blackmet posted:

It comes from Care and Feeding, but reads like AITA.

On the one hand, I get it. I'm less of a disaster than most of the people in my generation in my family. Because I need less, I get less attention. Because I'm not willing to be a bank, I get next to none.

But she also seems so whiny and insufferable that I get why she's not the favorite. And those gifts from sister and wife sound really thoughtful.

El Spamo posted:

How in the world do you break a game console.

Just, how? Do you open-palm slam the game disc into the slot and start doing all the tekken moves at full force?

El Spamo posted:

How in the world do you break a game console.

Just, how? Do you open-palm slam the game disc into the slot and start doing all the tekken moves at full force?

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I (29f) have been with the same guy (28m) for 7 years. Over the years there have been so many things that I get excited over and he makes me feel dumb for it or there will be something I like and he’ll make fun of me for liking it and call me childish or whatever depending on what said item is. For example I’m a huge superhero fan and having action figures makes me childish. My plants take up too much room (most of them are in a room we don’t use). I collect cool rocks and “it’s pointless”. Crocheting makes me an old lady. Etc etc. I’ve tried saying things and it just doesn’t matter. How do I deal with this?

TLDR: fiancé hates everything that makes me happy and idk what to do any more.

Edit to add: we already have kids together and I’m a sahm

Bubblyblubber posted:

Everyone keeps going on and on about acid vat this and acid vat that and honestly I think you all might be a little childish, I say, while being bodily dunked into the acid vat


He hates everything that brings me joy.

Bubblyblubber posted:

He hates everything that brings me joy.

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My brother is getting married and he's excited to share details with us for the wedding. We all offered to help whenever they needed to. At first I was excited to help until I found out what kind of thing the wedding will be. Now not one person in my side of the family is excited to help with the planning and the wedding in general.

First of all in my family we honor traditions. My brother claims he's none traditional and neither is his fiancée so tradition will play a small role in their wedding but their wedding won't be centered around it. That means no traditional music or practices we have regarding the ceremony or even the reception. I told him it's lovely to do a non traditional wedding when most of our family are people of tradition and he shouldn't expect people to enjoy the wedding if it's like a club. He said that's not his problem to deal with and that whoever doesn't like it can simply not attend. This pissed me off because wedding is also about families and he doesn't seem to take our opinions into consideration at all.

He also decided not to invite many relatives and chose to keep his budget low and decided to take relatives off the guest list so he could invite more friends. My mother, father and I tried to talk him out of it but he said the next time we try to police what he'll do with the wedding he'll consider removing us from the planning and anything related to the wedding.

I tried to talk some sense into the bride but she wouldn't give me a straight answer whenever I'd try to speak with her she would only say stuff like " we will see" or "we'll think about it". My brother cussed me off for trying to put his fiancée in an uncomfortable position and claimed that I'm trying to guilt trip and manipulate her. I told him that I can't support and be ok with his wedding choices and plans because they're offensive to our family and that they're being ridiculous by removing everything traditional from it. He claims I'm an AH.

Bubblyblubber posted:

Everyone keeps going on and on about acid vat this and acid vat that and honestly I think you all might be a little childish, I say, while being bodily dunked into the acid vat


He hates everything that brings me joy.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my brother that his and his fiancées choices for their wedding are offensive and ridiculous?

Bubblyblubber posted:

Everyone keeps going on and on about acid vat this and acid vat that and honestly I think you all might be a little childish, I say, while being bodily dunked into the acid vat


He hates everything that brings me joy.

Captain Hygiene posted:

No, I will not be providing further context at this moment

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So my bf and I have been together for 8 months. We get along and everything. I don't like chocolate, except dark chocolate (like jr mints). I had a dairy allergy when I was a kid and even though I outgrew it for the most part I just don't like chocolate. My boyfriend seems to think he'll get me to like chocolate because "all girls like chocolate and it's weird I don't ".

He's given me chocolate for every holiday, either with a different gift or chocolate was the gift. He tells me to "just try it" so I do and end up disliking it so he eats it. It's annoying to put thought into his gift and he keeps purposely getting me something I dislike.

We did valentine's yesterday and he gave me three things of chocolate. I was sorta annoyed and he said I was being ungrateful and "valentine's is a chocolate holiday so what do you expect " (my ex bf one time got me donuts for valentine's day because he knew I hated chocolate). I told him I'm never going to like chocolate and it's not funny or whatever he thinks it is.

He said most girls like chocolate and I should be happy that he even remembers to get a gift that it's not his fault I'm so picky. Maybe he's right and I'm just being stubborn or something.

AITA?

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My (32f) daughter Chloe (4f) has a fascination with princesses. She loves the color pink, wears only dresses, and has an array of tiaras she wears everywhere except at pre-school where she can’t (but she does have it in her backpack).

My cousin 33m ‘Alex’ (fake names) invited us to his wedding, which was this past Saturday. Chloe was excited because she got to dress up and stay dressed up the entire time. She also couldn’t wait to see the bride’s dress. She asked if she could wear her princess tiara and I said of course.

We got to the wedding on time. However, the start time was delayed for unknown reasons. 15 minutes after it was supposed to start, one of the bridesmaids came out and told me that the bride Jen (31f) was refusing to come out because my daughter was wearing a tiara. I thought she was joking but she wasn’t. Apparently, the bride was also wearing a tiara and wanted to be the only one wearing it.

I told the bridesmaid that Chloe loves tiaras and always wears them. The bridesmaid said “not today she isn’t” and told me it needed to be removed. I said no. The bride is a grown woman and was being petty over a child’s tiara.

The bridesmaid left for a couple minutes and then Alex himself came out. He told me to leave. I asked why and he said because I won’t tell Chloe to take off her tiara. I said this was ridiculous and Alex said it’s not my wedding and when I get married then Chloe can wear one to mine, but that I’m officially uninvited regardless. Others around me told me to just take it off and I wouldn’t. Alex’s mom came over and escorted us out.

Chloe was upset and crying because she feels she did something wrong and I’m upset because I can’t believe someone would be jealous over a literal 4 year old. I also feel bad because Chloe was really looking forward to seeing Jen’s dress because she loves wedding dresses. But literally no one is on my side. AITA?

Edit: someone asked if my cousin has a mental illness. I said no but the bride has Aspergers and they said that’s important for you all to know.

Soylent Pudding posted:

I thought it was going to be a plantation wedding or something but now if I'd have to bet I'd say it's more likely the family is pissed they're not using the traditional plantation venue.

AITA for being ungrateful that my boyfriend keeps getting me chocolate

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There is a whole web of he said she said and general drama in our friends group lately, so I want to focus on just one aspect of it: Does pursuing someone who wishes for no contact, when I believe a short respectful conversation would solve everything, mean I'm a bad person?

Someone I considered a close friend, Leo, is also friends with Lisa, who has an axe to grind with me and who spread a lie (let's call it X) despite me having undebatable evidence that X is a lie. Lisa literally admitted it's a lie out loud on the phone, not knowing that I have an app that records all my phone conversations automatically - but the evidence requires some good will on the listener's part since it's an audio file to listen to. My contacts with Leo were all very friendly, until about a month ago, when suddenly out of the blue, Leo just texted me "I can't be friends with someone who did X" and blocked my number and my social media accounts. Naturally, I concluded that Leo believed Lisa's lies... but Leo did not give me the opportunity to explain myself or show my evidence.

ALL I wanted was to reestablish truth with Leo. I tried several times to contact him, saying in essence "I want to clarify what is true here, if afterwards you still want to keep the friendship broken up, that's fair." I sent the evidence to Leo but I don't know if he read my explanations or listened to it. It's 100% silence answering my attempts. I went though intense emotional pain because of that. I tried to get over it, but the frustration of "this breakup has no good reason to exist, just talking would solve it" was seriously daily torture. Finally, yesterday, a mutual friend vaguebooked stuff that I thought was a dig at me, like "No means no even in friendships, you know who you are." I saw red and posted, in the comments, several paragraphs explaining the situation with Leo, screenshots of all my texts with Leo to show that we were super friendly even just the day before the sudden text breakup, and a link to the audio evidence.

I received intense backlash for this, several people told me that even if I didn't do X, the mere act of pursuing Leo after the breakup and especially making a public post of personal drama retroactively justifies Leo hating my guts. I lost several friends over this, they think I acted unhinged. I don't deny it was a bad idea to plaster all that on social media, so I don't wonder anything about he fairness of breakups due to the Facebook posts. But I DO wonder about Leo's choice to go no contact based on a lie, and the fact I just wanted to talk to clear up the lie being considered, in itself, an evil act too.

Halloween Jack posted:

AITA for pursuing an ex-friend who broke our friendship based on a lie, because I want to reestablish truth?

Halloween Jack posted:

AITA for pursuing an ex-friend who broke our friendship based on a lie, because I want to reestablish truth?

Halloween Jack posted:

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not knowing that I have an app that records all my phone conversations automatically

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for eating my wife’s food?
My wife is an extremely picky eater. It’s been a point of contention in our relationship for years. She claims it’s sensory but it can be a bit much. She won’t even try new things at restaurants and has embarrassed me many times by not finishing food at my moms house.

Her defence is she tries my moms food even though it sometimes makes her sick but my mom is an amazing cook nothing about her food makes people sick it’s just my wife’s pickiness.

A few months ago I put my foot down with my wife and said I wasn’t going to eat the same 10 or so meals she makes for dinner anymore and I wanted variety. She essentially told me “fine I’ll feed me, you feed you.” She even divided our food budget up and told me to start doing my own shopping.

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My fiance (32F) and I (23M) are in process of moving in together. I have been helping her move her stuff from her apartment but have just found something peculiar in the midst of it. Moving through the stuff in her closet, I have found out that she has a shrine dedicated to me. It was in a treasure chest of sorts and at 1st I thought nothing of it because it just contained pictures of us. But upon further inspection I have found out that she has been collecting personal belongings of mine. I have found my underwear, my toothbrush and an actual used condom of mine. The other belongings didn't disturb me as much but I think the condom takes the cake. I would like to talk about this with my fiance but I have no idea how to bring it up.

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This morning, my fiancee surprised me for Valentine's. She brought over a cookie cake and the icing read "Nice reaction sucker xoxo". She then started to laugh profusely and get red like a spawn of Satan before telling me the truth. Basically, the whole shrine and condom thing was a prank she has been planning ever since we've decided to move.

She even put a hidden camera phone charger in her room to get my reaction. I've just seen the footage and I look like a buffoon in headlights. I told her that I even posted on reddit to get advice on the matter and she has been starting to laugh like a maniac again.

She sounds like a hyena I swear.

Glad my fiancee isn't crazy but I hope our future kids don't have her sick sense of humor.

Hughlander posted:

Virgin after a year of marriage posted an update but i'm not loving linking it.

Kenshin posted:

how about a brief summary

Halloween Jack posted:

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why did they add it if they didn’t want people to do it
...
Ratio + I’ll crash before I stop playing pikmin

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I feel so dumb, I was driving around the walmart parking lot to see if i could get any banana pikmin (as they're the last ones I need in my supermarket decor set) and I was using the carplay detector feature I posted about a couple days ago.

Anyway, I was distracted since I saw the supermarket symbol pop up on my detector and I had to recharge it with coins. While I was doing this I was not looking and slammed right into a car backing out of their parking spot. The damage to both vehicles was pretty severe but luckily nobody was injured too severely (one person in the hospital but recovery is going well). Here's a pic of what my car looked like after the incident: https://imgur.com/idPy59m . I am still in shock that this happened and I am mainly just upset and betrayed that they would add this feature to carplay, especially since they tell you not to play whilst driving every time you open the app.

And of course to top it all off, that scan only got me roadsides.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my brother that his and his fiancées choices for their wedding are offensive and ridiculous?

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commenter posted:

YTA - it's his wedding. His wishes. You, as the brother, should not be trying to control it.

If his friends are more supportive and present in his life, then they deserve spots over family.

I would've removed all of you from the wedding planning long ago. Nothing he's doing is rude, disrespectful, or strange.

You are absolutely trying to manipulate and guilt trip his fiance. *edited spelling

His choices don't have to coddle your beliefs. If they're offensive to you, don't go. But you're just upset your ego doesn't get to dictate the wedding your brother wants.

OP posted:

It's not about ego it's about respect and common sense and my brother and his fiancée seem to be affected by all these new age weddings where they believe family's input doesn't matter when it absolutely does.

commenter posted:

It is your brothers wedding. Maybe respect just wishes. Tradition is not something you have to do. It’s something some people do. But it is not required.

Is your family paying for the wedding? Because if they are not you have no input whatsoever. How would you like it if someone told you how to live your life?

YTA accept your brother and Gus future wife for who they are and take that stick out of where the sun don’t shine.

OP posted:

My family is paying but they'll pull out of their financial help if my brother doesn't make the wedding traditional.

commenter posted:

Then let them pull financial help. Weaponizing money to get your way is abuse. Plain and simple.

OP posted:

Are you serious right now?

Hughlander posted:

Therefore you get this instead!!

Detector = PimkinBloom Detector, apparently another Niantic game like Pokemon Go
TIL: You can use the detector while connected to Apple CarPlay!

Just a giant image about playing it in car but some nice quotes in the thread:

Then a day later...
DO NOT USE PIKMIN CARPLAY DETECTOR

Pope Corky the IX posted:

EDIT: Not the sort of thing to follow that post.

Halloween Jack posted:

To clarify, the cops are arresting OP's wife's stepfather, who has been sexually abusing her and controlling her life since she was a child.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

I don't remember the original post at all; what was the title of the "virgin after a year" one?