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DerekSmartymans posted:I'm also the primary caregiver of a 98 year-old in end-stage dementia and a 70 year-old mother beating cancer. Literally exactly the same situation. How do you deal with the inability to commit yourself to pretty much anything longer than an half an hour?
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Mar 25, 2022 12:08
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tell the dementia person its only been 10 minutes every 30 minutes until the task is done
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Mar 25, 2022 12:24
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Teach them to play eve, or would that be elder-abuse?
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Mar 25, 2022 12:42
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Samuel L. Hacksaw posted:Teach them to play eve, or would that be elder-abuse? They wouldn't get bored mining!
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Mar 25, 2022 13:38
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And they'll always be meeting new friends!
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Mar 25, 2022 14:13
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It's not like you'd need to tell them to anchor up any more often than the average line goon either
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Mar 25, 2022 14:46
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Micromancer posted:tell the dementia person its only been 10 minutes every 30 minutes until the task is done it's more that I need to deal with a panic attack every fifteen minutes because something was  stolen. Or there's "Mexicans on the roof." If I'm not around and available, everything starts getting destroyed.The paranoia that comes with this, it's just ... idk. Kill me when I turn 75. I don't want this. I don't want to live in deep, depressing fear 24/7 like she does. This isn't humane.
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Mar 25, 2022 14:48
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Potato Salad posted:it's more that I need to deal with a panic attack every fifteen minutes because something was Real talk: Dementia is not something the average person should entertain caring for longterm. Especially if it is burning up the last few spans of the bridges of love you built before they developed dementia. Put them in a home, your suffering matters too. You can't ignore the toll it takes on you out of filial piety.
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Mar 25, 2022 14:57
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Potato Salad posted:it's more that I need to deal with a panic attack every fifteen minutes because something was My grandpa was convinced there was a bear outside his window that was in cahoots with a Mexican drug cartel that wanted to execute him. if it wasn't so loving sad seeing him live the last days of his life panicked and delusional it would've been hilarious. My wife's 97-year-old grandma is still sharp as a tack but can barely walk anymore and when she does she's bent over at drat near a right angle. Getting old sucks Samuel L. Hacksaw posted:Real talk: Dementia is not something the average person should entertain caring for longterm. for most of us living in the US it's drat near impossible to get loved ones into good long-term assisted care facilities without bankrupting yourself. Social Security and Medicare/Medicaid don't cut it
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Mar 25, 2022 16:22
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That's fair, it's one of the reasons I follow the money for my career choices, so I can pay for good care for my mother before she needs it. Luckily my mom is a reader and it helps keeps her sharp. I send her a couple hundo to blow on kindle pulp every few months and she loves it.
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Mar 25, 2022 16:40
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Jazzzzz posted:
So much truth to this. WHen I'm old and can't care for myself any more I am just going to rent a nitrogen tank and a breathing mask and go out with a smile.
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Mar 25, 2022 16:41
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Real talk, I work in care and the universal advice is this: Go into a home/put your relative in a home of your choosing *before* it gets to the point where government social workers have to step in. There is no shame at all in asking them for help. It's been a thing for 10 years now where resources have become centralised to them wherever you live, and they gate keep absolutely everything - you find this out when you try and arrange something for yourself and every single person tells you they can only go via social services referral Emergency rehoming will be absolute shite and often a hundred miles away, whereas you may only have to wait a month for a place you want locally to have a place available if you go on the lists - turn over in old people's homes is super high even in normal times but no one tells you this in case they look cruel.
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Mar 25, 2022 17:00
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OMFG FURRY posted:just turn this game into a breakcore album during major fights Heck yes. Kerbtree posted:The Rokh would have the giant gun and it’d be co-axial. Nah, that'd be a different class of ship altogether. Hyperion, Rokh, Typhoon, and Apocalypse as mobile artillery.
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Mar 25, 2022 19:01
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Just make a new ship hull for these ideas. I like the roles the current ships have 
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Mar 25, 2022 19:08
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Mederlock posted:Just make a new ship hull for these ideas. I like the roles the current ships have It would be new hulls but using extant models, since right now there are 4 empire battleship models that are T1 only.
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Mar 26, 2022 03:17
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Most, if not all of my titan kills are thanks to M2. My wife knows it’s a spaceship game, but all she’s ever seen is a black screen with purple markers, or a guy in a black shirt and a guy in a suit dunking on what she assumes are nerds. Probably pretty lucky I’m married.
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Mar 26, 2022 03:22
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Samuel L. Hacksaw posted:Real talk: Dementia is not something the average person should entertain caring for longterm. First: The suggestions about “teaching them to play Eve, ect“ made me laugh, thanks! RealTalk: I wasn’t exaggerating at all, but it’s not as bad as the words sound on screen. Both of my parents are retired, and if it weren’t for Mom’s treatments/side effects, it wouldn’t be much of a struggle. I’ve already put an Alzheimer’s patient in the ground almost a decade ago (Meemaw died the day before her 90th b-day!), and both parents were still working then so it was mostly on me (I’m at home on disability for treatment-resistant schizophrenia). That was sad, but her mind stayed functional as far as “clear thinking,” with loss of memory being the worst. Near the end of three years Dad was retired and I could literally read papers/chat/do occasional lectures for friends/get out of the house on my own, or hell, simply take a poo poo for an hour with the door closed! I love Meemaw, but she still changed her own incontinence underwear even at the end (she died literally while the hospice coordinator was in the driveway talking to my Mom & Dad!!!). Granny has just gotten loving mean. She’s been mentally gone for about four years now, and Mom retired right before Covid when she was diagnosed with a lymphoma. Granny has not handed Covid restrictions well, while Covid also being the main reason she’s not in a home right now; she is physically healthier than all three of us at home, and if she wasn’t so far away mentally she’d probably be taking care of us! She has treatable glaucoma and a walker she doesn’t need 90% of the time. But the doors, cupboards & cabinets, sinks, and toilets are all childproofed for a reason. And she hates uppity bitches and n-words, getting “difficult” to have even a part-time caregiver to bathe/feed her (I live in a town of 300 outside of Memphis: most at-home caregivers are black women). Many days I’m at home alone with her because the folks have to meet Mom’s medical needs and support, and I have to make sure I poop/shower/shave before they leave or it doesn’t get done during the day. If Mom didn’t martyr herself a day (sometimes two) a week so Dad and I could smoke cigars with friends I’d probably fake psychotic symptoms just to “relax” in the mental hospital for a while (although restraints suck when you can’t scratch your nose!). The good thing is I can shitpost/email/read books & SA all day on my iPad (like now), but my college roommate and I can’t play BattleTech or It Takes Two until after 10pm CST, at least uninterrupted. And he has a job and two teenagers, and most of my college/medical school comrades are in the same boat. I can FaceTime with them or consult on tricky stuff during the day, but it sucks to be talking histology and have to take a break to go chase away the invisible n-word children gathering on the porch (they’re probably going to rob us, you know  !). Sorry for venting, and I did not mean to take over even a little bit, but I did think further explanation was needed to answer others’ posting. We’re all generally making do here, but I hope that explains some of my earlier comments about availability from the same post about “being mostly alone/solo but contributing to anything needed in a social game with goons.” During the day I might, for instance, be able to spin spaceships and intermittently chat, but not feel comfortable in a vital, full time needed role (tank/healer in WoW or EQ terms) even if Mom is here to patrol the doors & potties  .
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Mar 26, 2022 14:21
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Eve in general is kinda like having a side family of online weirdos, and it's cool when things like serious personal/family/friend matters come up Over time I have learned that a lot of us do not have the opportunity to talk about serious things in a real and productive way with our nuclear families.
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Potato Salad posted:Eve in general is kinda like having a side family of online weirdos, and it's cool when things like serious personal/family/friend matters come up I wholeheartedly agree…I have many people (mainly from posting here for twenty years) that I consider close personal friends, but have never actually seen in person! And this was waaaay before pandemic restrictions made folks depend on Zoom/FaceTime. The last time (before February) my meds stopped working I had two “posting buddies” from SA and one from World of Warcraft text my Mom and literally say, “Talk to Mark, his posts are getting weirder than normal.” This was with folks I interact with over written words & occasional PMs, not even voice chat. But I’m guessing it’s the modern equivalent of Tolkien’s or Lovecraft’s pen pals: confidants via shitposting, to coin a phrase 
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Mar 26, 2022 15:18
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DerekSmartymans posted:words jesus christ hire an editor
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Potato Salad posted:Eve in general is kinda like having a side family of online weirdos, and it's cool when things like serious personal/family/friend matters come up
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Mr. Grinch posted:jesus christ hire an editor three sizes apparently not enough
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DerekSmartymans posted:First: The suggestions about “teaching them to play Eve, ect“ made me laugh, thanks! gently caress you learn to put breaks in between your paragraphs
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@DerekSmartymans I do empire industry, which means running around hauling + emergency docking when I have to go do stuff like put the empty toilet roll I've just been handed in the bin before it all kicks off. So long as you got decent eve chat/discord it's fine.
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DerekSmartymans posted:First: The suggestions about “teaching them to play Eve, ect“ made me laugh, thanks! good post 💖 take care of yourself
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Can someone from Karmafleet make contact with an ex-goon called Komatose btw? I just randomly met them in a blueprints discussion and they left game for a long while because of heavy real life stuff, and are doing that thing people do where they assume you need to be hardcore to be in 0.0 so are off on their own in empire missing their tribe.
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Potato Salad posted:good post 💖 take care of yourself Apologies for the iOS formatting...never seen it come out so screwy before. The content, however, never improves. At least I am consistent!
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Mar 27, 2022 02:45
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Send them to karmafleet.org to get the discord link or join the in game chat channel and they can talk to someone that will tell them to apply on the website. CSM Election is going to spin up soon can't wait to sling this grrr goons mud
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We tried the new Sleipnir doctrine today, and it was a massive success. Enemy ships were vanishing so fast, the FC just had time to primary and not call them out before 1, 2 and 3 were dead. The cherry on top was probably when the fleet ended with a structure bash and people went back and looted the dead enemy Muninns for projectile ammo to throw at the Citadel. Feliday Melody fucked around with this message at 19:41 on Mar 28, 2022 |
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Mar 28, 2022 19:28
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Uh, technically, we just lost a Cerb fleet. https://zkillboard.com/kill/99789942/
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Mar 28, 2022 20:04
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have you checked the last place you saw it
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Filling in a SRP form for the SRP ships That's a harsh loss fr, for the time it would have taken to make all that fiddly T2 for the fits rather than the isk 
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krabs, ratters and AFK isk makers rejoice! CCP finally pushed through the final change to the DBS system today so Bounty Risk Modifiers in every system went shooting up and they *should* now properly fluctuate with ratting and/or pvp activity. Heavy emphasis on should
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Mar 28, 2022 22:41
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Feliday Melody posted:Uh, technically, we just lost a Cerb fleet. What happened?
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Mar 28, 2022 22:51
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Looks like the Freighter got jumped.
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Was someone trying to gate a freighter down to staging without a cover fleet? wtf?
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Dik Hz posted:lmao He died 1005 km from the C3N gate and the only structure near that distance is the jump bridge from 1DQ. So I assume he took the jump bridge from 1DQ with his freighter to save fuel on the way to the GEF deployment? That's my guess, anyway.
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just realized there are things you can run on without going anywhere, and running makes it so you can eat more foodFeliday Melody posted:Uh, technically, we just lost a Cerb fleet. this would be a daily occurrence for hostiles if bill gates didn't forcibly inject the new windows 10 update onto my pc bricking my ability to multibox
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1001 Arabian dicks posted:just realized there are things you can run on without going anywhere, and running makes it so you can eat more food Ccp devs desperately calling in favors from colleagues at M$
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Gef makes it quite efficient to quit Eve, for others https://zkillboard.com/kill/99807835/ e. also, now we know 
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