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Yeah, those are always disgusting. Just pure capsicum. Food should be enjoyed, not an ordeal to be suffered through. AITA for making fun of my MIL for spending an hour doing her makeup to visit someone in jail and telling her her life is hilarious? quote:MIL was going to visit her former boss in prison the other day because he’s been begging her to. She is actually the person who get him arrested so I’m not sure why he wants to see her, but not my business.
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The whole "Thai Spicy" thing drives me crazy. Not every Thai dish is meant to be spicy or "Thai spicy", and not every Thai person likes spicy food, but now most places I go insist on getting 1-5 from me and don't really understand when I say I just want it how it's supposed to taste. Insisting the cook throw in an extra handful of chili flakes so I can satisfy my own ego isn't why I go get Thai food. I want the mild dishes mild, the spicy dishes spicy, the extremely spicy ones extremely spicy, etc.
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Invisible Clergy posted:Yeah, those are always disgusting. Just pure capsicum. Food should be enjoyed, not an ordeal to be suffered through. Good question!
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quote:iluvdonkeys Later in the comments she says that actually neither daughter went to the therapy sessions, because her insurance only covered herself.
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Hungry Computer posted:This line is a huge red flag to me. It's the same thing my mother says how she treated me vs my siblings. I was never inherently "more independent", I was forced to learn to be independent because I didn't get support. That's also how my wife is treated by her mother and ooof that post is weirding me out. She got kicked out at 18 and got no support whatsoever while her siblings were not.
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Hungry Computer posted:This line is a huge red flag to me. It's the same thing my mother says how she treated me vs my siblings. I was never inherently "more independent", I was forced to learn to be independent because I didn't get support. Same. I read that and immediately thought, "Oh so she was ignored completely and had to take care of herself? Wild."
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Lemniscate Blue posted:Speaking as a teacher, you pretty quickly come to realize that there are some parents for whom "reality" will only ever be a casual acquaintance. Fuuuuck, but this is true. Jesus christ, some parents are utterly blind to their kids being monsters. Kurieg posted:What the absolute gently caress? "Hey I know you had a miscarriage, followed by another miscarriage a month later, AND THAT'S HILARIOUS!" "You joked about it lightly because emotions are weird and hard to deal with, so I can go for the throat, right?" Grimdude posted:Lol at the quick burn about her daughter not having friends. Maybe she just is hiding that her friends don't want to be near really uncomfortable family situations! Being at someone else's house when they're having family drama SUCKS.
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Invisible Clergy posted:Yeah, those are always disgusting. Just pure capsicum. Food should be enjoyed, not an ordeal to be suffered through. That totally normal thing where you buy an engagement ring "just because" and wear it because a guy you're totally not going to marry told her to get it with his money. Definitely not engaged.
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Doctor Butts posted:Nothing that has you sign a waiver is gonna have flavor. Yeah, I should've known, but my college best friend was raving about this local place of theirs so when I visited I figured I had to try. Apparently their regular wings were good. I should've known a place named Cluck U (later changed to University Chicken after complaints) wouldn't be one for nuance. Bruceski fucked around with this message at 23:55 on Jan 13, 2022 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:"You joked about it lightly because emotions are weird and hard to deal with, so I can go for the throat, right?" I remember when my dad died we had a family meeting at the start of Shiva that was basically "our humor tends to go dark at the best of times, and this isn't one of those. Everyone knows they can speak up on either side if things go too far?"
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Invisible Clergy posted:It is useful to some empty people as a prosthetic personality. You've heard of nerds conflating media they consume with their personal identity because they have no personality. This is the same thing but with food. Also as mentioned upthread, it's a toxic masculinity thing, especially for guys who can't do anything else traditionally masculine. "You can lift more weight than I can and run faster and fought in a war? Well I order padthai level 5 instead of level 4, qed my dick is bigger so there." I used to work for a company that was predominantly West African and, as a result of hanging out with those guys, developed a strong tolerance for spice. That carried over to my broader social life and, when I go out for a meal and it's the sort of cuisine where spice is the norm, I tend to order on the hotter side. I have one friend who will not let this go. He will scour the menu for something hotter than what I'm having. He'll then only eat a few bites of it because SURPRISE! it's way too spicy. This happens every time and I just do not get it. You're not proving anything! Your dick doesn't get bigger every time you eat a chilli! Just order something you'll enjoy!
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hawowanlawow posted:generally when I see someone say "we both moved past" something, my gut reaction is that they are being manipulative and implying that they were also wronged when they were not The pain of being told that I hurt you is more important than the pain I caused you. So, it's really you who should apologize to me.
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Spice chat: the first time my partner tried to make arrabiata sauce he confused the tablespoon and teaspoon measurements, and also threw in some random chili pulp leftover from when he made hot sauce the week prior. We had to open the doors and windows because our eyes were stinging. It was served with spicy Italian sausage. He tried to temper his portion with a very generous topping of cheese, but still gave up halfway through. I ate all of mine and his, laughing madly all the while because I was in so much pain but it was making me so high. I ask him to make it again every so often but he refuses
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been too long since we've watched a guy blow up his relationship because he can't handle menstruation AITA for getting angry with my girlfriend and demanding she pay to replace my sheets after she got blood on them quote:Throwaway for privacy
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Bruceski posted:It's definitely a craps shoot when you go hot whether they know what they're doing, I've had great spicy stuff elsewhere. Unrelated but I always thought the phrase was "crap shoot" and I just realized the meaning of it is entirely different than what I thought and I'm a huge dumb rear end
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kalel posted:Unrelated but I always thought the phrase was "crap shoot" and I just realized the meaning of it is entirely different than what I thought and I'm a huge dumb rear end No, the expression definitely is crapshoot.
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kalel posted:Unrelated but I always thought the phrase was "crap shoot" and I just realized the meaning of it is entirely different than what I thought and I'm a huge dumb rear end
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for deleting my newborn son's instagram? Lmao 1000 followers is in absolutely no way "low profile" get the gently caress out of here
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coronatae posted:Spice chat: the first time my partner tried to make arrabiata sauce he confused the tablespoon and teaspoon measurements, and also threw in some random chili pulp leftover from when he made hot sauce the week prior. We had to open the doors and windows because our eyes were stinging. It was served with spicy Italian sausage. He tried to temper his portion with a very generous topping of cheese, but still gave up halfway through. I ate all of mine and his, laughing madly all the while because I was in so much pain but it was making me so high. Plants: Let's cause pain as self-defense! Humans:
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Midnight Voyager posted:Plants: Let's cause pain as self-defense! I'm not gonna be outdone by a bird.
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Elder Postsman posted:Lmao 1000 followers is in absolutely no way "low profile" get the gently caress out of here Yeah it was hard to side with the guy who stole his wife's phone and hid in the bathroom to delete poo poo, and yet...
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AITA for going off on my husband for saying this to the kids?quote:My husband and I have 2 kids (13f/11m), Right now we are going through some financial struggles and we ended up losing so many of our belongings to be able to pay off mortgage debts. traumatising my kids and making them cry, as a laff? nbd you making me lose face in front of my family? YOU PIECE OF poo poo
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I've heard a lot of examples lately of people criticizing others for "Thinking X is a personality" or "Having X instead of a personality", where is X is something like "The Office," "spicy food," "Genshin Impact," "INTJ," or "Hating Nickleback," but what does it mean to have a personality in the first place? How does a person get a personality? I'm not really being facetious.
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Nebrilos posted:I've heard a lot of examples lately of people criticizing others for "Thinking X is a personality" or "Having X instead of a personality", where is X is something like "The Office," "spicy food," "Genshin Impact," "INTJ," or "Hating Nickleback," but what does it mean to have a personality in the first place? How does a person get a personality? I'm not really being facetious. Don't overthink it, it's seriously just people getting mad that someone else likes x when they don't.
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Nebrilos posted:I've heard a lot of examples lately of people criticizing others for "Thinking X is a personality" or "Having X instead of a personality", where is X is something like "The Office," "spicy food," "Genshin Impact," "INTJ," or "Hating Nickleback," but what does it mean to have a personality in the first place? How does a person get a personality? I'm not really being facetious. It's a good question, but let's spin it this way: the saying "you don't have a personality" means you've adopted a personality rather than developing your own. Entirely popular media/popsci/single issue so very one dimensional and puddle deep.
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Prole posted:New face here. Hello.
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Nebrilos posted:I've heard a lot of examples lately of people criticizing others for "Thinking X is a personality" or "Having X instead of a personality", where is X is something like "The Office," "spicy food," "Genshin Impact," "INTJ," or "Hating Nickleback," but what does it mean to have a personality in the first place? How does a person get a personality? I'm not really being facetious. In that context I think that phrase describes someone who can only talk about that one thing-- how much they hate Nickleback, how very very spicy they like their food, their latest theories on Genshin Impact or whatever.
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thunderspanks posted:Don't overthink it, it's seriously just people getting mad that someone else likes x when they don't. Plenty of people enjoy poo poo I don't like. I don't care. The whole "having it as a personality" is them not shutting up about it and taking any kind of criticism of X as a personal insult. To use an example in the thread: I like spicy food. But I don't walk around with some kind of big cowboy hat that says "chilli eating competition winner" with a tshirt that has a chilli pepper on it, and go to restaurants with my own chilli to supplement their food. I don't have the Scoville scale memorised. I don't tell my friends that if they don't eat the hottest spice level on the menu (or even the "secret" extra hot!!!) they are weak babies. I feel like most of those kinds of people have nothing else to talk about and will start talking about X unprompted even when people around them don't care.
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I’d hang out with that guy. How big a cowboy hat are we talking?
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Mx. posted:AITA for going off on my husband for saying this to the kids? My parents held the implicit threat of kicking me out over my head and I had to literally beg and plead to negotiate lodging terms for years before I had enough money to get the gently caress out. Whenever I'd press they'd always say "We're not really going to kick you out" but they never failed to put it out on the table, and whether it was some imbecilic way to "motivate" me or just to keep me off-balance, it had the net effect of me not trusting a single loving word they ever said (which I was right to do). Hope OP's husband like dying alone, uncared for, and unloved because he thought being a quippy 90s kid made him a "Cool Dad" instead of a dingus. Nebrilos posted:I've heard a lot of examples lately of people criticizing others for "Thinking X is a personality" or "Having X instead of a personality", where is X is something like "The Office," "spicy food," "Genshin Impact," "INTJ," or "Hating Nickleback," but what does it mean to have a personality in the first place? How does a person get a personality? I'm not really being facetious. It's mostly just snobs having high standards and lashing out instead of growing up. Source: Am snob. Also raised by snobs. When all a person chooses to express-- or is capable of expressing-- are simple, enthusiastic positive/negative feelings toward something, particularly something seen as middlebrow or lowbrow, snobs feel isolated and lonely. Dumbfuck snobs mistake that for a person's total depth. Angry snobs get mad and try to shame/bully other people into challenging their cultural interests and means of expressing those interests, because having only other snobs for conversation company is a miserable bucket of crabs. And there is merit in saying "challenge yourself, don't mistake the things you like for your identity, and recognize that it's ok and even expected to challenge yourself," but because snobs are gonna snob it never comes out any way but cruel and mean. Couple that between people who get off on making snobs miserable, and people who are just... let's be nice and say "comfortable, "living in smaller pools of culture, and you create a pretty toxic feedback loop. As far as what it means to actually have a personality-- it's when you're willing to say things that make you vulnerable in some way, and likely piss someone else the gently caress off, because it's who you are. It can be as simple or complex as you want from there. mind the walrus fucked around with this message at 01:44 on Jan 14, 2022 |
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Nebrilos posted:I've heard a lot of examples lately of people criticizing others for "Thinking X is a personality" or "Having X instead of a personality", where is X is something like "The Office," "spicy food," "Genshin Impact," "INTJ," or "Hating Nickleback," but what does it mean to have a personality in the first place? How does a person get a personality? I'm not really being facetious. I’ve been swiping through the dating apps recently (do not recommend,) and the number of women who put “Just a Pam looking for her Jim” is staggering. Also the number of profiles that just list all the shows/book series/whatever they like. I’m cool with being a fan of something but I loathe fandom and I try not to do that kind of listing. Oh and while I’m at it people who are almost 40 and ALL of their pictures feature Disneyland or Disney merch? Good Christ Just want to edit this post again because I opened bumble just now and this made me laugh Tenkaris fucked around with this message at 04:54 on Jan 14, 2022 |
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E: Wew, that's what I get for not hitting F5!
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Tenkaris posted:I’ve been swiping through the dating apps recently (do not recommend,) and the number of women who put “Just a Pam looking for her Jim” is staggering. I didn't watch the Office but wasn't Pam in a long term relationship for like the first couple seasons while they flirt and kiss and stuff? But yeah dating apps are horrible.
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Girlfriend (26F) doesn't want to throw away gift from guy she cheated with despite me (26M) saying that's the best thing she can do to support me right nowquote:Bit messy. Title sounds harsher than it is. Here goes. lol
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Mx. posted:Girlfriend (26F) doesn't want to throw away gift from guy she cheated with despite me (26M) saying that's the best thing she can do to support me right now Thoughts: Lmao
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Mx. posted:Girlfriend (26F) doesn't want to throw away gift from guy she cheated with despite me (26M) saying that's the best thing she can do to support me right now lol indeed. My favorite parts of these LDR posts is how the never define it. It could be anything between "we've been talking on a chat app and have never even talked to each other voice" to "we live an hour apart and spend every weekend together".
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Mx. posted:Girlfriend (26F) doesn't want to throw away gift from guy she cheated with despite me (26M) saying that's the best thing she can do to support me right now quote:That's the extent of the cheating. Feelings and one kiss. one kiss. on the dick. that lasted about 15 minutes. 'cuz dude, you know ain't no guy buying a girl presents for anything less
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PancakeTransmission posted:To use an example in the thread: I like spicy food. But I don't walk around with some kind of big cowboy hat that says "chilli eating competition winner" with a tshirt that has a chilli pepper on it, and go to restaurants with my own chilli to supplement their food. I don't have the Scoville scale memorised. I don't tell my friends that if they don't eat the hottest spice level on the menu (or even the "secret" extra hot!!!) they are weak babies. I feel like most of those kinds of people have nothing else to talk about and will start talking about X unprompted even when people around them don't care.
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There's a ramen place in town here that does a miso turkey ramen that is so spicy it makes me cry, but it's also so delicious that I order it anyway and just come prepared with tissues to wipe my eyes with while I eat. I only order that if I'm eating alone. Those are my shame noodles.
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