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Lottery of Babylon posted:NTA assuming she fed OP and OP is repaying her with gifts and OP is a flock of crows It’s more common than you think.
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Lottery of Babylon posted:NTA assuming she fed OP and OP is repaying her with gifts and OP is a flock of crows am on OP's side for NTA if OP is indeed a flock of crows, in the tech industry a flock of crows is probably a better coworker than like 80% of software engineers
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Jun 15, 2022 20:59
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CharlestheHammer posted:That would be an insane thing to think Why? Weird non-personalized poo poo keeps finding it's way onto your desk. What would you think is happening from that perspective? I suppose it depends on the office I guess, tons of pointless poo poo makes its way over to my desk throughout the year.
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Jun 15, 2022 20:59
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If the guy isn't trying to force a relationship, he can just stop giving weird anonymous gifts. Forget it ever happened.
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Jun 15, 2022 20:59
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Tarkus posted:Why? Weird non-personalized poo poo keeps finding it's way onto your desk. What would you think is happening from that perspective? I suppose it depends on the office I guess, tons of pointless poo poo makes its way over to my desk throughout the year. If it happened once or twice sure if it’s consistent no way I’m hell I would think it’s just some weird coincidence
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Jun 15, 2022 21:01
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CharlestheHammer posted:If it happened once or twice sure if it’s consistent no way I’m hell I would think it’s just some weird coincidence Yeah, I guess but what would you think if you were in that position? It's not like it's flowers, love notes or dick pics. It's office stuff, maybe she thinks a manager is unhappy with the decoration of her desk perhaps?
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Jun 15, 2022 21:04
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The Bramble posted:Am I being creepy? There isn't any mention of Mary being upset or uncomfortable, although it certainly seems this dude could just not pick that up. He definitely can't keep doing it. He either needs to fess up and stop doing it, or just stop doing it. He could try and make one (1) pass at her in a neutral setting and be prepared to back off at the first sign of disinterest, I suppose. But he's got to stop the secret admirer poo poo either way. As long as he isn't her supervisor or mentor or something. Then he should just drop it and never say a word, that's messed up.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:05
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OP could either come clean and face the music (including potential termination or at the very least referral to HR), or stop and never mention it again.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:05
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Any course of action other than "drop it and forget the whole thing" means this dude is in for an awkward as gently caress conversation though. For a dude with social anxiety he's really put himself in a predicament.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:06
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Absurd Alhazred posted:OP could either come clean and face the music (including potential termination or at the very least referral to HR), or stop and never mention it again. Eh this depends entirely on how the girl feels which at this point is an unknown here
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Jun 15, 2022 21:07
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be brave awkward nerd. even though doing stuff at your place of work is playing with napalm
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Jun 15, 2022 21:07
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Like the biggest problem with the story is the girl this is about has no real say. Like literally everyone but her seems to get an opinion on it
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Jun 15, 2022 21:09
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BOOTY-ADE posted:
No it doesn't say anything other than 'what no I'm not responsible for your daughter I'm not having her move in because you can't have a conversation about how to do laundry in your house' People moving or being thrown out is not a proportionate response to what's going on here.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:10
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I know who my secret admirer is but I don't want to tell her I know because I enjoy the notesquote:About six months ago I started getting those little notes in my locker at work. They were always short sweet compliments like "you looked cute today". After about a month I figured out who it was. Her handwriting was quite distinctive so it wasn't that hard to figure out. It's this girl that started an internship with us last year. I never told her I know because I enjoy getting these notes. It's the best part of my day and I often look at them at home whenever I have a bad day. Update - 2 days later quote:I never expected my original post to get so much attention. I just felt like sharing and expected a few comments but not hundreds. Since my post I've gotten a ton of people asking me for an update so here it is.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:14
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CharlestheHammer posted:Like the biggest problem with the story is the girl this is about has no real say. Like literally everyone but her seems to get an opinion on it He hasn't asked Dear Prudence yet.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:14
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Hughlander posted:I know who my secret admirer is but I don't want to tell her I know because I enjoy the notes Ah, a palate cleanser
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Jun 15, 2022 21:17
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CharlestheHammer posted:Eh this depends entirely on how the girl feels which at this point is an unknown here All the info we are getting is from some awkward guy who thinks someone treating them nicely is an invitation to try to woo them via middle school level gifts left on their desk. He needs to leave her alone.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:28
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edgeman83 posted:All the info we are getting is from some awkward guy who thinks someone treating them nicely is an invitation to try to woo them via middle school level gifts left on their desk. He needs to leave her alone. Do you know what the word unknown means
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Jun 15, 2022 21:33
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Lottery of Babylon posted:NTA assuming she fed OP and OP is repaying her with gifts and OP is a flock of crows A MURDER
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Jun 15, 2022 21:37
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CharlestheHammer posted:Do you know what the word unknown means Yes? But I will vote against the dude who is doing creepy poo poo 100% of the time. Her being kind to him isn't her being interested, so his leaving gifts trying to woo her is loving creepy.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:40
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It's creepy and predatory to leave anonymous gifts/notes. If the recipient seems to like it, then you lucked out, but it doesn't make it okay.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:41
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Alchenar posted:No it doesn't say anything other than 'what no I'm not responsible for your daughter I'm not having her move in because you can't have a conversation about how to do laundry in your house' [sincerely] I agree. It's understandable that the thread's instinct is to compare this to other "but family" stories, but those aren't about a parent kicking out their own teenage child. The parent has way more responsibility to their child than Great Uncle Reginald does; this isn't comparable to siblings 2 3 and 4 condemning sibling 1 for kicking out their mutual parent. Like, just look at the facts as OP describes them: Hughlander posted:AITA for telling my daughter she has to find somewhere else to live? Good daughter: leaves damp clothes in washing machine for hours (no mention of work being an unexpected emergency) Bad daughter: doesn't finish doing good daughter's laundry for her, condemning the laundry to the same fate it would have had if bad daughter didn't exist Good daughter: screaming Bad daughter: tells screaming darling angel to stop screaming and grow up It is bugfuck insane to me that anyone sees evicting this teenager (who's only here for a couple months during uni summer break, not a terminally-unemployed womanchild parasite) as a reasonable response. Reddit says NTA though  edit: Like, am I misinformed and leaving damp clothes in the washer is actually way way better than leaving them in a hamper? I avoid doing either so I can't compare them from direct experience, but I always treated them as equally to-be-avoided; if anything, I'd have guessed the hot damp washer with no airflow would be even worse in terms of mildew. If the hamper really is significantly worse, I could understand the issue, but I don't see why it would be? Lottery of Babylon fucked around with this message at 21:49 on Jun 15, 2022 |
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Jun 15, 2022 21:41
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Pope Hilarius II posted:I know you're being facetious but sex addiction is absolutely real and as destructive as drug or alcohol addiction. In fact, it's only thanks to this thread that I know some reactionary pearl-clutchers abuse the term to describe a person who cranked it to a titty online once. Is sex addiction any different than any other generic addiction to something that influences pleasure centers? Like most drugs and alcohol have physically addictive effects, isn't sex addiction more akin to a chocolate or gambling or exercise addiction?
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Jun 15, 2022 21:41
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edgeman83 posted:Yes? But I will vote against the dude who is doing creepy poo poo 100% of the time. Her being kind to him isn't her being interested, so his leaving gifts trying to woo her is loving creepy. He's not trying to woo her, he doesn't think there's any chance of an actual relationship, he just thinks she'd like those things. Well-intentioned but certainly capable of causing discomfort.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:45
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edgeman83 posted:Yes? But I will vote against the dude who is doing creepy poo poo 100% of the time. Her being kind to him isn't her being interested, so his leaving gifts trying to woo her is loving creepy. Do that if you want but I don’t particularly like speaking for someone with no real info on her. I feel like that’s something she should get to decide
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Jun 15, 2022 21:46
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I'm addicted to sexohol
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Jun 15, 2022 21:47
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Lottery of Babylon posted:
Are you deliberately ignoring the previous paragraphs where she's constantly antagonizing her sister, deleted her show off the DVR, ate all her cookies, etc.? I don't know if those things are bad enough to kick her out either, but it sounds like the laundry was just the last straw. I think the parent should probably give her a last warning, and she should stop biting the hand that feeds.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:52
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It also sounds like the mother tried to mediate but the elder daughter wasn't having any of it.
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Jun 15, 2022 21:57
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She is older than 18, there is no need to motivate or justify kicking them out. Just like kids can cut off toxic parents, so can parents cut off kids.
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Jun 15, 2022 22:00
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Woodchip posted:I'm getting married next month but want to call it off because my fiance spent hours looking through his ex's photos to make sure I was really "the one" OP's fiance sucks and she should sever, but I really like how since reddit will always side against people who snoop through their partner's cells or computers regardless of what evidence of wrongdoing they find, we get these increasingly Byzantine setups for how what the OP did wasn't really snooping: "I slipped on a banana peel and as I reached out to steady myself, my finger pushed the mouse button and re-maximized the window." Yes, I'm sure that the fiance, who is creeping on decades worth of exes on the eve of his wedding left his facebook logged in and on the page of them without deleting his browser history. In real life, OP could just say "I found evidence my fiance is looking to abandon me for one of his exes" and whoever she sought out for advice would focus on that since it's the important part, but on reddit, she must minimize the appearance that she looked on his computer since after hurting a man's feelings, Snooping is the worst crime an OP can commit, no matter what they learn about their partner. It's like their biggest bugaboo after the aforementioned child support baggage a few pages ago. Pope Corky the IX posted:I used to work in a place where the operations manager would immediately grab any and all bagels that entered the office, regardless of who bought them, and cut every single one into bite-sized chunks so "none of you get carried away" Fortunately, the good people of your office were freed from his reign of terror when your OPERATIONS MANAGER was fired for sexually harassing women at a hotel and lying about it in one of this thread's most entertaining posts. Did he cut them Cincinnati style? If there's one thing to learn from r/relationshipsland, it's that a surprising number of people have never done laundry/washed a dish/wiped their rear end/etc. AITA for not stopping the car for my wife to pee even though I told her specifically not to drink too much water? quote:We are not native speakers and neither are we located in the US so do forgive any inconsistencies in the language. Both me and my wife were planning to visit my mother who lives significantly further away from us, it is a 5 hour drive. Before the drive I told my wife to not chug water because we can't be stopping every 2 minutes for her to find a place to pee. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 22:11 on Jun 15, 2022 |
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Jun 15, 2022 22:03
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Speaking of crows, my apartment complex recently cleaned off the carports. This is good, looks nice and less chance of collapse from leaves/branches, but the local crows like to hop around on it and their claws on bare metal are SO LOUD.
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Jun 15, 2022 22:11
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Uncle Enzo posted:Some people just don't "do" self-reflection. Ain't that the truth.
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Jun 15, 2022 22:21
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Invisible Clergy posted:Fortunately, the good people of your office were freed from his reign of terror when your OPERATIONS MANAGER was fired for sexually harassing women at a hotel and lying about it in one of this thread's most entertaining posts. Did he cut them Cincinnati style? Interesting that you assumed the manager was a man.
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Jun 15, 2022 22:29
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Bruceski posted:Speaking of crows, my apartment complex recently cleaned off the carports. This is good, looks nice and less chance of collapse from leaves/branches, but the local crows like to hop around on it and their claws on bare metal are SO LOUD. This is your sign to befriend the Crows and form a Crow Gang that pickpockets pedestrians and brings the money back to you.
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Jun 15, 2022 22:32
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for not stopping the car for my wife to pee even though I told her specifically not to drink too much water? did this person drive five hours just to like, have dinner with his mom and then immediately drive five hours home what the hell
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Jun 15, 2022 22:36
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for not stopping the car for my wife to pee even though I told her specifically not to drink too much water? This dumb gently caress, trying to 'schedule' bathroom breaks. I hope he never has to manage people.
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Jun 15, 2022 22:38
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:did this person drive five hours just to like, have dinner with his mom and then immediately drive five hours home what the hell Sounds as bad as driving in the SF Bay Area. 3 hour drive to destination, have lunch and visit, then bail so your trip home isn't 4 hours. And that's on the weekend.
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Jun 15, 2022 22:40
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Interesting that you assumed the manager was a man. In case it wasn't clear, I was humorously alluding to the "operations manager" post from this thread about the guy who got fired from his job for getting drunk and harassing hotel guests at the pool while traveling for a conference. His direct supervisor tried to bury the complaint but since the hotel had security cam footage of him, this did not work out. He lied to his wife and pretended to go to work for some time before this became untenable. I believe there was recently an update from that account where he went off on a recruiter for wanting him to interview or something. I would link it but I am having trouble tracking it down. I think it was in the last thread. I used he/him pronouns since that's what that poster used and didn't mean to imply I know anything abut your former manager. quantumwell posted:This is your sign to befriend the Crows and form a Crow Gang that pickpockets pedestrians and brings the money back to you. Even though posts about people training murders of crows to bring them coins and loose fries are all the same, like tree law, they're always fun to read.
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quantumwell posted:This is your sign to befriend the Crows and form a Crow Gang that pickpockets pedestrians and brings the money back to you.  https://i.imgur.com/0xjeHDZ.mp4
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Bruceski posted:Speaking of crows, my apartment complex recently cleaned off the carports. This is good, looks nice and less chance of collapse from leaves/branches, but the local crows like to hop around on it and their claws on bare metal are SO LOUD. Our work recently cleaned the top of a glass roofed atrium that hadn't been cleaned since 2020 and had 2 inches of dirt and dead leaves on it. It's lovely and bright now, loads of natural light to eat your lunch under. However, the seagulls have decided it's a good meet and greet area, and it's really weird to look up and see the underside of 100 seagull feets and hear them walk around with comedy "PLAP PLAP PLAP PLAP" noises.
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