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Absurd Alhazred posted:There's nothing in the story to suggest that they tried seeing how a household involving a someone keeping kosher and others who aren't was going to work before getting married. It's written as if they first got married, then started living together, then they started trying to keep dishes separate and she was exasperated by how her kids were treating it. I think you're misreading this. the EX raised a stink, not anybody in the current home. The Ex is just a tremendous rear end in a top hat about everything.
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If the kid likes dad's house better, won't he just keep "accidentally" contaminating dishes now that he has to live with mom full time? This time out of spite rather than a bribe. I guess it won't last long, since the kid can move back in with dad when he's 18, if he lets him.
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Jan 11, 2022 23:43
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Cool Dad posted:I think you're misreading this. the EX raised a stink, not anybody in the current home. The Ex is just a tremendous rear end in a top hat about everything. Again, if this had come up earlier, before they got married, or before they moved in together, or whatever, he would have raised a stink and gotten the kid to raise a stink earlier, and maybe this guy and his daughter could have maybe assessed if they want to get into this sickbed. But instead they up and got married/moved in together only to then impose these restrictions. It just suggests to me that OP and her new husband have very bad judgment.
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Jan 11, 2022 23:44
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Fine, how did the "we're going to be banning pork and shrimp" conversation not come way before the moving in part, then? We've had plenty blended family stories here where the parents' solution is to smush all the kids together and call it a day. Maybe I'm just desensitized at this point v  v
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Jan 11, 2022 23:45
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I prolly wouldn't care what my abusive ex thought about moving in with my new partner or their food rules before I moved in with my new partner either
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hawowanlawow posted:I prolly wouldn't care what my abusive ex thought about moving in with my new partner or their food rules before I moved in with my new partner either I would discuss in advance with my children that my soon to be husband/live-in boyfriend's daughter has dietary restrictions that would affect how the house is managed, and would then talk to this soo to be husband/live-in boyfriend about the results. She doesn't seem to have done so.
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Jan 11, 2022 23:49
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My guess would be they probably were aware of the restrictions and just didn't start causing problems until it started affecting them and they whined to the dad about it.
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Jan 11, 2022 23:51
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I would discuss in advance with my children that my soon to be husband/live-in boyfriend's daughter has dietary restrictions that would affect how the house is managed, and would then talk to this soo to be husband/live-in boyfriend about the results. She doesn't seem to have done so. separate plates and utensils just isn't a big enough deal. I don't think it's reasonable to think either party would reconsider over that, or over the ex's reaction to it basically it's nothing. she gave her ex six inches of rope and he managed to hang himself with it. you couldn't write a better outcome
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Jan 11, 2022 23:53
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hawowanlawow posted:separate plates and utensils just isn't a big enough deal. I don't think it's reasonable to think either party would reconsider over that, or over the ex's reaction to it Do you just not have any experience with keeping kosher? I've dated someone who kept kosher as did her family, and it is a big deal, and we did make sure to discuss it, both before I visited her, so I wouldn't mess up their kitchen or utensils, and before she visited my family, so she could comfortable eat with us (we would just use disposable plates). And that was with both our families being Jewish. It's a thing of note between Jews, it gets mentioned in apartment listing when someone who keeps kosher is looking for flatmates, etc. I'm flabbergasted that a mixed heritage couple wouldn't lock this down extremely tightly before moving in together.
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Jan 11, 2022 23:59
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ESH on that one, aside from the kids. Dad was using them to hurt their mom. Mom brought them from one toxic household to a new one and is now using them to hurt their dad.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Do you just not have any experience with keeping kosher? I've dated someone who kept kosher as did her family, and it is a big deal, and we did make sure to discuss it, both before I visited her, so I wouldn't mess up their kitchen or utensils, and before she visited my family, so she could comfortable eat with us (we would just use disposable plates). And that was with both our families being Jewish. It's a thing of note between Jews, it gets mentioned in apartment listing when someone who keeps kosher is looking for flatmates, etc. I'm flabbergasted that a mixed heritage couple wouldn't lock this down extremely tightly before moving in together. lidnsya posted:ESH on that one, aside from the kids. Dad was using them to hurt their mom. Mom brought them from one toxic household to a new one and is now using them to hurt their dad. yeah religious people are pretty toxic I guess
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Jan 12, 2022 00:14
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If my mom told me that since her new husband’s daughter was a religious nut I had to change my diet, and I was already a pissed off 17 year old who probably still had issues from my parents’ divorce, I would probably do everything in my power to gently caress with them also.
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therobit posted:If my mom told me that since her new husband’s daughter was a religious nut I had to change my diet, and I was already a pissed off 17 year old who probably still had issues from my parents’ divorce, I would probably do everything in my power to gently caress with them also. just don't get it in writing from your dad that you're gonna do it when he has custody stipulations lmao
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how is she taking custody of a 17-year-old kid who hates her, anyway? i thought they let the kids decide when they're that old
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they should all just go Vegan. No meat or milk to mess with.
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therobit posted:If my mom told me that since her new husband’s daughter was a religious nut I had to change my diet, and I was already a pissed off 17 year old who probably still had issues from my parents’ divorce, I would probably do everything in my power to gently caress with them also. Keeping kosher isn't being "a religious nut".
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Jan 12, 2022 00:26
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You can really tell who in this thread has never met a Jewish person from the vitriol used to describe something as anodyne as keeping kosher.
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Foo Diddley posted:how is she taking custody of a 17-year-old kid who hates her, anyway? i thought they let the kids decide when they're that old Dad is a piece of poo poo who doesn’t want to raise his kids?
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DoctorWhat posted:You can really tell who in this thread has never met a Jewish person from the vitriol used to describe something as anodyne as keeping kosher. I didn't think it was a big deal, but now we have an expert saying it is a big deal, but not enough of a big deal to call it nuts, but also a big enough deal to consider it a potential deal breaker from moving in together. So who the gently caress knows
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hawowanlawow posted:I didn't think it was a big deal, but now we have an expert saying it is a big deal, but not enough of a big deal to call it nuts, but also a big enough deal to consider it a potential deal breaker from moving in together. So who the gently caress knows It's a big deal to some Jews, particularly religious ones, who are not nuts for having restrictive traditions. I'm sorry you're an ignorant gentile. You could easily fix it, though!
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so pretty standard religious poo poo really
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DoctorWhat posted:You can really tell who in this thread has never met a Jewish person from the vitriol used to describe something as anodyne as keeping kosher. Really I'd be more worried if I was 17 and my mum married a Jewish guy and told me that meant I had to get circumcised.
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pull up, thread AITA for bringing my wife in family gatherings? quote:My family used to like my wife when we first started dating but they started antagonising her once I proposed. All of my siblings and my mother are very insulting towards her. My dad doesn't care and stays neutral on the matter. quote:I know my family is toxic but that's who they are I can't change them. And I can't really abandon them either, they're my family. I know where my wife is coming from and I'm willing to help her deal with it without compromising my relationship and contact I have with my family either. I need a middle ground Mx. fucked around with this message at 00:49 on Jan 12, 2022 |
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DoctorWhat posted:You can really tell who in this thread has never met a Jewish person from the vitriol used to describe something as anodyne as keeping kosher. You can definitely tell however who is still a carefully preserved 2005 era South Park style internet atheist.
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Grape posted:You can definitely tell however who is still a carefully preserved 2005 era South Park style internet atheist. 
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Keeping kosher isn't being "a religious nut". “I don’t eat these things and neither can you and don’t mix up the dishes in your own house where you have been living previously,” sounds like a religious nut to me. If you want to keep dietary restrictions for yourself that’s one thing. Telling people who don’t have a choice whether to be in a household with you what they can do is another.
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Not a goddamn thing to do with that you confused fossil.
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The only Jews I know who actually keep kosher are orthodox from Lakewood or Brooklyn. Most of them are pretty nuts.
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It's not that much to loving ask for. It's not some byzantine impossible requirement. It's just using certain plates for certain things. And there's some real skating around anti-Semitism going on here.
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Mx. posted:pull up, thread The fact that this guy thinks there can be a middle ground to this (maybe they only insult his wife on some holidays!?) makes me wonder if there is a buried lede here like being written out of a will if he goes nc , sometimes people are poo poo at explaining their own motivations if this thread is any indication
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teen witch posted:I have five adorable judges, so don’t you worry. I'm of two minds as to whether I ask if you really need five cats, teen witch, but I figure it's overly familiar.
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I ain't give a poo poo that they're Jewish, forcing other people to partake in your dietary restrictions when they don't want to makes you the rear end in a top hat.
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Mx. posted:pull up, thread Keep chasing that dragon, I'm sure you'll catch it THIS time. Edit: The siren sound every reasonable person hears before they dash their boat upon some rocks.
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They can eat whatever they want outside of the household. They can go out and get a pepperoni pizza or gorge themselves on shrimp. But contaminating (in a religious sense) shared dishware isn't permitted and that's a totally reasonable house rule.
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There was color coded dishes and utensils, the food restrictions didn't happen until they kept grabbing the wrong stuff. The Mom felt like she was being undermined and went the direct route to prevent any further confusion. If the kids didn't want that to happen they had a clear path to prevent it
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pyrofreak421 posted:There was color coded dishes and utensils, the food restrictions didn't happen until they kept grabbing the wrong stuff. The Mom felt like she was being undermined and went the direct route to prevent any further confusion. also turns out one of them actually was trying to gently caress it up on purpose
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Malachite_Dragon posted:I ain't give a poo poo that they're Jewish, forcing other people to partake in your dietary restrictions when they don't want to makes you the rear end in a top hat. Keeping kosher also means keeping your kitchen kosher, so unless they get like a second kitchen you're basically just saying they either give up on it or gently caress off.
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AITA for bringing a vegan cake to a party?quote:I(26F) opened up a vegan cafe and bakery. I have a few friends that help with running the cafe. I help with the kitchen and the baking. My closest friend" Layla" was my very first customer and she decided that she wanted to eat vegan. Her boyfriend and I used to be really good friends, but once she started eating vegan, he put all the blame on me. He will make snide comments about vegan food and has even left the cafe a terrible review.
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They just have to stick to it in the house though, the kid can go eat popcorn shrimp and McRibs all he wants he just can't do it in the house. They're teenagers living with their parents anyways, sometimes your parents set rules and you think they're bullshit, but that's how it goes. All in all this doesn't seem like it's asking too much. Plus the kid's probably just being a little poo poo about it because sometimes teenagers are little shits. There's nothing in the story indicating he's some budding culinarian who's been itching to sous vide some Berkshire hog and now that's been taken away from him.
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