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scott zoloft posted:Teams is good if you want Do Not Disturb to not work and you want your coworkers messages pop up while you're presenting popup while sharing "2d6 goons have posted in Working in IT 3.0 about horse phallus. Click here to open the thread."
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scott zoloft posted:Teams is good if you want Do Not Disturb to not work and you want your coworkers messages pop up while you're presenting Does windows not have a system-wide DND like OSX does?
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Nov 23, 2021 21:35
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It has Focus Assist, but it's a relatively newish feature and it doesn't work as well as it should. It won't, for example, activate automatically when are sharing your screen in Teams or anything else.
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Nov 23, 2021 21:37
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regulargonzalez posted:Update! regulargonzalez posted:It's just a very sad situation. I don't want to dwell on my feelings because it's not about me, but like I said I considered her a work friend and had some hopes of establishing the friendship outside of work. I had invited her and her partner to Thanksgiving, she'd come to my office and show me some tips on guitar. I don't think you're super to blame here. Yeah, I'd say you should have waited for her to possibly broach the subject before you started talking about it -- I'd feel weirder if someone i hadn't told I was trans started talking to me like that, but you considered her a decent work-friend. At least, you weren't outing her to people, you just made it known you assumed/had clocked her. Which isn't great, but it isn't as sinful as going around the office telling people about the weird trans degenerate. I don't know if this will be helpful but here's my perspective on it at least, as a trans person in a office where I don't talk about that fact: I know personally, I really appreciate no one at work misgenders me or mentions that I'm trans, and my overall feeling about it is "as long as I don't explicitly tell anyone, no one knows for sure. They can guess, or assume, but who cares?" and that comforted me a lot when I started working at this company. It's very stuffy and full of old people, but I've only been misgendered once by a new hire and I have decided at this point (based on future interactions with her) that it was closer to a slip of the tongue that can happen to people referencing cis people sometimes. If someone came to me privately and started asking me about it, I'd probably react visibly fine. But I'm also someone who tries to be an open-book about this sorta stuff. Years ago, I wanted to be some kind of resource for people to ask questions to, but as I've gotten further and further into the transition, it has become less of an interest or focus for me to be that. With close friends, sure, that's fine, but I'm less, uh... open in general about it. I tell people I want to become friends with because it's a great filter, but other than that, I don't mention it. It's just way, way, way easier to navigate a lotta situations if I don't disclose. I know at previous companies, interacting with new people, they'd ask me my pronouns cause I was so visibly trans it was impossible to ride any sort of plausible deniability. And those people weren't malicious or anything even. I think getting my voice sorted made a big difference, though. She probably personally doesn't harbor ill-will toward you and might not have even been uncomfortable in the moment (and just wasn't telling you) but after she stewed in that thought afterwards that everyone knew and was secretly judging her for it or even talking about it behind her back. That'd stress me out too, but probably not enough to quit. As long as people aren't being lovely to me, whatever. But it really depends how people interacted with me. I think if the office KNEW for SURE I was trans, a lot of people wouldn't treat me exactly the same, due to whatever unconscious biases would be at play. I hope you can work it out with her and bring her back. It sounds hard.
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Nov 23, 2021 21:52
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star eater posted:I don't think you're super to blame here. Yeah, I'd say you should have waited for her to possibly broach the subject before you started talking about it -- I'd feel weirder if someone i hadn't told I was trans started talking to me like that, but you considered her a decent work-friend. At least, you weren't outing her to people, you just made it known you assumed/had clocked her. Which isn't great, but it isn't as sinful as going around the office telling people about the weird trans degenerate. Do you have PMs and can I message you later?
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Nov 23, 2021 22:36
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regulargonzalez posted:A sincere thank you for this post. It mirrors a lot of my thoughts. The biggest difference between your situation and here is that this is a pretty liberal area and a liberal environment even within the area and whoever does know, if any, absolutely doesn't care. But I'm approaching it with my cis mindset and I can't project into her experience. I do have PMs. you can message me whenever.
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Nov 23, 2021 22:42
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Thank you very much for sharing your perspective.
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Nov 23, 2021 22:42
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This thread is one of the most wholesome on SA!
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Nov 23, 2021 22:54
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regulargonzalez, I feel like your mistake is the sort of mistake I easily could have made back when I worked in an office. Sometimes we gently caress up despite having only the best of intentions. I am good at business communication but introverted in private life, and that's one of the reasons I love working from home. Nobody tries to socialize over Teams. We joke around, yes, but we don't chat back and forth about personal stuff, so that bright line between work and play is easier to maintain.
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Nov 23, 2021 22:56
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Holiday week chat: Just finished delivering the pilot of a six hour training course I conceived, wrote and implemented and I am wrecked. It’s super stressful to teach to begin with, but adding on the fact that it was my content added a new layer of ugh. Now I get to work on finalizing my breakout session for re:Invent and planning customer stuff at Vegas. But first I’m taking some fuckoff time. If you need me I’ll be in the hot tub.
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Nov 23, 2021 23:05
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I take it back, I also question this woman’s judgement if her freakout was not in response to being outed but just asked personally. Assuming someone is trans is not the best thing to do in the world, not clear if she already told you or not, but this is super different than you outing her publicly which I initially assumed.
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Nov 23, 2021 23:25
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Nov 23, 2021 23:26
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Had a good annual review today. Top marks, and in a vindicating moment re: the corporate thread my boss also told me to find a new job, but in the good “you’ve learned what you can, go and learn something new somewhere new” sort of way. Was a really lovely chat honestly.
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Nov 23, 2021 23:27
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I just did a lovely job at a presentation 
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Nov 23, 2021 23:36
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I told my customer's engineer that I have a hard stop at 5 because I spent all last night until midnight holding his hand and he complained that he doesn't know how to debug anything and I told him to figure it out. And now I'm out to dinner! 
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Nov 23, 2021 23:45
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Happiness Commando posted:I just did a lovely job at a presentation We're always harder on ourselves than other people are. If a colleague had just done the same presentation in the same way, would you think "they did a lovely job" or something kinder? Give yourself the same grace you give to others.
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Nov 24, 2021 00:01
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KillHour posted:And now I'm out to dinner! Hell yes
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Nov 24, 2021 00:05
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Happiness Commando posted:I just did a lovely job at a presentation We're each our own worst critic. You probably did great.
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Nov 24, 2021 01:19
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You all are nice, but it was graded as part of training. Had it been the real deal instead of a trial run, I would not have passed. All the same, I could be nicer to myself
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Nov 24, 2021 01:24
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Presenting, especially to an audience of peers, is a skill like any other and it is not an easy one. Think back to your school days and group projects/presentations and how much every one of them sucked. That's how things go! Learn from it, move on and grow from it, but don't focus on the negative. We only see our own blooper reel, while watching others' highlight reel.
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Nov 24, 2021 01:27
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god put me on earth to dazzle an audience In all seriousness, it’s a skill like any other. I’ve hosed up presentations too, and in fact did a somewhat unfocused one this morning largely due to it being 6 am and jet lag. Slightly embarrassing too cuz it was going over a big project I just completed, and a 10/10 presentation would have been nice to accompany it! The second guessing will get you, so you’ve just got to find that voice of self doubt and ducking strangle the drat thing over and over again. The Iron Rose fucked around with this message at 01:57 on Nov 24, 2021 |
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Nov 24, 2021 01:55
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The Iron Rose posted:god put me on earth to dazzle an audience Do you strangle like, a LOT of ducks, or just the occasional one to pass the time?
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Nov 24, 2021 02:05
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SyNack Sassimov posted:Do you strangle like, a LOT of ducks, or just the occasional one to pass the time? it’s a style of strangling actually, gosh boomer. birds and particularly ducks/geese are assholes. i crave to one day possess their malice for all living things, i think it’d be a real asset in my corporate career
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Nov 24, 2021 02:22
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I’m on PTO road-tripping through Arkansas and it’s been pretty rad. Petit Jean still had fall colors. Ozarks not so much. Bentonville was a weird town that is clearly Walmart trying to make attractive for corporate employees. Currently in Branson on a whim and this whole city is everything I hate about tourism. My wife has a fascination with it because her career is in parks and recreation and this is a sort of tourist mecca but everything is wrong about it. Just endless trash but I guess it has its place for families. I can see why remote workers are flocking here because it’s beautiful. Our peak season starts on Thursday and things have already started to go to poo poo so I’m very excited to return to work next week.
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Nov 24, 2021 03:00
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I doubled up. I’ve become sickening. My stories won’t be as good though.
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Nov 24, 2021 04:24
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jaegerx posted:I doubled up. I’ve become sickening. My stories won’t be as good though. I believe in you.
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Nov 24, 2021 04:26
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I don't think board of directors counts as a real job. Doubled seems a bit of a stretch.
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Nov 24, 2021 04:30
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Internet Explorer posted:I don't think board of directors counts as a real job. Doubled seems a bit of a stretch. Nah it’s a k8s job for another startup. I did inform them that it’s a contract though and not full time so it’s just part time work. I don’t think I could’ve keep another full time position a secret.
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Nov 24, 2021 04:31
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jaegerx posted:Nah it’s a k8s job for another startup. I did inform them that it’s a contract though and not full time so it’s just part time work. I don’t think I could’ve keep another full time position a secret. Its going to take you a few paychecks before you realize your plan of "if I don't like it, I will just quit one of my jobs" unravels. Greed take hold of your soul.
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Nov 24, 2021 04:34
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Sickening posted:Its going to take you a few paychecks before you realize your plan of "if I don't like it, I will just quit one of my jobs" unravels. Greed take hold of your soul. Meh gently caress em. I’m not here to build anything anymore. I’m here to get paid.
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Nov 24, 2021 04:35
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lol I picked the perfect week to go on vacation and turn off my phone. my poor team is still on site doing maintenance (basically just patching servers) and it is now 1AM. They have been at it for 7 hours now at least, and it looks like they're getting ready to pack it in and go home. Except, I just received a slew of alerts from Azure saying that it is unable to sync with our on prem domain. Sucks to be them I guess...
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Nov 24, 2021 07:11
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jaegerx posted:I doubled up. I’ve become sickening. Your posting always has been though.
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Nov 24, 2021 09:00
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I'm currently engaged in a war of attrition with one of my colleagues. They need a lot of hand holding and seem to be at the point where they've given up and just point blank will not attempt anything they've decided they don't know how to do. So I'll send them vendor documentation that walks through a process and then a week later they won't have done anything because they said they didn't understand it. Or when they turned around and said they weren't comfortable using the macOS terminal despite being a Mac user working in IT for 20 years. I'm not sure if there's some motive going on to be so useless that I just do their job for them, but I am 100% not going down that path. Even stuff like "open a case with the vendor and they will walk you through it if you're unsure" isn't getting actioned. I think the guy is going to have to go. To be clear, if they'd started working through the documentation for a process and got stuck, I would help. But I need to see some evidence that they're trying. If they just say "I didn't understand any of it" then that's making work for me, which isn't OK.
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Nov 24, 2021 11:12
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George H.W. oval office posted:I’m on PTO road-tripping through Arkansas and it’s been pretty rad. Petit Jean still had fall colors. Ozarks not so much. Bentonville was a weird town that is clearly Walmart trying to make attractive for corporate employees. Currently in Branson on a whim and this whole city is everything I hate about tourism. My wife has a fascination with it because her career is in parks and recreation and this is a sort of tourist mecca but everything is wrong about it. Just endless trash but I guess it has its place for families. I visited a friend in Little Rock several years ago. Plenty of reasons I wouldn't want to live there, but man, the food blew my mind.
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I changed a CI job that, very deep down, invokes TeX to build documentation. I just updated the image used to something more recent, and…quote:Package babel Error: You haven't defined the language nil yet.  Okay, what does google say… quote:3 results (0,31 seconds) Oh no quote:https://tex.stackexchange.com › questions › tags-for-pol... Oh noooooooo
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Nov 24, 2021 12:14
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The Iron Rose posted:I take it back, I also question this woman’s judgement if her freakout was not in response to being outed but just asked personally. I like to think if that happened in my company they would probably sit you down and say we understand your reaction, so dont worry about it. I've seen full on fights between colleagues on multiple occasions and everyone kept their jobs so I guess it takes quite a lot to get sacked, which I know sounds crazy but actually think is good of the company I work for that they show a degree of empathy when they listen to the context of the situations I think one thing I took from the story is gonzalez clearly feels terrible about this event so it was obviously meant with no malice at all. Of course, it's also terrible that the consequence for the friend is obviously huge but it's happened now so we have to deal with it. I guess it's mainly important that the employer support both of you through the situation. It doesn't really seem important to apportion blame to me as it doesn't really achieve anything. The other side of it is if the friend returns to the office, now outed, I guess you are relying on everyone else not to be jerks. My brother is trans so there was a point in my life where I did a lot of learning and I try my best to be an ally and challenge issues as best I can. There are just sooo many jerks though so I hope that isn't an issue.
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Nov 24, 2021 14:29
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SyNack Sassimov posted:Do you strangle like, a LOT of ducks, or just the occasional one to pass the time? 
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George H.W. oval office posted:I’m on PTO road-tripping through Arkansas and it’s been pretty rad. Petit Jean still had fall colors. Ozarks not so much. Bentonville was a weird town that is clearly Walmart trying to make attractive for corporate employees. Currently in Branson on a whim and this whole city is everything I hate about tourism. My wife has a fascination with it because her career is in parks and recreation and this is a sort of tourist mecca but everything is wrong about it. Just endless trash but I guess it has its place for families. I've got a Database Analyst position open in a small town south of Little Rock it pays 30k also requires butt-in-seat The last few years, leaves have gone immediately from Green to Dead over the course of a weekend. This is the first time in a long time that we've had actual color-changing trees over the course of a few weeks. So nice!
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Idk i think i'd have issues trusting that employee who deleted her work and went dark to not do something like that again. I don't know the person and maybe i'd think differently if i did but just from reading what happened i'd wonder if it's something that's happened before and might happen again under any provocation or lack of
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Does anyone know if its worth trying to negotiate salary on a Cloud Support Engineer role with AWS? I'm being offered an interview and they've already thrown out the salary and are asking if I accept or not. I know normally you should always try to negotiate, but not sure about with AWS. Especially considering they haven't even interviewed me yet. Feels like trying to negotiate at this stage may just derail the process. I'd actually be okay with the salary quoted, but this thread has pretty well drilled into my head to negotiate.
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