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AITA for refusing to move into a house if I’m not a co-ownerquote:I (27F) have been with Ben (29M) for 1.5 years. We agreed if we got married we’d have a prenup and keep our finances separate. He was clear from day one he would never want to combine them.
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Grape posted:There's a lot of naïveté to this post, but especially the acting like a woman would never write that, or ever (rightly or wrongly) stan for outdated traditions part. It's just the story itself is clearly setup in a way to defend a bad conclusion, like MRA baitposts on paternity fraud or such, some of those stories are certainly real too but they get actively called out for context surrounding them. I wasn't using mormon polygamy as a direct comparison in severity or w/e your conclusion is there, just an example of how shifted the cultural relativity goalposts would get if the situation were closer to home so to speak. Taking everything in good faith the OP and her family could all be perfectly happy with how things are going, OP clearly doesn't see the issue with their traditions. However, the same could be said for a happy Mormon household, but as it's an example we're more familiar with we are more aware of the knockon effects that stem from such discriminatory keystones to the culture/society on a whole, and it's bad.
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 00:34 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for refusing to move into a house if I’m not a co-owner It seems like whatever hangups she has about living in a house she doesn’t own can be addressed in the pre-nup they already agree on. Negotiate, girl!
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AITA for telling my boyfriend he was embarrassing us when he started sobbing in the Vet clininc hallway?quote:My f26 boyfriend's m30 dog has been sick lately. He took him to the Vet to get him looked at and run some tests and yesterday the Vet called us for a quick appointment to talk about the dog's condition. last time i took a pet to the vet to be put down a nice lady in the waiting room let me pet her dog while i weeped openly
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 00:46 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:they were likely about to launch into a spiel about how their son is 'that age' and it sure would be convenient if she just covered up her harlot skin rather than tempting him so much That was exactly my read on it. The parents were trying to get her to take the hint that she should close her blinds because they'd noticed her parading around (i.e. existing) in her nice sunlit house, and she just bulldozed right over that bullshit.
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 00:49 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend he was embarrassing us when he started sobbing in the Vet clininc hallway? quote:Yes I have, when I lost my father but I had a break down alone at the apartment and in private. I guarantee you I 100% relate and can not even imagine what he felt at the time and I'm in no way dismissing his emotions but I just thought this could've been handled better by him. "When my dad died, I had the GRACE to be sad in PRIVATE" quote:That is what I tried to do, get him to the car but couldn't. I might have been triggered by his reaction since it brought back memories of my father's death. It was devastating. "Maybe people will stop being mad at me if I tell them that him being sad triggered me, so it's okay to tell him to stop reacting to sadness!"
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend he was embarrassing us when he started sobbing in the Vet clininc hallway? Jesus that's cold. I'm not even an animal person but I can at least empathize with someone who lost an animal companion that they were close to.
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend he was embarrassing us when he started sobbing in the Vet clininc hallway? Ah yes, cancer, that thing that never kills anything and isn't the harbinger of horrible medical outcomes.
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tgacon posted:It seems like whatever hangups she has about living in a house she doesn’t own can be addressed in the pre-nup they already agree on. Negotiate, girl! Even before getting to the moving in part quote:Ben bought a 5 bedroom house. He lives with friends and calculates their rent by dividing the mortgage by the number of people living in the house. His mortgage is high in part because it’s a 15 year mortgage, he had a bad credit score, and his down payment was small. This also doesn’t give Ben any money to maintain the house. He uses credit cards and payday loans for urgent house repairs.
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 00:57 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend he was embarrassing us when he started sobbing in the Vet clininc hallway? This lady is not the rear end in a top hat, she is in fact poop from the rear end in a top hat. Soulless, unempathetic poop.
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 01:03 |
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loving hell man. I remember being in a vet office where people were bringing their pets to be put down (and you can always tell who is there for that) and everyone is bawling like loving babies and offering tissues. Who the gently caress doesn't? WIBTA if go back on a promise that I made years ago? quote:Many years ago when park and recs was still on tv my husband became obsessed with the character Ron Swanson. And one day out of the blue my husband made me pinky promise that he would be allowed to have sole decorating privileges for our first child’s bedroom. I agreed,forgot about it and here we are years later. My husband was serious and reminded me of the promise when we bought our house. Now here I am 5 months to my due date watching my husband go through swatches of tarten fabric for our daughters nursery.
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AITA for walking out of my boyfriend’s celebratory dinner?quote:So my boyfriend, Kyle (26M) recently got a promotion to general manager at the restaurant he works at. I (22F) work full time as a pediatric nurse and my hours are kinda all over the place right now because of the virus. Anyway, when he got home to tell me about his promotion I was ecstatic. He’s a hard worker and deserves it, 100%. But because it happened on a Tuesday, we decided we’ll go for a celebratory dinner with our mutual friends Saturday night. I wanna sock Amy. "It was bad but you made it AWKWARD by LEAVING!" Yeah, her staying while mourning a dead child TOTALLY wouldn't be awkward at all, not with her lovely boyfriend poo poo-talking her grief.
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 01:11 |
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Fun addition: He told everyone the whole dinner would be "his" treat and didn't bring money, expecting OP to pay. Except OP, he didn't tell her that!
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:They each think the other is poo poo at budgeting and managing debt. I strongly suspect she's right You only "strongly suspect" the person who is making rational, calculated decisions about their financial well being rather than emotional ones and also isn't taking out payday loans to cover unexpected expenses while living paycheck to paycheck while house poor is right?
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AITA if I want to keep the heirloom wedding ring and not pass it downquote:I adore the ring because my first husband gave it to me after getting it from his mother. He died of cancer 4 years after we got married. I later remarried after some time and have been with my husband for a little under 20 years. I don't wear it on my finger anymore. I have it next to my first husband's ashes.
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Xun posted:I feel very confused because to me a dowry always refered to the practice of the brides family "paying" the grooms family (but realistically it's so the bride has some assets going into the grooms family) but it seems to also refer to the bride price thing where it's the grooms family paying money to the bride? That's what a dowry is, other people use the word wrong to refer to brideprice, which is indeed a different thing.
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Hughlander posted:AITA if I want to keep the heirloom wedding ring and not pass it down If the son has her cremated they can sift the ashes for the thing of value
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AITA for continuing to go to my Ex-Boyfriends favourite Restaurant after we broke up?quote:So when I was dating my Ex-Boyfriend he'd take me to this wonderful Korean BBQ place, it is his favourite restaurant and I love it too. We ended up breaking up in a rather messy and bad way as the relationship turned sour, I wont play the blame game there was fault on both sides.
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend he was embarrassing us when he started sobbing in the Vet clininc hallway? I have an elderly dog that probably doesn’t have more than a year left in her and I KNOW I am going to be wrecked when it’s time. This would be absolutely unforgivable and the immediate end of the relationship. I would never ever be able to drop my emotional guard around this woman again and that’s uhhhh pretty important in a committed relationship.
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend he was embarrassing us when he started sobbing in the Vet clininc hallway? A rare twist on the old trope: I hope he dumps her rear end I've had to put two pets down, I've been there when family pets were put down. I've never not sobbed like a giant baby when it's happened. You don't get to determine whether or not, nor when, you can grieve a dying pet. Hell I loved both of my grandparents to death but I'm not sure I cried as hard as I did when my childhood dog had to be put down I'm tearing up just thinking about it and that was almost 20 years ago. I saw her ashes when I came back home and started crying a bit The point is the OP is a piece of poo poo and I hope that nobody grieves when she dies
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I'm almost more mind blown that she did it AFTERWARDS. Like that's being an insensitive weirdo in cold blood, no reaction in the heat of the moment or anything.
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Midnight Voyager posted:"When my dad died, I had the GRACE to be sad in PRIVATE" See, I recognize this sort of brokenness. And it's one thing if it's not something you want to change and therefore never get therapy for. But to try to force that on someone else is hosed up and makes her entirely made of rear end in a top hat. I accept that it's hosed up and I should get some therapy about how I absolutely hate showing that kind of vulnerability in front of anyone, but I know it's hosed up and the rest of the world does not necessarily conform to my ways.
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She should enter a relationship with a Norweigan. I hear they are extremely muted in their emotional expression.
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taiyoko posted:See, I recognize this sort of brokenness. And it's one thing if it's not something you want to change and therefore never get therapy for. But to try to force that on someone else is hosed up and makes her entirely made of rear end in a top hat. I get it too. There's only three people in the world I would cry in front of. Everyone else can go to hell and get the rear end in a top hat side of me But I agree with you that I would never force that on anyone else
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for continuing to go to my Ex-Boyfriends favourite Restaurant after we broke up? The true power play would be to accuse him of tainting the last good memory she had about the relationship (bulgogi) by bringing other people there.
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Cowslips Warren posted:loving hell man. I remember being in a vet office where people were bringing their pets to be put down (and you can always tell who is there for that) and everyone is bawling like loving babies and offering tissues. Who the gently caress doesn't? youre already the rear end in a top hat because your married to and having a child with a dude cargo culting his masculinity from a lovely tv show about a moron libertarian and the thing that upset you about that situation is but its my for my daughter!
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snergle posted:youre already the rear end in a top hat because your married to and having a child with a dude cargo culting his masculinity from a lovely tv show about a moron libertarian and the thing that upset you about that situation is but its my for my daughter! OP just needs to have an equal passion for Al Borland and embrace the flannel. Or divorce her dipshit husband who doesn't understand Ron is a caricature or kill him by making him chug grain alcohol from a jug. Whichever is cheaper.
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Cowslips Warren posted:
Yes, op would be the rear end in a top hat. Your baby isn't going to care it's diaper is being changed in a dark green room with wooden paneling. OP has to stick to their word unless the husband was wanting to, like, have a creepshow clown with glowing red eyes tired to a motion sensor or something. Or outright offensive like ahegao faces. Solid colors and muted patterns? Be glad he's involved.
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 03:13 |
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I'm excited for little tartan clad baby. Maybe she'll become a badass highland warrior princess.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for letting my sister own my FIL at dinner? to give them a little credit, reading this thread had given me the impression that you can find a sweet gig as a stay at home bf if you have level 3 rear end wiping skills. throw in a shower or two a week and you can live like a king
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 03:46 |
Push for Nick Offerman themed as a compromise, and then you can get tasteful wooden baby furniture.
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 03:50 |
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Re: Ron Swanson, it's always been kind of weird to me how people unabashedly latch onto these obvious, goofy fads, but it happens and I try not to get too haughty about it. It's the people who are still chugging along years after everyone else has moved on that really break my brain though.
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AITA for telling my parents I would not visit them again until they learned sign language?quote:When I was 18 I was in an accident that caused TBI, resulting in me losing most of my hearing in both ears, making me deaf. I didn't qualify for cochlear implants, so being deaf was just my new reality. quote:They do hope my hearing will he restored. Despite my doctors telling me my hearing loss is permanent, they are constantly sending me articles about supposed new cures or technology, even though it never applies to me. some redditors are helpfully calling her a liar, because how can she tell that they're yelling if she's deaf
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Mr. Lobe posted:She should enter a relationship with a Norweigan. I hear they are extremely muted in their emotional expression. Childbirth, weddings and funerals. Or when drunk.
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taiyoko posted:See, I recognize this sort of brokenness. And it's one thing if it's not something you want to change and therefore never get therapy for. But to try to force that on someone else is hosed up and makes her entirely made of rear end in a top hat. Oh yeah. That hits close to home. For whatever hosed up reason I absolutely cannot cry in a lot of situations where I very much want to and know that it would be healthier if I did. Like a couple of months ago when we were burying one of my dogs, as an example. I feel all the feelings, but I just have this strong inhibition against emotional release that I picked up at some point and I've never been able to shake. I'm just very aware that that's an issue with me, and I'm envious of the people who are able to bawl their eyes out at the vet's office.
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Blastedhellscape posted:Oh yeah. That hits close to home. I can cry at just the idea of going in to the vet to put down one of my pets. gently caress, just reading that post made me tear up. The other extreme ain't so great either. AITA for not supporting my husband’s “anti horse procedures?” quote:Posted on behalf of my aunt because she’s “too old for Reddit” lol
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# ? Jan 3, 2022 04:42 |
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poor husband, thought of horses and died
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Cowslips Warren posted:WIBTA if go back on a promise that I made years ago? Bust a deal, face the wheel
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Chloe Jessica posted:poor husband, thought of horses and died I was going to be very disappointed if the first reply after that post wasn’t this
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for not supporting my husband’s “anti horse procedures?” The OP will be thanking her husband when she sees that horse walk out of the that old lady's house and it's standing like a person, and it's covered in blood. My god, there's blood everywhere!
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