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Woodchip posted:Let the Thanksgiving stories flow. I can surface level empathize with being caught off guard on holiday plans, but I would be so happy not to have to do anything for Thanksgiving.
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Woodchip posted:My boyfriend (34m) says there will be serious consequences if I (36f) cancel an early Thanksgiving dinner with his friends because of my severe anxiety Why exactly did she agree to pay for all of their hotel rooms, again...?
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i tried to get out of family holiday plans by scheduling extensive surgery but they're like "we'll just bring celebrations forward a week!!" bastards AITA for banning SIL from my house when I am hosting Thanksgiving this year, because she embarrassed me at my housewarming party? quote:My MIL and I do not get along, but I'm really proud to say we called a cease fire for the sake of my husband. I know this might sound childish but it took blood sweat and tears for us to even be in the same room. OP, how long ago was this flour incident? quote:I was 21 and am now 23
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Barudak posted:The only thing I don't get is I would 100% want a paternity test in that case as the mom because I'm getting a divorce and I'm getting child support, gently caress you from the top rope. The thing I get from Reddit posts is that a lot of single moms don't go after child support. I can't comprehend that personally, but I see it time and time again.
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Mx. posted:i tried to get out of family holiday plans by scheduling extensive surgery but they're like "we'll just bring celebrations forward a week!!" Announcing it ahead of time is a total chump move, you played yourself 
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Hughlander posted:The thing I get from Reddit posts is that a lot of single moms don't go after child support. I can't comprehend that personally, but I see it time and time again. What's often at play is, say the mother is owed $1000 a month in child support but doesn't get it. Oftimes, if she's split from the father, who's enough of a deadbeat to not pay child support, he's not providing for her either through alimony, either formally or because the two never married. The point is, if she's stuck caring for the children all day and can't afford childcare so has to provide it herself and can't work, she is likely to be on welfare. Child support isn't paid directly from father to mother (this isn't reddit, so let's just play the odds and for simplicity's sake say the payer is the father and the payee is the mother, as is the case 99% of the time). The father gives child support to the government, who takes a percentage as administration charge/ convenience fee/ processing tax/ gently caress you extra, etc, and gives the mother what's left. Additional problems arise when the mother is on welfare. Depending on where the mother lives, the government sometimes says "we went out and got the child support from Mr. X, why should we give any of it to you?" and deducts the amount the mother is drawing in welfare from the child support payment. Let's say welfare is $200/month, so now the mother's only getting $800 minus fees. If the dad doesn't pay/pays late for enough months in a row, especially if he's on probation for unrelated criminal behavior, there's a possibility he could be jailed for deadbeatery, in which case he won't generate any income at all and will not be able to pay the mother any child support even if he wants to. This is one reason mothers may choose not to report deadbeat fathers to the cops (in addition to general the general principle of Never Talk to Police that working class people, esp nonwhites know for general continued existence. If the mother has any kind of criminal history, she may also want to avoid making herself a target for police.) If one way or another the law does find out the father hasn't paid child support however many times triggers a warrant for his arrest, it's common for cops to harass the mother to tell them his whereabouts so they don't have to do their job and go actually look for him. Even when she does not know his whereabouts and wants to comply but can't because he's skipped town, it's common for them to withhold welfare benefits for being uncooperative (in addition to whatever other standard cop behavior they engage in while they're there). If the mother is staying with in-laws, as is often the case, they may also exert pressure on her to not report her deadbeat ex or they'll throw her and her kid(s) out on the street. In addition to these things, the mother may know the father is unemployed, has no money to draw on, and is not going to pay with or without the threat of imprisonment, so all the $500 fine and 6 month sentence would do is piss him off, putting her and her children in danger, a likely fear if they split up for domestic abuse reasons, so she may consider it not worth it. For these and other reasons, many mothers find it preferable to just accept under the table cash payments whenever the father feels like it rather than going through the normal child support process. WIBTA if I asked the people in my dance class to be quiet? quote:I (21 NB) am autistic and have sound-related sensory issues that come with it, particularly people talking in class. It bothered me during class in school when people were talking and laughing instead of concentrating and it still bothers me now in dance classes when people talk and don’t pay attention.
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Invisible Clergy posted:Past experience has taught me that people don’t take kindly to being told to be quiet. Lmao
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Woodchip posted:Let the Thanksgiving stories flow. What happens if an American spends Thanksgiving alone? Do they die?
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PancakeTransmission posted:What happens if an American spends Thanksgiving alone? Do they die? On thanksgiving night the Redcoat has enough power it can once again walk the land and try to capture separated americans and force them to return to subjugation under the crown, so americans have to consume a meal consisting entirely of foodstuffs from their new homeland to make them too poisonous to touch
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Talking amongst yourselves to the point where other people can't hear instructions is a huge problem and it loving sucks. It happened all the time when I was in marching band and we got soooo many extra laps.
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Invisible Clergy posted:<child support stuff> There's also the "If I go after him for child support he's going to stay involved in my life and gently caress with me" kind of ex-partner. Seeking partial custody arrangements, challenging medical/educational decisions, that kind of thing. Not because they really care what happens to the child, but because they know it's a giant pain in the rear end for the mother to have to deal with and they want revenge for having to pay child support. I know several single mothers who would happily trade away getting child support if it meant that their ex would gently caress off forever.
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packetmantis posted:Talking amongst yourselves to the point where other people can't hear instructions is a huge problem and it loving sucks. It happened all the time when I was in marching band and we got soooo many extra laps. What are your opinions about the Michigan and Ohio State marching bands?
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SilvergunSuperman posted:Announcing it ahead of time is a total chump move, you played yourself utterly correct
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Khizan posted:There's also the "If I go after him for child support he's going to stay involved in my life and gently caress with me" kind of ex-partner. Seeking partial custody arrangements, challenging medical/educational decisions, that kind of thing. Not because they really care what happens to the child, but because they know it's a giant pain in the rear end for the mother to have to deal with and they want revenge for having to pay child support. Yes, that is another reason why they might not pursue child support, good point. AITA for leaving a scathing review of a local restaurant because I didn't ask for a price? quote:My wife and I went to dinner the other night at a local restaurant we had only been to once before for lunch.
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Nov 15, 2021 07:40
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This one has boomer energy, but I'd be pissed off too. The again, my millennial rear end would never dare order something without knowing the price. A true moral quandry.
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Bug Squash posted:This one has boomer energy, but I'd be pissed off too. The again, my millennial rear end would never dare order something without knowing the price. A true moral quandry. The owner responding with anything but the boiler plate "sorry about your experience please contact us" is pretty damning.
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AITA for making wine on my farm when my husband is a recovering alcoholic?quote:Ok so I (25m) moved to where I currently live about six years ago. I met my now-husband "Shane" (35m) in the local saloon and we hit it off after a little bit of a bumpy start... We always used to like drinking together, but Shane eventually figured out it was a really unhealthy habit for him and led to some really nasty poo poo in his personal life (not to get into it, but I had to take him to the hospital a couple of times and his goddaughter has had to see him drunk more than that). So he quit drinking. I was really proud of him and I've always supported him; we hang out at home or out in nature instead of at the bars these days and he seems happy. Post from r/StardewValley
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Friends and I went to a Cajun restaurant because they had an "X, y, and z for $15" ad on their Facebook page so of course we each ordered the Cajun boil with X y z. Get the bill, it's loving outrageous and the waiter explains to us it's $15 for X or y or z. Manager gets involved, friend is having none of it and we're clearly showing them the ad on their own social media that there's no unambiguous language involved. I've never felt like more of an rear end hole pulling that but at the same time we weren't wrong and Jesus christ eat the 10 to 20 dollars so morons like me continue to buy overpriced lovely food from you in the future
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Nov 15, 2021 09:18
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Batterypowered7 posted:What are your opinions about the Michigan and Ohio State marching bands? I don't know that I have an opinion at all, why do you ask?
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Isn’t the rule for specials half as much again on top of the normal mains pricing? Like if you want to try a dish out or there’s something in season, and you’re charging £25-30 for mains or pricing your steak at £9-10/100g, then a specials board that goes to £45 is well within what people could expect but you’re still poo poo for not pricing it. If you’re normally charging £15, people will expect £22-25?
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how about something nice for a change I(13m) am thinking about coming out to my dad(35m) advice? quote:I've been thinking about telling him for a while and think he'll be ok with it. He might even know already, the other night we were watching something and 2 guys kissed. It had been building up on the show and I got choked up because I want a bf plus really am crushing hard on a boy. When my dad noticed he put an arm around me and just hugged me. He didn't say anything but we were still watching the show and he never talks till after.
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Mx. posted:how about something nice for a change Awww. This one is good.
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Mx. posted:b]I(13m) am thinking about coming out to my dad(35m) advice?[/b]  Precious.Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA if I asked the people in my dance class to be quiet?
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Total Meatlove posted:Isn’t the rule for specials half as much again on top of the normal mains pricing? kazr posted:The owner responding with anything but the boiler plate "sorry about your experience please contact us" is pretty damning.  I appreciate when owners reply with angry screeds because it immediately confirms that OP's side of the story is more or less correct.
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You complain everywhere you go.
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packetmantis posted:I don't know that I have an opinion at all, why do you ask? All the friends I have that have been in marching bands have strong opinions about college bands and the DCI, that's all.
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MagusofStars posted:In many cases, it's not even that much - the specials are often similar to the highest price on the menu (maybe a couple bucks more) and even being "50% more than anything else" would be kind of excessive. So in OP's example, if the prices are all $11-$14, I'd guess the steak would like $17 or so, with $20 as the absolute max. And if it came back as triple the price, I'd be pissed too. yeah, I had a similar experience with a sandwich place out here, I'd always gotten good treatment at other locations but when I ordered "as much bacon as possible" I got two slices. Left a 2/5 review and the owner basically quoted the menu at me, and I felt 100% vindicated.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Yyyyowza. Wow, what and idiot. Ita been 4 years and you're not in phd or professional schooling. What the gently caress?
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Hughlander posted:The thing I get from Reddit posts is that a lot of single moms don't go after child support. I can't comprehend that personally, but I see it time and time again. Because a lot of those lovely fathers are also lovely, abusive people. Being a single mother in this garbage culture is hard enough, but sometimes it's better to struggle alone than open yourself - and your child - to the hosed-up manipulative abuse of the father and/or his family.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for embarrassing my ex-husband in front of his employees? IANAL but iirc He would have had to pay child support since they were married when the kid was born he probably didn’t get visitation because he didn’t press for it.
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Total Meatlove posted:Isn’t the rule for specials half as much again on top of the normal mains pricing? At the tier of restaurant they're talking about, not really. Those places' specials are more likely to be "gently caress we need to get rid of some ______" or "we got a one time cheap shipment of _______" and generally aren't a big upcharge. On the other hand, there is a difference between "this is an $11-14 a plate restaurant" vs. "this restaurant has food for $11-14 a plate." It's entirely possible the restaurant normally sells $30-40 steak dinners but OP just zeroed in on the cheap stuff they sell to picky eaters and broke kids, especially since they say they've only eaten lunch there before.
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AITA for not having sympathy for my wife when my in laws found out my parents are still married?quote:I absolutely love my wife and am pretty much no contact with my parents due to my mom speaking poorly of my wife, attempting to hijack our wedding, and being passive aggressive. My dad is kind of useless and admits he only had me to make my mom happy, and since I'm not currently making her happy he has no use of me. My mom is a spoiled princess to the 1000th degree and my dad likes it that way.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not having sympathy for my wife when my in laws found out my parents are still married? I generally think the old canard that men seek out women who remind them of their mother to marry is trading in sexist stereotypes, but I will admit that it does happen sometimes.
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I camt believe ahe was made to feel at fault for the things she did
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Azuth0667 posted:Wow, what and idiot. Ita been 4 years and you're not in phd or professional schooling. What the gently caress? But what about the life plan he drew up when he was 19 
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*breaks leg* poo poo that wasn't in my plan! I'm hosed!
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Weren't there goons in the very last iteration of the thread trying to defend the whole "not showing the prices is ~fine dining~, you plebians  " bullshit?Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not having sympathy for my wife when my in laws found out my parents are still married?
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not having sympathy for my wife when my in laws found out my parents are still married? 1. gently caress about 2. oh no what is happening?
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