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Seth Pecksniff posted:the enby Archangel Gabby who has a black trumpet which will cleanse the world of boomers Alright, you have my attention.
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Saagonsa posted:I think there's something to be said about how atomized a lot of people are to the point of their perceived only options for dating are dating apps, which can be absolute hell for self esteem. It's not hard to see why some people come out of that kinda hosed up. The violent misogyny is less excusable, however. Right. I've met a lot of other sensible people who insist that the only way to meet partners is via dating apps, and I can see how if you believe that, it could play hell with your mind. But like you said, that path doesn't have to lead you towards conspiratorial hate.
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nonathlon posted:Right. I've met a lot of other sensible people who insist that the only way to meet partners is via dating apps, and I can see how if you believe that, it could play hell with your mind. But like you said, that path doesn't have to lead you towards conspiratorial hate. Yeah, dating apps seem to create some weird binary in people's heads where you habe to exvlusively use them. I used them, and people would say "oh, I stick to meeting people in real life" and a) do they think dating apps work like Weird Science? and b) they understand that they can be used in addition to traditional ways of meeting people, right?
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May 8, 2022 13:30
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A woman at work recently started using online dating apps. The first dude she met scammed her out of $23k She went back to the apps for some reason 
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May 8, 2022 13:47
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It’s not surprising that so many people never get to gently caress. 90-95% of the population is undateable. Undateable!
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May 8, 2022 14:00
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nonathlon posted:Right. I've met a lot of other sensible people who insist that the only way to meet partners is via dating apps, and I can see how if you believe that, it could play hell with your mind. But like you said, that path doesn't have to lead you towards conspiratorial hate. It doesn't help that it's genuinely hard to even make new friends as an adult. And that was before covid. Social inertia gives you that cool dynamic where someone throws a party and then everyone who comes by just hangs out exclusively with people they already know and don't bother talking to anyone new. I've been guilty of it myself and in some ways it ends up feeling pretty similar to dating apps because physical appearance and first impressions still matter a lot
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Len posted:A woman at work recently started using online dating apps. The first dude she met scammed her out of $23k
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May 8, 2022 15:06
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Tiggum posted:It doesn't seem like the app was the problem there. You can meet a dude who'll try to scam you all kinds of places. It was more of agreeing that some people think the apps are how it's done now adays The new one is an American military man in the south sudan and everyone in the office just kind of sighed when she started talking about him. It's just sad
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May 8, 2022 15:08
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Over here in South East Asia, they are always middle aged white men who work in oil rigs and could you help them collect a package that a random phone number will tell you violates local customs laws and you have to pay a sum high enough for you to remortgage your home
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May 8, 2022 15:31
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Over here it's 2 very short men, one on the other's shoulders hidden under a trenchcoat. "Your date" generously offers to pay for coffee on the first date, but when it comes to dinner, they eat for two and stuff you with the bill!
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May 8, 2022 15:47
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oldpainless posted:It’s not surprising that so many people never get to gently caress. 90-95% of the population is undateable.
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May 8, 2022 15:49
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The first guy was a guy who lives in Virginia over in Germany on business but then they wouldn't let him leave and it was either because his visa was expired or because he had Russian citizen ship so send him money to help get it sorted out. He was also a very private man and didn't like her telling people about him
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May 8, 2022 15:52
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I had a coworker who got fished by ladies in the Phillipines twice and scammed out of big chunks of money both times, then got so upset about it he repeatedly hosed up at work and got fired over it when he started yelling at customers.
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May 8, 2022 15:54
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My wife made friends with this ukrainian chick over here married to a retired army officer twice her age in an obvious green card sham. Not sure how I feel morally about this but she's a great person to hang out with, and always pays for food and weed. Does this make me a sugar baby by proxy? It really baffles me that the husband is cool with this situation. He seems to genuinely think they're in true love.
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May 8, 2022 16:01
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oldpainless posted:It’s not surprising that so many people never get to gently caress. 90-95% of the population is undateable. TLDR: literally no one is unfuckable/undatable. Incels gently caress up because they think they offer more than they do, while trying to date people who aren't looking for what they're offering. (E.g. most twenty year olds are mostly interested in dating within their age bracket but incels have that weird dating stuff about egg freshness.) I mean, they'd say I'm 'undatable' because I have level 2 ASD which makes long term relationships 'hard'. But it turns out that I can just write "neuroatypical' on my profile, explain that I can only do casual or semi-formal relationships and I still get plenty of dates with people from all kinds of backgrounds. [On a side note I've been 'the other guy' in a poly relationship twice now which is what I describe to my psychologist as the army reserve of dating. i.e., "two weekends a month, two weeks a year". And yes this paragraph only exists so I can make that joke here.] In closing, dating apps are great if bars would literally be form of torture for you and incels just need to do some deep soul searching to figure out what they're actually bringing to dating and match with people that want those things.
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May 8, 2022 16:04
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I think a tonne of people on dating apps are in a sense doing it traditionally by focusing solely on looks. The strength, even Tinder, is using the profiles to find compatible/interesting people. Regardless, if someone was stunning, there was just no point in me swiping for them if they had no profile -- I need some clue as to what to talk about.
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May 8, 2022 16:10
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as someone who has met 3 people I ended up marrying on dating apps. they do work, but have something to talk about.
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May 8, 2022 16:24
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Vincent Van Goatse posted:Watching someone continually post on social media is not remotely stalking you strange strange person. OK, "stalking" was a poor choice of word. But it's more concise than "laughing at the increasingly precarious mental state of"
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May 8, 2022 16:27
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sneakyfrog posted:as someone who has met 3 people I ended up marrying on dating apps. they do work, but have something to talk about. Unless this is a polyamorous situation, I'd suggest perhaps a small flaw in your definition of "working." 
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May 8, 2022 16:27
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sneakyfrog posted:as someone who has met 3 people I ended up marrying on dating apps. they do work, but have something to talk about. I collect spores, molds, and Funkopops.
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old bean factory posted:I collect spores, molds, and Funkopops. I would swipe right on Egon. Someone needs to stop him drilling into his brain
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May 8, 2022 16:32
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i didnt really learn about the "having something to talk about" until the last one. it's been almost 10 years now and we have a kiddo 
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May 8, 2022 16:34
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In general the thing with incels is they basically have exactly the same ideas and tastes when it comes to sexuality as the worst boomers, but don't have any of the unearned confidence or privilege to actually leverage it. Also, they got romcom poisoning, bad. Combine that with general shut-in nerd cycles of retreating from reality and still having the idea that their life has to go according to a particular plan or they are a failure, and poo poo gets bad, fast.
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May 8, 2022 16:50
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The romcom poisoning has been addressed a lot in the last 20 years but it's still pretty bad and still feels weirdly under-recognized. I and I suspect most cis/het dudes had to do some quick unlearning of the narrative boy culture is saturated in where "self-actualization = 'hot girl' partner." That poo poo doesn't fly, even in teenage dating. Incels get to their 30s or higher still clinging to those ideas.
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May 8, 2022 17:23
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At least when I can't get dates I have the decency to turn my loathing inwards.
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When I fail to get dates, I don't have sour grapes, instead I just don't give a fig.
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Dating apps can work but they require both parties to be honest with the app and use all of it’s facets so the algorithm pairs you accurately. My wife and I both had a “meh” experience with Match.com until we were honest with ourselves in who/what we were looking for—even if it made you feel shallow. It matched us up and we both had the exact experience with the app, and say the same advice. We have been married 8 years now and it is the best relationship I ever had.  I have a friend couple who are also married who say the exact thing.
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May 8, 2022 18:29
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old bean factory posted:I collect spores, molds, and Funkopops.
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BioEnchanted posted:When I fail to get dates, I don't have sour grapes, instead I just don't give a fig. Definitely no figging on the first date, either
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oldpainless posted:It’s not surprising that so many people never get to gently caress. 90-95% of the population is undateable. more like oldsexless
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oldpainless posted:It’s not surprising that so many people never get to gently caress. 90-95% of the population is undateable. You can date anyone after their carbon-14 ratio starts to noticeably decrease.
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Karia posted:You can date anyone after their carbon-14 ratio starts to noticeably decrease. Somewhere a libertarian is trying to date a dinosaur skeleton because they misunderstood the term "carbon-14."
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Splicer posted:sneakyfrog collects wives suppose it beats funko pops 
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Gammons upset that black man gets acting job. https://twitter.com/OTVDesk/status/1523334524720930817 https://twitter.com/DavidBHerbert/status/1523311785259855872 https://twitter.com/TruIeeIy/status/1523418504279461888 https://twitter.com/Bath_SomerUKIP/status/1523308488771964928 https://twitter.com/Simon_QPR/status/1523330570650103810 https://twitter.com/CurtisGerard/status/1523274156472680448 https://twitter.com/GrumpyOldLady18/status/1523311132165173248 https://twitter.com/calvinrobinson/status/1523305125254737927 https://twitter.com/TomDavidson09/status/1523346429858959361/photo/1
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May 8, 2022 23:05
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Oh no they’ve made the fictional alien man black!
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Yes, everyone knows that time-traveling aliens with two hearts can only be straight white men.
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But the previous one was a woman wasn’t it?
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It's masturbatory, but you can trap 'em pretty easily. Either get them to admit they haven't actually watched the silly sci-fi show in 20 years, or when they inevitably say that they liked David Tennant (because he was the most visible/popular of the last 20 years) point out that the show was run by a gay man and more camp than a Drag Show in the woods.CharlestheHammer posted:But the previous one was a woman wasn’t it? It's that "virtue signaling" they're very quick to deride others for. They couldn't give less of an actual gently caress, they just need to send up the signal so their supporters know they're still providing a smokescreen for racism. mind the walrus has a new favorite as of 23:25 on May 8, 2022 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:But the previous one was a woman wasn’t it? The same assholes were outraged about that also.
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The real irony is that the past few years of the show have been bad even by the very low standards of Doctor Who, complete with the showrunner trying to speedrun a bunch of "demographic firsts" (first time we saw a black lady version of The Doctor, first time we saw a POC version of The Master).
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