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Sisal Two-Step posted:WIBTA if I declined a wedding invitation after accepting, but didn’t send a present? "She understood I was unfamiliar with... how things are done in this country" hooo boy I've heard racism dogs barking all over the neighborhood over that one.
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Especially because OP was "the only one born and raised in Australia".
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 18:50 |
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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:The short term, potentially expensive problem with this is that, if biodad is telling the story unrebutted to a friendly audience, it sounds like parental alienation. It's not, but I've seen lots of lovely dads (and a few moms) spin themselves up to taking it to court. The "easy" way to handle it at that point is a judicial interview where the kid talks to the judge without lawyers present. In that environment it's really easy to tell the difference between "my dad is a piece of poo poo" and "my mom says my dad is a piece of poo poo." There's an interesting article I read a little while ago about parental alienation: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inside-the-criminal-mind/202201/when-parental-alienation-is-not-quite-what-it-seems quote:As if these were not significant enough impediments to the father-child relationship, Mr. Trumball introduced another. Both Lois and Michael complained that their father would besiege them with questions about why they did not want to be with him. Lois said, “We get into a long conversation. I don’t want to hear it … a lot of things about the divorce. We want to have a good time. He talks about that stuff and ruins everything.” She said, “If he wanted us to be happy, he’d let us live with our mom. He’s being selfish. He wants us to live with him in Virginia.” Lois particularly resented her father because “he starts talking to me about things I’m not comfortable about—all these questions about the divorce and 'Why don’t you like spending time with me?’” She recalled Mr. Trumball inquiring, “What did I do to deserve this? You used to like me.”
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 19:15 |
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The whole point of wedding presents is that traditionally the wedding is the point where the bride and groom start living together and the presents are supposed to get them a jump start on furnishing a new household. That's the root of the tradition pretty much everywhere.
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Lmao the brother's suggestion owns.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my “roommate” to find a new place when he called me a pervert? NTA. The childless weirdo can find his own place.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my “roommate” to find a new place when he called me a pervert? quote:Hey Everyone, WOW! I did not expect this to blow up so much but my wife and I are really appreciating all the support and input!
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Traditions aside I couldn't imagine sending a gift to a wedding where I was disinvited rudely from. At my absolute most generous I might be willing to send them a brick wrapped in one of those Amazon prank gift boxes for a Cheese Printer or a Showerhead Coffee Maker.
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A bag of dicks (tm) would be appropriate I think
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Scags McDouglas posted:Traditions aside I couldn't imagine sending a gift to a wedding where I was disinvited rudely from. El Spamo posted:A bag of dicks (tm) would be appropriate I think GiP Secret Santa has you covered: https://shipadick.com/
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WoodrowSkillson posted:is goonsay, its supposed to look like a stereotypical gross goon commenting on something. the --(.)-(.) is the glasses Wait thats supposed to be a face with glasses??? I always thought it was like a gang or swarm of goons huddled together, all speaking the same terrible opinion. A goonmind, if you will. Sisal Two-Step posted:WIBTA if I declined a wedding invitation after accepting, but didn’t send a present? Do all of the siblings' suggestions. More gifts mean she really cares about them
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DemoneeHo posted:I always thought it was like a gang or swarm of goons huddled together, all speaking the same terrible opinion. A goonmind, if you will. Now you've got me looking at it like I'm missing the two faces and only seeing the vase
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"HOW DARE YOU HAVE SEX IN YOUR OWN HOME" "Aight, get out." ":Shocked Pikachu:"
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Invisible Clergy posted:Also lol, nowhere lets you return underwear; gently caress off. got some bad news for you about victoria's secret
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DemoneeHo posted:Wait thats supposed to be a face with glasses??? I always thought it was a bare stomach and the 'eyes' were boobs or moobs if you will. Huh. Petra's close call: AITA for not letting in my 'boyfriend' who showed up to my college as a surprise? quote:Not the A-hole
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Sisal Two-Step posted:I always thought it was a bare stomach and the 'eyes' were boobs or moobs if you will. Huh. Uh, let’s see. Well, he probably would have murdered you if you went to meet him, but on the other hand you did make him sad. Hard to tell what the right move was honestly.
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therobit posted:Uh, let’s see. Well, he probably would have murdered you if you went to meet him, but on the other hand you did make him sad. Hard to tell what the right move was honestly. This one is just wild. It's written like she totally gets how bad the guy is, then she throws in "I feel conflicted." Like, goddamn.
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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:I've yet to see them get it wrong. We had a family court judge pitch a fit because she was voted out of office and lock her keys in her office. She also put a warrant out on a process server for serving her papers. She got A LOT of things wrong. (Her son was also in my class for one year. He left after I smashed him in the head for grabbing a classmate's tits. Later, I heard he got kicked out of public school for persistent stalking/attempts at sexual assault.) Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 21:51 on Feb 4, 2022 |
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therobit posted:Uh, let’s see. Well, he probably would have murdered you if you went to meet him, but on the other hand you did make him sad. Hard to tell what the right move was honestly. LanceHunter posted:This one is just wild. It's written like she totally gets how bad the guy is, then she throws in "I feel conflicted." She's almost certainly 18 or 19 going by the post, and just escaped a lovely conservative hometown. Extracting those brain worms takes a while.
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 21:51 |
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Either he lied about having taking a flight across multiple states to a place where he had nowhere to stay and a return ticket several days out, and his mom having to bail him out at the risk of losing her home, in which case he's a manipulative piece of poo poo, or he didn't lie about it, in which case he's absolutely unhinged. Either scenario has only one correct response.
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I'd put money on it being pure deception. That psycho could have put himself up at a hostel for a few days and taken his original flight if money was an object.
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We've seen these from the kid before how about from the guardian? AITA because nephew prefers me over his parents? quote:I (30m) have a brother "Nick" (39m) who has a son "David" (6m).
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Hughlander posted:We've seen these from the kid before how about from the guardian? ...does the dad want OP to treat his son like poo poo? What's the end game here? e: lol quote:Yes, he is still with me. We haven't had any convos regarding him moving back with them. AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 22:59 on Feb 4, 2022 |
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Hughlander posted:We've seen these from the kid before how about from the guardian? Bio-parents abandoned their kid to uncle at age 4. Two years later are surprised that kid has stronger attachment to uncle than to bio-parents. Real shocker there.
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AITA for being openly hostile towards my sister and telling on her thus potentially making her husband loose custody of his children?quote:I'm not gonna be shy about this. My sister sucks. She is a horrible self slcentered person who thinks she is the main character. She is not only a horrible person, she is a step monster. Step Aunt saves the day.
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Yeah the kid has spend 1/3 of his life at minimum with the OP what did they expect.
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 23:15 |
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These people also expect literal toddlers to understand the complexities of such a situation.
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 23:27 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:Yeah the kid has spend 1/3 of his life at minimum with the OP what did they expect. Well, you know, you put the kid in stasis while you have other things to take care of, and then take it out of stasis and it's back to loving you as if nothing has happened.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:...does the dad want OP to treat his son like poo poo? What's the end game here? Nah, that's a misunderstanding of the biodad's headspace. You see, He's the kid's REAL FATHER, which means that he's ENTITLED to LOVE and RESPECT dagnabbit. The concept of the OP winning the love of the kid via actually being there for them is antithetical to this mindset, and also means that the biodad can be blamed for the situation due to his actions and choices. The concept of a child bonding with someone because of how they treat them rather than what they are is handily eliminated to protect the biodad's ego from feeling that he's at fault somehow, so we're left with "you must have been manipulating his to deliberately hate me somehow" as the conclusion that biodad has jumped to.
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CharlestheHammer posted:Yeah the kid has spend 1/3 of his life at minimum with the OP what did they expect. It's probably also extremely emotionally difficult for the kid to see his terminally-ill mother (hence the standoffishness), and probably difficult for the father who is caring for her. OP's brother shouldn't have blown up at him, but OP should probably have taken it in stride given the extremely difficult situation everyone is in.
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LanceHunter posted:It's probably also extremely emotionally difficult for the kid to see his terminally-ill mother (hence the standoffishness), and probably difficult for the father who is caring for her. OP's brother shouldn't have blown up at him, but OP should probably have taken it in stride given the extremely difficult situation everyone is in. He seems to have? I did a brief babysitting deal for a friend of a friend, and she had her two nephews who lived with her, ages 3 and 2. The parents refused to sever their parental rights, even though they saw the kids maybe once a month, always to threaten to take them away, before leaving on another drug binge. They claimed them on their taxes, of course, and insisted the 3 year old get circumcised so he "would look like his dad" in that regard, and took the kids when their aunt balked at putting a toddler through that. But of course they brought them back, and left again. So the kids see their aunt and uncle as mom and dad, and their mom and dad are strangers who show up, scream, take them away by force, only to bring them back a few days later when the fun has worn off, or the next fix is in town. I wish I knew what happened to them. In my dreams the mom and dad died of an overdose, so the kids have a good life with their aunt and uncle. In my nightmares, the mom did as she always threatened and took the boys to her family in Brazil. AITA for refusing to sell my horse? quote:Me(24f) and my boyfriend (26) have been dating for around ~9 months.
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Breetai posted:Nah, that's a misunderstanding of the biodad's headspace. You see, He's the kid's REAL FATHER, which means that he's ENTITLED to LOVE and RESPECT dagnabbit. The concept of the OP winning the love of the kid via actually being there for them is antithetical to this mindset, and also means that the biodad can be blamed for the situation due to his actions and choices. The concept of a child bonding with someone because of how they treat them rather than what they are is handily eliminated to protect the biodad's ego from feeling that he's at fault somehow, so we're left with "you must have been manipulating his to deliberately hate me somehow" as the conclusion that biodad has jumped to. It's even simpler than a matter of treatment. It's plain absence vs being-there.
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Cowslips Warren posted:He seems to have? On a happier note, some friends of mine look after their niece due to some difficulties with the mother (I don't know the details, but she's onboard with the arrangement and everything's as good-natured as one can be when that's necessary) Now that they've had a biological kid they're still Aunt and Uncle to the niece but the kids consider each other sisters. Fun to double-take the "proper family works exactly like this with no exceptions" people.
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Cowslips Warren posted:
All the talk about "prioritizing our relationship" gives off some abuse vibes. It feels like something I would find in one of those pickup artist books.
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# ? Feb 5, 2022 00:42 |
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Any sane person would kill a beloved animal simply because their 6 month boyfriend told them to
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for refusing to sell my horse? On the one hand the guy is clearly an rear end in a top hat and good riddance to him. On the other, op is a horse girl, so best of luck to her in finding someone who will not have issues with always being prioritized below a horse.
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Cowslips Warren posted:
I think it's a good idea to put down a useless animal and focus on true love. Unfortunately, euthanizing lovely boyfriends is still very illegal.
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ponzicar posted:I think it's a good idea to put down a useless animal and focus on true love. Unfortunately, euthanizing lovely boyfriends is still very illegal. Can we dysthanize the lovely boyfriend instead?
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The_Franz posted:On the one hand the guy is clearly an rear end in a top hat and good riddance to him. On the other, op is a horse girl, so best of luck to her in finding someone who will not have issues with always being prioritized below a horse. My best friend is a horse girl and got insanely lucky because her beau is in like international IT or something and does not give a poo poo how much she wants to be with her horse They exist, but pairing them together is hard as hell since the combo is so rare
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Seth Pecksniff posted:My best friend is a horse girl and got insanely lucky because her beau is in like international IT or something and does not give a poo poo how much she wants to be with her horse How can you be best friends with a horse girl unless you are also a horse girl? The horse girl is coming from inside the thread.
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