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Neito
Feb 18, 2009

😌Finally, an avatar the describes my love of tech❤️‍💻, my love of anime💖🎎, and why I'll never see a real girl 🙆‍♀️naked😭.

"Triangle project personality
The Triangle is confident, focused, outspoken, and used to being successful."

Why are there four elements to a triangle god I hate corporate bullshit so much.

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Brandfarlig
Nov 5, 2009

These colours don't run.

The H in HR stands for Hitler.

Foo Diddley
Oct 29, 2011

cat

Brandfarlig posted:

The H in HR stands for Hitler.

calling it hitler resources is so dehumanizing

it's like they just have a stack of hitlers in a storeroom somewhere

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos

Hughlander posted:

In the comments she indicates she's working an additional 8-16 hours a month that the male colleagues aren't. The response is universal, document, document, document.

At least Reddit isn't all bad.

Sisal Two-Step
May 29, 2006

mom without jaw
dad without wife


i'm taking all the Ls now, sorry
AITA for Nodding Along with an NFT Bro?

quote:

To start with, I understand what NFTs are. Please don't explain it to me in comments. I know. And I don't care.

Anyway, I (20M) was in my economics 101 class, and we were doing an assignment about perceived value. I was put into a small group, and there was this dude, let's call him Brian (20M?). Brian started going on and on about NFTs. Like, just talking a ridiculous amount.

Keeping a straight face, I responded in kind, talking about how some new NFTs could be bought with "blibbcoin", a new cryptocurrency that had just dropped. To my shock, he nodded along, and said that he was following blibbcoin, the cryptocurrency I had just made up. We bullshitted like that for five minutes; I'm pretty sure the others in the group caught on, because they avoided eye contact with me and one of them started to laugh.

Economics 101 ended, and as we walked out, Brian approached me and asked if I wanted to talk any more about blibbcoin at some point. I told him the truth, and he immediately started getting red in the face, talking about how NFTs were the future and that I'd see, literal cartoon stuff, it was a ridiculous situation.

I don't feel bad per se, but I also don't know if it was the "right" thing to do. Should I have just changed the topic instead of nodding along?

tl;dr I bullshitted an NFT guy for five minutes, and then he got mad when I told him the truth. AITA?

Quackles
Aug 11, 2018

Pixels of Light.


Sisal Two-Step posted:

AITA for Nodding Along with an NFT Bro?

:cawg:

El Spamo
Aug 21, 2003

Fuss and misery
The hero we need

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos
AITA for telling my stepdad it’s not my job to be a “good influence” for his kids?

quote:

This is the dumbest argument I’ve ever had with adults. I’m 16F, the steps are 14F, 10M, and 9F. My mom and their dad have been dating a little over a year and are engaged. We just all moved into a new place together because the parents want to blend the families and no one but them are happy about it. The steps and I made an agreement before they moved in that we all just leave each other alone because none of us want new family, but if they need an emergency lift or help with something when the parents aren’t around, that’s fine.

The AITA issue started because I’m a serious athlete so my lifestyle has to be pretty healthy. I work out a lot and I meal prep most of my own food to make sure I keep up with my nutrition plan. The step-family have a very different way of doing things and that’s causing some friction. I dgaf what shape or size they are, just to throw that in there, it’s none of my business, but step-dad has started like using me as an object lesson to the kids - “OP always eats really healthy, we should probably all be doing that” and “Maybe OP could give us some pointers and we could do a family gym night”, that kind of thing. It’s really upsetting the 14 yo especially I think because she’s kinda sensitive about her size and having me around isn’t helping with that already.

Over the weekend, I was making a shopping list for meal prep for the week when step-dad brings the 14 yo in and says “Hey, OP, Step-Sis would like to try your meal plan out, can you walk her through it?” This is a dumb ask anyway, my diet won’t work for her because I spend a lot of extra calories a day most days, and I’m not a nutritionist to figure out what she needs, but also she looks like she wants to die on the spot. So I say “Step-sis, do you really want to do this?” She says no, so I tell her dad that he probably needs to just back off because this is real sucky for everyone. He says “I just think her seeing how you do things would be a good influence” and I’m like “I’m not here to be a good influence on your kids, that’s your job.”

So now I’m in trouble for being disrespectful and we had to have this big family meeting about all getting along and helping each other and I got in more trouble for telling them that’s rich because they didn’t care what any of us thought about anything when they were making decisions, but I don’t really think any of this is even helpful? Like, it would be different if the other kids wanted to get fit. It’s still not a job for me, but I could try to do a support.

But see, you are a good influence, OP. You are.

Captain Hygiene
Sep 17, 2007

You mess with the crabbo...



Sisal Two-Step posted:

AITA for Nodding Along with an NFT Bro?

lmao :patriot:

The Maroon Hawk
May 10, 2008

Sisal Two-Step posted:

AITA for Nodding Along with an NFT Bro?

lol

Reminds me of the one where OP had a coworker(?) who would compulsively look up movies when they were mentioned and spoil them for everyone else around, so OP owned said coworker by making up a fictional movie for coworker to fruitlessly look up

r/relationships: Please don't explain it to me in comments. I know. And I don't care.

Mellow Seas
Oct 9, 2012
Probation
Can't post for 10 years!
Sometimes an AITA is just "heh check out this sweet thing I did to own somebody," and that's just fine.

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

👁️🔥👁️👁️👁️BE NOT👄AFRAID👁️👁️👁️🔥👁️

Absurd Alhazred posted:

AITA for telling my stepdad it’s not my job to be a “good influence” for his kids?

But see, you are a good influence, OP. You are.
stepdad is also dumb as gently caress because it sounds like op is doing sports as a lifestyle as much as a non-pro teen can and that's deeply rooted in like... finding that enjoyable? like she's having fun. and her caloric needs are going to be super high if she's exercising a lot as a growing teenager, someone trying to replicate that diet without the lifestyle is just going to make themselves sick, and someone trying to do the lifestyle without finding it fun is going to be loving miserable.

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


AITA for jogging at 4am?

quote:

I'm an Emergency Medical Dispatcher which basically means if you call 999 with an emergency and need an ambulance there is a chance it'll go to me. It's a rewarding if stressful job and some of the calls i've handled give me nightmares but I wouldn't change my job. Some of my hours however are extremely unsociable and sometimes I get home at 4am and when I do I have a routine.

When I get home at 4am i'll quickly change then go for an hour long jog while I listen to podcast. This jog by 5am will take me to my boyfriends bakery where we will share a meal: breakfast for him, dinner for me. On the days I work this kind of shift it's the only time we can see each other, I then help him set up a little before heading back to my home and sleeping.

All in all nothing abnormal ever happens but a new neighbour recently moved into my cul-de-sac, a woman in her late 30s or early 40s i'm not sure, I don't know my neighbours THAT well as I don't often have the ability to socialise with them due to my work hours. During one of my recent jogs I paused on my way out of the cul-de-sac on the pavement near her home to pick out a podcast on my phone only to have her come out shouting at me about what am I doing near her home and how I better get before she calls the police. I quickly apologised to her and explained i'm her neighbour, and just out for a jog, she didn't believe me so in sight of her I had to go unlock my front door to prove to her yes I lived here as she kept shouting about the police, after this she stopped and retreated back into her home so I continued my jog.

Except she was watching me the next time I jogged and the next, and the next. Each time calling out vague threats about the police and how I shouldn't be out at this time and how I was scaring her children always being out at this time, now I admit i'd finally had enough of this and laughed at her because i'm a 5 foot tall woman who looks like a solid breeze would blow me over I also told her to mind her own loving business and how only she seems like the weirdo here always watching me go for a jog at this hour. I also told her if she called 999 to say hi to my co-workers for me.

I'm not proud of how I lost my temper but it is getting to me how she is always doing this, it wasn't until my boyfriend suggested over our shared meal that day that maybe she just had anxiety and seeing someone outside so early put her on edge and she was handling it poorly, I admit I felt guilty after that i'd thought me jogging for an hour after my shift was harmless but i'm used to being up at weird hours am I the rear end in a top hat for jogging at this time? would it freak you out if one of your neighbours did this?

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Picturing the stepdad going 'you should eat like OP' as OP eats protein powder by the spoonful, hunched over the sink.

value-brand cereal
May 2, 2008

AITA for moving out over being mad at my mom for ignoring my health?

quote:

Last year in April when the pandemic was hitting really hard, I made the hard decision to leave my home. My mom was against the idea from the beginning, since she brought up that it's difficult to live on my own, especially with a job and university at the same time. (She's right, I am still struggling to this day). The cause of this all - or actually like the final nail in the coffin was my birthday 3 months before I left.

My mom adopted 3 dogs into our home when I was 17. Wouldn't be a problem if I wasn't highly allergic to all 3 of them, the hair make me lose my breath and I constantly sneeze. For a moment - fine. Living with them - absolute hell for me. From then on I could barely leave my room, I ate dinner in my room because I couldn't sit at the dinner table even if I wanted to.

Fast forward to the birthday in question. Everyone came, my parents and step parents and we celebrated together. We got drunk, and eventually my mom let the dogs out of the basement (a big room where they usually sleep) despite me being there and having an allergic reaction. Because the dogs are excited to meet guests - therefore they ran around a lot. My mom tried to pressure me into taking medication for it, which is not a good idea since I was drunk, and the medication shouldn't be mixed with alcohol at any times. Then she tried to say, "why don't you just go upstairs if you can't take it? Go! Go to your room!" (a reminder this was my birthday party! They were all here for me!)

I gave up, the evening ended horribly for me and I cried myself to sleep. After that, my mom was confused over my decision to leave so I could live closer to university. I said the main reason were the dogs and the pandemic since being stuck made my mental health even worse. She then offered me, after 4 years mind you, to get a treatment for my allergies and maybe that would help and I could stay.

I ended up refusing. I rather went the route of finally leaving this environment. But among my friends and also my family, I hear different opinions. Many tell me I should've taken my mom’s offer to get treatment since she will pay for it. Others say it was a toxic environment because she prioritised the dogs over her child. So am I the rear end in a top hat for being mad at my mom for ignoring my health and leaving?

Not to sound like a childfree weirdo but like. Why do people have children and treat them like this? Just stick with having pets. Go the san franciscan route, where there's more pets than children in the entire sf city.

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

AITA for going to my divorce court date?

quote:

We got a new manager at our work place in the the six months since she’s been there we have had the highest turn over at our company. Previously it was maybe 2 people a year would find better jobs or quit. This includes all of 2020 and most of 2021. She keeps saying “no one wants to work” but she creates such a toxic work by micro management everything. From how she likes papers stapled to what color of pens and highlighters she likes. Last week 3 employees quit for the above reasons because our manager when on a rant about staple placements, pens color and highlighters.

3 months ago I put in for this court date for my divorce. It’s this week and my manager has told me I can’t go because now we are short staffed. I’m not even entertaining the idea of not going but my manager is saying if I go she can’t get this project done on time and everyone keeps quitting on her and I have to stay or come in later that day.

I’m already emotionally drained from a lovely divorce anyways and I don’t feel like coming in at all the same day. My manager insists it’s not an all day thing and for me to “pop in at the courthouse and get done what I need to and tell the judge to postpone everything else because there’s an emergency at work”

My brain trying to comprehend this shut down and I honestly think I died instead from her saying that to me. I point blank said I’m not coming into work that day. I’m thinking of taking an FMLA leave at this point to avoid a complete mental breakdown combined from my divorce and my insane manager.

Help Reddit! My boss literally can't afford to fire me, what do I do?

Invisible Clergy
Sep 25, 2015

"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

value-brand cereal posted:

AITA for moving out over being mad at my mom for ignoring my health?


Not to sound like a childfree weirdo but like. Why do people have children and treat them like this? Just stick with having pets. Go the san franciscan route, where there's more pets than children in the entire sf city.

Not that there's anything wrong with being cf, but you don't sound like a weirdo at all. Bad people do this because there are zero barriers preventing them from having children and once they produce them, they can treat them however they want because children have no rights or protections and it's very unlikely they will be confiscated. Even if the child in question or well-meaning observers to the abuse know about it and think it's worth acting on, cps/foster system/etc is so hosed up and lovely it is in many cases a lateral move or a straight up downgrade in quality of life for the children in question and they might do the math and figure it's worth sticking out for another few months til they turn 18 and can fully sever and leave the parents to post on estranged parents forums wondering why their child suddenly went no contact.

Farg
Nov 19, 2013

Neito posted:

"Triangle project personality
The Triangle is confident, focused, outspoken, and used to being successful."

Why are there four elements to a triangle god I hate corporate bullshit so much.

I think its morality utility and freedom

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA for using my iPad as a stool to avoid getting my feet dirty at a cafe?

quote:

I was with a client all morning trying to close a recruitment deal, wearing typical business attire with uncomfortably high stilettos.

We went our separate ways at 12ish and I decided to grab a bite at a cafe nearby. I took off my shoes for comfort but realised how dirty the floor could be so placed my old iPad down as a stool.

The waiter asked me if something was wrong and I explained the above to him but he said this was setting a bad image for the rest of their customers and that I should stop. We argued for a few minutes until he gave up as people began to take notice.

I finished my food and went on my way without another word. Looking back I'm unsure if I was right or not to argue. It wasn't my building but it was my tablet and own seating so I wasn't affecting others directly.

EDIT: He didn't accept our offer in case anyone was wondering :(

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for using my iPad as a stool to avoid getting my feet dirty at a cafe?

Now this is the creative writing weve been missing

Captain Hygiene
Sep 17, 2007

You mess with the crabbo...



What the hell has gone wrong with people's ipads and feet

Soul Dentist
Mar 17, 2009
Samsung Notes are shark-smooth and the iPad is just rough enough.

Solenna
Jun 5, 2003

I'd say it was your manifest destiny not to.

Mx. posted:

AITA for jogging at 4am?


Oh my god I know the general thread consensus is never call the cops if you can avoid it but I think 999 is the UK emergency number so they probably won't shoot anyone, so OP should totally just phone them next time the neighbour starts freaking out at her. Call that bluff.

quantumwell
Jun 22, 2013

Solenna posted:

Oh my god I know the general thread consensus is never call the cops if you can avoid it but I think 999 is the UK emergency number so they probably won't shoot anyone, so OP should totally just phone them next time the neighbour starts freaking out at her. Call that bluff.

My question is why is the neighbor up at 4am to observe her jogging ?

Captain Hygiene
Sep 17, 2007

You mess with the crabbo...



quantumwell posted:

My question is why is the neighbor up at 4am to observe her jogging ?

Obviously to be a good parent to their kids, who are also up at 4AM to be terrified of a person doing an extremely abnormal early morning activity!

Troublemaker
Mar 12, 2007

quantumwell posted:

My question is why is the neighbor up at 4am to observe her jogging ?

Moreover, why are her KIDS disturbed by the jogging? Why TF would they have any idea about anything going on outside at 4 a.m.? Is OP the world's loudest jogger?

E: f, b

Barudak
May 7, 2007

The clap of her dummy thicc rear end cheeks are waking the whole neighborhood

Vim Fuego
Jun 1, 2000


Ultra Carp

Soul Dentist posted:

I personally think it's hosed up that the OP personally hit her younger brother over the head, Fred Flintstone-style, causing developmental disability and directly sending him to a group home. Unless she can find and make a deal with the Great Gazoo she's definitely on the hook for this care.

Wait *touches earpiece* I'm being told that's cartoonish and completely incorrect and the OP should tell the siblings she doesn't want to gently caress off into space forever.

:agesilaus:

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


AITA for calling my husband unreasonable for only wanting to invite people he knows personally to our son's birthday party?

quote:

My son is 9 years old, He moved to a new school months ago and made lots of friends there. In the past he suffered from anxiety and got treated poorly so I'm happy and relieved he's happy in his new school.

So, his 10th birthday is coming up, We want to host a party and invite people over. I met few moms of the kids that are friends with my son and who helped him with his anxiety big time!. My husband found out and said that he won't allow any guests he doesn't know personally to attend the party. I told him these women are my friends and their children are our son's friends which means a lot. He said it's better this way and that I should respect his decision. I kept arguing and tried to get him to understand the party guests he doesn't know or want are our son's friends. He refused to listen and turned down any further discussion then told me to drop it after saying that he is the parent and this is his son, but he is my son too and having his friends there will strengths his bond with them. I called him unreasonable which made him so upset he rushed out and refused to return my calls.

He texted later that I was being disrespectful of his authority and rude for calling him unreasonable. But looking at his logic of wanting to invite his family and friends and not allow our son's friends or their moms just because he doesn't know them personally seems illogical to me. Aita?

Disrespecting my authority!!

Admiralty Flag
Jun 7, 2007

to ride eternal, shiny and chrome

THUNDERDOME LOSER 2022

Mx. posted:

AITA for calling my husband unreasonable for only wanting to invite people he knows personally to our son's birthday party?


Disrespecting my authority!!

They've been together for 10+ years --> she's put up with his poo poo for 10+ years without dumping him --> Q.E.D., his rear end in a top hat must be kept so clean you could eat dinner off of it

Seriously, undermining his authority? He did that to himself when he stormed out and refused to answer her calls

AreWeDrunkYet
Jul 8, 2006

Oh dear me posted:

No. If my sister was struggling I'd feel I had a duty to help her in ways I do not feel obliged to help strangers. For example I'd feel I ought to let my sister live with me if homeless, while I wouldn't feel obliged to let a strange man share my tiny home. Past history can change this, for example if my sister has screwed me over in the past, but that's not obviously true here.

This doesn't mean OP is obliged to be a guardian, but she may nevertheless have some obligations to her siblings.

Do you feel this obligation to your sister because there's overlap in your DNA, or because you've had a decades long, mostly positive relationship including probably a close one for a number of formative years?

Serephina posted:

I'm feeling a very strong reality disconnect here. You get rostered for 0 hours. You don't get a paystub since "no pay no stub right?". Your gym membership dongle doesn't work? "Oh that's weird, you better call so-and-so to see why". No, nobody's calling you back. Get the point.

It's a wonderful fantasy, imagining a world where you bone them over a 4hr/wk shift, but... yea. Those power imbalances are real.

Sometimes people can find a loophole that works, and good for them. But yeah, she took her shot, got called out, and is going to be fired summarily with no benefits. NTA for trying but this is not a hill to die on.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

I worked with a woman who worked at a clothing store for an 8 hour shift every other saturday in addition to her primary job. Since she worked full weekend shifts and never complained about it nobody wanted to get rid of her for not doing more. The employee discount was 50%, and items were like 800 usd retail she "saved" a fortune buying clothes this way.

AceClown
Sep 11, 2005

Mx. posted:

AITA for calling my husband unreasonable for only wanting to invite people he knows personally to our son's birthday party?


Disrespecting my authority!!

I'll take that he's having an affair with one of the mums at school on this one

kimbo305
Jun 9, 2007

actually, yeah, I am a little mad

Mx. posted:

AITA for calling my husband unreasonable for only wanting to invite people he knows personally to our son's birthday party?


Disrespecting my authority!!

Doesn't want sidepiece - wife encounter.

E: drat, sniped by a mile. Just streets behind.

Akratic Method
Mar 9, 2013

It's going to pay off eventually--I'm sure of it.

Any day now.

Mx. posted:

AITA for calling my husband unreasonable for only wanting to invite people he knows personally to our son's birthday party?


Disrespecting my authority!!

I was about to say a solid yes from the title, and then did a 180 on this when I realized the "he" in "people he knows personally" was the husband and not the son.

Captain Hygiene
Sep 17, 2007

You mess with the crabbo...



Akratic Method posted:

I was about to say a solid yes from the title, and then did a 180 on this when I realized the "he" in "people he knows personally" was the husband and not the son.

An AITA title could never be so straightforward, you fool

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


AITA for asking for my mail back?

quote:

I recently ordered a mini Keurig because I am moving and would like one for my apartment. I could not afford one when I first moved but I have more money now so it was something I really wanted to get.

I came home from work yesterday and expected to see my Keurig but it looked like it was not there. I looked at my security camera and found that someone who I don’t recognize took my Keurig from my porch. I filed a report with the Postal Service but I haven’t heard anything back. I have a friend in my neighborhood and she was hanging out with our neighbor, and she noticed that my Keurig was at my neighbor’s apartment. She asked my neighbor if she could deliver it to me and my neighbor said no because it was delivered to her so therefore it was fair game. This was a lie and I told my friend that it was not delivered to her; rather, it was stolen. I was upset and I went over there to try to get it back, but she tried to make me pay for it. I threatened to call the police because that’s really the only line of defense I knew to do, and she ended up giving it back. Now, however, she is not speaking to me and my family thinks that I overreacted.

I think it was a bit extreme to threaten to call the police, but mail theft is very serious and the Keurig was something that I was really looking forward to. I know I shouldn’t care if I look bad, but my family‘s reactions make me think that I was in the wrong. AITA?

Can we get the porch pirate defenders to weigh in on this one please

Malachite_Dragon
Mar 31, 2010

Weaving Merry Christmas magic
2-for-1 deal on acid vats for use on porch pirates

limp_cheese
Sep 10, 2007


Nothing to see here. Move along.

Mx. posted:

AITA for calling my husband unreasonable for only wanting to invite people he knows personally to our son's birthday party?


He said it's better this way 

I want to know if the logic behind this is "Not knowing people causes me discomfort therefore it can't happen" boring or some batshit word vomit that's srupid and fun. I'm hoping for another "guy tries to trick gf with cable box" level of stupid.

I'll also put :10bux: down on a worrying age gap that totally isn't important stop bringing it up.

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Blastedhellscape
Jan 1, 2008

Mx. posted:

AITA for jogging at 4am?


I go running a lot in my neighborhood and worry sometimes about passing by the house of a psychotic busybody like this. If you think about it for half a second the vein-diagram of people who go running a few days a week to stay healthy and people who burglarize houses probably doesn't cross at all, but someone who sees you run past their house and glance at it isn't going to think that way.

Also: I hear a lot about people listening to audio books or podcasts while they jog, but can you really do that without damaging your ears? I've found that I can listen to a casual podcast at safe decibel levels while I run four-to-six miles, but I miss every other word (because of the heavy breathing involved in running or the wind rushing past my headphones or whatnot) and it's not quite the same experience if I was listening to it while folding clothes or washing dishes. An audio book for a really good book requires a lot more attention. So I end up running while I'm listening to music 99% of the time, and I figure if I tried to go running with an audio book I'd probably damage my hearing.

Am I wrong?

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