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Hughlander posted:AITA for refusing to take 50 percent custody after my children left themselves I'm sure all those family members would have been quick to step up and support/fund her through a court battle with him, right? "You know what a worthless poo poo parent your ex was and let him have the kids anyway!" And now they're all offering to help support him with the kids they care so much about, right? She doesn't sound too heartbroken about giving up the kids, just vaguely describes being lonely. You could still make the argument being with the dad who wants them more and kicking his rear end in to gear a bit could be better long-term for them.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for refusing to take 50 percent custody after my children left themselves Counterpoint: if your kids literally accuse you of kidnapping them when you have them over, what is it you're supposed to do exactly? What was she supposed to do, keep a house that was above her means now that she was paying full child support on the off chance they decide they're no longer calling her a kidnapper?
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limp_cheese posted:If that's true than the only way to not be gay is to sew your rear end in a top hat shut and get a colostomy bag. You can't really tell, I had a temporary ileostomy and you feel some pressure and that's about it. Now whether or not getting the old "west Philly sidecar" as it's known around here makes you gay, I can't attest to that...
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Mar 14, 2022 18:55
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Counterpoint: if your kids literally accuse you of kidnapping them when you have them over, what is it you're supposed to do exactly? What was she supposed to do, keep a house that was above her means now that she was paying full child support on the off chance they decide they're no longer calling her a kidnapper? Not give up the literal first time they said a bad thing? They're loving kids, probably having their brain poisoned by their father. Get them in therapy. Sue for parental alientation. Fight for your loving kids not just wash your hands and say your problem now bozo!
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Who would leave their 10 month old child with someone who is a. a complete stranger to the kid and b. appears to have zero experience in childcare? Edit: "watch my baby for an hour" - not much experience needed "Parent my baby for several days" - all kinds of knowledge needed. Hell, I've done my share of babysitting as a teenager, and I wouldn't have a clue how to mind an actual baby for several days. I mean, I'd probably manage, but it'd be very stressful. Pookah fucked around with this message at 19:15 on Mar 14, 2022 |
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Mar 14, 2022 19:06
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Pookah posted:Who would leave their 10 month old child with someone who is a. a complete stranger to the kid and b. appears to have zero experience in childcare? A surprising number of people, as it turns out!
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Mar 14, 2022 19:09
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Counterpoint: if your kids literally accuse you of kidnapping them when you have them over, what is it you're supposed to do exactly? What was she supposed to do, keep a house that was above her means now that she was paying full child support on the off chance they decide they're no longer calling her a kidnapper? The response here is very different based on the age of the children, and the ones in the story are as young as 7.
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Mar 14, 2022 19:10
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I wonder how much she even wanted to.be a parent. Maybe she was pressured into it. Not defending her, necessarily, but it would make the situation that much more tragic.
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Mar 14, 2022 19:11
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Counterpoint: if your kids literally accuse you of kidnapping them when you have them over, what is it you're supposed to do exactly? What was she supposed to do, keep a house that was above her means now that she was paying full child support on the off chance they decide they're no longer calling her a kidnapper? The youngest kid is 7. Being a parent means sometimes your 7 year old is going to say stupid poo poo like 'I hate you forever, you're the worst' over the most trivial bullshit imaginable. That doesn't mean you should immediately give up on a relationship with the kid, especially when they're clearly being manipulated by another parent.
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If the Dad and his new girlfriend who petitioned for 100% get their rear end in gear I'm sure the kids will have a better time. That being said, seems from an edit and her comments like she's going to try and slowly build a relationship back with the kids, although she's not ready for custody yet.quote:Edit: A lot of you think I should see them on weekends and try to rebuild relationship before going back to 50/50. I think I will try this and thank you to the others who said I am the a hole and have a good reason why. I will be putting my kids first from now on.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not making my teenage son wear a helmet when he skateboards? ♫ You could crash You could dii-iiee Please don't go risking your liiffee See that girl Loves safe-ty She is the Helmet Queeennnnn ♫
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BOOTY-ADE posted:♫ You could crash 
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A friend of mine lost his sense of smell when he fractured his skull when skateboarding. Wear a helmet, kids!
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Hughlander posted:UPDATE GF is mad I compared massages to oral sex
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Mar 14, 2022 20:37
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Halloween Jack posted:It's sad when people are so bad at managing give-and-take in a relationship that everything suddenly becomes explicitly transactional. Yeah, he eventually got where he needed to go but got there the wrong way. Regardless of if she’s giving blowjobs her requests were unreasonable. Bringing that up just muddied the waters.
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Mar 14, 2022 20:43
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Zore posted:The youngest kid is 7. Being a parent means sometimes your 7 year old is going to say stupid poo poo like 'I hate you forever, you're the worst' over the most trivial bullshit imaginable. That doesn't mean you should immediately give up on a relationship with the kid, especially when they're clearly being manipulated by another parent. Seems odd to me that OP would give up custody so easily to the ex...I'm wondering if there's been a history of him manipulating the kids, so she called his bluff & now he's all mad that she's not there doing the work while he plays "fun dad"
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Mar 14, 2022 20:55
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Hughlander posted:GF is mad I compared massages to oral sex COVID strikes again.
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Mar 14, 2022 20:56
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Fork of Unknown Origins posted:Yeah, he eventually got where he needed to go but got there the wrong way. Regardless of if she’s giving blowjobs her requests were unreasonable. Bringing that up just muddied the waters.
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Halloween Jack posted:You're right about that, but: he asked for a massage, she gave up after 5 minutes saying she was bored and her hands hurt, and she still didn't get what he was trying to communicate. Not sure where you go after that without a, uh, dramatic counterexample. You just say no and explain why. If they get it then they change, if they cannot understand it then you move on. Maybe if you already have kids you try and work it out in therapy, but I wouldn’t put that much effort into keeping dating this person. When you say what he said all she hears is “I don’t want to massage you, you don’t blow me,” which isn’t what he said, but it’s going to be what she hears. And that misses the problem. The problem isn’t that she doesn’t do enough period. The problem isn’t that she doesn’t do enough relative to him (there’s that too but it wasn’t his main point). The problem is she’s asking him to do too much, period. The more you keep it to that the better the problem can be managed.
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Halloween Jack posted:It's sad when people are so bad at managing give-and-take in a relationship that everything suddenly becomes explicitly transactional. I'm happy to give my wife a neck rub or whatever whenever she wants without keeping a tally in my head, but I think if your partner is demanding hour long massages multiple times a week it's reasonable to try and lay down some rules.
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Mar 14, 2022 21:13
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my sister actions have consequences and she doesn’t deserve her kid? morally not literally. she thinks bringing a life into this world is bad not that its impossible. if i had to guess its because you know this is a hell world and there a literally thousands of kids to adopt. Cobalt-60 posted:Those who live in glass houses...wait a minute... does dementia make you just drop your mask or does it make you do stuff you would never do. i assume its a bit of both. snergle fucked around with this message at 21:49 on Mar 14, 2022 |
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BOOTY-ADE posted:Seems odd to me that OP would give up custody so easily to the ex...I'm wondering if there's been a history of him manipulating the kids, so she called his bluff & now he's all mad that she's not there doing the work while he plays "fun dad" This is it right here. Probably a bit like the story I told earlier about my dad taking my mom to court every year for custody then saying it was all a game when she called his bluff. She should try to reconnect with her kids because they need at least one parent and the dad clearly won't step up.
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I feel like the classic reddit activity for questions that are real is to figure out what major piece of backstory has been left out.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I feel like the classic reddit activity for questions that are real is to figure out what major piece of backstory has been left out. It almost gets to be a game at times, kinda like when estranged/narcissist parents post & try to play victim...it's easy to spot the lies when you learn what language/words they like to use
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snergle posted:
It depends which parts of your brain it damages.
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snergle posted:morally not literally. she thinks bringing a life into this world is bad not that its impossible. if i had to guess its because you know this is a hell world and there a literally thousands of kids to adopt. My dad has dementia, and it hasn't actually changed his personality at all. His long-term memory is fine, but short-term is hosed up. He mixes things up in his head and 100% believes that what he thinks is true. For example, my mum died in 2016 but he constantly thinks that she and "the girls" (me and my sister - I live next door to him...) are going to be coming home to Australia from the UK. He's mixed this up with his aunt who has kids over in the UK and visits them regularly.
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snergle posted:morally not literally. she thinks bringing a life into this world is bad not that its impossible. if i had to guess its because you know this is a hell world and there a literally thousands of kids to adopt. There’s definitely plenty of the latter. There are many forms of dementia but at least some of them cause massive personality changes and a completely distorted worldview.
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The Moon Monster posted:I'm happy to give my wife a neck rub or whatever whenever she wants without keeping a tally in my head, but I think if your partner is demanding hour long massages multiple times a week it's reasonable to try and lay down some rules. what really gets me is her telling him that "no talking" is one of the rules
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The Moon Monster posted:I'm happy to give my wife a neck rub or whatever whenever she wants without keeping a tally in my head, but I think if your partner is demanding hour long massages multiple times a week it's reasonable to try and lay down some rules. And it appears she got her father on his case, too. I can't imagine my father-in-law calling me to tell me to give more massages and foreplay. Halloween Jack fucked around with this message at 22:49 on Mar 14, 2022 |
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limp_cheese posted:If that's true than the only way to not be gay is to sew your rear end in a top hat shut and get a colostomy bag. Go ahead, search "colostomy hole sex". I double-dog dare you.
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Doc Hawkins posted:what really gets me is her telling him that "no talking" is one of the rules No talking, no watching a show, two full hours, it’s crazy enough that I kind of doubt it’s real. But if it is, holy poo poo.
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:Go ahead, search "colostomy hole sex". I double-dog dare you. B-Rock452 posted:"west Philly sidecar"
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:Go ahead, search "colostomy hole sex". I double-dog dare you. I don't think I will. Just like eye socket sex I believe its real and a thing but I would rather be ignorant on the details. I feel like my life is better that way.
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limp_cheese posted:I don't think I will. Just like eye socket sex I believe its real and a thing but I would rather be ignorant on the details. I feel like my life is better that way. And yet here you are, in this thread of all places Hypocrite
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My dad was proud of growing up on spruce st in West Philly. I'm glad he's dead to spare him that knowledge.
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AITA for locking the door until I'm able to check employees' workquote:I am a store lead for a grocery chain, and I mainly work closing shifts. I have a newer employee (2months at this store but has meat experience, and that's where he works, but recently came to closing shift) that I don't get along with, mainly because he has issues with me locking the front door and won't let him leave until I check his work. He says he's scheduled until 10 pm, he clocked out at 10 pm, and I can't keep him there. I say that I'll just correct the time he clocked out and he can stay until I check his work. You give some people the TINIEST bit of power over others...
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sephiRoth IRA posted:And yet here you are, in this thread of all places drat right I'm in this thread instead of Reddit. I'll let other brave souls touch the poop to post content. I'll just continue shouting nonsense from the peanut gallery, always wondering what new depth of human misery I never thought of will be brought up next for me to ponder when ignorance would be better.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:AITA for locking the door until I'm able to check employees' work God I wish Nerdist hadn't deleted the Kids in the Hall "Mad with Power" sketch
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AITA for not telling my daughter im aware of her lifestyle until almost a year later?quote:My daughter is 25, she lives a fairly wealthy life and when asked by family she says she invests, stocks, crypto, etc. I know she does, but thats not even half of her income. She does onlyfans, and twitter and PH. Im aware of this because i will admit a single man in his 40s has needs, and i reconized it as her right away. I clicked on the twitter profile and her face was the profile picture. I blocked her, made a note of the names so i wouldnt come across them anywhere else and felt kind of weird of myself, but i didnt bring it up to her. That was a year ago, and a few days ago she finally admitted at a family function what she does. Mixed reactions and anger aside, I did let her know i knew, and i respected her choice to as long as she was being safe and knew she was okay with this being online forever. She got really upset with me and told me i shouldnt be watching those kinds of things and that im disgusting, vile, etc. She hasnt talked to me since and i get her disgust in it but is it really that bad that i never told her?
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