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StrangersInTheNight posted:I'm honestly kinda shocked at how no one is flinching at 'someone was at the store so I sent him on a task for me' bc to me that's actually what's most insane IMO. Who hears that an acquaintance is shopping and thinks 'ok cool now they can do a chore for ME' When I was in college this was a thing in my friend group since only half the people had cars, and there wasn't a drugstore or general commissary on campus. So it was common to hear about someone making a run to the store and picking things up for others at the same time.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I'm honestly kinda shocked at how no one is flinching at 'someone was at the store so I sent him on a task for me' bc to me that's actually what's most insane IMO. Who hears that an acquaintance is shopping and thinks 'ok cool now they can do a chore for ME' Nah, if only a few if any in your group have a car, then asking someone to grab something if they are going or already there was very common. Even now with international crowd, if you want something from some country and you know someone is coming from there, you hit them up for anything from hair bonding stuff to iphone to cereal to indo mie noodles to yes, preferred personal products.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I'm honestly kinda shocked at how no one is flinching at 'someone was at the store so I sent him on a task for me' bc to me that's actually what's most insane IMO. Who hears that an acquaintance is shopping and thinks 'ok cool now they can do a chore for ME' There are places where stores are far away even by car, if you even have a car. There are millions of people in the US that live 15 or more minutes by car away from the nearest store that sells tampons. Someone going further, to the closest Walmart, can mean they're going further than normal to take advantage of lower prices. Also, grabbing someone some tampons or other physically necessary product from a store they're already going to is an acceptable favor to ask a friend. Tasking someone over and over would be very rude, but a college student asking a favor during finals is no biggie.
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May 10, 2022 14:42
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I got the impression the friend's bf was less of a friend and more of an acquaintance given that he wasn't described as OP's friend at the outset. But could be wrong there. Either way he was happy to do it so it really shouldn't be an issue, I just wouldn't feel right imposing that on someone who isn't my partner, but again - that's bc I have that privilege.
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May 10, 2022 14:47
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Other woman is mad because the boyfriend had to think about ANOTHER VAGINA while buying tampons, so clearly OP is a whore for showing off her cooch so wantonly. How dare she make mention that she too is a woman with a functioning uterus. That’s basically all it comes down to.
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May 10, 2022 14:50
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I'm a man, I've bought pads for a classmate that I wasn't close with. We were on a school trip, we were a long way from a store, and I was heading into town. It was not a big deal at all. It's ok to ask people for small favors sometimes. The people in this thread don't have good grips on what's a "small favor" is the problem.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I'm honestly kinda shocked at how no one is flinching at 'someone was at the store so I sent him on a task for me' bc to me that's actually what's most insane IMO. Who hears that an acquaintance is shopping and thinks 'ok cool now they can do a chore for ME' Not tampons but when my friend was sick with the flu, he called and asked me to bring him some Pedialyte because he didn't feel safe to drive to get some. AITA for not giving my bio parents a real chance to make things right quote:So before I talk about the dilemma let me talk about my background. I m(24) grew up living in group homes. If you don’t know what a group home is it’s basically a smaller orphanage. Living in a group home was rough we generally weren’t guaranteed meals and we shared literally everything. So if we got new clothes we had 10 other kids fighting over it. If we got pizza we had 10 kids fighting over it. When I was 11 I became close with this kid from school. He invited me over to his house for a couple sleepovers and his parents would notice how much I was eating. I would completely pig out despite being relatively skinny. There were a couple of other things they noticed about how I behaved that was very weird. They realized I was probably being underfed and decided to take action. Eventually they took me in and I never looked back. Assuming the Supreme Court goes ahead with their bullshit, I foresee a ton of these posts in the next 15 years or so.
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Cowslips Warren posted:Assuming the Supreme Court goes ahead with their bullshit, I foresee a ton of these posts in the next 15 years or so. They can't even feed the kids that go to group homes/orphanages already, the gently caress gonna happen with a 100 fold increase....
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DandyLion posted:They can't even feed the kids that go to group homes/orphanages already, the gently caress gonna happen with a 100 fold increase.... Child Labor laws aint in the constitution
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DandyLion posted:They can't even feed the kids that go to group homes/orphanages already, the gently caress gonna happen with a 100 fold increase.... Well you see abortions are murder... And feeding the poor and underprivileged children is socialism (so basically murder) so no the kids that are left behind in the wake will 100% be in a bad way.
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I know it's a big loving thing going on right now and I'm just as depressed and horrified, but let's not derail into the current Supreme Court abhorrence, thank you.
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Funktastic posted:WIBTA if I failed my student because she speaks with different dialect than I teach (language degree)? Somebody doesn't like Mexicans
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Cowslips Warren posted:Not tampons but when my friend was sick with the flu, he called and asked me to bring him some Pedialyte because he didn't feel safe to drive to get some. of course! You guys are misunderstanding here. Asking a friend to grab you something while you're sick or busy makes total sense, of course. My reaction is just based on her description, I don't get the sense this guy was even really a friend. Even so, he was fine with it. And there's also a differences if you are in your 20s and your support system is you and your friends vs later in life with a partner, and I'm the latter is all. The girlfriend is saying don't use my boyfriend as your errand boy, she sees that as a intimate thing and not appropriate for her friend to be asking. She sees that as lover poo poo not friend poo poo. It's not hard to read. I don't agree with it but it's also not the most insane thing to cross through r/relationships.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:of course! You guys are misunderstanding here. Asking a friend to grab you something while you're sick or busy makes total sense, of course. My reaction is just based on her description, I don't get the sense this guy was even really a friend. They knew each other's names and they were in the same group chat. That's close enough to ask a small favor when there's something you legitimately have to have. OR The girlfriend was right all along and OP actually just used the tampons as an excuse to get the dude to think about her vagina. "Ohhh, I've got soooo much blood coming out of my vagina. I've got *abdominal cramps* like you wouldn't believe, baby. I need a strooong man to get me some absorbent tubes to jam up my vagina to soak up my shedding uterine lining. Mmmmm yeah thanks I'll use these right away" Also a possibility. Think about it
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I don't agree with it but it's also not the most insane thing to cross through r/relationships.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I'm honestly kinda shocked at how no one is flinching at 'someone was at the store so I sent him on a task for me' bc to me that's actually what's most insane IMO. Who hears that an acquaintance is shopping and thinks 'ok cool now they can do a chore for ME' Or... Someone is without tampons stuck at home free bleeding...
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May 10, 2022 16:01
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College Student Group Chat posted:goin to the big store, anyone want anything while im there?
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AITA for refusing to leave the cabin belonging to my late wife and I after bringing my spouse?quote:My wife Katie passed away in December 2018 after her long battle with cancer, her family and I (32M) were of course devastated even if we knew it was unfortunately terminal. Around that time we were still taking care of my Katie’s niece (6f) due to family problems. But with Katie sick we had to hire a friend of a friend to help us as a nanny. His name’s Jason.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for refusing to leave the cabin belonging to my late wife and I after bringing my spouse? it's like a "give me your house" pancake topped with bigotry blueberries sorry I'm eating breakfast rn
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for refusing to leave the cabin belonging to my late wife and I after bringing my spouse? If you and Katie bought it, then her family has no ownership and you can just tell them to eat your poo poo and hair  gently caress em
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StrangersInTheNight posted:of course! You guys are misunderstanding here. Asking a friend to grab you something while you're sick or busy makes total sense, of course. My reaction is just based on her description, I don't get the sense this guy was even really a friend. Even so, he was fine with it. And there's also a differences if you are in your 20s and your support system is you and your friends vs later in life with a partner, and I'm the latter is all. A sane person could pretty easily communicate “this is within my intimacy sphere and asking my boyfriend to run this particular errand makes me uncomfortable” and you could hash it out from there. You don’t have to share people’s boundaries to respect them. There is another part to that post which is the actual crazy poo poo.
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hawowanlawow posted:intimacy sphere Are those the things ladies put in their hoo-ha's to train the muscles? I don't have any, think I'll ask a friend to pick some up for me
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Actually scratch that, the sane thing to do would be to have the conversation with your boyfriend and not bothering the third party at all because they really don't need to be involved. And yes, intimacy sphere. The range of things one considers to be intimate. Is that not what it's called?
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hawowanlawow posted:intimacy sphere lol That was the part of FFX to min max.
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Actually scratch that, the sane thing to do would be to have the conversation with your boyfriend and not bothering the third party at all because they really don't need to be involved. Is that like a sphere of influence?
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pentyne posted:That was the part of FFX to min max. This is what Yuna meant when she sang "What can I do for you?" in X-2 To be less facetious, I haven't heard of the term intimacy sphere before. I've used "monkey sphere" instead because I read a Cracked article years ago that used it.
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Greater Man-Woman Relationship Co-prosperity Sphere (The term is fine I think its just a first exposure for a lot if people)
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AITA for labeling my drawers to end MIL's confusion?quote:So, I have a really sweet MIL (DH's mom) and we get along most of the time. However, when she visits our home I notice that she goes throw my drawers in the bedroom looking for a charger or something. I find it a bit invasive and embarrassing especially when she opens the "wrong" drawer that would have personal.items in it like lingerie and then goes on to complain about how uncomfortable it is for her every single time. We've gone back and forth on this and when I stated that she was wrong for even looking at personal stuff she said she got confused and didn't know what drawer had the item she looked for. DH suggested I should just bring her whatever she needs instead of having go inside and look herself but she never asks!.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for labeling my drawers to end MIL's confusion? Who are these loving people?! Who gets indignant like this when their parent or relative or whoever is painfully, obviously wrong?
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Man, she's been looking forward for weeks to snooping and being offended, how could you do her wrong like that
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Who are these loving people?! Who gets indignant like this when their parent or relative or whoever is painfully, obviously wrong? MIL was was using a blatantly obvious excuse for snooping and OP was indecorous enough to take it seriously. Acid vat prescribed for darling husband and his family.
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Momma's boys
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Everyone seems to be taking the relatively sane angle of girlfriend being uncomfortable with boyfriend buying tampons and then bringing it up. Nobody has taken the (forbidden phrase) manchild angle of boyfriend wasn't actually cool with it, he did it anyway because she ordered him to do it and then he didn't accept payment because he was so disgusted thinking about period vaginas so just dropped it off and ran away and then complained bitterly to his girlfriend while dry heaving every time he said the word tampon making her call to complain about this gross invasion of his privacy and breach of male/female decorum.
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Electric Wrigglies posted:Is that like a sphere of influence? Basically yeah, using the less-common, but cromulent definition of sphere, that means a range or area. Like the aforementioned monkeysphere. As opposed to your social sphere, the things you're comfortable sharing with friends, or your public sphere, the things you're comfortable sharing with strangers. I only now realize it may not be a term I've ever heard in English but I can't think of an equivalent term that's more commonly used.
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petition to henceforth refer to DH as dipshit husband
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intimacy sphere is the area described by your wang when helicoptering
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greazeball posted:Everyone seems to be taking the relatively sane angle of girlfriend being uncomfortable with boyfriend buying tampons and then bringing it up. Possibly because there's absolutely nothing in the post to suggest that?
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It’s also 2022 and delivery services exist so she could have absolutely used one of those vs texting random person in the friend group. That is a little weird.
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