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I see my self as being 80% right

Midnight Voyager posted:

The three major predators on campus when I was in school were creepy dudes, loan sharks, and the church.

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I wanted to ask for someone’s opinion here since my husband is saying I’m bitching too much.

I (24F) had someone (we’ll call her Ally) over to look after my kiddo (4M) since we are waiting for a spot at a daycare near by. Ally (22F) said that she could do it for free but I paid her $70 for 6 hours. This morning I left food to warm up, frozen pizza if they didn’t want to eat leftovers and $30 for fast food if nothing sounded good.

I came over around lunch time since I work pretty close to home, since I forgot my debit card. And I noticed that Ally was sitting on the couch playing on her Nintendo, while kiddo was upstairs by himself. I didn’t say much and went to get my debit card and gave kiddo a pudding since he was asking me for it. (He signed since he is non-verbal). I asked her nicely not to let him go upstairs by himself since he jumps from bunk bed to bunk bed (they’re together against the wall). She said ok, and didn’t noticed that he was upstairs.

I came home after work and my husband (30M) was already here, he told me that kiddo had diarrhea, and he ate McDonalds (there was a bag of McD in the garbage) I went upstairs to change and saw that the blinds in my kid’s room where destroyed, his bum had a horrible rash, and only two diapers were used from the pile I left, he was soaking wet, and the $30 were gone.

I texted the Ally asking her what did he eat during the day, so I could figure out why he had diarrhea. She said that he had 2 chocolate milk glasses, 2 Oreo packs (2 cookies in each pack) and a pudding (that I fed him when I came home to get my lunch I forgot)

Am I just bitching or do I have the right to be upset? according to my husband (she was a temp worker at his job) she had experience working with kids and I’m being ungrateful since she didn’t ask for money to took after kid.

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I am getting married in a year and my future MIL has been trying to get the date from everyone but us. We haven't even announced the date yet, and it is weird that she isn't coming to her son. I heard through the family grape vine that she wanted to know the date before anyone, so she could book a trip and then claim she couldn't come to the wedding.

As an experiment, I got someone to give her the wrong date. She booked a lavish two week trip, with our date falling right in the middle. I waited a little while and then at a family dinner announced the real date and watched her face fall. MIL casually mentioned that she thought I had said the other date. I pointed out we had never had that talk and she was like oh and shrugged.

She seemed pissed and didn't speak the rest of dinner, and honestly I thought it was hilarious, which might make me an rear end in a top hat. My fiancé knew what I was doing and was ok with it. MIL went into the kitchen with her husband and was gone for a long time. I did overhear a little bit about him telling her she needs to suck it up and just be honest and stop with these elaborate lies.

At the end of the night, my fiancé confronted her and let her know what I had done and that he knew her plan. MIL was like oh so you think this is funny. I stayed quite because I did. He told her that he doesn't find if funny, but he has no sympathy for a liar. MIL let us know she wouldn't be at the wedding and walked out. I heard from a couple of people that she is pissed I toyed with her and said I'm immature and stupid. To be clear, this trip wasn't some financial burden that is non-refundable. She goes on 2-3 international trips a year

Tobermory posted:

AITA for giving MIL a fake wedding date to prove a point?

Tobermory posted:

AITA for giving MIL a fake wedding date to prove a point?

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I want to know why MIL doesn't want to go to the wedding.

OP posted:

She hates me. I'm not totally convinced that she loves her son anymore, but she loathes me

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give us the tea tho, what are the reasons she hates you?

OP posted:

The night we met she was late, looked at me, and then whispered to her then BF that I was the type of person she hates. I had issues with how she babied her son (to be fair both kids, it wasn't one of those weird mother son things) and I tried to set boundaries. MIL said I was ruining the family. SIL told my husband that he became boring so "maybe just die" and MIL laughed at that. I lost it on MIL that night and we got into our first blow out fight. Then she let him bring me on a family trip and threatened to leave me in Dubai, which scared me, so she called me racist and told her Arab friend that I was afraid of Dubai. We began to clash more and more and she began slandering me to her ex husband and telling him I wanted to baby trap their son, which led to drama between him and my fiancé. The night she got engaged I poured water on her, which ok was a dick move and she didn't get her selfie. She uninvited me from the wedding and my fiancé was so torn on whether to go. He ended up going and she didn't talk to him. At this point the relationship was totally volatile and we couldn't be in the same room. I became close to her dad's wife and she lost her poo poo. my fiancé began standing up for me and they fought a lot, until she started acting like she didn't even love him. Her husband pushed me in a pool and her friend spilled a drink on me at her huge fancy 40th birthday and I left crying. My fiance told her she would see him again when she apologized, and she refused because she wasn't the one who did it. They did move on from that, though she didn't apologize. I posted that on everything I could find related to her husband's business. Then one day she just stopped speaking to us

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Captain Hygiene posted:

I hope the production process was changed at some point, because 90% of the plates I've used in my life up until this very day have been that Corelle design

compshateme85 posted:

Agreed, I cannot find an example of stained glass sliding doors that are for outside doors, and almost none that are inside.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for treating my daughter-in-law like a child when she was acting like one?

Why, yes, I do stare at the guest bathroom in my house for hours.

Megillah Gorilla posted:

It was a huge thing in Australia in the 70s and 80s.

Every doorway from the hall to the loungeroom had sliding doors with either stained glass or patterned glass.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

This seems like way too much effort. OP and fiance could have just declared the real wedding date and not had MIL there anyway.

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Fork of Unknown Origins posted:

Hold the gently caress up. Hold old is OP if the MIL is having her 40th birthday party?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for getting upset that the babysitter we hired didn’t do anything?

At the very loving least you have to watch the kid!

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So my(22M) boyfriend (22M) is Dutch. I've known him for about a year, and we've been dating for about six months. So the point of this story is that my boyfriend goes by a very stereotypical male American name, think James or Charlie or something. For the purposes of this story let's call him Charlie. I've never known him as anything else, but I did know that his legal birth name is a very Dutch name, but apparently in middle school he chose to start going by an American name. He claims he hates his legal Dutch name. Which was fine with me, I didn't care a lot. I like the name Charlie fine.

The other day though, he told me he was going to a family gathering, and I asked if I was coming. He seemed a little hesitant, but finally agreed, admitting that his siblings were also bringing their partners. So we went. He has a big family but I was looking forward to meeting them all for the first time.

As soon as we step in, his grandmother (I think) greets him with a big hug and calls him by his Dutch name - let's say it was Matthijs. And I didn't realize that was his name at first, until he kind of gave me a sideways look and blushed. Then I realized. I didn't say anything about it there, but I was really confused - I really like the name Matthijs. Even more so than Charlie. It may just be because he's my boyfriend, but I felt it was such a pretty name and it fit him so well.

When we got back, I asked him in passing why he chose not to tell me his name (he was a little cagey about it before) and why he didn't go by Matthijs, but he just said he didn't like it. He seemed a little annoyed so I chose to drop it. The next morning though, I greeted him calling him Matthijs, just to test it out, and I really really liked it. I liked calling him that. But he kind of just stopped and looked at me, and then asked me to stop calling him that. He told me his name was Charlie. We got into a little argument there, where I was telling him Matthijs was a pretty name and that it fit him well and that he should go by it again, and he just kept repeating that he was Charlie and to drop it.

Finally he just grabbed his coat and left. I didn't mean to upset him, really, I just wanted to let him know that even though he hates his name I don't. So AITA??

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for trying to call my boyfriend by his name?

kimbo305 posted:

There's a Dutch cyclist named

Taco van der Hoorn.

Whorelord posted:

drat I was hoping he'd have one of those Dutch names that make them sound like a pornstar like Dick Advocaat or Jizz Hornkamp.

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Hello!

I am new to Reddit, my husband suggested I write this post and helped me to set up this account. He told me to use fake names which I did.

Our daughter Sandra (12) is friends with 2 kids from the neighbourhood, Lara (10F) and Sam (8M). She often visits their home to play with them, or they come over and play in our house & garden. Yesterday she was at their house the whole afternoon, and the plan was that she, Lara and Sam would come over to eat dinner at our house, however she came back home early, alone and distraught. As soon as she stepped into the house I get a call from Veronica, Lara & Sam's mom. She was furious and said that my daughter is no longer welcome in their home after the gross and disgusting things she said to her children, that she has no manners and that I should ground her, and she called me and my family disgusting. I didn't know what was going on so I told Veronica that I would call her back later and hung up (which, I get was very rude but my daughter just came home crying).

So I comforted Sandra and she told me what happened at Lara's. They were playing in Laras room when Sam returned from the bathroom with some news. Apparently Sam ran out of toilet paper and rummaged through the cabinet where he found what could only have been Veronica's sanitary pads. He didn't know what they were so he in his confusion told the girls that he just found out that he found "mom's diapers" and a discussion ensued among the children whether or not their mom has "accidents". Sandra must have suspected something so she suggested that they all go investigate. In the bathroom they indeed discovered Veronicas stash of sanitary products.

Sandra knows as much as she needs to know about periods. I have never hidden my period supplies at home and whenever she asked, I explained to her what they were. Her period hasn't started yet but it was important to me that she understands what is going on. Lara and Sam had absolutely no idea what periods even are so Sandra tried to explain it all. This is where things went south. Lara was absolutely terrified, Sam couldn't believe it and went to get mom who then caught Sandra standing in the bathroom holding her sanitary pads. Veronica kicked Sandra out, Lara was crying and Sam was confused.

I agree that this is NOT how this talk should happen. But Sandra meant no harm. I told Sandra that I am not mad at her, then called back Veronica. I told her that I am sorry about what happened, but suggested she takes the opportunity and talks to her kids. I also told her that I am not going to punish Sandra, but I would remind her of course to not look into other people's cabinets. Veronica is really mad at me and says my daughter has disgusting manners.

I feel really bad about the whole situation, especially for Lara. But I don't want to tell my daughter she is forbidden to talk about periods. Does this make me an AH?

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My (25F) husband (28M) and I just had our first baby four months ago, we're just recently visiting family and letting more people outside our parents meet our child. My FIL birthday was yesterday and they throw him a small party, so my husband and I decided to join and took our baby with us.

It's important to add that my BIL(27M) (my husband's sister(30F)husband) doesn't like me that much because of the way I drees, express myself and talk (I say a lot of bad words). His favorite thing to say it's ''If you were my woman___'' followed by something really stupid. My husband thinks that he might have a thing for me, but I don't care and neither does he tbh, he finds it funny.

They have two kids tho, a 7M and a 4M. 4M is a sweet boy, really polite and well behaved while 7M has been acting out and misbehaving, I have nothing against him, and my SIL and BIL aren't really the type of parents to let their kids run around, breaking things and doing whatever they want, I'll give them that much.

Yesterday at a party, my baby got hungry while we were all eating cake. I had already asked my mother and father in law if it was okay for me to nurse her wherever I want because she might get hungry while we're all chatting or hanging out or if the would prefer I do it inside, I didn't mind because it was FIL's birthday after all. They both said that I could do it wherever I want because when my SIL got pregnant they never asked her to do it somewhere else and it was just fair, so I thanked them. I was wearing a sundress so when she cried, I just popped a boob and nursed her right there. My nephew (7M) told my BIL ''Daddy! Boobie, boobie! Aunt [OP] has her boobie out'' and 4M just said ''boobie?'' with the sweetest voice. My BIL cleared his throat and asked me to go inside because his kids were seeing me, I said no because FIL and MIL already said it was okay and that her kids had to deal with it, my SIL asked him to stop and truth is, they didn't care for that long and both kids went back to their cake quickly.

He was seating near me and he just got a little more close and whispered ''I swear it... If you were my woman you would've breastfeed inside'' I just smiled and said out loud ''If I have to breastfeed inside, then you have to go and be insufferable somewhere else sweetie'' He got hella mad of course, but said nothing else and when we were leaving, my SIL said that it was wrong and my MIL kinda agreed, since MIL was the host, I'm feeling a bit bad, so AITA?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

r/relationships: His favorite thing to say it's ''If you were my woman___'' followed by something really stupid is tempting but I wish it wasn't misspelled.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

One of the few good things my father ever did was talk to me honestly and factually about sex* at a young age so that I had a good enough understanding.

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Hey, so am I (F27) the rear end in a top hat for telling my MIL (F57) to go gently caress herself. So my husband (M31) has a really close relationship with his Mom. It never really bothered me, I thought it was sweet. He has sisters but when I first met his family it became clear to me that my husband was his mothers favourite. She showered him with love and attention, his sisters didn’t really get that. When we first met should look at me up and down saying, “yes I know all about you”. I thought nothing of it. It’s been like this for a few years, snide comment after snide comment. When I told my husband about it he shook it off telling me it was in my head and I was just feeling insecure. We got married a year ago. His mother wore white to our wedding, it was kind of weird but I decided not to ruin the day. After we were married my MIL started sending me links to websites about trying for babies, and ways to keep husbands satisfied in a relationship. I let her know now was not the time for a baby but when it was she would be the first to know. At Christmas she bought the topic of babies at the dinner table in front of the family. “Have you guys been trying?” , “How frequently?”, “I have a few websites you can read ''. I calmly shut it down, my husband said nothing. When we got home I asked my husband why he didn't say anything. He told me maybe it would be good for me to take the advice and instead of blaming his mother, take a harsh look at myself in the mirror. I was hurt but he apologised and everything went back to normal. Fast forward to Wednesday, my husband and I were dropping off some baskets for the easter egg hunt my in-law has for my nieces and nephews every year. My mother in law said “you look like you’ve gained a bit, are you pregnant yet” I was floored, again my husband was silent. I told her no and she frowned, “from what you need to work a little bit harder in the bedroom, then it might work”. I looked at her and straight out told her to to go gently caress herself and mind her business. She told me that I was being too sensitive and I needed to show her a little more respect, she was just looking out for her baby. I left immediately and went to the car. My husband followed me and asked what the gently caress was wrong with me, I told him straight out that she has no place in my sex life and I wanted to know what he had been telling her. He told me to suck it up, I need to respect his mother and that she means well. I was done, I wouldn’t even get in the car, I stood there yelling back and forth with him until my Uber came. It's been a few days and I’m staying at my sister's house. My family have said I was right but I have received multiple calls from my husband's family calling me a bitch and that I should be ashamed of myself, and I should apologise to my mother in law. Fat chance, I just need to know if I am in the wrong, I feel like I’m being made to feel crazy. I’m slowly getting there. So AITA for telling my MIL to go gently caress herself?

Edit: I've seen a couple people mention and I thought I would add, we don't use condoms because my husband said he was allergic to latex so we never used them. However I was always on birth control, and I have notice recently that my pills have been going missing and magically reapearing so I havent been able to take the regularly.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA For Telling My MIL To Go gently caress Herself

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He's not working at the moment, he lost his job so I've been the bread winner for the last few months.

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for taking out a pay day loan so I can go to LVLUP Expo and get my cosplay right? My parents are furious with me, to the point of cutting me off.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA For Telling My MIL To Go gently caress Herself

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA For Telling My MIL To Go gently caress Herself

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA For Telling My MIL To Go gently caress Herself

moonmazed posted:

karl hungus

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA For Telling My MIL To Go gently caress Herself

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Edit 2: Hey I've been reading your comments for the last few hours and I'm not gonna lie I'm super freaked out. I'm going to stay at my sister's for tonight, tomorrow my brother is going to get my important belongings from our place. I'm gonna take a pregnancy test tomorrow just in case and look into getting a lawyer. I'm avoiding my husbands calls and eating pizza with my sister, fingers crossed all goes well. Thanks everyone for the advice. I will update soon.

kdrudy posted:

he fixes the cable?