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WIBTA if I demand my parents exclude my sister from Christmas?quote:My sister and I have never gotten along, I can't really stand to be in the same room with her. She has always been extremely jealous of me because she was boring and antisocial where I've always been prettier and more popular. I've mostly ignored her at family events for years but this year I want to tell my parents to not invite her. Just LOL if this chick thinks that her parents are going to be on her side!
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I'd probably respond lethally to Ms Team Rocket there, but then again I give my Pokemon names, personalities and story arcs.
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Nov 28, 2021 08:29
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I'd probably respond lethally to Ms Team Rocket there, but then again I give my Pokemon names, personalities and story arcs. Pokemon are property, not friends, but still, show me you have the strength to save them. <rival battle music starts playing>
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Nov 28, 2021 08:34
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Evil Willow posted:WIBTA if I demand my parents exclude my sister from Christmas? I can imagine her parents would be quite happy to exclude the unsupportive and obnoxious sister from Christmas, but she may get a surprise when she finds out which sister it is!
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Nov 28, 2021 08:35
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I'd probably respond lethally to Ms Team Rocket there, but then again I give my Pokemon names, personalities and story arcs. I laughed at the story, then came home to find out my husband had gone in my character's stash in Diablo2 and moved my personal (low level, crap, small) collection of runes into the larger shared stash from his other char's and now I am 100% on pokebro's side. I'm not mad per se, its just super rude.
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Nov 28, 2021 08:35
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Is demanding an apology for an awkward moment or joke a uniquely American thing? Setting aside the issue of whether making someone feel awkward with an unmalicious joke deserves an apology, it just seems to me that making the apology would be at least as awkward for everyone involved as the original incident? If it was awkward why are they not invested in trying to forget about it?
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Nov 28, 2021 09:04
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thotsky posted:Is demanding an apology for an awkward moment or joke a uniquely American thing? Setting aside the issue of whether making someone feel awkward with an unmalicious joke deserves an apology, it just seems to me that making the apology would be at least as awkward for everyone involved as the original incident? If it was awkward why are they not invested in trying to forget about it? Apologies mean nothing in America except shows of dominance, thats it really.
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Nov 28, 2021 09:14
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In Europe it is very normal to not care about people's feelings.
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Barudak posted:Sorry you chose turtwig, this is what you deserve. It's this. I think people are just blind to a lot of silly nerd stuff as 'not important', but it's really about the act. Also its kinda funny/sad how her thing of staying at a friend's until 1am, immediately showering, and going to bed without talking are like... Classic affair things.... I'm.
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Miserable Maid posted:Also its kinda funny/sad how her thing of staying at a friend's until 1am, immediately showering, and going to bed without talking are like... Classic affair things.... I'm. Stealing his pokemans to distract from the real betrayal would be a galaxy brain move.
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Nov 28, 2021 09:22
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Pleads posted:Stealing his pokemans to distract from the real betrayal would be a galaxy brain move. Would you say its a Team Galaxy brained move?
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Nov 28, 2021 09:27
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Like, trading away all his Pokemon, you could just play your own game up to the same level in nearly the same time. Just play the game!
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Nov 28, 2021 11:03
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packetmantis posted:In Europe it is very normal to not care about people's feelings. 
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Nov 28, 2021 11:20
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I mean, I'm European and I genuinely don't think I've ever heard someone demand an apology. Mostly because I only hang out with people who will apologize unprompted, and in a few occasions ones who will apologize when a third party suggests it's the right thing to do, but I think that's more of a personal experience than a cultural one. Like if a person isn't actually sorry they did a thing and will only apologize if pressed to keep the peace, why bother being around that person at all? Doesn't sound like they'll make any effort to not be lovely. Condolences to people with garbage families/coworkers with whom they're forced to interact by other factors.
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Midnight Voyager posted:We have a more local company called "Wickles" that make pickles and pickled okra, but spicy. I'd start a fight over those things. I've seen Wickles but never tried it! What's really loving good is pickle de gallo by Grillo's. It's fine chopped pickles, bell peppers, onions, garlic, habanero peppers and jalapenos. It's like pico de gallo but 10x better and I love pico de gallo. The worst is that I can never consistently find it. Grillo's Pickle de Gallo is my holy grail. Every time I find it in a store they seem to never stock it again, just the pickles from that brand.
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Thing is, these people don't see apologies as displays of regret and remorse, they see them as displays of contrition and submission.
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Nov 28, 2021 12:09
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Thing is, these people don't see apologies as displays of regret and remorse, they see them as displays of contrition and submission. Its this. Just always reframe it as understanding that the person apologizing is inferior and you'll understand why they have such a desire to be apologized to and why they never, ever, ever will apologize for anything.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for making a joke about riding my gf in front of her family because her brother was being rude to me?
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Yeah I'm tempted to find that thread and explain that what's unusual is not that they're demanding an apology, but that they didn't just write you off as a fuckwit and start pressuring the daughter to dump your rear end. Like, if they're demanding an apology you've got a chance to salvage the relationship with the family
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Nov 28, 2021 13:51
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Guildenstern Mother posted:I laughed at the story, then came home to find out my husband had gone in my character's stash in Diablo2 and moved my personal (low level, crap, small) collection of runes into the larger shared stash from his other char's and now I am 100% on pokebro's side. I'm not mad per se, its just super rude. Yeah, but on the other hand he's  there’s a reason the game makers don’t allow you to get them sooner and yeah, that's to get kids to use the trades you idiot so get stuffed goody-goody cheat all day erryday.
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Runcible Cat posted:Yeah, but on the other hand he's He already promised to help her get trade evolutions though
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Runcible Cat posted:Yeah, but on the other hand he's
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thotsky posted:Is demanding an apology for an awkward moment or joke a uniquely American thing? Setting aside the issue of whether making someone feel awkward with an unmalicious joke deserves an apology, it just seems to me that making the apology would be at least as awkward for everyone involved as the original incident? If it was awkward why are they not invested in trying to forget about it? *whispers to daughter* could you quietly let your boyfriend know that was in poor taste also that we need to have a family meeting where he tells us in detail about what he said and apologizes for it
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Nov 28, 2021 14:45
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Policing how other people play video games, especially the single player portion, automatically makes you the rear end in a top hat
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thotsky posted:Is demanding an apology for an awkward moment or joke a uniquely American thing? Setting aside the issue of whether making someone feel awkward with an unmalicious joke deserves an apology, it just seems to me that making the apology would be at least as awkward for everyone involved as the original incident? If it was awkward why are they not invested in trying to forget about it? the idea of an apology is that it openly acknowledges that wrong has been done and that you'll try to do better in the future and not do that. if someone has stepped forward and expressed that you've wronged them, just pretending it didn't happen and encouraging them to 'forget' about it is what poo poo repressed people who don't like emotions do. so: cowards. it's what cowards do. whether something 'deserves' an apology is not for you to determine, especially if you're the one who took the mis-step. in this case: he messed up by rising to the brother's bait in front of the family, and her parents weren't impressed. they are asking him to acknowledge that was not cool to do in front of everyone and not to do it again. Saying 'yeah well I gently caress HER lol' to clap back is yeah, pretty gross to do at a family gathering. The bro is a little poo poo for sure, but OP is not gonna get anywhere if he continues to try and take the annoying little brother down a peg in front of everyone, it's just going to make family events uncomfortable, and in that case the person they'll cut off the invite list is OP. So they're basically laying that out now, so that hopefully things can be chill moving forward - and if OP says something like that again they've already made it clear that wasn't appreciated and he likely won't be welcomed back into their home again. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 15:17 on Nov 28, 2021 |
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It's very much a "wit of the staircase' thing to say, but the correct response to bait like "Oh so she gives you piggyback rides everywhere?" is "only when I have my jockey outfit but I don't wear that around family."
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i'm not certain that it is
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Inexplicable Humblebrag posted:i'm not certain that it is Wit of the stairs-haver.
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empty sea posted:I've seen Wickles but never tried it! What's really loving good is pickle de gallo by Grillo's. It's fine chopped pickles, bell peppers, onions, garlic, habanero peppers and jalapenos. It's like pico de gallo but 10x better and I love pico de gallo. I just googled this and it's available at Target in my city! I might just have to go pick some up, I've never heard of it but it sounds amazing.
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empty sea posted:I've seen Wickles but never tried it! What's really loving good is pickle de gallo by Grillo's. It's fine chopped pickles, bell peppers, onions, garlic, habanero peppers and jalapenos. It's like pico de gallo but 10x better and I love pico de gallo. Ooh we bought that at a fancy grocery store while staying with friends in Salt Lake City. It's amazing and we all inhaled it with tortilla chips but I'd forgotten about it since life has been so busy. I'm going to go seek it out again. Edit: doesn't seem to be in the Seattle area 
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kimbo305 posted:Wit of the stairs-haver. Lol now that's a comeback.
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kimbo305 posted:Wit of the stairs-haver. lol
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for making a joke about riding my gf in front of her family because her brother was being rude to me? Boyfriend rules. NTA, I don't care if it was a crude joke.
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Evil Willow posted:WIBTA if I demand my parents exclude my sister from Christmas? Imagine being old enough to have divorced from a 10 years long relationship, and still writing sentences like this that would have made you already an obnoxious rear end in a top hat teen, let alone what it makes you now.
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Does anyone have that really hosed up sad one about the autistic couple who thought they could just put their 6 month old up for adoption without telling the family and "wanted to get it done before Christmas so it wasn't too awkward"?
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CHUCK WAS TAKEN posted:you can tell its rage bait if you have ever played pokemon seriously, because if he was really that into pokemons he wouldn't care about that poo poo. he'd just be trying to beat the game in 5 hours so he could transfer his farm of dittoes off Home and get back to breeding 5 and 6 iv competition mons to mash nerds online. and thats just one of many ways you can tell that. another is that its loving ridiculous The Diamond and Pearl remakes don't have competitive play and only allow trading with friends. It's assumed Home transfer will be added in the future to introduce those pokes into the sword/shield competitive scene.
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hallo spacedog posted:Does anyone have that really hosed up sad one about the autistic couple who thought they could just put their 6 month old up for adoption without telling the family and "wanted to get it done before Christmas so it wasn't too awkward"? Oh man, that one was terrible. The mom wanted to get rid of the baby because it was too annoying and more work than she expected and the dad was just like "yeah sure, fine by me". I think there was an update where they said other relatives found out and were pursuing adoption, although I might be conflating this with another story.
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I mean, that sounds like the right call, certainly preferable to the kid growing up with them as parents.
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wizardofloneliness posted:Oh man, that one was terrible. The mom wanted to get rid of the baby because it was too annoying and more work than she expected and the dad was just like "yeah sure, fine by me". I think there was an update where they said other relatives found out and were pursuing adoption, although I might be conflating this with another story. No that's exactly the story. Iirc the family took the kid and won't speak to the op and wife anymore
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I love a happy ending
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