Ghost Leviathan posted:

The kind of people who are swingers are almost never the kind of people you'd want to be swingers.

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Funktastic posted:

AITA for not attending my daughters gender reveal for her lizard?

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EDIT: In the time I was away I got many replies and it was a lot to read through. Let me clear a couple things up.

1. My issue is that she said the party was a gender reveal, if she had called it just a party I would have come. But calling it a gender reveal makes it sound like it's for the lizard, and I'm not going to that even if it is a "joke".

2. I don't know why it matters but the Skink is a girl which is why I said "I'm not coming to a gender reveal unless it's for a real grand daughter."

3. Even though I don't agree with my daughter for being childfree, I have been supportive and only shown mild frustration. The reasons she decided to be childfree is she claims she's asexual, she just doesn't want one, she has emotional baggage and feels unable to care for a real child, she fears pregnancy, and she has a carrier gene like me and "doesn't want to go through what I did" (I had 4 miscarriages and a highly defect child that died after 3 months due to the gene). Yes there has been slight tension between us because I think she just hasn't found the right man (she never dated growing up) and her other fears are unnecessarily exaggerated, but it's ultimately her decision and I don't resent her.

4. We haven't seen each other in three months. I'm a single mother and we have always been close which is why she invited me with her friends, I just didn't want to go to a party with a lizard, and if it wasn't for the lizard she should've called it a party instead of a gender reveal.

Cowslips Warren posted:

I actually ran into a person who was horrible to me in high school, but she either didn't remember it, or thought I didn't, because she was rather nice and chatty and not at all the bitch she had been years back. It's possible that I remember her being worse than she was, or that she simply forgot how horrible she was, or a combo of both. But seeing as I was in a customer service slot and she was the customer, she easily could have made my life horrible, and didn't.




AITA for making my 4 y/o help me with household chores?

OP did mention in later comments she would teach a son the same things. Honestly for little kids, even sweeping can be a game for them. And they don't understand that putting toys away is a chore and not a game, if you do it right. Set a timer, play some music, have them run about putting everything in baskets, little kids love that.

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

i have a family friend who tells a story about needing to watch me while my mother was in labor with my little brother.

the story is adorable because he asked me a 3 year old, what was calming, and i answered the vacuum cleaner so he set me to work vacuuming his house for 2 hours and apparently i had a really great time doing it and didn't know i had a brother until the floor was clean and it was tomorrow.

its like the first time you walk a friend's dog when you are house sitting. you might be worried you'll gently caress it up, but if the dog has to poo poo, it will poo poo, and if the dog took a poo poo or not, you can brag about it if you want, but you didn;t *really* do anything. *you* just sat around and waited for a dog to poo poo.

Kids have no idea what the gently caress is going on and you should have all of them doing your chores before they wise up.

value-brand cereal posted:

What usually makes a bus ride take four hours? Inter city? Or lovely public transportation?

Ghost Leviathan posted:

The kind of people who are swingers are almost never the kind of people you'd want to be swingers.

Does feel like part of the reason boundaries are so hard is because we've all been taught to obey heirarchy and norms, not to actually consider other people's welfare and feelings.

Ghost Leviathan posted:

The kind of people who are swingers are almost never the kind of people you'd want to be swingers.

Does feel like part of the reason boundaries are so hard is because we've all been taught to obey heirarchy and norms, not to actually consider other people's welfare and feelings.

AnoHito posted:

holy poo poo the edit makes it so much worse...

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The reasons she decided to be childfree is she claims she's asexual, she just doesn't want one, she has emotional baggage and feels unable to care for a real child, she fears pregnancy, and she has a carrier gene like me and "doesn't want to go through what I did" (I had 4 miscarriages and a highly defect child that died after 3 months due to the gene). Yes there has been slight tension between us because I think she just hasn't found the right man (she never dated growing up) and her other fears are unnecessarily exaggerated, but it's ultimately her decision and I don't resent her.

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Yesterday a little girl (7) with heavy special needs ran away from her school and ended up in my backyard. My wife is a SAHM to our 3 kids (6f, 3f, 6mo m) and was home with our younger 2 and she eventually saw the little girl in our backyard. It was pouring and the wind was very strong so she went outside to bring the girl inside with our kids even though she didn't know who the girl was. She eventually got the girl to come inside, dried her off, gave her one of my oldest daughter's outfits, made her a snack, then set her up with a movie on my daughter's iPad before calling the police.

After the police picked up the girl, she called me to tell me what happened and I was furious because she let someone we don't know into our house with our young kids. She tried to excuse it by saying it was 40 degrees and pouring with wind up to 50 miles an hour and she didn't want the girl to get sick.

I told her she could've put her on the screened in porch if she wanted the girl to be away from the rain but she argued that the girl was drenched and freezing so she felt like she had to get her into some warm clothes. Then she said that she didn't want the girl to try to run away again while she called the police and waited for the police to get there, so she gave her a banana and played frozen to distract her.

I asked what she would've done if the girl that she brought into our house had hurt our kids and she yelled at me that our kids were napping and didn't even know that there was someone in the house. She then yelled at me for being "cold-hearted and cruel" towards a 7 year old. She slept in the guest room last night and is in there tonight and she won't speak to me so I wanted to know if I was the rear end in a top hat.

I don't think I did anything wrong but my friend said I was being a dick because it was a 7 year old girl so I wanted to know if I was the rear end in a top hat.

thotsky posted:

The Dollop has a great episode about the time where it was not socially acceptable for strangers to talk to women, and the dudes trying anyway would get stabbed with huge hat pins.

Sisal Two-Step posted:

e: AITA for yelling at my wife for potentially endangering our kids?

Sisal Two-Step posted:

e: AITA for yelling at my wife for potentially endangering our kids?

pentyne posted:

That's good. The thread basically ended with a "gently caress I have no idea how to stop him" after like his third near death hospital visit from shoving dirty plastic into his dick and he was refusing to ever admit to anything.

Malachite_Dragon posted:

Don't forget the one weird-rear end goon who came crashing into the thread to project their own issues onto things like a loving lighthouse.

Brawnfire posted:

Took me a long time to figure out what his issues were with lighthouses.

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

Kids have no idea what the gently caress is going on and you should have all of them doing your chores before they wise up.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I'm glad that one guy tracked down a child on the internet to make sure he wasn't sticking bike pumps in his peehole anymore.

vonnegutt posted:

Not only that but little kids are full of chaos energy. If you don't figure out a way to harness it, they'll find their own ways to keep themselves occupied, which usually means destroying something. For example, when my little brother was three he was left alone for some incredibly short amount of time and still somehow managed to dump blue poster paint on the beige couch enough to cover a cushion and an armrest. We still have no idea where he got the paint.

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My(34F) ex-husband (40M) married a woman (36F) with 4 children (1M, 11&11F, 14M) six years ago, we have a mutual daughter (15) who has told me before how she tries to ''impose'' a relationship between her and her step-siblings.

My daughter is a very introvert, shy girl, she's told me that her time together with the kids is usually watching movies or spending time with her dad and that she doesn't like being left alone with them because she's too easily distracted and they're always running and doesn't listen to her, but that he step-mom is always scolding her because ''that's not the type of relationship she wants them to have''.

Both my ex-husband and I've talked to her and she's always insisting that as ''their older sister'' she should be ''more involved'' with them as in babysitting, diaper change, offering to wake up with the baby and take care of him for an hour of two but my daughter doesn't feel comfortable with that kind of responsibility and I get it. Not everyone is made to take care of babies.

My daughter was invited to this ''party'' (more like a reunion, 5-10 people all vaxx) during Sunday and was super excited about it, my ex and his wife had a wedding that same day so the plan was that they dropped the kids with her sister around 2pm and my daughter with their friend after that, I thought that was what they did until around 5pm my daughter called me and told me that she left her with all the kids and the baby needed his diaper changed and she didn't know how to do it, she was crying and scared so I drove there and took care of them.

I called my ex and asked wtf and he told me that my daughter said she didn't wanted to go to the party anymore but my daughter told me that his wife forced her to say it because ''she was done with her laziness'' so she say she didn't deserve to have fun and had to work for it he obviously got mat and drove back immediately, I left with my daughter when they came. He came back yesterday to apologize to my daughter and apparently he's thinking about divorce because she endangered all 5 kids and she's calling me an AH for ''babying'' my kid.

Evil Willow posted:

NGL when I saw the heading I was like..... there's an ethnic stereotype about jean-shorts??

SirSamVimes posted:

this is my favourite bit

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for calling my ex-husband and telling him that his wife force our daughter to babysit?

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My (25f) stepsister ss (23f) is getting married to my ex(26m)

We were as close as any two sisters growing up. My mom and her dad met when we were 8&6 and we got along really well from the get-go.

My exbf and I broke up 2 years ago, about 5-6 months later ss told me that she and exbf have started dating. I couldn’t believe my ears. I was very angry at her but the rest of the family (mom, stepdad, two half sisters) didn’t think it was a betrayal at all and my mom once yelled at me to grow up and move on. I gradually distanced myself from my stepsister and the rest of my family without making a fuss. I just poured myself into my studies instead and hid behind the I’m swamped excuse. I started dating my current boyfriend cb (25m) about 10 months ago. The only problem is that ss used to have a huge crush on him, and she still to this day text and dm him. They never dated. I haven’t told anyone in my family that I’m seeing someone.

ss and exbf got engaged and they have sent the wedding invitations last month. I didn’t rsvp because I don’t want to attend. So last week my mom asked me to visit. When I got there ss were there, her bff, my half sister and exbf’s sister. It was an “intervention” my mom started by saying that I needed to stop alienating myself and get over the hurt. Ss is getting married and she wanted me as a bridesmaid. I told them NO! Ss started crying saying I’m ruining her wedding. That it doesn’t matter if I don’t manage to get a bf till the wedding because I could pair with one of exbfs single best men and I wouldn’t feel lonely then.

I got really angry and told her I didn’t want to go to HER wedding because she betrayed me. She started crying again calling me bitter and a witch for purposefully wanting to hurt her on her big day

My mom called me later saying if I didn’t show up at least as a guest, I’m cut off the whole family.

Now I feel like I want to show up with cb and ruin her day for real. Is it wrong to want that?

PostNouveau posted:

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I’m 16(f), so I live with my parents. I started having asthma symptoms a couple years ago but only when I was trying to sleep, I would be unable to breath. I’ve been brought to all sorts of specialists and put on various allergy drugs because the best they could tell us was that it must be an allergy.

Around the same time that started I began seeing an occasional cockroach in my room. I would squish it and throw it out. Then the air coming from my vents started smelling musty. And I would see more and more cockroaches. I told my parents all of this and they are convinced there’s not a cockroach problem. I’ve been seeing about 15-20 cockroaches in my room (anytime of day/night) everyday for months. My parents keep telling me that I’m being dramatic, it’s just an occasional cockroach. I’ve done some research and supposedly cockroaches can cause respiratory problems. My parents refuse to call a bug exterminator person.

I’m really tired of living with these things, I can hear them crawling in the walls of my room. They’re in my bed, I feel them crawl on me while I’m trying to go to sleep. And no, I don’t eat in my room. I used to have a bowl of soup in my room if was was sick at home, but I stopped because of the cockroaches since I don’t want to attract them.

I started taking a photo of every one I killed and sending the picture to my parents. So again, 15-20 pictures a day. They got pissed I’m bothering them at work and that I’m sending a photo of the same dead cockroach over and over. Like literally they were going to ground me over winter break if kept doing it. So instead over this past week I’ve been keeping the dead ones a bag marked with the date and then the number of cockroach it was. There was 118 of them over 7 days. I dumped all the little bags on my parents bed (so the actual dead cockroaches didn’t touch their bed, just the bags).

My parents are LIVID. They’re arguing about what to do about me like I can hear them and in the meantime I’ve been sent to my room. I just really don’t know how to get across how uncomfortable I am constantly. These things are ALIVE when they’re in my bed. I really don’t know how else to make them see this is a problem, but this might have been the nuclear option and I could have just shown them the bags in my room. AITAH?

Soylent Pudding posted:

WIBTA if I turned to my step sister’s wedding with her longtime crush as my plus one?

Whorelord posted:

AITA for putting over a hundred cockroaches in my parents bed?

Mx. posted:

BF has turned into a real life cartoon character and I can't take it

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My husband suffers from a pretty serious medical condition, and because of this, he is on a special diet prescribed by his doctor. Certain foods are off limits, especially nuts and seeds as they could exacerbate this condition. The last time he had a flare up he had to have an emergency surgery and was in the hospital for four days, so my husband is very strict about following this diet.

Every year my MIL sends my husband one of those gourmet food boxes with snacks and things like that. And every year she sends him things that he either cannot eat because of his medical condition, or that he simply does not like. He has told her numerous times to stop sending these boxes because they will either go to waste since nobody in the house will eat them or they just sit on the table in the break room at work until someone throws them out.

On Monday my husband received his box and when he opened it, it was an assortment of mixed nuts and chocolate. He texted MIL and FIL and thanked them, but reminded them again that he cannot eat nuts, but he would take it to work and share it with everyone.

Last night my MIL texted me and asked how we liked the box so I told her the truth, I said that it was a nice gesture, but husband really did not like it because he cannot eat anything that she sent. Apparently this was not the answer that she wanted to hear because she immediately got upset with me. She basically said that I was lying and only said that to make her feel bad. She also said that if my mother was the one who sent this gift everyone would love it. I told her again that husband has a serious medical condition and that the nuts were number one on the list of foods that he cannot eat according to his doctor. FIL then called me to see what I said to her to make her so upset. I told him exactly what I told her, and he began shouting at me that you never look a gift horse in the mouth and that next year they will send nothing and make sure to tell my husband that it was because of me, and asked how I would like that.

I told my husband about the conversation with his parents and he told me I should not have said anything. I told my husband that all I did was tell the truth when someone asked me a question.

AITA for telling my MIL that my husband did not like the gift she sent?

berenzen posted:

lovely public transit, especially if you're trying to go between suburbs instead of trying to go downtown. And/or having to go across the city for work- a ring road can make it very easy to drive across a city, but busses usually don't do long round trips around a ring road.

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

I'm the guy in that picture of the gut in the window saying "yes....yes..."

thotsky posted:

They dated for a short while, basically as teens, then broke up. After a six month grace period it seems acceptable for the step sister to go after the guy. Clearly not ideal for OP, but it's not like it's a crazy thing so she should try to get over it rather than go out of her way to hurt her step sister. If she's not over this guy then just don't go to the wedding.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my MIL that my husband did not like her Christmas gift?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my MIL that my husband did not like her Christmas gift?

Whorelord posted:

AITA for putting over a hundred cockroaches in my parents bed?

Rescue Toaster posted:

This is weird. It's her husband and her MIL/FIL. So they don't believe their own son has this problem? Almost certainly Crohns or something else that has caused permanent small intestine scarring leading to risk of obstructions. I'm in basically the same boat as this guy and though it loving SUCKS and sometimes people can be lovely about it my parents are not among them.