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artsy fartsy posted:The most baffling part of this is the very last paragraph The wife has been far, far too tolerant
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Not wildly interesting but trying to kiss your partner during a movie is a "big boundary violation"? BBV
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Posting this because it puts a very pleasant image in my head and it's all I'm going to think about for the rest of the day:quote:Dear Care and Feeding,
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they're are services for AV products similar to the echo show that let you log in to the device remotely and even look through the camera, but I don't know if (and kind of doubt) that is available for consumer Amazon tablets like that. you also have to pay a subscription, and the ones I have seen do not do it secretly. it would be obvious if the camera was on and looking around also you have to be in front of it
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artsy fartsy posted:The most baffling part of this is the very last paragraph OP is aggravatingly close to being reasonable, but faltered a bit by listening to their inexplicably lovely friend, and not leaning further into reminding the brother he's living there on their generosity and will rapidly not be doing so if he doesn't cut that poo poo out. I wonder why the brother is divorced 
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Invisible Clergy posted:Looks like it's Tuesday again. lady hasn't heard of kissing the homies goodnight
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coronatae posted:Posting this because it puts a very pleasant image in my head and it's all I'm going to think about for the rest of the day:  *BOING* Yip! "OH HELL NO, I'M GOING INSIDE!"
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Antivehicular posted:NGL, if I ever end up with a glass eye, it'll be really tempting to start pulling revolting pranks with it Old post, but my cousin lost her eye as a newborn and was fitted with a prosthetic eye. Her favourite trick as a toddler was to take it off unnoticed, put it in her mouth during dinner and spit it out with the baby food.
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AITA for allowing a work acquaintance to embarrass herself by unknowingly asking my boyfriend out?quote:I (Paula, 31/F) attended a large, multi-day work conference that my boyfriend Tom (48/M) also attended. We work for different companies, network with different people, and pretty much only saw each other when it was time to go to sleep. Most people don't know we're together because neither of us have a social media presence or talk about our personal lives that much. I primarily stuck with the people I knew from my office (Sarah and Marilyn) and a couple of other people that I knew from school. I hope this spec script for Mean Girls 3 gets green lit!
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I had heard sp**k refer to spies, like CIA, as well as another word for ghost or monster before I knew it was a racial slur too. I also thought it was a super antiquated slur, so that was why people used it in other contexts. Do people who aren't 90 year old rednecks still use it as a slur?
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A Moose posted:I had heard sp**k refer to spies, like CIA, as well as another word for ghost or monster before I knew it was a racial slur too. I also thought it was a super antiquated slur, so that was why people used it in other contexts. Do people who aren't 90 year old rednecks still use it as a slur?
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ponzicar posted:I am just confused about the 3 straw method. You can drink quite quickly from a single straw already. Or even just gulp it straight from the rim. Three straw guy is amateur hour. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FnUOt5ahdwo
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:Three straw guy is amateur hour. that is not the result I expected 
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DoctorWhat posted:lady hasn't heard of kissing the homies goodnight Those homies were too pure for this world
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A Moose posted:I had heard sp**k refer to spies, like CIA, as well as another word for ghost or monster before I knew it was a racial slur too. I also thought it was a super antiquated slur, so that was why people used it in other contexts. Do people who aren't 90 year old rednecks still use it as a slur? I was confused for a second too, I think that one's a combo of not being part of the group it targets, and not being anywhere I've ever heard it used. I recognized it after it was pointed out, but it's not one that I would've remembered as problematic on my own, the CIA slang is the only one I would've thought of and even that's rare enough that I might miss it.
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Invisible Clergy posted:
Sorry for being a few pages back but this lady's friends are trying to convince her that her husband paying off the mortgage and buying a smart screen for the kitchen is abusive. I'm guessing the friends are trying to break them up for some reason.
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8one6 posted:Sorry for being a few pages back but this lady's friends are trying to convince her that her husband paying off the mortgage and buying a smart screen for the kitchen is abusive. I'm guessing the friends are trying to break them up for some reason. For some women, that idea that a man wouldn't spend a windfall on them first and instead use the money for long term financial stability is abusive behavior. I wouldn't even say they are trying, they just honestly think that situation is terrible and how dare he not take her to Bali for 3 weeks or something instead.
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What's funny is that the kid and her friends are probably way too young to recognize sp**k as a slur, but her parents seem like they probably know, and yet THAT's not the problem they have with the nickname. Because of course it isn't
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40, UK goon here and yes it's an old fashioned slur you don't hear anymore, but 80s and 90s it was known and thrown around.
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Maybe the nickname is not intended as a slur and as a girl she worked for the CIA, HMMMMM?!
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hawowanlawow posted:they're are services for AV products similar to the echo show that let you log in to the device remotely and even look through the camera, but I don't know if (and kind of doubt) that is available for consumer Amazon tablets like that. you also have to pay a subscription, and the ones I have seen do not do it secretly. it would be obvious if the camera was on and looking around There is zero hacking involved in the process 
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I usually only hear it in a CIA context, but I recognized it as an old-timey slur, just not one I've ever actually heard used except in some super racist old book I found in the library as a kid. I wasn't even 100% sure who it was racist against until now because I read it in a paragraph that was full of all sorts of wild slurs against every concievable non-white group to the point that I thought the author made some groups up just so they could be extra racist
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I knew all about that slur, but I am from Texas so...
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CaptainViolence posted:I usually only hear it in a CIA context, but I recognized it as an old-timey slur, just not one I've ever actually heard used except in some super racist old book I found in the library as a kid. I wasn't even 100% sure who it was racist against until now because I read it in a paragraph that was full of all sorts of wild slurs against every concievable non-white group to the point that I thought the author made some groups up just so they could be extra racist Back to the Future is the only place I have ever actually heard it used as an actual slur. I am guessing they chose it because it wasn't as well known as the rest.
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AITA for wanting to take up my sisters offer to cook for my kids instead of my wife?quote:I (33M) have a wife (29F) who’s a stay at home mum to our 2 kids (two boys aged 2 and 5). We got married a little over 6 years ago and my wife had always been adamant on being a stay at home mum. I didn’t mind it at all as I was and still am making enough to get us by comfortably.
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There's a truly excellent film that uses the word in both the spying context and the other one.
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pentyne posted:For some women, that idea that a man wouldn't spend a windfall on them first and instead use the money for long term financial stability is abusive behavior. I wouldn't even say they are trying, they just honestly think that situation is terrible and how dare he not take her to Bali for 3 weeks or something instead. I mean it depends on their financial situation. The mortgage is the last or second to last thing you should pay off.
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Partner (m,52) needs more intellectual stimulation from me (f,40) Fire therapist, divorce partner One is an idiot and the other already is yearning for other people, so just take that trash out and set it on the curb
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duck trucker posted:In the very back of my mind I kept thinking "isn't that a slur?" But I also couldn't remember when/where/how I learned that so I was starting to think I made it up as a kid. also, in the second one, they use the slur "bone jockey" which i thought was a robot slur for humans. because it was the future.
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With the mortgage thing, I interpreted it as something to do with her getting mad about separate finances; is the house entirely in his name or something? I mean, I don't really care what her reasoning is, they seem to kind of hate each other so they should probably just go the way of their finances and separate themselves. e: quote:Fire therapist, divorce partner
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sullat posted:I mean it depends on their financial situation. The mortgage is the last or second to last thing you should pay off. The potential scenarios where the financially prudent option is spending a bonus on a vacation over debt repayment rounds down to zero.
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Divorce is expensive.
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artsy fartsy posted:The most baffling part of this is the very last paragraph lol muscle bros have poo poo cardio stamina.
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AITA for refusing to add my ex husband's name to the title of the bookshop I inherited from my father?quote:Context: My ex husband "Kevin", M37 and I, F35 got separated 2 years ago, We share custody of our 2 kids, nine & five.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:AITA for refusing to add my ex husband's name to the title of the bookshop I inherited from my father? Give me your bookshop profits quote:he's actually the type that spell LAW: L-A-Double-ya. lol
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:The potential scenarios where the financially prudent option is spending a bonus on a vacation over debt repayment rounds down to zero. I think sullat might be referring to paying off higher interest debt first. Almost every debt is better to pay off first than a mortgage...CC, medical, student loans...and even if you have none of those, it might still be better financially to stick it in a random index fund since that will probably out perform the APR on a mortgage?
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DrBouvenstein posted:I think sullat might be referring to paying off higher interest debt first. Almost every debt is better to pay off first than a mortgage...CC, medical, student loans...and even if you have none of those, it might still be better financially to stick it in a random index fund since that will probably out perform the APR on a mortgage? All of this is true, but the OP's friends were suggesting he should have blown it on a vacation. e: If you want to substitute an alternative story where the OP wanted to pay down credit card debt but the husband used a bonus to pay down a mortgage without consulting her, then there's a different response. But that's not what happened. AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 22:34 on Mar 4, 2022 |
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Sisal Two-Step posted:AITA for refusing to add my ex husband's name to the title of the bookshop I inherited from my father? I wish people would stop going to AITA with situations that they should be taking to their lawyer.
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It says she tossed out 6 bags of his garbage and it took 2 years before he even noticed it wasn’t there, and there’s still mountains more of stuff taking up the rest of the house. Given that he gathers up stuff he doesn’t even want, and gets mad at the suggestion of parting with any of it, he’s definitely a hoarder and this won’t get better without therapy.
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