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My ex-wife didn't like me talking about members of my family that had died because her equivalents were still alive and she shouldn't have to think about that.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:My ex-wife didn't like me talking about members of my family that had died because her equivalents were still alive and she shouldn't have to think about that. Seems like the solution would be obvious. Quit talking about your dead relatives. Suck it up and be a man. There may be another solution...
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 16:23 |
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Spaced God posted:None of this is real but this owns For someone who wanted a clean break and ghosting she sure is invested in what happened after she left.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 16:31 |
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Variable 5 posted:Take the bath in the pool. Problem solved.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 16:35 |
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Boba Pearl posted:That is straight tweaker poo poo the gently caress I really thought so to but him having a separate stash didn't make much sense. I am assuming he has some big debt she doesn't know about
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 16:46 |
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B-Rock452 posted:I really thought so to but him having a separate stash didn't make much sense. I am assuming he has some big debt she doesn't know about quote:the money he was saving for himself which isn't much A kid's bike is, what, $100? So he might have had a couple of $50s and $20s sitting in a cigar box.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 16:51 |
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Pope Corky the IX posted:My ex-wife didn't like me talking about members of my family that had died because her equivalents were still alive and she shouldn't have to think about that. Sorry about your horrible marriage
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 17:47 |
quote:AITA for telling my boyfriend he has to keep his furniture in one room if he wants to move in with me?
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 17:51 |
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I don't know what Boho Scandi is supposed to look like, but Ikea furniture is both minimalist and scandinavian by like definition
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I don't know what Boho Scandi is supposed to look like, but Ikea furniture is both minimalist and scandinavian by like definition
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:03 |
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yeah ikea furniture would be better and more scandinavian
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:07 |
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More bohemian, too.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:17 |
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yes everyone loves to sit in wicker chairs indoors
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:18 |
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Nah, Ikea stuff is cheap by Scandinavian standards, and if OP has good-quality Scandinavian modern knockoffs, Ikea would be out-of-place. Genuine Scandinavian modern has touches that would be way too expensive for Ikea to produce within their price range. Look at the image at the top of this article. Notice the chair at the front. See the exposed joinery? Ikea furniture is screwed together. Notice all the carefully-tapered arms and legs? You can't saw a look like that. You have to carve it or turn it on a lathe, which is $$$ even with factory tools. I could call out similar features of much of the furniture in that picture. OP makes most of her living by presenting an image of an ideal, curated apartment. Putting Ikea in that setting would lose her audience. I think influencing is batshit, and "do I want to live with an influencer?" is certainly a question OP's partner should ask. But OP's maintaining an aesthetic is not just being controlling, it's OP's actual job.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:21 |
Christ Instagram people are insufferable
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:21 |
I'm torn on this one because while I personally feel that influencers are some of the most obnoxious and insufferable people alive, from a QoL perspective she's right to not want to knowingly derail her gravy train.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:26 |
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YTA for making me read the phrase "boho / scandi flair"
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:27 |
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hawowanlawow posted:yes everyone loves to sit in wicker chairs indoors e: I know there's a Sydney Greenstreet movie where he's sitting in a wicker peacock chair flicking flies away, but I can't dredge up the image. Which movie is it, does anybody know?
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thunderspanks posted:I'm torn on this one because while I personally feel that influencers are some of the most obnoxious and insufferable people alive, from a QoL perspective she's right to not want to knowingly derail her gravy train. This. Although, if she's making decent money at it, more power to her, but I'd want to be able to, you know, live in my home. "Can't put this picture of Grandpa on the wall because of his broken nose from 1942!" \/\/\/\/ "See her heavily imply to her boyfriend that his style is garbage and must be hidden!" Although, that's a lot of couples I know, which is why mancaves are a thing. Variable 5 fucked around with this message at 18:37 on Jan 6, 2022 |
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Maybe she can make a thing of it "oh no, I got "bought"/"gifted" this hideous IKEA thing, whatever can I do?" it might drive some engagement. See her upcycle! See her cover the hideous looking thing in books & boho scandi flair!
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:35 |
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Nah, Ikea stuff is cheap by Scandinavian standards, and if OP has good-quality Scandinavian modern knockoffs, Ikea would be out-of-place. Genuine Scandinavian modern has touches that would be way too expensive for Ikea to produce within their price range. Look at the image at the top of this article. Notice the chair at the front. See the exposed joinery? Ikea furniture is screwed together. Notice all the carefully-tapered arms and legs? You can't saw a look like that. You have to carve it or turn it on a lathe, which is $$$ even with factory tools. I could call out similar features of much of the furniture in that picture. I get all that, I'm just saying that that furniture sucks and looks bad, (and is not what you'd find in most Scandinavian households). OP is entirely within her rights to maintain her stupid apartment which makes her money, but that doesn't mean her apartment isn't stupid.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:35 |
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Arsenic Lupin posted:I think influencing is batshit, and "do I want to live with an influencer?" is certainly a question OP's partner should ask. But OP's maintaining an aesthetic is not just being controlling, it's OP's actual job. So she says "I'd consider this my second job since I do make money from it and only work part-time at another job. I get paid for product placements etc." which is pretty noncommital. I actually think how much of her income comes from this matters, largely because influencing is indeed batshit and a lot of people do this for their own ego rather than money. Saying she makes money off of it feels like justification.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:36 |
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Her job is to post pictures of coffee in front of a wicker chair with a big pillow on it with a plant behind and some natural sunlight. Boyfriend wants to derail that. NTA.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:38 |
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Upgrade posted:Her job is to post pictures of coffee in front of a wicker chair with a big pillow on it with a plant behind and some natural sunlight. Boyfriend wants to derail that. NTA. you know that scene in Collateral where Jamie Foxx tells Jada Pinkett Smith that whenever he needs to get away, he "takes a vacation" by looking at a picture he has of a tropical beach? we now all do that. it's not always a beach, it's a different image for different people, in fact it can be a different image for the same person depending on what mood they're in that moment. but that behavior has become so ubiquitous that there are people scraping out a living adding their compositions to the tagged and sorted streams of visual getaways. and yeah, one of the demands of that job might be, you have to live in your "studio," surrounded by your "props."
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:46 |
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I mean it’s probably a weird half life where you’re afraid to sit in your knock off Saarinen chair because you might damage so you end up eating dinner on paper plates (don’t want to chip your hand thrown ombré stoneware plates) while sitting on the floor (definitely not on your jute rug though) but it’s her life. If this was any other part time job people would say the boyfriend needs to accommodate her. Also unrelated but the fact that he wants a gaming room I’m going to bet his furniture is ugly.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:49 |
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If any relationship suggests two people should live in different houses, this is the one.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:53 |
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I do have to lol at the idea that her followers - who solely look at her feed as a sort of aesthetic escapism form their dorm rooms and studio apartments cluttered with signs of actually living your life - would be interested in her DIYing a kallax cube shelf instead of horrified that their fantasy life of natural sunlight, reading a book while sitting cross legged in front of a fireplace, and making an Açaí bowl in your large kitchen and eating it out of a grey stoneware bowl with a copper spoon is total bullshit.
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I get all that, I'm just saying that that furniture sucks and looks bad, (and is not what you'd find in most Scandinavian households).
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AITA for yelling at my husband for leaving our daughters at the park while they were waiting for their grandma?quote:My F32 husband M37 has always had a bad relationship with his dad, in 2020 some major dispute happened between them resulting in my FIL getting a RO against my husband, My husband then hasn't been able to visit his parents house anymore. His mom would visit us to see her granddaughters (9 & 7) or take them to visit their grandfather while she babysits. Sure I abandoned our kids in the middle of a major city but have you considered that you hurt my feelings when you yelled at me?
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 18:57 |
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Hughlander posted:AITA for yelling at my husband for leaving our daughters at the park while they were waiting for their grandma? To be fair, considering his own father had to get a restraining order against him for some unspecified reason, maybe they were safer in the park without him.
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Pomme de Terror posted:
Heated Pool of Dreams: If You Rent It, They Will Come
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 19:04 |
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She should make a deal with him that he can put his furniture in the living room if he pays her the equivalent of what she makes on Instagram. We'll see how important his furniture is when he's paying her $1,000 a month or whatever. Absurd Alhazred posted:If any relationship suggests two people should live in different houses, this is the one. This is the actual solution though. If they are serious they need 2 places to live, one they actually live in and the other is just her studio where she pretends to live.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 19:06 |
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Lmao scandi boho is far worse in practice than in concept. Regular degular Scandinavian style is kinda…cookie cutter? Most of it is blah and takes all fun out of functional. Adding entry level boho accent pieces only aggravates the facsimile of warmth. Weirdly enough Ikea is the one store I do universally like as they’re kind of the most daring designs fit for entry level consumption. I appreciate them more now than ever before (also some of the older designs are loving fascinating!! The ikea museum IG is legit cool) The upside of it is is thrifting here is amazing. Yes please keep donating your grampy’s well taken care of mid century pieces and solid wood furniture older than my mom. I have some wacky things that I’d never find in the US here and getting it second hand is the cherry on top. Caveat: I am a weird kitschy maximalist so I am not the baseline of good taste. I intend to keep it that way.
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limp_cheese posted:This is the actual solution though. If they are serious they need 2 places to live, one they actually live in and the other is just her studio where she pretends to live. Maybe we finally have the answer to that guy who's girlfriend had an entire attic he wasn't allowed into. It was her instagram studio the whole time!
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Yvonmukluk posted:Maybe we finally have the answer to that guy who's girlfriend had an entire attic he wasn't allowed into. It was her instagram studio the whole time! The lack of update on this post haunts me And it wasn’t an attic it was the entire second floor
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I feel like the big thing will be how they expect to split the rent. If most of the apartment is her workspace he should be getting a pretty hefty discount.
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 19:14 |
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This is just one of many reasons not to live in your workplace
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# ? Jan 6, 2022 19:21 |
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If she is making more than half her rent from Instagram (I can't believe I am typing this sentence) then two apartments is the correct solution, because he will inevitably gently caress something up in her pristine model home even if all his poo poo is in one room. If she is making less than half, then just move in like normal rear end people and stop worrying about Instagram because sharing housing expenses will save more than you're making.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:It's really common in coastal communities. And can Huey Newton be wrong? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-XSh8i46W0Q
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Soylent Pudding posted:I initially read this as the Op should be wearing the wedding dress when he shows up with his girlfriend and I agree. Same here, and agreed.
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