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axolotl farmer: May 17, 2007; Now I'm going to sing the Perry Mason theme

TK8325 posted:

lol monopolyamorous

When you feel a strange attraction to top hats, old timey cothes irons, and scottish terriers.

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Ravenfood: Nov 4, 2011

axolotl farmer posted:

When you feel a strange attraction to top hats, old timey cothes irons, and scottish terriers.

I assumed it was announcing you're only part of one polycule.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 11:37

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Ravenfood posted:

I assumed it was announcing you're only part of one polycule.

Watch out West Coasters

# ? Jan 12, 2022 11:38

Luigi's Discount Porn Bin: Jul 19, 2000; Oven Wrangler

moonmazed posted:

thst sounds even worse than the one where the poly people's partner died and they stole the wife's house

the "she abandoned the house (when we forcibly kicked her out of it) so she no longer owns it" thread was at least clear-cut legally, even if the relationships were a trainwreck

here, everyone sounds like they're at least treating each other decently, but the collapse of any one of these sub-relationships has the potential to set off a legal chain reaction that logjams the entire US court system until 2029

# ? Jan 12, 2022 12:22

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

I'm mostly just curious what the two women living in the same neighborhood, but not in the same house, actually think of each other. Do they just not want to combine households because of all the kids, or is this a V-shaped thing where they're both into the dude but not into each other? Did they move from the same place 1000+ miles away, or did they converge on this guy?

# ? Jan 12, 2022 13:18

Canuckistan: Jan 14, 2004; I'm the greatest thing since World War III.; Soiled Meat

Antivehicular posted:

I'm mostly just curious what the two women living in the same neighborhood, but not in the same house, actually think of each other. Do they just not want to combine households because of all the kids, or is this a V-shaped thing where they're both into the dude but not into each other? Did they move from the same place 1000+ miles away, or did they converge on this guy?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slJTlmSPf7Q

# ? Jan 12, 2022 13:37

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

Monopolygamy: when one person is in a relationship with multiple partners but all major assets are in the one person�s name only. Subs may unionize to counter this.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 13:38

DAD LOST MY IPOD: Feb 3, 2012; Fats Dominar is on the case

the important thing to remember about these poly trainwreck stories is that everyone involved is 50% more repulsive looking than you�re already envisioning

# ? Jan 12, 2022 14:02

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

So the woman who wants to have a kid with the guy won�t be living in the primary residence? Is one woman going to be designated as the mother of the group while the other two run off to have fun?

# ? Jan 12, 2022 14:11

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

There was an old joke in E/N about how most poly relationships end up a traditional relationship or two people living together and having sex while a third person happens to pay their bills.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 14:26

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

I'm glad it turned into a reasonable discussion but next time the subject comes up I'd appreciate if people don't throw around terms like "religious extremism" and "loving nuts" when talking about someone keeping kosher.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 14:29

Splicer: Oct 16, 2006; from hell's heart I cast at thee
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Breetai posted:

I'm of two minds as to whether I ask if you really need five cats, teen witch, but I figure it's overly familiar.

Was this on purpose

# ? Jan 12, 2022 14:53

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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Had to be. It was too good.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 14:58

Soylent Pudding: Jun 22, 2007; We've got people!

AITA for disrespecting my future MIL after she gave us advice?

quote:

So I (27M) have been dating Paige (27) for four years. She�s amazing, smart, dedicated and a wonderful person I�m excited to start my life well. Paige had a difficult childhood because of her mother Robin. Robin bounced around from guy to guy and Paige had to follow as she never knew her dad. Her mom has been married and divorced 4 times, with her last husband being a great guy I really liked. Robin cheated on him, took half the stuff (Robin doesn�t work), and is now dating Troy. Paige knows her mother is flawed but still loves her and for some reason respects her. This caused me to have some doubts about me/Paige�s relationship because I feared she was gonna end up like her mom. I expressed concerns about getting married because of the experiences Paige�s mom put her thru and how it affected Paige�s view on marriage. I also feared Robin would encourage Paige to cheat if things ever got hard (her mom is a serial cheater and has tanked all of her marriages). We went to couples counseling over this and to get myself more comfortable with a possible marriage. Me and Robin have always had a very tense relationship, I just think she�s a lovely person and she thinks Paige deserves better.

So things came to a head last weekend. Her mother wanted to have a �talk� with us about marriage. I didn�t want to go but Paige encouraged it so we did. We got there and she sat us down and pulled up a chair like we were in a principals office. And proceeded to go on a lecture about how marriage is hard, it�s all about trust, and a bunch of marriage related advice. She also said that with my personality things would get difficult for us, and I needed to make sure I was the best person I could be so I could be the best husband. I stopped listening after about 1 minute and sorta checked out. Paige started to notice and told me to pay attention. I said that this is ridiculous, her mother is the last person I�m taking marriage advice from. It�s like taking health advice from a meth addict. Troy came over and told me not to disrespect his girlfriend in his house. I literally laughed and said �buddy you are number 5 and there will be a 6, I wouldn�t get too attached to this house�. I got up and left with Paige following. Paige said we needed to hash this out immediately and wanted me to come back inside. I refused and ended up Ubering back to our house. Paige came home later wanting to talk about what happened. I said that while I love her and appreciate her mom for caring, the reality is her mom is a serial cheater and hasn�t ever had a successful marriage. I could care less her moms opinion on marriage and our relationship. My parents think while I�m not wrong, I have to live with this woman in my life and need to show restraint. I just have a hard time dealing with Robin knowing all the stuff she put Paige thru due to her instability. AITA?

# ? Jan 12, 2022 15:18

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

The fact that Paige wants to listen to her trash fire mom shows a remarkable lack of good judgement. Just bail, dude

# ? Jan 12, 2022 15:23

jazzyhattrick: Jul 1, 2010; by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

sephiRoth IRA posted:

The fact that Paige wants to listen to her trash fire mom shows a remarkable lack of good judgement. Just bail, dude

She may just have some mild decorum poisoning. Probably best to find out if she is taking her mother's "advice" seriously or is just humouring her because "You know how she is."

# ? Jan 12, 2022 15:29

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

A noticeable lack of Paige condemning her mother�s lovely relationship behavior. The wording makes it seem like she�s made general noises of disagreement but behavior shows almost full endorsement.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 15:33

trickybiscuits: Jan 13, 2008; yospos

ilmucche posted:

Pretty tough to establish a united front when the problem is "mom tried to take 10k from your college front"

Does the mom mean "we both will take money from our daughter's college fund"?

# ? Jan 12, 2022 15:49

8one6: May 20, 2012; When in doubt, err on the side of Awesome!

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for disrespecting my future MIL after she gave us advice?

When someone tells you who they are believe them. At best her mom is going to be a pain in this guy's rear end for years. At worst Paige's mom has managed to brain poison her and she is going to cheat on him within the first year.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 15:54

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Shithouse Dave posted:

Righto, off you go buddy. Good luck finding a younger woman to support your gambling fail rear end.

AITA is full of impressionable younger women in just this type of relationship sure that they're the ones loving up, as I think we've seen recently. :smith:

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:09

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for disrespecting my future MIL after she gave us advice?

"My parents think while I�m not wrong, I have to live with this woman in my life and need to show restraint."

Well uh you're wrong there bucko

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:16

StrangersInTheNight: Dec 31, 2007; ABSOLUTE FUCKING GUDGEON

I don't think they literally mean he 'has to', but when you marry someone you marry their family as well, so if he's serious about attaching his life to his gf then yes, whether he likes that or not, MIL comes with it. That said, you don't have to play into their politics. If his wife won't at least respect he doesn't wanna be around mom to humor her and keeps making it a Thing that he needs to play the child role she's gotten used to playing, yeah I dunno how you'd get away from that outside of divorce.

StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 16:26 on Jan 12, 2022

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:23

Soylent Pudding: Jun 22, 2007; We've got people!

AITA for wanting to drop out of my friend�s wedding?

quote:

I (20f) was asked to be a �replacement� bridesmaid for my friend �s (23f) (we will call her Katie) wedding. I was excited to be a part of her wedding until I learned more and more. I was pregnant when she asked me to a part of her wedding. Since I have joined 5 people have dropped out due to her attitude and high expectations. Well Katie is upset because of everyone dropping out and the amount of people she has kicked out. She wants everyone to drop everything this year for her wedding. She kicked one personal attendant out for getting engaged.

Here are a few of her expectations:

No one is allowed to get pregnant from here on out

No one is allowed to get engaged as this is �her� year and getting engaged would overshadow her wedding

You must respond quickly and promptly and throughout the entire day

Everything for the bride must be paid for by the bridesmaids on the bachelorette trip.

You must buy new outfits (so that there are no photos of you in them already) for each night of the bachelorette trip (Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday), bridal shower (2 days total), and rehearsal dinner PLUS different bridesmaids pajamas for each night of the bachelorette trip

You must have your nails done professionally for each event

You should already order all outfits for each event (wedding is in September)

You must gift the bride at each event as well

Bridesmaids must spend the night for bridal shower and night before the wedding

The rough estimate for everything she wants (bridal shower, air bnbs, bach trip, food & drink for myself and her, decorations for all events, outfits, etc) was around two grand on the low end.

There�s so much more and I will add as I think of them at the bottom.

Now, I completely understand this is her wedding and I was totally supportive of her and of all this poo poo until now. I�m 2 weeks post partum and Katie came to take my baby�s newborn pictures as I had hired her. When she came she insulted my weight multiple times and reminded me I need to lose my baby weight before her wedding (not that much weight?). She then proceeded to insult my infant daughter. She said it was sad she looked like my �hillbilly� boyfriend and that her skin tone was reallyyyyyy dark implying it was a bad thing. My boyfriend is half native and when I told her that she backtracked really quickly on her comment. However, she began to make fun of my skin tone because I am a red head and quite pale. She keeps commenting on Facebook posts of my daughter about her looks and even since I�ve blocked her from seeing those posts it still pisses me off. Anyways, my boyfriend thinks I�m overreacting by wanting to drop out and quite frankly never speak to her again.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:28

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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StrangersInTheNight posted:

I don't think they literally mean he 'has to', but when you marry someone you marry their family as well, so if he's serious about attaching his life to his gf then yes, whether he likes that or not, MIL comes with it. That said, you don't have to play into their politics. If his wife won't at least respect he doesn't wanna be around mom to humor her and keeps making it a Thing that he needs to play the child role she's gotten used to playing, yeah I dunno how you'd get away from that outside of divorce.

He doesn't have to marry his gf, is more what I was getting at. I'd sure be hesitant myself, at this point.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:29

Rescue Toaster: Mar 13, 2003

jazzyhattrick posted:

She may just have some mild decorum poisoning. Probably best to find out if she is taking her mother's "advice" seriously or is just humouring her because "You know how she is."

He did specifically say she 'respects' her mom. Though he doesn't elaborate that implies it's more than 'Well she's my mom I still love her even though she sucks.'

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hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

the word respect has as many meanings as it has OPs

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:33

8one6: May 20, 2012; When in doubt, err on the side of Awesome!

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for wanting to drop out of my friend’s wedding?

This person is a friend?

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:34

Soylent Pudding: Jun 22, 2007; We've got people!

AITA for being sick and tired of hearing about babies and saying so?

quote:

Throwaway because I�m already getting some poo poo for this and don�t need it on my main.

So everyone in my life it feels like is getting married or having babies or whatever. Im in my early 30�s so I get it, but it�s getting obnoxious. For the most part I just keep my opinion to myself but my close friends know I�m militantly child-free so my not giving a flying monkey about their babies shouldn�t be a surprise.

Anyways onto the issue, my closest friend got pregnant in the summer and I was devastated. I kind of thought she was in the same boat as me but obviously not. I�ll admit I reacted a bit poorly when she told me but it was literally months ago. I noticed yesterday we hadn�t talked or hung out in like 4 months (not extremely unusual cuz we both get busy) so I asked her if we could go to a restaurant and catch up.

She said she was dealing with some major health stuff right now so she isn�t going out at the moment, cool I understand that, so I asked if maybe I could come over for tea or something and she was super dismissive like �It�s not going to be the best time for me for awhile.� So I straight up just asked her if something was up.

She told me she didn�t really want to hang out right now because she knows I don�t want to hear about any baby stuff. I told her to just talk about other stuff. Like it shouldn�t be that hard. She�s still a person outside of being a spawn incubator right?

We argued a bit and she pretty much told me she isn�t in the physical or mental headspace to tiptoe around the fact she�s pregnant with me which I literally never asked her to do and she brought up again me mentioning abort**** (mostly jokingly and in reference to me - I was like �Oh geez I�d already be at an abort*** clinic�) months ago and said she just couldn�t handle the �negativity� right now.

I told her she wasn�t doing anyone favours turning into a mommybot and to hit me up when she has a personality again which yeah was maybe a bit harsh but she literally was saying to me we couldn�t hang out because she couldn�t not talk about being pregnant, it seems harsh, but her own words pretty much.

I vented to some of our mutual friends about it and the reactions are split. Some say she�s overreacting and some have talked to her recently and not had it not be about pregnancy anyways so they don�t get her reasoning and others say I�m a huge rear end in a top hat because she�s having major complications so it�s probably hard to just �turn off.� Arguably though today was the first I�d heard of any complications so how would I have known? AITA for being sick of this?

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:36

WoodrowSkillson: Feb 24, 2005; *Gestures at 60 years of Lions history*

i do not want children, and its sadly been a dealbreaker with some nice people over the years, but one thing i will never do is describe myself as child free or use any of these loving weird rear end words

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:39

Edgar Allan Pwned: Apr 4, 2011; Quoth the Raven "I love the power glove. It's so bad..."

I've never been pregnant but I'd imagine it takes up a lot of your head space because it's your body. Totally different if it was the non-preggo partner but it's not. This friend must be a total hard rear end for her friends not even wanting to do lunch

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:42

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

8one6 posted:

This person is a friend?

A replacement friend!

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:42

Xachariah: Jul 26, 2004

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for wanting to drop out of my friend�s wedding?

I'd laugh in any persons face if I had to pay even a tenth of that to attend their wedding, never mind the rest of the bullshit.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:48

thunderspanks: Nov 5, 2003; crucify this

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for being sick and tired of hearing about babies and saying so?

this is 100% someone using their pregnancy as an excuse to cut an intolerable shithead out of their life

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:48

Variable 5: Apr 17, 2007; We do these things not because they are easy, but because we thought they would be easy.; Grimey Drawer

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for being sick and tired of hearing about babies and saying so?

quote:

hit me up when she has a personality again

...says the person that revolves theirs around hating babies. How is joking about abortion funny? Edit: please don't answer that.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:50

Soylent Pudding: Jun 22, 2007; We've got people!

AITA for telling my friends that their pretend date sounds like lot like a real one?

quote:

Hailee and Emily are close friends of mine. They are cool and Introduced them to eachother. Hailee is not popular with the guys and she hasn't gone on any good date or dated anyone but Emily is really popular and she always has some boy crushing on her.

They like to tease eachother about it and Emily had the idea of taking her out on a date so that she could get a 'date experience'. It was supposed to be playful teasing but they actually went out, watched the new Spiderman movie and made a date out of It.

Hailee is pretty happy about it and we were talking about over zoom. She was gushing and she said it had been great and Emily had been a great date and it was cute.

I told her it sounded like a real date to me and she suddenly shutdown and said it wasn't a real date and I was making poo poo up and to stay out of it. She then quit the call. I feel like such an rear end in a top hat for ruining a good moment between them by making that observation.

Update: AITA for telling my friends that their pretend date sounds like a lot like a real one?

quote:

I made a poor joke and people had a lot of opinions about it and in the end, I felt even though I didn't mean to hurt Hailee, I did hurt her and I needed to apologize. I texted her that I was sorry for hurting her and I was just joking and I didn't mean to hurt her at all. I told her that I wouldn't bring this up again.

She said it was fine and she wasn't really upset about what I had said and she was figuring things out but she didn't want to talk about it and things went back to normal.

Yesterday, Emily sent me a snap of them together and captioned it, 'This one is a real date.'. I talked to them and they are going out now.

This is a really great way to start the new year.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:50

Agents are GO!: Dec 29, 2004

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I'm glad it turned into a reasonable discussion but next time the subject comes up I'd appreciate if people don't throw around terms like "religious extremism" and "loving nuts" when talking about someone keeping kosher.

Are you speaking ex cathedra here, Pope Corky?

# ? Jan 12, 2022 16:51

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my friends that their pretend date sounds like lot like a real one?

Update: AITA for telling my friends that their pretend date sounds like a lot like a real one?

Is there dust in the air? No, I'm tearing up because this is so wholesome. :kimchi:

# ? Jan 12, 2022 17:01

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my friends that their pretend date sounds like lot like a real one?

Update: AITA for telling my friends that their pretend date sounds like a lot like a real one?

Like Im happy for the two of them but thats some lovely behavior to a friend being nice.

# ? Jan 12, 2022 17:03

ScienceSeagull: May 17, 2021; Figure 1 Smart birds.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for being sick and tired of hearing about babies and saying so?
We argued a bit and she pretty much told me she isn�t in the physical or mental headspace to tiptoe around the fact she�s pregnant with me

Misread this for a second and thought "there are fetuses posting on Reddit now????"

# ? Jan 12, 2022 17:05

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# ? May 29, 2024 20:06

Solenna: Jun 5, 2003; I'd say it was your manifest destiny not to.

Edgar Allan Pwned posted:

I've never been pregnant but I'd imagine it takes up a lot of your head space because it's your body. Totally different if it was the non-preggo partner but it's not. This friend must be a total hard rear end for her friends not even wanting to do lunch

yeah it turns a condition that affects the way you eat, sleep, look and feel (physically and emotionally) is pretty hard to ignore and that's not even getting into having complications adding a whole nother level of anxiety to things. Really want to know more details about OP "not handling the news about the pregnancy well"

# ? Jan 12, 2022 17:07

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