Cthulu Carl posted:

I knew a dude named Chad in my summer job in college. He was short as hell but super chill and we became good friends.

But he's also the one who introduced me to Something Awful and the forums, so maybe he really was an rear end in a top hat???

boofhead posted:

top tier chad prank

"you should totally check out this forum, i think it'd be be right up your alley"
"nice, i paid for an account, what's your username?"
"lol i don't go there i just said that you would like it"

Biplane posted:

This deep aversion a lot of people have towards adoption rustles my biscuits something fierce.

quote:

I live in my landlords home, renting part of it.

Anyways, the suite came with one parking spot. The parking spot that he advertised? This tiny tiny squeeze right next to two of his cars parked in front of his two car garage. I live in Vancouver so landlords can get away with offering the minimum and expect the maximum in rent.

But okay. I could carefully fit my tiny coupe in. And I had, for 3 months without incident.

Well as I was trying to leave the house yesterday morning, I witness my landlord trying to back his F350 into its usual spot next to my car... except he missed and rammed my car instead.

He climbs out of his truck, looks at me, and cusses me out. Telling me that because I had my car there, I was at fault. That my car being there "made for reckless parking and he had no option but to hit me".

Mind you... this was the spot HE advertised, and I had been parking, like he directed me to. I was in the very same spot earlier that morning that he was able to get out of, so it clearly wasn't impossible.

I told him no. That he hit my car. And that he was the one who sanctioned a parking spot there. And that I would be happy to settle this without involving insurance, if he'd like to pay out of pocket to sort out my car.

He of course chuckled at me, called me an idiot, and told me to expect a bill in the mail tomorrow.

It should be important to note than I am a tiny, quiet and shy woman and I assumed he thought I'd back down. Yea, no.

I said "Nope, you give me no option except to call the police". So I quickly took photos, all while this man was suddenly very angry and cussing me out. I quickly went into my suite, locked the doors. Called the police. Remembered I still had screenshots of the advertised rental suite and photos of the landlord sanctioned parking space, gave it all to the police. It was a lot, I have never spoken to the police before.


This morning he sent me a ton of texts calling me a bitch, that I was costing him a ton of money etc etc. I know I am in the right legally, but AITA for how I went about it?

Edit: His wife got in on the action this evening, telling me the costs of repair will severely affect their ability to raise their baby due in 2 months. I realize noe thats not my problem. Thank you for all the comments and advice. ICBC will be contacted, as well as the RTB to protect myself.

Mx. posted:

AITA For not paying for my landlords damaged car after he rammed his car into mine?

PokeJoe posted:

i don't want this baby *leaves it in the woods*

Edward Fingerhands posted:

Who the gently caress needs an F350 in loving Vancouver?!

The Moon Monster posted:

Look, this has been standard infant care since the beginning of time.

Mx. posted:

AITA For not paying for my landlords damaged car after he rammed his car into mine?

Biplane posted:

This deep aversion a lot of people have towards adoption rustles my biscuits something fierce.

Edward Fingerhands posted:

gently caress a landlord, but especially this rear end in a top hat. Also who the gently caress backs an F350 into any spot?! Who the gently caress needs an F350 in loving Vancouver?!

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for calling my friend’s boyfriend a stupid boy after his negligence destroyed my shoes?

The Moon Monster posted:

Hobby pickup drivers loving love backing into parking spots for some reason. They're also usually pretty bad at it!

Barudak posted:

This is my son, Yonic the Hedgehog

Remulak posted:

As an aside, I’m seeing some VISCOUS fighting in families now as different kids try to get ahold of these often modest cabins to live in, because, you know.

Mr. Lobe posted:

I dunno, maybe I just don't have the powerful mind needed to be a landlord, but it seems to me that someone who was willing to escalate to involving the police when I was legally in the wrong would probably resort to whatever means necessary to do something about it if I started harassing her? That seems like some poorly chosen prey on their part.

Remulak posted:

I’d bet money that these were Louboutans, given as they are described as distinctive. Which means she’s not old money (they’re gauche) and these legit could have been an prized graduation gift (or milestone self-gift) for somebody with a professional-but-not-rich background.

Similarly, up until recently having a vacation house on or near the water was achievable for common people in the upper Midwest, where there are a lot of lakes. My family didn’t have one, but we knew people that did, and my mom’s third husband has one that the grandkids used for stuff like this, it was great. The place was empty most of the time, and kids have summers and breaks off, their parent don’t.

As an aside, I’m seeing some VISCOUS fighting in families now as different kids try to get ahold of these often modest cabins to live in, because, you know.

quote:

My fiancée has this habit of waking me up as I'm drifting off to sleep multiple times. It's extraordinarily annoying and I've asked her to stop many times.

I will say good night, I love you, I'm going to sleep. And 5 minutes later she's waking me up. I'll do the spiel again. And again. And she'll keep startling me awake (think fingernails on the skin, or a major conversation topic or intentionally making loud noises/moving the bed or just plain waking me up to say she loves me).

After this happens 2-5 times a night 3-4 times a week I'm very annoyed, I tell her to stop. She will double down, do it again and then I'm really pissed and we fight and I end up sleeping on the couch.

On one hand, am I being a child with a temper tantrum about sleeping? On the other hand I am very clearly communicating that a behavior of hers bothers me and she clearly does not care to change that behavior?

DemoneeHo posted:

therobit posted:

Long story short public health agencies lumped all cosleeping together when deciding if it’s a risk or not, and parents ... sleeping on a firm mattress or futon with minimal blankets just aren’t that big a risk.[/url]

DemoneeHo posted:

Am I being unreasonable? My fiancée wants to have all ranging late night convos

DemoneeHo posted:

Am I being unreasonable? My fiancée wants to have all ranging late night convos

break up break up break up break up break up break up break up break up break up break up break up break up

greazeball posted:

What 18yo is paying off student loans tho?

Bonster posted:

Someone points out that in Australia you don't pay them back until you graduate and are earning at least 40k a year. She says she started college at 16, but even then...

Remulak posted:

As an aside, I’m seeing some VISCOUS fighting in families now

limp_cheese posted:

Maybe this is a super passive agressive way to have the bed to herself.

quote:

I (38M) have three kids (18M,16M,13F), but one of them isn’t biological mine (16M), I found out about this 3 years ago, it was a messy situation so I ended up divorcing my wife and leaving, I moved to another city because I needed time to heal.

I wasn’t physically involved in my kid’s life for two years but I called them every day and talked to them, I also paid child support for the three of them, here is where I know I did a terrible thing and maybe that’s why Alexander is mad at me and doesn’t want to see me, When I called my kids, I only called Sophia and Raphael (13F, 18M) because I felt uncomfortable talking to Alexander, one day he was angry and grabbed the phone crying and said: “Don’t you love me, dad, why are they more important to you?”

I politely replied and said “Honey, look I love you but I need some time to heal, I’m still your father and I’ll be back soon” (He knows I’m not his biological father)

I talked to him thru messages because I didn’t feel completely comfortable doing a facetime, I moved back to my city last year with my new partner to settle down, and my kids (13F and 18M) came to visit me immediately but Alexander didn’t come so I went to his mom to see what was going on and I talked to him and also apologised for treating him that way but refused to come to my house and said that he only wanted to hang out with me and we did that.

When he found out my wife (he refused to come to my wedding) was pregnant he told me not to visit him again, then I found that his mom was seeing Alexander’s biological father so I thought that my son wanted a relationship with his bio dad instead so even if it hurts I respected his wishes until I found out that he rejects this guy, Raphael says that one day this guy was trying to spend time with him but Alexander said: “Look dude, no hard feelings but don’t try to force a fatherly role on me because you are not my dad and I already have one” So I decided to invite him again to live with me because my other two kids live with me 80% the time and he is the only one who refuses.

My daughter was born 6 days ago and he hasn’t come to see his half-sister so I called him and said that if he doesn’t come to see me I’ll be cutting his college fund, he told me to f*ck off and then hung up.

My mom says I’m being an AH for threatening him that way.

AITA? Seriously I don’t see the point of paying a college fund for a child that doesn’t even want to see me.

Hughlander posted:

I thought she was just too shy to initiate...

AITA for cutting my son’s college fund because he refuses to visit me?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for cutting my son’s college fund because he refuses to visit me?

Hughlander posted:

I thought she was just too shy to initiate...

AITA for cutting my son’s college fund because he refuses to visit me?


one day he was angry and grabbed the phone crying and said: “Don’t you love me, dad, why are they more important to you?

Uncle Enzo posted:

Fuuuuuuuuck me that's a deep hurt. Gonna hug my kids when I pick them up from school.

You'd think this dude could have made up his loving mind on whether he was ditching his son or not. Make up your mind rear end in a top hat, Jesus

Uncle Enzo posted:

Fuuuuuuuuck me that's a deep hurt. Gonna hug my kids when I pick them up from school.

You'd think this dude could have made up his loving mind on whether he was ditching his son or not. Make up your mind rear end in a top hat, Jesus

quote:

I'm a twice a day shower-er. A 5 minute shower in the morning helps me wake up and feel refreshed, then a longer shower at night to help me relax/feel clean before I go to bed. This is non negotiable for me.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and he recently moved into an apartment by himself, whereas he previously had housemates. In the 4 months he's been there, I've been staying over a couple nights a week.

Lately I've noticed mold growing in his bathroom and have brought it up to him. He says that he'll clean it but never does so I've stopped sleeping over because it's disgusting. He's always welcome at my house, but since I have housemates he thinks it's weird and doesn't come over.

Now that I don't sleep over it's cut down on our time spent together so he's been mopey. I've told him numerous times that it's a simple fix for him to clean the bathroom for me to be able to shower and feel clean but he says that it doesn't bother him, but if it bothers me so much then I should be the one to clean it. I told him that it's not my responsibility but if he wants me to sleep over again then he needs to clean the mold, or organise and pay somebody to do it.

He keeps telling me to just come sleep over but go home if I need to shower and then come back, but I'm refusing to because that's ridiculous even though I live 5 minutes away.

We've been at an odds for a couple weeks over this. AITA?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for cutting my son’s college fund because he refuses to visit me?

quote:

OP posted:

I know I f*cked up and I know I hurt him but I want him in my life again.

This is what you do:

• You IMMEDIATELY apologize for threatening to take away his college fund. Tell him it's not removed/taken away, and that you are still giving it to him with no strings attached.
  
• You apologize for your brash actions. You apologize and explain that you reacted that way because you just want him back in your life, but that you understand that the situation is difficult it is for him.
  
• You apologize to him FOR YOUR OWN actions, and you do NOT include any phrase that starts with "...but you..."
  
• Do NOT make your apology about his actions. DO NOT make your apology about what he said or did. DO NOT try to justify your actions because he isn't doing what you want.

Remember: YOU left his life 3 years ago. YOU barely spoke to him. YOU just showed up back in his life, with a new family, and started making demands. This child has done nothing else but be born, and his loss/pain/confusing is 100 times worse than yours.

You were only cheated on. His life was completely destroyed by his mom's cheating actions.

OP posted:

I'll do it today, in a couple of hours after school. I called him in the early in the morning and asked if he wanted to spend sometime with me after school and he said yes.

DandyLion posted:

This sounds like a classic case of 'I'd like to ditch my adoptive son but not look like an rear end in a top hat, so I'll be stand-offish and coldly distant until he reacts and then use that as an excuse to ditch my adoptive son for him being the rear end in a top hat'

Hughlander posted:

AITA for refusing to sleep at my boyfriend's apartment until he cleans his bathroom?


Would rather not see you than spend any time cleaning the bathroom while dating. Can you imagine living with this goblin?

The Bramble posted:

I'd like to imagine this is the same guy declining handjobs because he wants to watch marvel movies instead.

Seth Pecksniff posted:

how bad does your bathroom have to be to have mold growing

I'll admit I'm not the world's neatest person but god drat what the hell you shitgoblins