, and my dad was a deadbeat who contributed nothing and I saw all of 3 or 4 times in the following 16 years.

ChunTheUnavoidable posted:

The alternative here is separating and co-parenting while being emotionally honest with the child rather than the dad completely abandoning him

spouse posted:

No no, it's all or nothing. I didn't make the rules, but there they are.

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My husband has claimed to be in the army for years… before we met but still.. claimed to go to Afghanistan for years, in a bomb squad that had an orphanage that ended with the death of the children in the orphanage because it was a bad intel..
turns out nope..
all fake .. I’m so upset and what now…

AngryRobotsInc posted:

Stolen valor is one thing, but who goes for that with an added garnish of "Yeah, so, I killed some kids."?

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

Do you think the time length is what breaks consent? Because plenty of people stay in relationships they're checked out of for days/weeks/months/years and still have sex with their partners until they leave, often without discussing their dissatisfaction.

It's a genuine question because I have a really strict definition of consent and I'm totally willing to go with you and call this non-consensual, but my experience is that very few people view consent that strictly even people who advocate for enthusiastic informed consent. For example, cheaters inherently break consent in this context, but outside of some edge cases no one is going around calling cheaters rapists.

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My (f16) mom passed away recently. my brother (m14) and dad are so devastated by this tragic loss and we are struggling.

I've basically found myself handling all chores and work around the house - my brother is too traumatized he hasn't been talking since the funeral and my dad hasn't been lifting a finger and do a single thing. He started making requests from cleaning the messy living room (he sleeps on the couch) to picking up dirty laundry to doing dishes, cooking or ordering food, walking the dogs, vacumming, doing repairs, mowing the lawn, washing the car since my brother stopped doing it. I'm too exhausted often times. Mom used to do the chores and I used to help but I have school and after school committements and my dad keeps negatively commenting on how I get things done and compare me to mom like how much time I take to make breakfast etc.

Yesterday he woke me up at 6am even though he told me to skip school and wanted me to make breakfast. I scrambled eggs and prepared other dishes then went to wake my brother up. I set the table and once dad sit down he looks at the scrambled eggs and goes "what is this? This is not the right way to make scrambled eggs. Your mother used to make perfect scrambled eggs. Did you not learn anything from her at all? How are we supposed to survive if you can't even properly make scrambled eggs?" He looks at my brother and says "we're doomed". I snap and loudly tell him I'm not his replacement wife to expect me to do this and that for him. He looks at me stunned and my brother rushes out immediately. Dad starts telling me how cruel and insensitive what I just said and how out of line I was. I reply that I was too tired to make 'the perfect scrambled eggs" my mom used to make and that maybe if he as a parent had tried to learn we wouldn't be suffering right now. He gets up throws the towel and walks out.

My aunt came to visit and when I told her she went off saying I should have never said that to my grieving dad and that I should be ashamed of myself for talking to him like that.

AITA?

ChunTheUnavoidable posted:

The alternative here is separating and co-parenting while being emotionally honest with the child rather than the dad completely abandoning him

Facebook Aunt posted:

Come on, we have no idea what the alternative would turn out to be.

Facebook Aunt posted:

Come on, we have no idea what the alternative would turn out to be.

Midnight Voyager posted:

AITA for telling my dad that I'm not his replacememt wife?

Seth Pecksniff posted:

Google this, use this, run the hell away kid

https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/emancipation-of-minors-32237.html

Also the aunt can eat a whole big ol' tub of poo poo scrambled eggs because what the hell

ChunTheUnavoidable posted:

The alternative here is separating and co-parenting while being emotionally honest with the child rather than the dad completely abandoning him

ChunTheUnavoidable posted:

Well, it seems like the guy’s starting position is that he wants to provide a good life for his kid but doesn’t love his wife. If you care enough about staying in your son’s life to fake a romantic relationship for 18 years in order to do it then I think completely disappearing was always out of the question

Facebook Aunt posted:

I suppose a little boy is less likely to get raped by mom's boyfriend than a girl

OP posted:

Wish it was simple for me to cut him a check. Funds are around 850K. I am reading the replies and this seems more serious than we thought.

Evil Willow posted:

One of my favourite parts of the gay partner suing his deceased partner's family for what's rightfully his. Someone else mentioned it, but the comment got buried....

Facebook Aunt posted:

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Me (27M) and my GF (28F)were playing with a group of friends (which are all couples). We were playing a game called “Never Have I Ever” a drinking game in which players take turns asking other players about things they have not done. Other players who have done this thing respond by taking a drink. Anyways we were playing and when a question about “Never Have I Ever thought to have sex with other people beside my SO” my GF had taken a shot( and she was the only one out of all the couples to have taken the shot) and now I’m very upset, mad and betrayed for that. Now she’s mad at me for being mad at her due to her answer in the game and she says I’m a jerk. AITA?

P.S Sorry for the wrong grammar. English is not my native language

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On mobile so formatting might be off.

I’m 19F and I’ve been a picky eater my entire life. I don’t have any dietary restrictions that I know of but I usually hate most things I eat. My family went out to a hibachi restaurant and forced me to come with them.

Normally my mom will buy me fast food when we go out to dinner but she didn’t stop this time because we were running late and advised me to just get the hibachi chicken and I’ll live. I complained that I’d hate it and my mom said I should try it because I might like it and because she’d been letting me live off chicken nuggets and instant ramen for too long but I really really don’t like most other foods. So I had some Burger King delivered to the hibachi place and ate it while the rest of my family enjoyed their hibachi.

Everyone in the restaurant looked at me funny but I didn’t care and just enjoyed my chicken fries. When we got home my mom said I embarrassed them in the restaurant by getting fast food delivered. But she didn’t stop for me and I paid for the delivery myself. AITA?

EDIT: No I’m not autistic and I don’t have any sensory issues. I literally just don’t like most food.

Facebook Aunt posted:

16, not 18. Probably more like 15, because according to her he wasn't faking it very well the first year after the incident.

What are some likely outcomes?

1. Poverty. Two houses are more expensive than one. If they both remained single that would be poorer than if they stayed together. It is extremely unlikely they would decide instead to keep living together and sharing expenes.

2. A messy breakup. Not certain, but likely. Often parents go on to argue and use their kids as pawns to score points. It is awful. Sometimes grandparents and other relatives get involved in the bitterness and drama.

3. Dating+ One or both of them would start dating again, meaning the kid gets less attention. Some of those people might be awful. I suppose a little boy is less likely to get raped by mom's boyfriend than a girl, but there are a lot of bad things that can happen when you start involving strangers in your home.

4. Remarriage. Is this thread not filled with stories of really awful step-parents and step-siblings? Even in a non-abusive situation that means that suddenly all of his toys and other possessions aren't really his anymore, they belong to the family and he's the rear end in a top hat if he doesn't want the new kids playing with his stuff.


The kid is getting one big shock when his parents break up. Hopefully both parents will try to make that one shock as gentle as possible, but if they decide to messily blow up his life over this then they would have done it anyway.
The alternative was multiple big shocks. His parents split up. They fight over custody. One of them gets primary custody while the other becomes a weekend parent. Parent starts dating. Other parent starts dating. A stranger moves in, maybe bringing rival children with them. Shock. Shock. Shock. Shock.

Deciding to put your kid first for 15 or 16 years is not a weird thing to do.

Foo Diddley posted:

the best part is that everyone who ordered something less pungent than BK can just get hosed; you're gonna be smelling chicken fries for your entire meal

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for being upset about my SO in a drinking game

I think we are missing some words. If the question was "never have I ever had sex with other people while in a relationship" then yeah. But in general?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for having different food delivered?

Soylent Pudding posted:

This reminded me of a college story. Two cishet female identifying friends decided they wanted to try sleeping with another woman and wanted to hook up with each other. The only wrinkle was that they both had boyfriends. Their solution was to film themselves loving each other and give the sex tape to their boyfriends. That means it's not cheating, it's a thoughtful gift of homemade lesbian porn! Both were confused when their boyfriends got mad about it.

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I work at a small branch, which is part of a larger company. My office has a manager, an assistant manager, a receptionist, and nine other employees. I have been diagnosed with cancer. I am able to schedule my chemotherapy on my regular days off. Since my job has no physical labor and we don’t deal with the public at all and only deal with coworkers from other offices by phone or email, my cancer and treatments have not interfered with work and I’m still able to go in as normal. My coworkers know and have been understanding.

Each of us has a calendar where our days off (or in rare cases, meetings at other branches) are shown. The manager is supposed to have access to this, but our manager, Robert, is on the road most of the time and is rarely in our office. The receptionist, Osha, also has access so she can know who is in and who is out so she can direct calls appropriately. No one else is allowed to have access. The assistant manager, Ned, is not responsible for our schedules and is only responsible for dealing with employees who are in the office on a given day.


Recently while I was having chemotherapy, Ned showed up at the clinic and started asking me about work matters. I was completely surprised that he even knew where I was and that he was asking me about work on my off-time. The things he was asking about were not emergencies or work with deadlines. When I went back to work after my days off, Osha was waiting to speak with me and apologize. She was almost in tears because Ned had asked her about my schedule and whether I was on days off or at a meeting. She didn’t want to tell him at first because the calendars are supposed to be confidential, but he threatened to fire her if she didn’t tell him, and he also demanded the name of the clinic after she admitted that she knew what clinic I was getting my chemotherapy at.

I was really upset that Ned had threatened to fire Osha for following the rules and trying to keep the calendar confidential, and for coming to ask me about work stuff on my time off while I have having treatments. When Robert was actually in the office, I complained to him about Ned’s behavior and he assured me it would be dealt with. Well, him dealing with it was firing Osha for revealing confidential information that was on the calendar when she wasn’t supposed to. He gave Ned access to the calendars instead, so now Ned has access to my schedule and will come to the clinic when he has questions about work.

Robert says Ned isn’t doing anything wrong and when I complained to the company’s HR person about both Ned and Robert, I received the same answer. HR said that Robert was within his rights to terminate Osha since she breached confidentiality and she knew that doing so was a breach of our code of conduct. They said that if she had an issue, she should have spoken to the manager instead of taking it upon herself to release confidential information. HR also said that in regard to Ned coming to the clinic, “he is well within his rights” to seek my knowledge on workplace-related matters and “if the manager and assistant manager deem this necessary, it is up their discretion and not a matter where I can advise them to do otherwise.” I have since found out that the HR person is a family member of Robert’s.

I feel bad that Osha got fired and I don’t know where else to complain or what to do next because Robert, Ned, and the HR person are all against me on this.

Also, I have asked the clinic not to admit Ned, but sometimes he comes in anyway or waits until no one is looking before he comes in. There have been times when the nurses have asked him to leave or told him to get out of the room I am in. Sometimes he lies to them and says it is an emergency, and one volunteer told me Ned told the nurse on duty that he was family. I keep trying to tell him that he is disturbing me during my treatment but he either doesn’t listen or makes veiled references to me losing my job (which would also cause me to lose my benefits). His behavior is stressing me out even more than I already am.

i vomit kittens posted:

Fake army husband

spouse posted:

Why are self-described "picky eaters" always people who exist solely in the realm of fast food and packaged poo poo? I'm very curious about non-American picky eaters now. Is there cadre of picky Frenchmen who just plow through baguettes all day, nutritional macros be damned?

Mx. posted:

my manager shows up while I’m having chemotherapy to talk about work

wizardofloneliness posted:

Kill Ned, kill Robert, kill the HR person. She says her branch is part of a larger company, so hopefully there's another higher level manager or HR person who is unrelated to her boss she can take it to. Or at least tell the clinic to never let Ned in under any circumstances. Oh my god, this one makes me so angry. And it's not like she can just quit either because she is definitely not in a position to lose her health insurance.

Facebook Aunt posted:

16, not 18. Probably more like 15, because according to her he wasn't faking it very well the first year after the incident.

What are some likely outcomes?

1. Poverty. Two houses are more expensive than one. If they both remained single that would be poorer than if they stayed together. It is extremely unlikely they would decide instead to keep living together and sharing expenes.

2. A messy breakup. Not certain, but likely. Often parents go on to argue and use their kids as pawns to score points. It is awful. Sometimes grandparents and other relatives get involved in the bitterness and drama.

3. Dating+ One or both of them would start dating again, meaning the kid gets less attention. Some of those people might be awful. I suppose a little boy is less likely to get raped by mom's boyfriend than a girl, but there are a lot of bad things that can happen when you start involving strangers in your home.

4. Remarriage. Is this thread not filled with stories of really awful step-parents and step-siblings? Even in a non-abusive situation that means that suddenly all of his toys and other possessions aren't really his anymore, they belong to the family and he's the rear end in a top hat if he doesn't want the new kids playing with his stuff.


The kid is getting one big shock when his parents break up. Hopefully both parents will try to make that one shock as gentle as possible, but if they decide to messily blow up his life over this then they would have done it anyway.
The alternative was multiple big shocks. His parents split up. They fight over custody. One of them gets primary custody while the other becomes a weekend parent. Parent starts dating. Other parent starts dating. A stranger moves in, maybe bringing rival children with them. Shock. Shock. Shock. Shock.

Deciding to put your kid first for 15 or 16 years is not a weird thing to do.

Mx. posted:

my manager shows up while I’m having chemotherapy to talk about work

webmeister posted:

American workplaces are: such an incredible dystopian nightmare

wizardofloneliness posted:

Kill Ned, kill Robert, kill the HR person. She says her branch is part of a larger company, so hopefully there's another higher level manager or HR person who is unrelated to her boss she can take it to. Or at least tell the clinic to never let Ned in under any circumstances. Oh my god, this one makes me so angry. And it's not like she can just quit either because she is definitely not in a position to lose her health insurance.