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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for leaving a family vacation early? Can we come back to this 19 year age gap between presumed full blooded siblings? That's roughly the span of a woman's fertility window. What the hell? Edited for Content: Pregnant and husband wants to give up recently adopted dog quote:Thanks in advance for reading and my apologies if I sound like as crazy and desperate as I feel right now. My husband and I are in our 30s and have been together 9 years and have a baby on the way. Dazerbeams fucked around with this message at 18:37 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:I just don't understand how a person spends more than 20 dollars a month on weed, that gets me blasted out of my mind 3 times a week every week in a month. Flower heating vape pens work very efficiently. Or maybe I am just blessed with low tolerance? Try getting blasted all day every day 7 days a week for years of your life. That's what this woman is doing, and I bet she has a hell of a tolerance by now.
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Dec 8, 2021 18:37
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Motronic posted:Try getting blasted all day every day 7 days a week for years of your life. That's what this woman is doing, and I bet she has a hell of a tolerance by now. It's what happens when you're too much of a degenerate to take a t-break every three to six months. I'm guilty of that myself.
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Dec 8, 2021 18:44
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AITA for spending thousands of dollars of my nephew's trust assets?quote:Before his death, my father chose me as trustee for a trust that he set up for Jacob, my severely disabled nephew, but my sister was jealous about not having been chosen as trustee and asked me to quit. She once admitted that she had plans for how to spend that trust money, such as to spend it not only on Jacob, but also on other relatives she is fond of who were not named in the trust. I thought that would be wrong and cause trouble. Although my sister knows I am an honest person, she told my nephew and his family that I was stealing much of the money in the trust and suggested that I should be sued and removed as trustee. Come on Uncle! You should have just gone to jail or paid out of pocket for these false charges! Where's your sense of  ?
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Dec 8, 2021 18:48
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How much is in this trust that several thousands is a sizable amount, but the nephew gets a large amount of money each month?
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Dec 8, 2021 18:54
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Ethiser posted:How much is in this trust that several thousands is a sizable amount, but the nephew gets a large amount of money each month? I suspect this nephew does not have a well developed sense of proportion on account of cognitive impairment
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Dec 8, 2021 18:58
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Ethiser posted:How much is in this trust that several thousands is a sizable amount, but the nephew gets a large amount of money each month? I'm assuming the uncle is just talking about "sizeable" in an absolute sense, not in a relative sense to the rest of the trust. Also, don't trusts usually have a neutral party at whatever bank holds the funds who does most of the management; who could have been consulted to verify everything before it came down to legal action?
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Dec 8, 2021 19:00
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Dazerbeams posted:Can we come back to this 19 year age gap between presumed full blooded siblings? That's roughly the span of a woman's fertility window. What the hell? Ugh. I hate when they do remakes but change things up in ways that aren't even interesting. Like why change the dog breed from maremma? And get rid of the autistic older child? But seriously that dog should've been rehomed to someone who can dedicate time to addressing behavioral, if not put down. Getting aggro at humans or other animals looks like a real bad sign to me.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:02
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Mr. Lobe posted:I suspect this nephew does not have a well developed sense of proportion on account of cognitive impairment Yeah, and the greedier members of the family know his nephew is easily manipulated due to that and have dollar signs in their eyes. Sounds like an awful situation to be in, trying to protect someone who doesn't understand they are being preyed upon. Basically a metaphor for anti-vaxxers!
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Dec 8, 2021 19:02
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Maiden posted:What a weird thing to take away from my post. Nowhere did I call them immature, nowhere did I say poly is better. Perhaps you should read less into posts on the internet. Maiden posted:most people in a committed monogamous relationship aren't emotionally able to handle the other sleeping with other people because of societal norms with regards to relationships and sex. "prefer not to" isn't the same as "(isn't) emotionally able"
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Dec 8, 2021 19:06
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Ethiser posted:How much is in this trust that several thousands is a sizable amount, but the nephew gets a large amount of money each month? $500 a month would qualify as "large" to most people and could be sustained on low 6 figures (or even less, if it's intended to last <20 years.) A $5000 legal bill won't put a huge dent in that but it's enough to take notice.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:09
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PetraCore posted:More like YTA for thinking the cops would care you didn't want anyone arrested. "Hello, police? The people down the hall are committing a crime. No, don't stop them committing this crime, just please make them commit it somewhere else. Yes, I'll hold"
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Dec 8, 2021 19:13
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AITA for not promoting a long time employee?quote:Greetings r/AITA, I've run into a recent dilemma with regards to my business. I, (57, M) own a private equity firm. We're no Warburg, but we're pretty well off. Some background: For the past 20 or so years, I've had a trusted second in command, let's call him M, who recently retired, which created a vacancy in the company. Technically, the next highest ranking person is a senior executive, let's call him J(M, 51). He's been with the company for around 12 years, and I hadn't have any issues with him prior to March of this year.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:23
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Dazerbeams posted:Can we come back to this 19 year age gap between presumed full blooded siblings? That's roughly the span of a woman's fertility window. What the hell? I'm guessing that the OP's mother's husband is in fact not her father.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:29
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ESH because they all work in a private equity firm.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:29
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Mr. Lobe posted:I just don't understand how a person spends more than 20 dollars a month on weed Hahaha. Okay this has to be bait. There's no way you smoke three times a week and somehow can't imagine someone spending over $20 in a whole month.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:33
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edit: wrong thread
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Dec 8, 2021 19:33
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Dik Hz posted:You mean this post? "(isn't) emotionally able" isn't a bad thing, though? And the people who prefer not to have open relationships generally do it because they wouldn't be emotionally able to handle their partner being with another person. Which is completely fine and perfectly valid. I don't think Maiden is trying to claim that this is a sign of emotional immaturity, just that different people have different emotional thresholds for their relationships. Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for not promoting a long time employee? If this isn't fake, then there is more than enough information in this post for everyone in the company to find out exactly who OP is. Private equity firms aren't McDonalds franchises, they aren't so common that you can assume there are enough instances of this kind of thing that you can give that much detail and not immediately be able to pin it down to you.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:38
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I have been thoroughly owned and all I can say in my defense is that I did not mean it like that, I merely meant to say that if you're monogamous you are (rightly) upset at the idea of your partner not being so as well.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:38
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exmachina posted:I'm guessing that the OP's mother's husband is in fact not her father. Yeah she mentions her dad towards the end and how he can't stand her mom, which confused me for a moment until I realized he was not the same person as her mother's current husband.
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Dec 8, 2021 19:41
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for not promoting a long time employee? Verdict: guillotine
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Dec 8, 2021 19:48
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for not promoting a long time employee? "I don't understand why this emplyee that was next in line for a job is so upset at my obvious nepotism."
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Dec 8, 2021 20:09
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LanceHunter posted:If this isn't fake, then there is more than enough information in this post for everyone in the company to find out exactly who OP is. Private equity firms aren't McDonalds franchises, they aren't so common that you can assume there are enough instances of this kind of thing that you can give that much detail and not immediately be able to pin it down to you. It likely is a dif industry, sounds a lot like it could be a law or consulting firm
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Dec 8, 2021 20:10
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limp_cheese posted:"I don't understand why this emplyee that was next in line for a job is so upset at my obvious nepotism." lol son has been there maybe six months, but nah you’re just TRIVIALIZING his ACCOMPLISHMENTS
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Dec 8, 2021 20:11
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Brawnfire posted:Yeah, that's stupid. My parents used to get all high and mighty about it like "taste it before you decide it needs salt/soy sauce" and I'm like it always does, everybody's food is bland as gently caress, I know what I like Look, some people want to be able to taste their macaroni over the heat of the mayonnaise, jeez. 
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Dec 8, 2021 20:22
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Midnight Voyager posted:Has anyone seen a marriage that opens up in the middle WORK? Every open/poly deal I know about that works started out that way because you set rules to begin with and... then everyone goes with them and it's fine! My partner and his wife opened the relationship after they had been married a couple years. She was the one who brought the idea up to him. But it was a decision they made before either one of them started seeing other people (in other words, it wasn't a "Oh, I want to gently caress this specific person, but I'm married...I know! I'll suggest opening the relationship!"). In my personal experience, for open relationships/poly to work, it takes a few things: 1) a lot of open, honest communication; 2) a general lack of sexual jealousy (jealousy can absolutely happen in open relationships, but it's obviously easier for people who tend to be less jealous); 3) complementary lifestyles/preferences. In my case, I enjoy living alone and I'm pretty independent, so I don't mind the fact that I only see my partner one weekend per month. For some people, this would not be enough. For me, it feels like eating a single square of really expensive chocolate--it's about the quality of the time spent together rather than quantity. It's pretty rare to have all three of the above things, which is why there are a lot of "we tried poly and it failed" stories. I get it. Monogamous relationships are hard enough as it is and adding more people only complicates things. But it can work, and I dare say there are benefits to it than monogamy doesn't have. It's all about the trade-off.
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Dec 8, 2021 20:22
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LanceHunter posted:I'm assuming the uncle is just talking about "sizeable" in an absolute sense, not in a relative sense to the rest of the trust. You can hire a professional trustee but it's likely not worth it in this case. Most often once the grantor of the trust dies a trusted family member becomes the successor trustee. Op also says: quote:The lawyer fees were less than 5% of the trust assets, but I was afraid that all the assets might be taken away from Jacob if a less-than-honest new trustee got hold of them and pocketed them. So I would estimate it somewhere in the mid five figures to low six figures, assuming "several" means anywhere between $3-$7K. It's possible it's a Special Needs Trust, though IIRC those are put in place to cover specific expenses (doctor, transportation, furniture, etc.) and aren't supposed to disburse funds directly to the beneficiary. Their purpose is to provide benefits to someone in such a way that the beneficiary doesn't have direct control over them, and can therefore exclude the trust assets when they apply for federal and state aid programs that might disqualify them otherwise. Even if it's not a Special Needs Trust, if the nephew has a decent support system then that money will go a long way to ensuring they're cared for and comfortable. Anyway, in the comments it comes out that the OP's family is stupid and greedy. They saw how much was in the trust and just assumed that they should have access to that money for no particular reason other than that it was money that existed in vague legal proximity to them. OP's sister had the same thought process as the family who stole from the dead brother's boyfriend: "Well, it doesn't seem fair that he distributed the estate that way that's not how I would have done it." cumshitter fucked around with this message at 20:28 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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Dec 8, 2021 20:25
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Lieutenant Dan posted:My cat physically can't conceive of the TV or screens, she just looks away and doesn't give a gently caress no matter what Mine ignored the TV except for one scene, where a public broadcasting filler show (small 10-iminute things to fill gaps due to lack of commercials) talked about a wildcat rescue. One scene had a small lynx hissing at the camera invading their space, and that made my cat's head swivel every time. Any other TV sounds, animal or whatever, nothing, but he was hard-wired for that hiss.
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Dec 8, 2021 20:31
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Yeah, it really depends on the sound. Some cat videos my cats will entirely ignore, some videos of cat-like sounds have them instantly sit up and notice
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Dec 8, 2021 20:38
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Mr. Lobe posted:I just don't understand how a person spends more than 20 dollars a month on weed, that gets me blasted out of my mind 3 times a week every week in a month. Flower heating vape pens work very efficiently. Or maybe I am just blessed with low tolerance? Good lord, this person is the rear end in a top hat. If the people with the weed were Black, who knows what the cops would have done (we all know).
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Dec 8, 2021 20:38
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Dazerbeams posted:Can we come back to this 19 year age gap between presumed full blooded siblings? That's roughly the span of a woman's fertility window. What the hell? This is my half-brother and me, lol. She had him at 19 and me at 38. Both unplanned, but my mom is the sort of lady who absolutely loves children so I never knew people attached a stigma to being an oops baby until reading this thread. I also have sisters 9 and 11 years older than me. I'm extremely close with the 9 year one, so this thread was also where I found out people blame that sort of age difference for why they're not close with their siblings. I am learning!
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Dec 8, 2021 20:42
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My cat absolutely loves golf, she goes nuts when they do a zoom in on putting into the hole. 
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Dec 8, 2021 20:45
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Oh gently caress my cat is bougie
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Dec 8, 2021 20:45
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I didn’t hold it against J for seeking better opportunities elsewhere in March but I’ve always been suspicious of him since his actions in March (seeking better opportunities elsewhere)
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Dec 8, 2021 20:47
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BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:I didn’t hold it against J for seeking better opportunities elsewhere in March but I’ve always been suspicious of him since his actions in March (seeking better opportunities elsewhere) I discussed the prospect of upward mobility with him, the #3 man in a small org in which I was #1, earlier in the year before giving the #2 slot to someone else
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Dec 8, 2021 20:48
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And things have changed. My son graduated and joined the company, something that we totally weren’t planning on the entire time even though it’s exactly what daddy did for me! No no you don’t understand, I thought he was going to be really bad at this job like I was. My daddy made me wait a whole year! Tenkaris fucked around with this message at 20:52 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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Dec 8, 2021 20:50
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Dazerbeams posted:Can we come back to this 19 year age gap between presumed full blooded siblings? That's roughly the span of a woman's fertility window. What the hell? My brother in law and his wife have 3 boys that are all teenagers, the oldest is 18. They just had a baby this year. Not completely out of the question.
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Dec 8, 2021 20:50
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OhAreThey posted:In my case, I enjoy living alone and I'm pretty independent, so I don't mind the fact that I only see my partner one weekend per month. For some people, this would not be enough. For me, it feels like eating a single square of really expensive chocolate--it's about the quality of the time spent together rather than quantity.
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Dec 8, 2021 20:51
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As the owner of my family business, I discussed my decision with the other executives and nobody disagreed with me.
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Tenkaris posted:And things have changed. My son graduated and joined the company, something that we totally weren’t planning on the entire time even though it’s exactly what daddy did for me! I have been very impressed with my grandsons work. Do you know how often grandparents are impressed by their grandkids accomplishments? And you think he didn’t earn this?
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