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AITA for laughing in my husbands face??quote:So I F(32) have been married to my husband M(34) for 6 years. Before we got married he had me sign a prenup stating that our financials would always be separate and the only thing we would share was an expense account to pay for household related fees. The reason for this was because he was making pretty good money and I was in graduate school so my financial situation was pretty bad but I signed nonetheless because I understood he wanted to protect himself. Anyway fast forward to now, I’ve been out of school for about 4 years and I make more than 3 times as much as he does. (I never asked how much he makes and he’s never asked me either).
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Jan 9, 2022 05:32
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for laughing in my husbands face?? I don't think either of these people understand what marriage is. Which she does seem to be aware of by the last edit. But all the same lol at husband for setting up this trap for himself.
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Jan 9, 2022 05:33
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RoboRodent posted:For real, food addiction (and eating disorders in general) does have the terrible trait of being something you still need to engage with frequently or you will die. A former meth addict doesn't need to keep a cupboard full of meth which they need to partake of several times a day. There's something here about a meth addict with ADHD.
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Jan 9, 2022 05:44
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WaywardWoodwose posted:Hydrapack was Jeff's company, and he was reported many time to use child labor. Back in the day they used to have the cool kind of weird sex wizard rocket scientists, but then they decided to instead hire the Nazis who stole their notes.
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Jan 9, 2022 05:47
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Batterypowered7 posted:Checking in to see if that one goon died from eating a raw potato after I mentioned liking them. I still have, unfortunately, not tried to eat a raw potato, and I am, similarly, unfortunately still alive. Thanks for thinking of me though!
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Jan 9, 2022 06:10
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Breetai posted:Please tell me the brand of this whiskey. We made our own. It was a quart mason jar of I think Evan Williams with 4-6 fired ghost chillies in it. Sealed up and agitated about once a week for 4-6 weeks.
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Jan 9, 2022 06:15
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AITA for not allowing MIL and FIL to come to my kid's birthday parties because they always skip my second son's?quote:My second child was born on MIL and FILs anniversary. MIL seemed kind of annoyed and I thought that was a childish thing to be concerned with but let it go. It is a summer date, so the kids are never in school on his birthday, and we usually do some sort of cook out/pool party/ or family dinner. Also MIL and FIL have very flexible schedules. she doesn't work and is able to get a lot of time off as he wants it, so they could reasonably celebrate their anniversary another day.
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Jan 9, 2022 06:23
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Mx. posted:AITA for giving Josh a reality check? I tend not to believe this is real because of the “silicone” valley typo, which someone actually working in tech just would not make, but I know calling stuff fake really adds nothing to the discussion so that’s all I’ll say about that. As for the comment itself, it’s a brutal put down but you can really just *think* that in your head and then you realize you don’t need to say it out loud. Sure, Josh sucks, but that was mean as hell to actually say to someone’s face. This read to me like the context (subtext?) is already there, Josh knows you are doing way better than him, and that’s why Josh is offering unsolicited crypto investment advice and also having his mind exploded by the the idea of being able to afford two residences. I have been mad enough to say stuff that mean and I have said things that mean, but punching down will always leave a dirty taste in your mouth and You’ll always feel better if you walk away. But on the other hand, I wouldn’t want to hang out with Josh the Joe Rogan podcast listener either. So they’re both assholes. 🤷🏼♂️
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Jan 9, 2022 06:44
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Mx. posted:AITA for not allowing MIL and FIL to come to my kid's birthday parties because they always skip my second son's? Shouldn't kids be primed for not having big parties on their actual birthdays? People aren't going to gather during a school night. Easier to wrangle friends and family for a weekend. But also, OP should convince FIL to bring the MIL over for the kid's next birthday party and they can dual celebrate like the children they both are.
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Jan 9, 2022 06:56
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Mx. posted:AITA for refusing to clean the bed and causing my husband to sleep on the floor? Am I a monster for having the thought "What does this guy bring to the table that would justify putting up with him treating the OP as a mommy-wife?" every time this kind of gross poo poo comes up? I can't imagine staying with someone who's decided that a) pissing the bed every night is better than any other alternative like an adult diaper or those hospital piss sheets and b) making my wife clean it up because I refuse.
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Jan 9, 2022 07:08
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Dazerbeams posted:Shouldn't kids be primed for not having big parties on their actual birthdays? People aren't going to gather during a school night. Easier to wrangle friends and family for a weekend. But also, OP should convince FIL to bring the MIL over for the kid's next birthday party and they can dual celebrate like the children they both are. Having my birthday on the actual day was always really important to me as a kid. It always fell during Christmas break so school wasn't an issue, but lots of people were out of town or just doing other stuff. That limited the number of kids who could attend but I didn't give a poo poo I wanted on the drat day it was supposed to be on. Kids can get hung up and really weird things.
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Jan 9, 2022 07:11
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Gnoman posted:No they haven't. A detailed description of the accident, including the fact that the engineers tried to warn it would happen and were overruled by the suits, was in my school science textbook. In the 90s. It's not quite that straight forward though. It's not that they 'overruled' the engineers. They literally couldn't understand what he was trying to say because he used two pages of maths and jargon to say 'increased probability that this part is going to fail' rather than highlighting the important bit: 'if this part fails, everyone is going to die'. I'm an analyst and we use a copy of his handwritten notes that he faxed over to NASA as part of a training program on 'why its important to communicate the right information and do it effectively'. Ed: I haven't been able to find the actual full set of images but here's the tail end of it.  He definitely didn't say "Defer the loving launch until we replace the part" which is what the NASA leadership needed to hear. Party Ape fucked around with this message at 07:25 on Jan 9, 2022 |
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Jan 9, 2022 07:20
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How much of that was them genuinely not knowing how to dumb out down for the brass and how much was it them not wanting to be the one responsible for the launch being delayed, that's my question
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Jan 9, 2022 07:28
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Malachite_Dragon posted:How much of that was them genuinely not knowing how to dumb out down for the brass and how much was it them not wanting to be the one responsible for the launch being delayed, that's my question "Don't launch because they'll probably all die" is a much clearer message than "O ring might fail" and meets the 'dumbing it down' test. Based on my experience you always dumb it down as far as you can even if your boss gets it because they might want to pass it on to their boss and so on. You don't have to leave out the technical data, just go: A is true. This means B and therefore you should C. (or more colloquially, 'what, so what, now what). This means that occasionally I have to put my dick on the block of judgement which is always harrowing but that's literally what engineers and other subject matter experts are hired for. Ed: Interestingly enough, the story of the last phone call between the Chief Engineer, the sub-contracting company and NASA is almost peak relationships.txt: "my subcontractor [M/??] kept calling me up to yell gibberish at me, I ignored him and a bunch of people died AITA" Party Ape fucked around with this message at 07:40 on Jan 9, 2022 |
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Jan 9, 2022 07:35
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for laughing in my husbands face?? I'm surprised the pay differential is that high, if he's been getting promoted at a reasonable pace.
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Jan 9, 2022 08:09
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Mx. posted:AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? The reddit responses on this are making me feel like I'm going crazy So many people are yelling at him and calling him cruel and that he should just forgive her and get over it, I'm just baffled. Luckily there's a good amount of people defending him but jeez, it's weird how many people are on the mom's side. Especially since that's the go-to type of person for vilification to AITA Honestly, if she would've taken the hint and left OP alone to heal, they might've had a relationship again by this point. But she just kept tearing the wound open again
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Jan 9, 2022 08:13
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kimbo305 posted:I'm surprised the pay differential is that high, if he's been getting promoted at a reasonable pace. She says she's going by his previous salary and doesn't know what he makes now. Though it's also possible, given his charming personality, that he keeps missing out on promotions.
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Jan 9, 2022 09:09
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I think we can assume she's at least in the ballpark based on his "uh actually we should 100% ditch the prenup I made you sign".
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Jan 9, 2022 09:16
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Runcible Cat posted:She says she's going by his previous salary and doesn't know what he makes now. Though it's also possible, given his charming personality, that he keeps missing out on promotions. He definitely didn't think she'd be making "buy a car cash" money, so she might just be making three times what he does.
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:As for the comment itself, it’s a brutal put down but you can really just *think* that in your head and then you realize you don’t need to say it out loud. Sure, Josh sucks, but that was mean as hell to actually say to someone’s face. This read to me like the context (subtext?) is already there, Josh knows you are doing way better than him, and that’s why Josh is offering unsolicited crypto investment advice and also having his mind exploded by the the idea of being able to afford two residences. I respect the sentiment, people don't get into crypto because their lives are going great, unless they're well enough to go in as grifters rather than griftees. In which case gently caress 'em, nothing's off the table, but that really doesn't sound like Josh' situation. But if someone is giving unsolicited crypto advice to you, they're probably giving unsolicited crypto advice to others. Pyramid schemes are widely known to be scams, but they still survive and spread because people with sense don't want to tear down a random acquantaince or distant relative who has already ruined their personal finances on a scam, that wouldn't help anyone and just make everyone feel bad. MLM people are in a pit, and they're trying to pull others down into the pit with them, to prove it's not a pit, or to use their bodies to climb a little higher. Someone like Josh could wind up saying the wrong things to the wrong person at a vulnerable moment and make them also blow their savings on a scam. Bruising an ego is by far the kinder act, if there's even a remote chance it'll prevent the MLM victim from dragging in another victim. 8one6 posted:Am I a monster for having the thought "What does this guy bring to the table that would justify putting up with him treating the OP as a mommy-wife?" every time this kind of gross poo poo comes up? Not in the least. There's plenty you can bring to a relationship without a physically able body and/or a stable income, but these dudes have none of that. Respecting your partner as a person and an equal is like relationships 101 and anyone who can't clear that hurdle can and should be dumped at any opportunity.
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Jan 9, 2022 09:55
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I love that Prenup Guy is hypocritical and greedy enough to want whichever version of having/not having a prenup leaves him with the most cash while also being stupid enough to push the issue in such an obvious way. He could have sat on this new knowledge until he could come up with a more subtle approach than "now that I know you make more, I want some." But nah, he just immediately clued his spouse in to the fact that he assumed he would always be more successful and didn't actually care about the principle involved in the prenup he insisted on. I guess I just don't understand how he thought that conversation was going to play out. There are plenty of valid reasons to get a prenup, but wanting to cancel one just because your wife has money now seems like an admission that you didn't trust her but think she should trust you.
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Jan 9, 2022 10:22
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8one6 posted:Am I a monster for having the thought "What does this guy bring to the table that would justify putting up with him treating the OP as a mommy-wife?" every time this kind of gross poo poo comes up? I can't imagine staying with someone who's decided that a) pissing the bed every night is better than any other alternative like an adult diaper or those hospital piss sheets and b) making my wife clean it up because I refuse. Why is bed pisser too helpless to clean up after himself but not so helpless that he can carry a spare mattress to the room?
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Jan 9, 2022 10:33
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I 100% guarantee that piss husband is throwing these tantrums because he can't wank with the catheter in and now he's doing this to try and assert dominance because he feels like less of a man.
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Jan 9, 2022 10:48
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Charity Porno posted:There's no fuckin way unless they both live in tents This is from a way back, but it could be possible if the live in a terraced or semi-detached house.
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Jan 9, 2022 11:03
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Rubellavator posted:I've been to a wedding where the reception had a bunch of video game music, but it was pretty stealthy and didn't sound out of place. One of the best cèilidhs I've ever been to the first reel was done to an increasingly faster version of the tetris theme and it was really great.
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Jan 9, 2022 11:15
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Barudak posted:The drink Black and Tan predates the Black and Tans by like 20 years, but yeah probably fine to just let it go due to convergent names having a baaaaaad association I don't know if so much 'convergent' as the thugs being named after the drink. But, like, swastikas used to be inoffensive and now they're not, yeah?
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Jan 9, 2022 11:16
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AITA for thinking the car was a gift?quote:I’m a 26 f from Connecticut. I am the daughter of two extremely frugal and cheap parents. Growing up the gifts were more about a low price tag than actually getting me something special, something I wanted or something related to my interests. It made me feel bad because I’m an only child and I felt like my parents didn’t know who I was and didn’t put in any effort into making me feel special. I often got made fun of growing up because my parents refused to buy me clothes, so I always looked disheveled. My mom always vented to me about money as a child and I learned to stop asking for things, even money for lunch, because they always complained and accused me of being spoiled. ohhh murder
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Jan 9, 2022 11:35
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Second home but buying cheap, thoughtless gifts for your only kid? Buying a broken roof rack for someone with no car? gently caress of out of here, garbage parents.
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Jan 9, 2022 11:39
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Mx. posted:AITA for thinking the car was a gift? "their second house" That's not being frugal, that's being abusive parents. Efb but still stands.
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Jan 9, 2022 11:40
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feedmegin posted:I don't know if so much 'convergent' as the thugs being named after the drink. But, like, swastikas used to be inoffensive and now they're not, yeah? I don't know if the drink is the impetus versus just "thats what their uniform looked like" but either way, not a thing to be using since why? Its a half and half now
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Jan 9, 2022 11:54
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Aramoro posted:One of the best cèilidhs I've ever been to the first reel was done to an increasingly faster version of the tetris theme and it was really great. The Tetris theme is literally an old Russian folk song.
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Jan 9, 2022 12:27
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I will never miss an excuse to post this banger: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umEDct4BoGc (the actual song describes the courtship between a peddler and a peasant girl, the lyrics are all about them hagglin over his goods and loaded with euphemisms; the last line being "I finally sold the calico" which, roughly translated from 19th century Russian, means <peach emoji> <eggplant emoji> <drops of water emoji>) Zulily Zoetrope fucked around with this message at 12:50 on Jan 9, 2022 |
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Jan 9, 2022 12:48
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AITA for thinking someone can’t be that stupid?quote:I’m in trouble with my RA! I’m in college, and I would think you have a basic level of understanding of how things work at this education level considering all of you had to pass high school.
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Jan 9, 2022 13:30
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teen witch posted:AITA for thinking someone can’t be that stupid? RA is right, a thing Ive never said before
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Jan 9, 2022 13:33
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teen witch posted:AITA for thinking someone can’t be that stupid? I mean... There was that thing years back when people said that an iOS upgrade made your phone waterproof and people believed it so yeah, they probably should have guessed that someone would be dumb enough to try it.
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Jan 9, 2022 13:34
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teen witch posted:AITA for thinking someone can’t be that stupid? I mean, not the rear end in a top hat exactly but they were literally proven wrong in seconds lol
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Jan 9, 2022 13:36
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Fil5000 posted:I mean... There was that thing years back when people said that an iOS upgrade made your phone waterproof and people believed it so yeah, they probably should have guessed that someone would be dumb enough to try it. And the update that would let you quick-charge the battery by putting the phone in the microwave, too!
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Jan 9, 2022 14:18
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Technocrat posted:And the update that would let you quick-charge the battery by putting the phone in the microwave, too! THAT was the other thing on that Internet Historian video that I couldn't remember.
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Technocrat posted:And the update that would let you quick-charge the battery by putting the phone in the microwave, too! my favourite one is people who fell for the trick that said if you put your phone in the microwave the turn plate would simulate walking speed and hatch out your pokemon GO eggs
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