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mind the walrus: Sep 22, 2006

sephiRoth IRA posted:

This breaks my heart. She wanted to engage with this tradition so badly and her fuckface of a father poo poo all over her. He deliberately chose to ruin their relationship and she'll be the one who is blamed for decorum poisoning reasons. gently caress that guy. I hope he gets pancreatic cancer and dies horribly.

Plus you know he's gonna raise his son to be just like him

Yeah like the 20 year-old had an immature reaction but like, it's very clear that this girl and her dad have got some issues and he's not managing them well.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 15:18

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# ? May 29, 2024 15:58

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

AITA for refusing to wake up my husband and son every morning?

quote:

My husband (41m), son (16m), and I (42f) have our own bedrooms on separate floors of the house. Husband and son decided to buy Bluetooth devices that have a chime/�natural sunrise� alarm function. Unfortunately, the chime and light don�t wake them up. I get up at 6 and have to leave the house by 7 after I shower, feed the pets, put dinner in the crockpot, etc. AITA for insisting that the men of the house take responsibility for waking themselves up? They�ve been late to school/work several times in the last month and get annoyed at me because I left without making sure they were up and moving. I�ve suggested that they go to bed earlier, find a better alarm, blah blah blah, but neither one has changed anything.

Edit: Thanks for the suggestions and support. I�ve ordered an air horn (yes really!) and it�s nice to know I�m NAH. Will continue to work with son- it�s not too late for him!

# ? Feb 26, 2022 15:35

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

How about some more weird tattoo poo poo:

AITA for giving my honest opinion about an acquaintance’s serial killer tattoo?

quote:

A friend of a friend who I’ve met only a handful of times recently got a massive sleeve tattoo that features iconography of several different serial killers. A dog for The Son of Sam, the zodiac symbol for the Zodiac killer, that sort of thing.

Today I went to a BBQ and they were there showing off the tattoo. Someone asked what inspired them to get it and they replied that they were obsessed with true crime and that they wanted a piece featuring their ‘favorite serial killers.’ When I heard them say this, I involuntarily made a shocked and not so polite noise and they heard it. They said, ‘You have something to say about it?’, and so I told the truth - that I think it’s really weird and disrespectful to the victims to glorify serial killers to the point that you’d have favorites and that you’d permanently ink them on your body.

They said that they don’t glorify what these killers did, but that the tattoo is a symbol of their love of true crime. I didn’t say anything more, but I still think it’s tasteless and gross.

My friend said I was an AH for saying anything since the tattoo is already done and permanent, and because I barely have a relationship to this person, so I should have kept my mouth shut. But they did ask me what I had to say. AITA?

"Am I out of touch?

No, it's the people weirded out by me decorating my body with serial killer iconography who are wrong."

# ? Feb 26, 2022 16:01

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

I mean I studied a lot of true crime and serial killer poo poo, but never once have I thought to get a tattoo of any of them.

Someone who has a full sleeve of them? poo poo, a full sleeve of Nazi poo poo is almost better because at least then they can't hide behind "i just love real life crime!"

'But this is a house showing Fred and Rose West, and this fridge here is for Dahmer, and the KFC and Jaycees logo is for Gacy, and the classic car and cop badge is for the Hillside Stranglers!"

AITA for not wanting to speak to my Grandmother?

quote:

I (28M) am starting to get flak from family for quietly cutting off my grandma.

A little background, a few years ago, I found out that I wasn�t my Dad�s biological son. This came about through DNA tests, then it took a year for my mom to admit that she made me with another man.

The very same week, my dad also found out that his dad (my grandpa) wasn�t his biological father either. That his mom had kept this a secret, from everyone, for 52 years.

My grandma is a sweet southern Christian woman. Sociable, strong headed, nurturing�family is the biggest part of her life. But this desire to keep this image of �perfect-family� has taken a weird turn. My grandfather passed from Alzheimer�s last year, but would�ve been lucid enough to understand the truth back in 2017 to understand the truth when we found out.

My grandma�s original plan: go to the grave with this secret. And now my grandfather is dead and he never knew that 2 of his 4 children were never his, biologically. This was the final instance that led me to say �I don�t really want to be a part of this family anymore.� A few members of the family still don�t know, I talked to a cousin about it a few months ago and he said no one told him anything, this was the first time he heard about it.

I haven�t spoken to my mom in about a year. I know that I�m putting emotions from my mom onto my grandma because the both committed the same �sin� (Note: I�m no longer religious, but still speak to them in those terms). I just can�t look past a 52 year lie to your whole family and letting your partner go to his grave without knowing.

So, Am I The rear end in a top hat for cutting out my grandma?

TL;DR - I�m a bastard, my dad is a bastard. And grandma doesn�t want anyone to know.

Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 16:12 on Feb 26, 2022

# ? Feb 26, 2022 16:09

Sisal Two-Step: May 29, 2006; mom without jaw
dad without wife

i'm taking all the Ls now, sorry

AITA for reading romance novels despite it making my Boyfriend uncomfortable?

quote:

I (29F) am a huge lover of romance novels, doesn't matter how bad or "Trashy" they are they are fun to just veg out to as they require very little focus, I do enjoy more nuanced books too but they require more focus and I don't always have the energy for that. I've currently been binging all of Susan Trombleys books (10/10 would recommend if you like the sci-fi/fantasy romance novels).

My boyfriend (30M) has never liked me reading these kind of books in our 2 years of dating as they make him "Uncomfortable" so I stopped reading them around him, I figure while not every book in this genre is pornographic a fair few are so that was likely why he was uncomfortable so I didn't push further. We are discussing moving in together and he has told me he doesn't want my books on the bookshelves as it's embarrassing to have them out in the open like that, I told him if he'd prefer i'll keep them on a bookshelf that isn't in the Livingroom of the House where guests could see it, but no, turns out he doesn't want them on a bookshelf at all.

I ended up asking him wtf his issue was and told him they were harmless, he has told me I make him feel uncomfortable by enjoying these kind of books as they seem low intelligence, and that I also make him feel "Less" like he's not enough. I told him that he was of course enough and pointed out how him watching porn doesn't mean I am not enough for him does it? but he refuses to see the similarity.

I always figured it was harmless to read these kind of books, I don't get why it makes him so uncomfortable. Maybe i'm the rear end in a top hat for still reading them despite knowing he feels this way?

lol. lmao even.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 16:17

Sisal Two-Step: May 29, 2006; mom without jaw
dad without wife

i'm taking all the Ls now, sorry

"romance novels are lowbrow and stupid. porn is uhhhhhhh. it's uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh"

# ? Feb 26, 2022 16:18

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

Porn is for ME, romance novels are escapism fantasy for my woman who should only experience sexual things when I want her to. For me.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 16:26

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

I remember chattin up a girl at a party and somehow the conversation turned to porn, which she understood was something people were into, but had never really been her thing. Then another guy chimed in that trashy romance novels are like lady porn, and she said she'd never read those either. I, being a gentleman of impeccable class, started quoting GRRM sex scenes from memory and suggested that that's how all romance novels read, and she got a little flustered and admitted that she thought that sounded pretty hot.

I should ask her if she ever picked up any reading materials, if I bump into her again.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 16:40

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

Captain Hygiene posted:

How about some more weird tattoo poo poo:

AITA for giving my honest opinion about an acquaintance’s serial killer tattoo?

"Am I out of touch?

No, it's the people weirded out by me decorating my body with serial killer iconography who are wrong."

I was into true crime for a bit when I was younger. Then I saw unredacted crime scene photos from one murderer who'd just gone to town hurting someone before he killed her and that was the end of that.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 17:11

Lady Jaybird: Jan 23, 2014; to ride eternal, shiny and chrome

THUNDERDOME LOSER 2022

From a page back but Andrew Hussie peaked at Problem sleuth :colbert:

# ? Feb 26, 2022 17:25

Das Boo: Jun 9, 2011; There was a GHOST here.
It's gone now.

I like true crime well enough that my other considered career path was in forensics, but gently caress me if I ever felt respect for a serial killer. If I got a TC tattoo it'd be related to Alexander Gettler so I could talk up a real good forensic chemist.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 18:16

ilmucche: Mar 16, 2016; What did you say the strategy was?

dervinosdoom posted:

From a page back but Andrew Hussie peaked at Problem sleuth

Problem sleuth was really good. Homestuck went weird places from the start and wasn't as good

# ? Feb 26, 2022 18:26

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for refusing to make one of my daughters give a ring back just because the other one is jealous?

quote:

Please help me, I'm in an impass because I think I'm doing the correct thing but my daughter and wife don't think so.

I have two daughters, Jo (25F) and Pri (17F), Jo got engaged last year to Ethan (30M) and Pri has been dating Kyle(18) for two years now. Both of my daughters boyfriend's come from good families, but Ethan got cut off because he decided to marry my daughter and while Kyle still has access to his family's money yet he doesn't give her outrageous gifts.

Jo has dreamed with her wedding for years, but without Ethan's side she had to sacrifice a lot of the things she'd always wanted in order to save for their future, my wife and I thought that, after all the things she's giving up the least we could do is pay for her dream dress, Jo refused at first of course, but after much talking she agreed under the condition that we set a price.

Well, last Saturday Pri came home happy and told us that Kyle had given her a promise ring for their two year anniversary and she showed us, it's cute and it did looked expensive, but it wasn't as notorious or even more beautiful that Jo's engagement ring, it looked elegant but normal.

A few days pass and then Jo comes home yelling at Pri for being "a jealous brat", an "inconsiderate" and "attention seeker", my wife and I asked what was wrong and she said that Pri's rings was more expensive than her own and that it was double of the price we set for her dress, Pri said that she didn't know because Kyle gave it to her out of nowhere and Jo demanded her to give it back because it wasn't fair that she was struggling to pay for her wedding while she got something that expensive so easily. Pri looked at us and my wife said that Jo waa right and it wasn't fair, so she had to give it back, she looked so sad and said that she promise not to wear it at the wedding but to please not make her give it back because it meant so much for her, my wife said no but I said that she could keep it and that if the price was the problem, I could double what we set for the dress but this made Jo madder because I was "spoiling and protecting Pri" but I told her that she was being unfair because it's not like Pri asked for the ring nor was she getting engaged. She made a compromise to not wear it at the wedding so it wasn't fair she was making her give it back out of jealousy. Jo started to cry and this made Pri cry too, she said some hurtful things to her sister and Pri only stood there and listen.

My wife is on Jo's said and both are trying to guilt-trip Pri into give it back, specially my wife. She even suggested that Pri can sell it and give Jo the money as an act of good faith but I told her that if they really need the money I can give it but to leave Pri alone. She said I'm an AH because I'm a man and I "could never understand".

ETA: I will talk with my daughter and wife in the morning so we can set this nonsense once and for all. I'll contact Kyle so he can remove Pri out of the situation first and I'll tell them that under no circumstances the ring will be given back.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 19:20

Blastedhellscape: Jan 1, 2008

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for exposing my mom's double life?

"I used to think my mom was this boring, wholesome person, but then I read her diary and it turns out she's rad as hell. And for some reason this makes me VERY MAD!"

# ? Feb 26, 2022 19:35

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA For Making My Childhood Friend Run Away Crying After Calling Her A Self-Centered Whore?

quote:

Yes, I know it sounds bad, and it possibly is. So growing up, I was best friends with this girl I'll call "Trish". We were supper close ever since we were in diapers (we were like sisters). Trish was the most important person in my life and I would put her needs before mine. And I wish I could say that she'd do the same for me, but she didn't. She would always make fun of the way I look, stealing/breaking my things, and getting me in trouble. I know I should have stopped being her friend, but I thought she was only doing that stuff to help me and because she loved me. Don't get me wrong, there were fun times. When we were little, Trish would make stupid, childish comments. But it hurt hearing those things from her hurt, especially growing up as an insecure little girl. As we got older though, it got alot worse. To The point where I felt guilty when I ate and set crazy expectations for myself. She would tell me stuff like "You workout so much and still look like that?" "If you keep going like this, you'll never find someone to love you." "You really weigh THAT much?" I didn't only realize until recently that she was a horrible friend. I wanted to believe so badly that she would grow up and mature more. I talked to her about the situation, but she told me to take a joke. Well, things carried on as usual until a couple days ago when I had my family over at my house for dinner. Trish walked in (unannounced) and started talking to my parents. All she talked about was me. My parents were visibly uncomfortable. She then turned around, walked up to me, started laughing, grabbed my arm fat, and said "Just a few more pounds off then you'll have boys all over you like I do." I yanked my arm back and started to yell at her, saying "Hell! I'd rather be single my whole life than to be a self-centered whore like you!" She ran out in tears and apparently told all of our friends what happened. I feel bad. My mom and most of my friends are saying that I overreacted and I should apologize. My father, the rest of my family, and a few of my friends think that I was totally justified. But I need to know, am I the rear end in a top hat?

# ? Feb 26, 2022 19:43

Vinny Possum: Sep 21, 2015; THUNDERDOME LOSER

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for exposing my mom's double life?

The mom should disown that ungrateful brat.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 19:55

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Motronic posted:

I just found the thing that got me banned from r/relationships a couple years ago in an old text file. I started responding with this:

Yes, people are told to break up/get divorced a lot here. It's probably what you should do too because when someone thinks the most logical course of action is to ask for relationship advice on an anonymous social media platform one or both people in that relationship are often: [ ] incapable of meaningful communication [ ] lack basic problem solving skills [ ] physically, [ ] emotionally or [ ] financially abusive [ ] cheating or [ ] the side piece [ ] have an untenable age and life experience gap [ ] still enmeshed with [ ] mommy [ ] daddy [ ] checked out of the relationship [ ] too immature to be in a relationship -[ ] and doesn't know how to clean a house -[ ] and doesn't know how to wash their own rear end [ ] too emotionally unhealthy to be in a relationship Reddit relationship response template v2.41 (C)2020, no rights reserved

lmao

# ? Feb 26, 2022 20:06

Vinny Possum: Sep 21, 2015; THUNDERDOME LOSER

AITA for refusing to sell my dog to SIL?

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I have a 3 year old Pomeranian. She's up to date on all shots. Spayed. Monthly groomed. Well loved and my fur baby.

I'm currently almost 30 weeks pregnant (high risk pregnancy due to previous losses and stillborns) so I am being told to take it easy as possible.

So my husband has taken over most dog duties for now (walking and such)

Now SIL recently lost her dog of 16years and is wanting a new dog. She asked to doggysit our Pomeranian for the night which my husband jumped at the opportunity (she has a habit of waking up at 3am for a walk. So he was happy to get a full night's sleep)

SIL had the dog no less than 5 hours. Spamming us with photos how well she was "adapting" to her house. And asked if she could buy our dog from us.

My husband immediately said no. He said "I know I joke about saying I hate her. But it's just I hate walking in the snow every few hours. I dislike the chore. My wife and I love the dog. She's amazing and so well behaved and loving"

Which is true. She has endless paitence with our son. She's extremely friendly and lovable. She's well trained. She just REALLY likes going out in the snow right now.

My SIL is distraught saying she needs the dog more than we do. We have a baby on the way and will be too busy for the dog. And that she's willing to "pay 2,000 for the dog and let us visit whenever we want too"

We've firmly said no. This dog was a gift from my husband after I had a one of my miscarriages. She's very special to me. She's also good at detecting when I have anxiety and snuggling up to me during these times.

Am I being an rear end in a top hat here ? My SIL can't have kids. Dogs are her life. But I absolutely love my dog and I don't want to part with her. But SIL is making me feel really guilty about having "kids and a dog"

She also reminded me I also have pet sugar gliders and that "kids and sugar gliders should be enough"

Give me your dog.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 20:08

Pookah: Aug 21, 2008; 🪶Caw🪶

I scan read that as

quote:

I have a 3 year old Pomeranian. She's up to date on all shots. Spayed Monthly.

And had this brief mental image of them just going in there every month to check for any lurking ovaries or uteruses.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 20:26

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Captain Hygiene posted:

How about some more weird tattoo poo poo:

AITA for giving my honest opinion about an acquaintance�s serial killer tattoo?

"Am I out of touch?

No, it's the people weirded out by me decorating my body with serial killer iconography who are wrong."

The only acceptable ~~serial~~ cereal killer tattoo is Toucan, Son of Sam.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 20:47

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

Try to convince that person to get an American Vandal tattoo

# ? Feb 26, 2022 21:32

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby 2 years ago and its not my dads

quote:

This situation is really messing with my head and at this pont my own mother and grandmother are near enough attempting to bribe me to stay quiet.

So i(20f) am one of 4(or so I believed until a few days ago) there is me, my twin brother Eddie(20m) and two older half siblings ruben(24m) and grace(23f) ruben is my moms first child and grace is my dad's(45m) first also. So around 2 years ago our grandmother on my moms side had cancer and my mom went and moved in with her for a while to help and care for her, we didn't see her throughout this whole time as my grandmother lives halfway across the country plus at the time I and my bro was busy with last year school exams and ruben was staying with his dad in England so nobody could go out to visit, not even dad to see his wife cause he was really busy with work himself. Mom was gone for a total of 6 months and when she got back she had changed, she seemed very sad and would constantly be all over me and my brother, I assumed she just missed us while she was gone. Two years passed since then and on a visit home when doing things around the house I knocked over my moms handbag and everything fell out, naturally I cleaned up but in my moms wallet there was a picture sticking out of her with a newborn baby in a hospital bed. I was confused at first and thought maybe it was her with me or one of my brothers as babies but it was dated from the time she was away with my gran. I ended up confronting my mom about it and she froze at first but then tried brushing me off and changing the subject but I wouldn't let her, I wanted to know why she was in a hospital bed with a baby around the time she was gone, either she tell me or I show dad I told her. That's when she started crying and told me everything, she had an affair with another man that's not my dad, she started her affair in 2018, got knocked up in 2019 and gave birth early 2020. I have a baby brother, she had a secret baby and nobody noticed. My gran knew and covered for her, she never had cancer and she just lied about the chemo and surgeries, how could I be so stupid?!?!?! I'm so angry with her. I asked her about the pregnancy and the other man, turns out she didn't go to my grans to have the baby but just the other end of town to her AP's house and just didn't leave his house and what's worse is that he AP was 24 at the time with 2 kids already, but at least he was single. She stayed with her AP and his kids while going through her pregnancy and left the baby with him. I asked more about this man, looked him up and I know him! He is the son of a family friend and I've seen him around town with my baby brother and didn't even know it.

I've not been doing well since finding all this out, my mom keeps trying to talk to me but I either lock her out of the room I'm in or be around my dad so she can't talk about it and whenever she does get a chance to talk to me she does whatever she can to try and keep my quiet, even tried bribing me with money or shopping trips and even got my gran try and guilt trip me. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any experience with stuff like this? Any advice they can give me? Do I reach out to this man and ask about my brother? Do I tell my dad? I don't even know if she's still continuing the affair or if she's in my brothers life at all.

TLDR: my mom had a secret baby 2 years ago with a family friend and somehow the family didn't notice as my grandmother covered for her.

[
UPDATE] I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby and its not my dads

quote:

Hello, if you don't know what the issue was then the story is linked above or just read the title.

So those who dm'd me and friends I have spoken with all told me to tell my dad and thats what I did. At first he was in complete and utterly denial and even when I showed him the picture of my mom with my secret baby brother and used the texts my mom and gran sent me as proof. I had never seen him cry before, ever! Not even when my uncle died a few years ago I never saw him tear up. Eventually my mom came home and my dad just screamed and shouted at her, it was awful. I showed everything to my brothers and sister and my half sister actually got into a physical fight with my mom. I felt so guilty about saying all this, mom has gone to my grandma's, neither of my brothers are talking to her and when it got out who my moms affair partner was my moms friend group kinda disowned her in a way as he(26m) was the son of one of her close friends who already had kids. I wish I could just go back to not knowing about any of this. I don't think my family will ever recover, my older half brother is in England and is adamant on staying there, my brother is angry with mom and isn't speaking to her either, dad is just crying and saying his going to hire a cutthroat lawyer to divorce my mom and mom is distraught blaming me but is demanding I talk to her as she doesn't want to loose anymore of her children

TLDR: mom had a secret affair baby and grandma covered for her, told dad and everyone has cut mom off, am feeling a lot of guilt

# ? Feb 26, 2022 21:37

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

Hughlander posted:

I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby 2 years ago and its not my dads

[
UPDATE] I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby and its not my dads

Nuke mom from space. Ballsy to just stay in the same fuckin town though

# ? Feb 26, 2022 21:43

PancakeTransmission: May 27, 2007; You gotta improvise, Lisa: cloves, Tom Collins mix, frozen pie crust...; Plaster Town Cop

Hughlander posted:

I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby 2 years ago and its not my dads

on a visit home when doing things around the house I knocked over my moms handbag and everything fell out, naturally I cleaned up but in my moms wallet there was a picture sticking out of her with a newborn baby in a hospital bed.

Ah yes, the ol "knock over the handbag and then rifle through the wallet while you're there", complete accident

# ? Feb 26, 2022 21:46

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Seth Pecksniff posted:

I threaten my one cat all the damned time

"You rear end in a top hat! I'm gonna turn you into tonight's dinner! Get your rear end out of there you annoying piece of poo poo!"

Granted I usually do it while kissing him and holding him but still. He doesn't know the difference and doesn't care! It's what cat owners do because they don't give a poo poo about what you say, only the tone

This was maybe 2 threads ago in the before times, but there was a Native American person working in an animal shelter who did the same thing and got reported because the coworker was geinuely worried the OP was going to eat the animals.

Hughlander posted:

I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby 2 years ago and its not my dads

[
UPDATE] I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby and its not my dads

Got to the age of the affair partner and rapidly scrolled up to check the age of the affair baby in question.

That's uh, quite a way to destroy your life with both family AND friends.

pentyne fucked around with this message at 21:52 on Feb 26, 2022

# ? Feb 26, 2022 21:49

The Maroon Hawk: May 10, 2008

pentyne posted:

This was maybe 2 threads ago in the before times, but there was a Native American person working in an animal shelter who did the same thing and got reported because the coworker was geinuely worried the OP was going to eat the animals.

I seem to recall the person reporting the OP in that one also having some relevant childhood trauma from their grandma or someone cooking their pet rabbit into a stew and only telling them after they'd consumed it all

# ? Feb 26, 2022 22:15

Vinny Possum: Sep 21, 2015; THUNDERDOME LOSER

WIBTA if I don�t attend my daughter�s wedding

quote:

My (M48) wife (Samantha F43) and I adopted our daughter (Cassandra F22) when she was 4 months old. Her bio mom (f38) was a junkie who wanted to get an abortion before her parents got involved and made her keep it.

We provided Cassandra with a nice life in a well-off town, and she even attended a private school. After me and Samantha divorced due to me meeting my new wife, Ashley (F35), almost 10 years ago, Cassandra went through a bit of a rebellious faze that continued until she was about 16. I feared she was going to end up like her birth mom, but between the divorce and welcoming a new child, my hands were tied, so I sent her to live with her grandparents.

What I didn�t know is that her bio mom lived in the same town as my former in-laws and some how Cassandra and her got in touch. They became close, and Cassandra even skipped Ashley�s birthday one year to go on vacation with her bio mom. I hated how close they got, especially knowing the bio moms' past, so I moved Cassandra back in with us, but she moved right after graduation. My ex doesn�t mind the relationship since the bio mom isn�t trying to replace her, but it�s pretty close.

Now onto the conflict. Cassandra is getting married to Ayden (M34) and I�m supposed to pay for the entire thing, which I have no problem doing. However, when I found out that her bio mom was going to be a maid of honor after my ex declined, I lost it. She literally gave her up and wanted her to abort her, and now she�s acting like their best friends. My wife has been an amazing mother figure to Cassandra, and the fact that she�s choosing some random addict over her is disgusting. I�m not going to not pay for the wedding. I love my daughter and I want her to be happy, but I decided to not attend the wedding as it pains me and my wife to see her bio mom taking my wife�s place as a second mother figure.

My son (M20) tells me I�m being a dick.

"After me and Samantha divorced due to me meeting my new wife"

# ? Feb 26, 2022 22:22

mind the walrus: Sep 22, 2006

The Maroon Hawk posted:

I seem to recall the person reporting the OP in that one also having some relevant childhood trauma from their grandma or someone cooking their pet rabbit into a stew and only telling them after they'd consumed it all

...

...

So that OP ripped off Fatal Attraction?

# ? Feb 26, 2022 22:32

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

AITA for saying that my son's fiancee has an attitude?

quote:

My son "Blake" got engaged to his then girlfriend "Eve" right after she got pregnant. Me and her I'd like to say...don't have the best relationship but, I do try to get on the same page as her but what I've noticed recently that she just doesn't like me.

For example#, I offered her and Blake to go see a house I found in the area we live in while they were looking, Blake agreed and was happy witg the idea but Eve...didn't.

example#2, When she got pregnant she returned the nursery and framed photos I brought, and kept me out of the name suggestions.

example#3 which took place last night...Blake and Eve were stopping by for dinner, I asked if it was okay that I throw her a baby shower party and she declined saying her mom was already on it. I was upset not gonna lie, and what she said was sort of the straw that broke the camel's back. I waited til she went to the bathroom and out loud told Blake and the family that Eve was being rude and unaccepting of me for no good reason. Blake asked that I calm down and apologized to me but I told him that it was quite clear his fiancee has an attitude and it doesn't work for me. She must've heard cause she came back looking red in the face and told Blake she wanted to go home immediately.

Blake took her to the car then, got back and started arguing with me at the door saying Eve just heard what I said and that I messed up royally. I told him to take it easy, I was just stating how I felt about the way she's been treating me and he said that if Eve has an attitude then, I should say the same about mysrlf for my passive-aggressive behavior and overbearing slights every time she's around. I was in dismay, The family got involved and told Blake that he shouldn't speak to me like that and that Eve could stop expecting us to walk on eggshells around her. I left them fighting and took a seat. He eventially left but called this morning saying this was clearly a misunderstanding, and that he wants to bring Eve over so we could talk. I told him she could come after he apologizes for the scene last night. He wasn't happy and claimed that I started this whole drama with my remarks. he went on to lecture me about how I should treat Eve, and said that he won't let this keep going when the baby is here. I took it as an offense and my husband agreed that Blake is being an enabler here.

Neither of them called yet after that. My older son wants to speak to Blake on on one about it.

She wouldn't let me pick their house or the baby's name or the nursery or the shower. What a bitch, amirite?

# ? Feb 26, 2022 22:33

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for repeating what my bf said to me?

quote:

I (24f) have been dating my bf (25m) for about 6 months now. For the past few days he has been making comment about my breast size. Now I�m aware that I have small boobs. I have never really cared much until his comments. Well it�s also worth mentioning that my bf isn�t the biggest guy out there, about 4 inches. Well last night he started up again and said �you know they have surgery for that� and motioned towards my chest. I don�t know why I did it but I repeated �you know they have surgery for that� and motioned towards his waist area. Now he�s not speaking to me. So Aita?

By the end of the second sentence I was hoping that's where it was going...

# ? Feb 26, 2022 22:38

Pigsfeet on Rye: Oct 22, 2008; I'm meat on the hoof

Hughlander posted:

I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby 2 years ago and its not my dads

[
UPDATE] I(20f) found out my mother(43f) had a secret baby and its not my dads

This is the second story this weekend where the OP was named Stacy

Hughlander posted:

AITA for repeating what my bf said to me?

By the end of the second sentence I was hoping that's where it was going...

Glass houses, nuclear weapons

# ? Feb 26, 2022 22:40

wizardofloneliness: Dec 30, 2008

Vinny Possum posted:

WIBTA if I don�t attend my daughter�s wedding
�it pains me and my wife to see her bio mom taking my wife�s place as a second mother figure.�

Dude, your wife is in third place if she�s even in the running at all.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 22:45

limp_cheese: Sep 10, 2007; Nothing to see here. Move along.

Vinny Possum posted:

WIBTA if I don’t attend my daughter’s wedding

However, when I found out that her bio mom was going to be a maid of honor after my ex declined

My wife has been an amazing mother figure to Cassandra,

If she was an amazing mother figure why did she decline to be a part of the bridal party? This dude is incredibly delusional and using throwaway lines to dismiss some really important background. Like offhand mentioning how he forced her back home but the second she could leave all you saw was a dust outline of her where she was standing.

Mx. posted:

AITA for storming out after l didn't like the birthday present l was given?

If he gives it to me, it will leave the family since I'll get married to a man and join his family

I always laugh at this bullshit logic. When men get married they stay in the family but when women get married they leave the family. Tell me you think women are property without telling me you think women are property.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 22:47

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Vinny Possum posted:

WIBTA if I don�t attend my daughter�s wedding

"After me and Samantha divorced due to me meeting my new wife"

Glosses straight over abandoning her to the grandparents in favor of new wife and kid.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 23:12

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for making my co-workers think I�m married?

quote:

Hello, I (32 F) have been working at a law firm for 6 years. My high school sweetheart (J) died at 24. Before he died he had proposed, I said yes. I was so struck with grief that I could never bring myself to take off the ring he gave me.

Around 2 years ago I finally moved on and chose to adopt a girl, (L). Everyone at the firm assumes I�m married due to the ring and kid.

One of my co-workers (C) apparently had a crush on me. I invited a group of friends from work over for my birthday and they all asked about my husband. I told them how he had passed and it was just me and my daughter. They were all a bit shocked but didn�t say more, except for C. He lost it and said �So you�ve just been lying to us?? For all these years? I can�t believe you!� And stormed out. He didn�t show up to work for a day and when he returned he didn�t even look me in the eye. A few co-workers asked me to apologize but I just don�t think I need to. I�m just wondering if I�m the rear end in a top hat.

BUT C'S JUST A NICE GUY

# ? Feb 26, 2022 23:29

Rescue Toaster: Mar 13, 2003

Mx. posted:

AITA for making my co-workers think I�m married?

BUT C'S JUST A NICE GUY

That's just as deceitful as a woman saying she has a boyfriend to deny good guys like C their god-given right to hit on them.

Rescue Toaster fucked around with this message at 23:46 on Feb 26, 2022

# ? Feb 26, 2022 23:43

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

limp_cheese posted:

If she was an amazing mother figure why did she decline to be a part of the bridal party? This dude is incredibly delusional and using throwaway lines to dismiss some really important background. Like offhand mentioning how he forced her back home but the second she could leave all you saw was a dust outline of her where she was standing.

I always laugh at this bullshit logic. When men get married they stay in the family but when women get married they leave the family. Tell me you think women are property without telling me you think women are property.

Adoptive mum said no to being in the bridal party, not the current wife.

# ? Feb 26, 2022 23:50

Vinny Possum: Sep 21, 2015; THUNDERDOME LOSER

Mx. posted:

AITA for making my co-workers think I�m married?

BUT C'S JUST A NICE GUY

I think C found the post.

quote:

YTA. Huge difference between people making assumptions and you outright lying. Since you obviously did the later, I can understand why people are upset. Thing is, you didn't have to tell anyone anything about your personal life. But you did and you lied about it, so that makes you an rear end in a top hat in this case. You could have just not opened up to anyone at work, and let you personal life remain private. You should certainly apologize, but I doubt it will make anything better with your coworkers. You've lost all credibility and for good reason.

# ? Feb 27, 2022 00:04

edgeman83: Jul 13, 2003

Edit: Mixed up tabs of same titled Reddit posts. Juiciness wasn't nearly as high.

As penitence:
AITA for threatening to throw my son out of the house for lying about taking my other son to the doctor?

quote:

My eldest son (Jacob) is 23 and my youngest is 10 (Mateo). I got a bill from the doctor for an examination for Mateo. Neither me nor his mom took him. We couldn't figure it out but it was on the day that Jacob was watching him. Jacob said the doctor's office had it backwards - he was at the doctor's not Mateo and it was personal.

He said he'd straighten it out. Apparently he paid the $15 co-pays which we didn't want him to do for HSA reasons. I called up the doctor's office and they confirmed it was for Mateo NOT Jacob.

I asked to speak to the doctor because none of this made sense. The doctor said that I made an appointment for Mateo because Mateo was having an issue "down there." He was examined and given a steroid cream rx. He said Jacob was there.

I confronted Jacob and he said Mateo was way too embarrassed to tell me and definitely not his mom about his issue. Jacob had a similar issue and needed the same treatment so he concocted this plan pretending to me to schedule an appointment with the family doctor.

I was LIVID. I told him that I was thisclose to throwing him out for doing what he did. He should have told me. I would have gone along but he didn't ask. I'm upset that Mateo didn't tell me.

Jacob said I was overreacting and their mom just rolled her eyes.

edgeman83 fucked around with this message at 00:26 on Feb 27, 2022

# ? Feb 27, 2022 00:15

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# ? May 29, 2024 15:58

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Vinny Possum posted:

I think C found the post.

yeah i think arson is the answer here. OP should burn down the whole workplace and maybe C's house for good measure

# ? Feb 27, 2022 00:18

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