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Arsenic Lupin posted:My experience with tetanus is that it isn't the shot that's the problem, it's the major pain in the arm muscle for the next couple of days. Didn't have that problem with a measles booster, any flu shot, or the J&J vaccination. My Moderna booster (yay mix-and-match) did hurt for two days, although not to the extent of tetanus. Tiny needle, barely felt the shot, but the immune reaction was memorable. I had a tetanus shot yesterday! Tiny needle, barely felt it go in, no soreness or other reactions so far. Also got a flu shot in the other arm, same story. I got AZ + M as my two covid shots, those were both sore for a couple days after. I'll report back in a couple days if there's any developments.
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I don't really see it? Like I'm sure specifics would add to the story, but he went behind his wife's back, drained their joint account, to buy an expensive gift he would never get his wife, because he wants to compete with his siblings. whoosh
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# ? Nov 18, 2021 18:21 |
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Fair enough.
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# ? Nov 18, 2021 18:36 |
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not refusing to give my son the name my husband wants to give him? Halloween Jack fucked around with this message at 19:17 on Nov 18, 2021 |
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Got tetanus shot a week ago, it was nothing, covid knocked my arm out for a day or two though
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# ? Nov 18, 2021 18:48 |
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His Divine Shadow posted:I've had several tetanus shots in my life (FYI reminds me 2021 is supposed to be when I renew them), what's supposed to be worse about those than any other vaccination? The nice thing about the tetanus vaccine is that it's one of the very few ones that have a 100% protection rate against the disease.
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My arm was pretty sore for 2-3 days after a tetanus shot. It wasn't as sore as it was after the Pfizer COVID shot, though.
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Venting over my first failed poly relationshipquote:I started seeing this guy who was poly in the summer and I was always curious about polyamory since most of my friends are poly. At the time he had 3 partners and we agreed to keep things casual, more like a summer fling. Quickly, he goes against his word to me, himself, and his partners because when we're together he tells me how much he adores me, how much he's enamored by me, how I'm his favorite person to have sex with. Totally singing my praises. He calls me his partner after our second time hanging out. When I told him I had feelings for him, he said he was at capacity with his "serious" partners and didn't have time for anything outside of a casual relationship with me. He said he wanted a relationship eventually, but that he wasn't ready to do so. I put two and two together and realized he was lying to his partners about us strictly being emotionally casual, and when I called him out, he ended things because he realized he needed to repair his partner's trust. Update: the partners unionized, confronted him, and discovered that everything was a lie quote:After I posted my last post here (https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/quokac/venting_over_my_first_failed_poly_relationship/ ), his ex partner who's known him for four years found my post & commented. Instantly knew it was even though we never met. Glad she got the full Polly experience the first time out!
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Hughlander posted:Venting over my first failed poly relationship Saving this for later in case I can't sleep
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AITA for getting mad at my father for not including me in his will?quote:So I (23F) have 2 younger siblings (21F and 19M). I walked into the living room the other day and heard my dad discussing his will with my mom. He said if anything were to happen to him, all his assets will go to my mom and my brother, and my sister and I will be getting nothing.
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Hughlander posted:Venting over my first failed poly relationship One of my friends is poly and also unionized one of her partners harems, but that just means that he has to make all of them crepes in the morning, not this kind of insane drama bomb
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# ? Nov 18, 2021 19:08 |
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I skip every poly story because there's only ever 2 of them. Either a group of gross weird people decide they all really want a poly lifestyle and it ends up imploding due to poly drama, or one person in a couple pushes hard to go poly and then regrets it. I feel like anyone wanting to try being poly should have to read 100 of these stories before they do.
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SUPERMAN'S GAL PAL posted:United States Thanksgiving is a preservation of nationalist myths told to uphold White Supremacy, YTA for having a dinner at all unless you’re putting in the same amount of time/money/effort/etc into supporting those locally who are unjustly forced into poverty, especially if said peoples are Native Americans. Celebrating Thanksgiving is an act of white supremacy and colonialism, and any actual leftist does not take part at all.
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# ? Nov 18, 2021 19:12 |
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What even is poly? I dated more than one woman while in college. Was I poly?
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# ? Nov 18, 2021 19:14 |
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Piell posted:AITA for getting mad at my father for not including me in his will? Depending on where they are she can simply threaten to contest any will he creates for not even mentioning her and her sister. This is the reason you see stories here where someone gets a token $15,000 of a huge estate. Edit: OP's family is Indian and the father is from one of the more rural parts, and even other Indian Redditors are saying her father is a backward dipshit. cumshitter fucked around with this message at 19:35 on Nov 18, 2021 |
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Piell posted:AITA for getting mad at my father for not including me in his will? My favorite is the mom that hates her husband's misogynistic culture and views but hates equally anybody that points out his views are misogynistic. Poor woman was probably forced into that marriage and forced to be ok with those views but still knows they are wrong. She should divorce him but she's probably too decorum poisoned for that after years of abuse. Edit: I feel like there was a poly story a few threads ago where the relationship was the guy was the dom and he had 3 girls as subs. The subs got fed up with how things were going, unionized, and made him the sub. I think he was the one asking for advice because he dien't know what to do and wanted thinge back how they were. Everyone just laughed at him. Anyone remember that one? limp_cheese fucked around with this message at 19:52 on Nov 18, 2021 |
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Hughlander posted:
lovers of the world unite, you have nothing to lose but your fuckboys
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not having sympathy for my wife when my in laws found out my parents are still married? this was awhile back but this makes absolutely no sense to me. Why would his wife make up this lie? If his wife hated his mom, why would she concoct a story to make his mom more sympathetic?
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limp_cheese posted:My favorite is the mom that hates her husband's misogynistic culture and views but hates equally anybody that points out his views are misogynistic. Poor woman was probably forced into that marriage and forced to be ok with those views but still knows they are wrong. She should divorce him but she's probably too decorum poisoned for that after years of abuse. I think that was a troll post, I just googled "my subs have unionized" and found it https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/biu8oz/my_25m_subs_23f_26f_22m_28m_28m_have_unionized/
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limp_cheese posted:My favorite is the mom that hates her husband's misogynistic culture and views but hates equally anybody that points out his views are misogynistic. Poor woman was probably forced into that marriage and forced to be ok with those views but still knows they are wrong. She should divorce him but she's probably too decorum poisoned for that after years of abuse. I think that was a troll post, I just googled "my subs have unionized" and found it https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/biu8oz/my_25m_subs_23f_26f_22m_28m_28m_have_unionized/
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AITA for deleting my BF's Chess account?quote:My (23F) boyfriend (24M) is a massive chess buff. He will spend hours rambling about chess, days arguing on forums, and spend eternity on his online Chess account. He’s spent around 10 years building up his account and loves to play. I on the other hand, can play, but am nothing compared to him.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for deleting my BF's Chess account? Excellent twist at the end, as I was reading down I was steadily moving towards 'okay sounds like the BF really likes chess but is possibly taking it to a point where he is neglecting work/social responsibilities for chess and that would be an issue'.
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Baronjutter posted:I skip every poly story because there's only ever 2 of them. Either a group of gross weird people decide they all really want a poly lifestyle and it ends up imploding due to poly drama, or one person in a couple pushes hard to go poly and then regrets it. I'm in an open relationship (2 years, going strong) and it's kind of embarrassing to tell people about it because of all the poly-gone-wrong stories out there. Of course, you never read poly-that-works stories because no one posts stuff when poo poo is going well!
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webmeister posted:I mean, at 12, it's marginal, right? 12 is a bit old to still think Santa exists
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Thundercloud posted:I can't see this update, please link so we can bathe in the obliviousness. erm it's just the post I was replying to by Evil Willow. The text of the reply is in that post. Or am I missing something?
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limp_cheese posted:Edit: I feel like there was a poly story a few threads ago where the relationship was the guy was the dom and he had 3 girls as subs. The subs got fed up with how things were going, unionized, and made him the sub. I think he was the one asking for advice because he dien't know what to do and wanted thinge back how they were. Everyone just laughed at him. Anyone remember that one? Wasn't there one where dom guy got his 2 subs to take IQ tests and was horrified when they both scored higher than him?
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I [22F] strongly feel like my boyfriend [24M] is having an affair but no matter how or what I ask he deniesquote:We met online on Twitter at the end of 2016. And got into a relationship in March or April. Everything was going well until one day I saw another girl post his photo on Instagram with a caption that included 'counting our time forever'. And we had a very big fight on that but he ended up making me feel okay saying she's his friend and he helped her in something and that was her way of being appreciative so I let it go after a while. Tell me you're the side piece without telling me that you're the side piece.
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A Moose posted:I think that was a troll post, I just googled "my subs have unionized" and found it https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/biu8oz/my_25m_subs_23f_26f_22m_28m_28m_have_unionized/ drat, its been removed. I don't care if it was a troll, it was funny. What's that reddit thing again that allows you to find deleted posts?
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Just when you think things can't get any more pathetic you find out people have relationships entirely over Twitter.
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spacetoaster posted:What even is poly? I dated more than one woman while in college. Was I poly? My Little Poly
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limp_cheese posted:drat, its been removed. I don't care if it was a troll, it was funny. What's that reddit thing again that allows you to find deleted posts? quote:I have been in a committed polyamorous dominant submissive relationship for the past three months. I’m the Dom and I have 5 subs, three men and 2 women. It’s been going great, it’s all consensual and everyone if having a good time. We do not live together, but we hang out at my apartment almost every day. It is not a purely sexual relationship either. We all share an emotional connection and it’s like any other relationship but poly and bdsm. Of course, as the dom, there are some rules. They need to call me master. No kissing anyone except for me. If i tell someone to do something, they do it (within bounds of course). The punishments depend on the person, some of my subs get whipped, some publicly humiliated. It all depends on what I agree on with each sub. We have safe words too, and we stop the roleplay whenever anyone says one. It seems weird to vanillas but this is what we enjoy and we like to be open about it. Everything has been great. At least I thought everything was going great. I woke up a couple days ago and told one of my subs to get me a cup of coffee. He didn’t do it. I told him that I was going to punish him (public humiliation which can be easily resisted) and he said that he wouldn’t do it. Now, if one of my subs acts like this I break it off with them so I threatened him that I would kick him out of the relationship. The other subs chimed in and said that if I kick him out, they all leave. That’s right; my submissives have unionized. They handed me a sheet of paper with a list of demands. The demands included (I’m not sharing all of them for their privacy), “Allow kissing between subs” and “Demands are to only be followed after 8 pm”. I tried to negotiate, but they were firm in their demands. I couldn’t punish them. My hands are tied, and I have no power anymore. I told them that I would think about it for a couple days. They haven’t left me yet, they still stay overnight, but this list of demands is lingering over our relationship and our sex life. They want to keep a dominant, and no one has stepped up to replace me. They thought about finding a new dom online but only if I don’t give into their demands. I want to negotiate because I don’t want to give up too much power. I offered “kissing subs only after 6 pm” and “follow demands after 1 pm”. I also offered following each demand separately but not both together. I really do have feelings for them, and they have feelings for me. But the power balance was shifted when they unionized and I don’t know what to do. The relationship isn’t as satisfying anymore and I don’t know if it will ever be. What should I do. Do I let them get a new dom and leave them? Or do I give into their demands and relinquish some of my power?
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spacetoaster posted:What even is poly? based on my experience it's just an excuse to talk about how you're poly
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spacetoaster posted:What even is poly? I dated more than one woman while in college. Was I poly? Carrying on "serious" (scare-quotes because that's a line everyone draws in different places, not because they aren't) relationships with multiple people at the same time without hiding them from each other. Sometimes it's one big couple, sometimes different people have their times alone with each other and the rest are fine with that, there's a lot of dynamics that can fit under that umbrella. Often fall apart because of all the reasons other relationships do as well as things like "just because you're not having sex with their other partner doesn't mean you don't have a relationship going on with them" or "confused being horny for being okay with it" though that one can be applied to a LOT of issues. And more people means more pairings for some dynamic to break down and more likely to get public when it does, so you usually hear about them when two people start screaming in a Starbucks or something.
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Alchenar posted:Excellent twist at the end, as I was reading down I was steadily moving towards 'okay sounds like the BF really likes chess but is possibly taking it to a point where he is neglecting work/social responsibilities for chess and that would be an issue'. The bit about a “chess tournament” requiring him to stay the night somewhere basically sounded the CHEATING klaxon for me
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# ? Nov 18, 2021 21:46 |
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poly is a lot of loving work to do correctly and without bruising anyone's feelings, so its really only suitable for relationship savants or people who place their romantic/sexual relationships as the main priority in their life and put in serious hours keeping everything balanced and equitable i knew a couple people who were poly who went back to an unsatisfying monogamy because its simply too much work to constantly tend the free love fuckgarden to keep the rapidly growing weeds of drama at bay
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Mr. Fall Down Terror posted:poly is a lot of loving work to do correctly and without bruising anyone's feelings, so its really only suitable for relationship savants or people who place their romantic/sexual relationships as the main priority in their life and put in serious hours keeping everything balanced and equitable It is really harsh and something that a lot of poly people take as a highly personal attack, but yeah I don't think it's a coincidence that I've met a lot of poly people who use "unconventional" as a denial substitute for "dysfunctional" when describing their relationships. I've got nothing against poly conceptually until/unless kids get involved, and understand negativity bias, so this is just friendly "hey I've seen this pattern emerge unprompted from years of meeting people" and not a value judgment.
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Bruceski posted:Carrying on "serious" (scare-quotes because that's a line everyone draws in different places, not because they aren't) relationships with multiple people at the same time without hiding them from each other. Sometimes it's one big couple, sometimes different people have their times alone with each other and the rest are fine with that, there's a lot of dynamics that can fit under that umbrella. Often fall apart because of all the reasons other relationships do as well as things like "just because you're not having sex with their other partner doesn't mean you don't have a relationship going on with them" or "confused being horny for being okay with it" though that one can be applied to a LOT of issues. And more people means more pairings for some dynamic to break down and more likely to get public when it does, so you usually hear about them when two people start screaming in a Starbucks or something. Seems like some old 1930's: "I'm taking my best girl to the dance!" kinda thing. lol
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Thank you very much. I don't care if its a troll that poo poo is great.
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Mr. Fall Down Terror posted:poly is a lot of loving work to do correctly and without bruising anyone's feelings, so its really only suitable for relationship savants or people who place their romantic/sexual relationships as the main priority in their life and put in serious hours keeping everything balanced and equitable It's not just that - much like with hard drugs, most people who end op in a polycule are exactly the kind of people who shouldn't be in one.
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Bruceski posted:Confiscating/destroying believed-fake IDs is only done in movies, and anyone who believes they have the authority in real life is going to end up in serious legal trouble if the ID turns out to be legit. Which doesn't stop idiots from thinking they can do so, and the proper alternative (contacting the police) has problems all its own. 50 states, 50 laws. Confiscation is legal in a bit less than half the states. In my state any liquor clerk or bar can confiscate an ID they think is fake or being used by somebody other than the owner. They have 24 hours to turn it over to law enforcement. https://www.revisor.mn.gov/statutes/cite/340A.503#stat.340A.503.6 (c) A licensed retailer or municipal liquor store may seize a form of identification listed under paragraph (a) if the retailer or municipal liquor store has reasonable grounds to believe that the form of identification has been altered or falsified or is being used to violate any law. A retailer or municipal liquor store that seizes a form of identification as authorized under this paragraph must deliver it to a law enforcement agency, within 24 hours of seizing it. https://intellicheck.com/found-fake-id/
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